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Back before the internet, here were your options:
-Friends and family
-Your women or men's magazine
-The weekly Ask Amy column in the newspaper
-A school counselor
-Encyclopedia
-Talk shows
Here was the problem. You were receiving advice from single, subjective source.
The beauty here is you can receive advice from multiple people of different gender, ethnicity and experience.
I know the internet is something to fear, but it can also be beautiful.
It's Pandoras Box. Sure, bad things surface from the internet, i.e. stalking, cyberbullying, procrastination, etc, however think of the HOPE you receive from it. You can see that there are people out there genuinely trying to give good advice. You're able to learn new recipes for your spouse with just a click of the mouse. Seeing pictures of different countries can inspire you to actually go. |
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How can I start to talk to her?
Q. Hello there~ So.. Since December my mother and I have been working out things for me to start Online classes. We went to the place where I'll be picking up my work online every week once a week. And it's about 2hrs-3hrs away since I take abou...
A. 15 February 2012: Good luck to you! ... (read in full...)
Why does this guy act like he likes me when he has a girlfriend?
Q. I have a guy friend and we joke around but I like him as a friend. He teases and makes jokes about me. The other night I think he'd been drinking. He came up to me and was trying to get my attention. I asked him what he wanted and he said he wanted ...
A. 10 February 2012: Sounds he like used the excuse of him being drunk to get the truth out of you. If he was in fact testing you, then all he got out of it was "you're being weird and a bit ridiculous."
Remain his friend and keep it as simple as that. Don't give him... (read in full...)
Teenagers on a first date. Where to go?
Q. Hey everyone. Okay, so I finally met a really nice girl in my school. I love her more than anything! And she actually likes me too! (sorry if I seem excited, I've never had a gf before). But I have one problem...I don't know where to take her for ...
A. 10 February 2012: Every girl loves a picnic in a park. However, depending on what part of the United States you're living in... it might be too cold for that.
Another outdoorsy idea... is there a remote area to grab a telescope and look at the stars? It's perfect ... (read in full...)
Should my mother allow me to spend the night with my boyfriend?
Q. Okay so I wanted to know that if your 16 years old and your boyfriend is 17, and you guys have been together for a year and seven months but have known each other for three years. Should you be able to stay the night with him. My boyfriend lives an ...
A. 10 February 2012: If I had a 16 year old daughter, I would not let her spend the night with her boyfriend, and I wouldn't care how long they were dating.
Your mom has your best interests in mind. She knows exactly what 17 year old boys are thinking. It's not that... (read in full...)
I was harassed by this guy at the coffee shop and I feel awful about it
Q. Yesterday I got harassed and I'm still feeling bad about it. I was feeling upset after finishing a therapy session, so I went to my favorite coffee shop to make myself feel better. I was sitting by myself with my drink when this guy approach...
A. 10 February 2012: I'm assuming you're feeling anxious because you're worried he's going to show up at the coffee shop again? Or follow you? Or find out that you wrote the police report? Try not to worry. The management is well aware of this guy now, and thanks ... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me?
Q. Hey aunts! So, i have this friend who is a guy and I think he might like me but I'm not sure so please help me. You see, everyday at lunch, he lays on top of me and most of the time it is on my chest. And when he does, he grabs my arm and cuddles ...
A. 10 February 2012: Aw, thanks for reminding me that high schoolers have an odd way of showing that they like a girl. Speaking of which, I remember reading an article in Cosmopolitan magazine when I was in high school that had to do with figuring out if a guy was int... (read in full...)
After 10 years he left me to marry a girl his parents approved of! How do I get over this?
Q. Dear friends, My boyfriend left me after 10 years of love. He is my neighbour and has got married with a girl of his family's choice (the reason for our breakup). Now, he is very happy with her. But it is very difficult for me to see them togethe...
A. 10 February 2012: It seems like you are trying your absolute best to move on. Since you devoted 10 years of your life with him, the pain isn't going to away quickly or easily. It's hard enough that you keep seeing him with his wife from time to time, put you just ... (read in full...)
I'm married and she has a boyfriend but I cannot ignore my attraction to her, how do I ask her out?
Q. There is a new lady in office. She is 38 and I am 26. She is really very cute and hot at the same time...rare combination but yes she is. I have been wondering how to ask her out and what subjects could I talk to her on to attract her towards me. ...
A. 10 February 2012: Does the fact that you're married mean anything to you? I've only been on this site for a few days now, and I can not believe how many people are torn because they are married but this new gal or guy at work is sooooo attractive. Boo hoo.
Think... (read in full...)
Why was my partner checking the text messages on my mobile phone? She has no reason to doubt me!
Q. Well I guess this is a common issue and has been answered many times before but here it goes.. Last night I found my partner going through my mobile phone text messages. Well I found that my phone light was on and it was clear she had just put it ...
A. 10 February 2012: Cerberus is dead on. The fact that she is checking your phone makes it clear that she's checking to see if you're just as guilty as she is.... (read in full...)
How can I start to talk to her?
Q. Hello there~ So.. Since December my mother and I have been working out things for me to start Online classes. We went to the place where I'll be picking up my work online every week once a week. And it's about 2hrs-3hrs away since I take abou...
A. 10 February 2012: Simple. Just talk. So you're new around there? Fantastic. Introduce yourself and ask if she can show you around or give you any sort of advice. That gets the ball rolling to ask "so how long have you been here?" "what do you do?" etc. Once you've ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend always dreaming of having sex with other men!
Q. i am 22 year old, and i've been with my girl friend for the last two years, and lately maybe i didn't notice before but every night she is dreaming about some different guy she having sex with, when ever i ask she tell me, but if i don't she leave ...
A. 10 February 2012: Fantasizing about a guy and actually sleeping with the guy are two different things. But what about when it comes to dreaming? It's only happening when she's dreaming. She can't do anything about that!
There are other, possibly more definiti... (read in full...)
How can I wriggle out of this dating situation safely?
Q. I have been going out with a certain guy for the past few days, kissed him and have found that we have no chemistry. He is incredibly caring, wonderful and protective and I know he genuinly feels for me. However, I don't enjoy kissing him. In ...
A. 10 February 2012: Wiggle out of it safely? You can't.
No matter what, your boyfriend is going to feel rejected and hurt, and the other guy you're attracted too if going to quickly find out you're back on the radar again, and it's going to look like you broke up... (read in full...)
Could I be the father of my wife's baby?
Q. me and my wife didnt see each other since december 2011 and last january 2012 i went to her place and we got sex and now feb 2012 she was saying that she's 7 weeks pregnant.. can you please tell me if i am the father of that child on her womb?...
A. 10 February 2012: You said you had sex "January 2012." Counting 7 weeks back, and let's put 8 for sure, puts it in the position that she conceived late December 2011. ... (read in full...)
I miss my bestfriend! But he isnt speaking to me, what should I do?
Q. Ok so I am having a problem with one of my best friends. we haven't spoke with each other for 2 days and this is why...so everday before school me and my friend hang out.(we usually just walk around and we don't have any classes so this is the only ...
A. 10 February 2012: He said "F*** you" to you. He said it to a girl. Is that how guys show respect these days? No.
Don't talk to him if that's how he's going to act. I'm not sure saying the f word is the appropriate response when someone doesn't hug you. A smart pe... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend easy?
Q. my girlfriend told me what she did before we met telling me how she let a guy fuc` her in the as` on the first night .she tell me this when we are fighting as she know it hurts me. she just told me she had 4one nightstands a guy told me she was easy ...
A. 10 February 2012: To directly answer your question: Yeah, your girlfriend is easy, and kind of an attention whore. She has no problem saying something vulgar for the sole intention of hurting your feelings. ... (read in full...)
What should I do in order to give this un requited love some closure?
Q. Well, it all started when my friend (male) and I became a bit more than friends. We were friends and confidants but that little game we shared (sexually) made us a little bit more. I fell in love with him but he didn't. He came from a break up ...
A. 10 February 2012: I think you did the right thing by telling him you need space and deleting his messages, etc. You need time to heal and to regroup.
Don't worry about figuring out how to clear things up and to end on good terms. Focus on yourself, since he's pro... (read in full...)
Can a boy in college around pretty girls stay a virgin?
Q. Hey Everyone, okay, so this guy that I'm not actually officially dating, but we have been a thing for almost two years is away at college. which is kind of why we're not together. He tells me he is still a virgin, but I don't believe him because ...
A. 10 February 2012: Consider this- you two are not officially dating. He's "pushy." He's pretty aggressive when it comes to fooling around with you.
Because you are not an item, you have officially granted him permission to do whatever he wants and not feel guilty a... (read in full...)
Even though we aren't really ready for a baby, I'm terribly sad I'm not pregnant!
Q. My fiance and I were not trying to get pregnant, in fact we were trying to prevent it, but I had suspicion that I could be pregnant. I was having fatigue, upset belly, dark sensitive nipples. Then my period was several days late (incredibly unusual) ...
A. 9 February 2012: You have to think practical on this one. Like you said yourself, you are not financially ready and your fiance is well aware of that too. Plus, I'm sure you both want kids in the future, but perhaps it was a relief to your fiance that you weren't ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with my ex!
Q. I'm happily engaged to a man who loves me. I do love him, more than I love anyone else in the world. (With the exception of my little brothers) He gives me everything I ever wanted and any normal person wouldn't be on a relationship forum ...
A. 9 February 2012: Are you hearing yourself? You are obsessing over some guy you dated years ago for 2 weeks and then used you for sex and then ignored you. Obviously he doesn't love you and obviously he is NOT the one. Don't break up with your guy, you don't know ... (read in full...)
Breakup up, becoming friends and getting back together?
Q. Hey guys, I have a few questions regarding my relationship. I would love to hear your opinions. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years after a nasty argument because "she couldn't love me they way I want her to" - She studies a full time post g...
A. 9 February 2012: She said she would see you in 2 weeks after her exams. Get in touch with her about details, where, what time, etc.
In a way, it'll be a test to see if she holds true to her word. ... (read in full...)
Breakup up, becoming friends and getting back together?
Q. Hey guys, I have a few questions regarding my relationship. I would love to hear your opinions. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years after a nasty argument because "she couldn't love me they way I want her to" - She studies a full time post g...
A. 9 February 2012: I am so happy to hear that there is a girl out there that is completely focused on her education. There aren't many girls out there like that. I think you've found a worthy catch. And something so worthy, such as this, is well worth the wait.
... (read in full...)
Ideas needed please for my June wedding? I want to celebrate Irish and German culture at the wedding.
Q. I'm getting married in July and marrying a german man, im irish. In germany the wedding is 3 days and we are doing that but i have to bring irish and german culture together but It is difficult to plan it because we are from two different countr...
A. 8 February 2012: Ah, the two things Germans and the Irish have in common: their love for beer.
Hooray beer!... (read in full...)
Based on my personality what animal could I use to best describe me for this job question?
Q. Lol. I've been asked an unusual question on an application form, and i'm not sure how to answer it. I'm applying for a job in a Pet Shop, and the question is to describe yourself as a pet, what would you would be and why!. I guess i need to think ...
A. 8 February 2012: Say you're a hyena because you like to laugh all the time. That's an unusual answer that will leave people cracking up. Nice icebreaker. ... (read in full...)
I'm curious to know if any of these girls ever liked me. Should I ask them?
Q. Got a good question for you. I'm still in contact with a number of girls that I used to like, with most of them we became friends. I'm very curious even though I have found a wonderful girl that I have asked to marry me. I still wonder if any of ...
A. 8 February 2012: Life is full of so many unanswered questions. How about your question remains one of them?... (read in full...)
Sexual woes bode ill for my romantic life?
Q. I've got a question which might seem a little silly but nevertheless, it pertains to a matter of some importance for me. To give you the rundown, I'm someone who watches porn on a daily basis and I fear this might have had insidious consequences ...
A. 8 February 2012: Dude, don't you know the guy code? I'm a girl and I even know it. You don't date your friend's exes.
In addition, sex with hookers has gotten to the point where it's not satisfying you anymore. You know why? You don't like these hookers. There is... (read in full...)
Why is his friend trying to muscle in???
Q. I've been dating this guy, and one of his friends, who i have never met in person, has contacted me a few times. The guy i am dating wasn't aware that his friend did this until i told him. The first time his friend contacted me, he told me that the ...
A. 8 February 2012: It's far fetched to think that this random friend of his wants to devote his time telling you this. I think the guy you're seeing is putting him up to this to see how you'll respond.
Play the game! It's a test! Don't respond back! It shows th... (read in full...)
What are people's thoughts on how to go about ending a LDR when the partner has health issues?
Q. Hi All For the last six months ive been unhappy with my LDR, the relationship itself is great when together however time apart is hell. Neither of us will give up our jobs (weve discussed it many times) because we both have safe jobs and the job...
A. 8 February 2012: It's a tough call. I for one would not like being strung along. I would want someone there for me because they WANT to be there for me, not because they feel obligated too.
It's a crappy situation but you just need to start with being honest. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I feel or should we stay as FWB?
Q. I have a problem with this guy who i used to cam sex with, and he doesn't know that i still like him. Whenever i see him i always feel a certain feeling in my stomach. i don't know if it is butterflies or a stomach. should i tell him how i feel or ...
A. 8 February 2012: I can 99% gaurantee that if you share your feelings to him, the feelings won't be reciprocated.
This isn't the movie Friends With Benefits with Mila Kunis or Justin Timberlake, nor is it No Strings Attached with Ashton Kutcher and Natalie ... (read in full...)
My mum is being so immature and inconsiderate towards my dad now they have separated, how do I get her to stop?
Q. My mum and dad separated over a year ago. Now my mum's trying to get revenge on him by putting flirty lovey dovey statuses on her fb. It's making me and my brother irritated. I want to tell her to grow up and leave my dad alone. I'm sick and ...
A. 8 February 2012: Being a child of divorced parents myself, I can completely understand that you feel like you are stuck in the middle of this. Block her so you don't see her messages if they are upsetting you. And if she notices and asks why you blocked her, pol... (read in full...)
A guy online sends me raunchy messages. Should I stop talking to him?
Q. Ok so i met this guy in a Chatroom and he seems really nice but he's 21 and I'm 16 he texts me kind of raunchy stuff like where he wants to have sex with me but I told him I'm a virgin and he lives in NY and Im in Ohio he says he wants to hook up ...
A. 8 February 2012: I see you reposted this and worded it differently. Once again, STAY AWAY. Don't talk to him. ... (read in full...)
If a guy writes that he is in love with you on his status message on facebook, do you think he really means it?
Q. If a guy writes that he is in love with you on his status message on facebook, do you think he really means it?.He has told me that in person too. Would he only want everyone on his facebook page to see it if he really meant it?...
A. 8 February 2012: If he's saying it, and posting it on facebook, I think we are all inclined to think that yes, he is in love with you.
Now here's where we determine if he means it. Other than saying it, how does he SHOW that he loves you? Does he listen to you? ... (read in full...)
I lied about my age and now I'm afraid I might get caught in my lie
Q. Ok so I kinda have a problem. So I have been talking to this guy i met on the Internet for a while now and we want to meet up. He lives I a different state then I do but we are having our parents talk about maybe having me go to him, or him come to ...
A. 8 February 2012: I'm so glad to see that parents are involved.
Ask yourself, what's more important? Being truthful to your parents, or to the person you've never met?
I have a feeling you know the correct answer already. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if this online guy is for real or not?
Q. Ok so I met this guy in a chat room he is 21 and I'm 16 I live in Ohio and he lives in NY. We really hit it off but I lied to him about having sex I told him Im a virgin today and he was like what have I not been honest with u and I was like I was ...
A. 8 February 2012: Us older folks will gladly answer this for you. He is real, but he is not 21, he's not interested in you as a person, he is perverted, and he is a very immature person. Stay away.
How can you say you like this person and you guys hit it off thro... (read in full...)
I feel my ex still loves me and I love him. But he's in a LDR. What can I do?
Q. Recently, i realised i still loved my ex a lot. I heard that he was in a relationship, so i left it at that. Then i ran into him one friday night and he seemed really pleased to see me. We began to chat and he told me that he was in a relationshi...
A. 8 February 2012: I think he's testing the waters to see if you would get jealous if he talked to you and asked for advice about his girlfriend. Even if that's the case or not, he's not being very nice making you jealous or flirting with you when he has a girlfriend ... (read in full...)
He's changed and our relationship is going down the drain....I'm so miserable and don't know what to do!
Q. hello everyone, tonight im finding myslef laying in bed with to much on my mind and am really in need of some advice please and thanks in advance. okay so my boyfriend and i live together and have been together almost six years. we have had our fair ...
A. 8 February 2012: Relationships like yours can work out as long as both are still committed to making it work. Breaks can sometimes be beneficial in the sense that you allowing yourself some time to figure out what you really want. I was in a similar boat when my ... (read in full...)
Why did he start flirting with me when he is married? Is there a possibility they are seperated but still living together for financial reasons?
Q. Dear Cupid, I started having a crush on one of these guys at my work. We dont really work together since we work for two different companies but the grocery store houses the company i work for so we're not exactly co workers. Anyways... I sta...
A. 7 February 2012: That's a huge red flag. Don't get involved, you're putting yourself in a very ugly situation. He's lying and cheating on his wife. And if he gets caught, you're going to be the one blamed. ... (read in full...)
He's changed and our relationship is going down the drain....I'm so miserable and don't know what to do!
Q. hello everyone, tonight im finding myslef laying in bed with to much on my mind and am really in need of some advice please and thanks in advance. okay so my boyfriend and i live together and have been together almost six years. we have had our fair ...
A. 7 February 2012: I see you're between the ages of 18-21 and you say you've been together for 6 years. It shows that you've been together all through your high school and college years, right?
You two have become distant, and that is a huge warning sign in my opini... (read in full...)
Should we get another man involved because I cant get my wife to orgasm any more?
Q. My wife and I are seventy still want sex. I can't keep it hard to insert it in the vagina. I have had this problem for about five years, it just will not stay hard long enough, I can have a orgasm my wife uses a strong vibrator,on me and it still ...
A. 7 February 2012: I don't think anyone could word it better than how eyeswideopen did. ... (read in full...)
I cant last more than a few seconds when having sex! Help!
Q. im 24 and ive noticed that i cant last for more than a few seconds in bed. ive been suffering from this premature ejaculation problem since Very long time. ive tried to overcome it but nothings good enough. i cant last for than 4-5 thrusts. if ...
A. 7 February 2012: There are products available in the market that decrease sensitivity such as certain lubes or condoms to help you last longer.
And you might want to consider masturbating and ejaculating prior to sexual intercourse, that also will help you last... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but I am attracted to others!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been in a relationship for the past 5 months with a wonderful girl. She is attractive, works hard, cares about me immensely, and pretty much matches everything I had pictured I wanted in a girl. However recently, I have...
A. 7 February 2012: You're young. It doesn't sound like you're ready for that sort of commitment yet. I agree with what was mentioned above, that there will always be someone prettier or nicer than your significant other, but when it all comes down to it, it's all ... (read in full...)
I've been cheated on by my last 3 girlfriends so how do I take things slow?
Q. I've been friends with this girl for about 6 months, and 2 weeks ago we kissed. It wasn't just a friend kiss either, it felt like there was something more there. And it wasn't a one time thing because it happened again a few days later. We've talked ...
A. 7 February 2012: Go with your gut. If a girl really likes a guy, they don't cancel thrice in a week. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I'm always making excuses for my husband because he's obnoxious!
Q. I have been married for over 11 years. It is my second marriage and his second marriage. He can be very ignorant and obnoxious to our friends, neighbors and family. He is this way with his family too, not just mine. He often thinks of himself before ...
A. 7 February 2012: Well, if he can't play nice, then ban him from playing. Don't go out with him, go visit family and friends and exclude him. He'll start to pick up on that, without you having to hound at him. And if he notices and says something, that's when you can ... (read in full...)
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