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I wonder what it was like before everyone had the internet- how did girls get advice without having to confide in her parents? How did husband get advice without having to receive biased opinions from mutual friends?

Back before the internet, here were your options:

-Friends and family

-Your women or men's magazine

-The weekly Ask Amy column in the newspaper

-A school counselor

-Encyclopedia

-Talk shows

Here was the problem. You were receiving advice from single, subjective source.

The beauty here is you can receive advice from multiple people of different gender, ethnicity and experience.

I know the internet is something to fear, but it can also be beautiful.

It's Pandoras Box. Sure, bad things surface from the internet, i.e. stalking, cyberbullying, procrastination, etc, however think of the HOPE you receive from it. You can see that there are people out there genuinely trying to give good advice. You're able to learn new recipes for your spouse with just a click of the mouse. Seeing pictures of different countries can inspire you to actually go.

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I checked on my boyfriend's facebook messages and found things I didn't like

Q.   Me and my boyfriend were together for 9 months and i was a few weeks pregnant when we split up due to pressure with my family hating him and stuff. (theres a long story there that I don't wanna go into but my parents are very controlling and have ...

A.   26 March 2012: Another thing- He can't change what he's done in the past with other girls while you two were broken up and while you were pregnant. I can't say what he did while you were pregnant with his child was appropriate or excusable but try and see whet... (read in full...)

I checked on my boyfriend's facebook messages and found things I didn't like

Q.   Me and my boyfriend were together for 9 months and i was a few weeks pregnant when we split up due to pressure with my family hating him and stuff. (theres a long story there that I don't wanna go into but my parents are very controlling and have ...

A.   26 March 2012: It's understandable that his past sexual experiences make you uncomfortable, but have some confidence, he got back in contact with you and wants to make this work. If he's been helpful and supportive since, then that's great. Try not to think about ... (read in full...)

I want to kiss passionately but nothing else. Is that wrong?

Q.   I am very religious and my boyfriend of 2 years is not. About two months ago he stopped kissing me passionately because he says he finds it easier to control himself because he gets carried away when the making out it gets hot and he really doesn't ...

A.   26 March 2012: Wow, kudos to the both of you for having opposite views and making it work for 2 years. I really feel for him honestly- he gets worked up when you two passionately kiss but he gets no release. So you're saying that you should get what you wan... (read in full...)

Why was she so friendly that night and the next day so withdrawn?

Q.   Thanks for taking the time to read and respond to my post... I recently started talking to a girl through facebook, she's 17 and I'm 20 it's always been innocent conversation as she's a good laugh and what not. On Friday night, she ended up ...

A.   26 March 2012: Us girls can have high expectations. This girl got to thinking that you two were having a great time. She was really dropping those hints that she likes you hard. She probably got it in her head that you were going to ask her out by the end of the ... (read in full...)

Do you strive to end relationships on a good note?

Q.   Hey, friends! I just have a simple question of opinion. Do you think it's better to end a relationship neatly, on a decent note? Or are you okay if the end of your relationship with someone was messy? I'll be moving from the city I'm current...

A.   26 March 2012: Oh, and to answer your question, I would like to leave a relationship on a good note when it is warranted. No need for a good note when someone cheats on you, for example. ... (read in full...)

Do you strive to end relationships on a good note?

Q.   Hey, friends! I just have a simple question of opinion. Do you think it's better to end a relationship neatly, on a decent note? Or are you okay if the end of your relationship with someone was messy? I'll be moving from the city I'm current...

A.   26 March 2012: He fell into a serious drug habit? Eff you was definitely warranted. Why would you want to leave it on a good note, for him to think you guys left on a good note? So he can think it wasn't a big deal that he fell into a drug habit? Leave ... (read in full...)

Having a baby and balancing that with establishing a career?

Q.   I'm feeling really conflicted about whether to have a baby now or to wait. I'm going to be 26 this year, and my husband will be 27. I went back to school for nursing and will be done in about 4 months. One part of me wants to wait and get settled ...

A.   26 March 2012: You're finishing school in 4 months, you don't need 2-3 years to get orientated/trained and comfortable with your new career. Hypothetical scenario here: Finish school in August, work a few months, and then start trying for a baby late 2012 or... (read in full...)

I want a healthy sex life but my b/f can't stay hard!

Q.   Ok me and my bf have been together 4 5 months now and we have a wonderful relationship and we get along great but when it comes to sex there is a problem. We are both 21, in college and still live with our parents so we don't have as much privacy ...

A.   26 March 2012: As a medical professional, the first thought that comes to mind is- is he diabetic? A side effect for diabetic males is erectile dysfunction. He's a tad too young to be needing Viagra/Cialis, so perhaps that can be a last resort. Him all of a ... (read in full...)

Should I abandon it now so he can find someone that loves him just as much as he loves me and I can concentrate on my dreams?

Q.   Hello, I have signed up for this website for the purpose of my issue. This may be lengthy but I appreciate anyone willing to hear what I have to say. I've had my fair share of relationships but I met a guy from England online in late November of ...

A.   26 March 2012: No don't continue to be friends with him and don't meet him... you'll disappoint yourself with the expectations you would have probably put in that situation... people aren't always as they seem to be. That's why I think that you have to meet ... (read in full...)

Should I abandon it now so he can find someone that loves him just as much as he loves me and I can concentrate on my dreams?

Q.   Hello, I have signed up for this website for the purpose of my issue. This may be lengthy but I appreciate anyone willing to hear what I have to say. I've had my fair share of relationships but I met a guy from England online in late November of ...

A.   25 March 2012: Sweetie, he isn't the "one." You shouldn't have to force yourself to love "the one." NEVER, should a man or woman be in the way of going for your dreams. I feel like you've answered this for yourself, yet you don't want to admit it. End... (read in full...)

My friend is dating an older guy who's a womanizer and it worries me!

Q.   My friend (she is 14) has been daydreaming about a guy that is 4 years older than her (18) we'll call him B and her A. she has only seen him once and talks to him on facebook nearly non-stop. She told me that he has wanted to meet up with her on ...

A.   25 March 2012: Wow, she must really like this guy.. like A LOT. For her to completely disregard what you said about him trying to kiss you, yet still defend him, she is not going to listen at all. For her to say that you're the ONE that's jealous, it doesn't sound ... (read in full...)

Dating a divorced man

Q.   Hi everyone! I have been with this guy for 2 months now and he is in the process of getting a divorce. He was very honest to me in the very first time. He told me after he broke up with his ex wife, he only went out with 4 girls and nothing seri...

A.   25 March 2012: The fact that you saw him kissing an other girl and lies about it when you confront him about it should let you know that you two are on different planes- you want this to be a serious relationship, and he doesn't. He just got divorced, he is not ... (read in full...)

My husband has an obsession with my butt.

Q.   This question is for ladies only. I am new to the internet. I come from a culture where girls are not educated about sexuality. I never had any sexual encounter with a man before my wedding. A few months after my marriage,my husband left country to ...

A.   22 March 2012: This is very normal, he's just not afraid to say that he's actually thinking. ... (read in full...)

How do I offer this FWB situation to him without sounding like a whore?

Q.   I have known this guy for a couple of years now and we have gone on a couple of dates. Well.... last week we had sex, but he let me know that he he is not interested in a girlfriend and Im not interested in a boyfriend. I want to be FWB but also ...

A.   22 March 2012: Are you sure you want to go down this path? Because a FWB relationship will inevitably result in one of the following: 1. You start to have feelings for him and want more than FWB when he specifically told you he was not interested in ha... (read in full...)

My wife agreed to introduce this third woman into our sex life to spice things up, but now I have feelings for her. My insecure wife is fine with other women but not this one, why doesn't she want me to be happy?

Q.   My wife and I have been married 14 years. Pregnant at 17 but in love at the time. Because of the diffucultys of being young parents we went through a lot of struggles. I feel this had a registering effect on some of our marriage because of the ...

A.   22 March 2012: I know you have feelings for this other woman, but when you have kids, it's not all about you and what you want anymore. Try sticking it out for the kids by staying with your wife. End the relationship with the other woman and try mending your mar... (read in full...)

All of a sudden my boyfriend is sick of me and thinks I'm too predictable!

Q.   I have been with my bf for almost 10 months, and we have been pretty good except for the rare arguments that we work out. He has a huge sense of humor, and he makes jokes about anything, everything, and he knows that I always say he doesnt know when ...

A.   22 March 2012: You are not wrong for being so upset! He is insulting you. You are definitely right, if you really like someone, you don't get sick of them. Seems to me that he's picking on you because he's not that interested anymore. Apparently it's botherin... (read in full...)

I gave him herpes, and now our sex life has died!

Q.   After we found out that we have genital herpes, our sex life died. I am the one who infected him. He is still caring and we do kiss cuddle and talk about it. He cannot keep an erection and he has gained weight. He is always checking my hygien ...

A.   21 March 2012: How do I put this without sounding rude? You gave him genital herpes. That does not go away. He has this forever now. And genital herpes doesn't just come out of no where, he obviously put 2 + 2 together to figure out where you got it from. He's ... (read in full...)

I am the one who does the texting and keeping in contact!

Q.   I have been talking to my best friends cousin and I really like him but he always brings up the fact that when we were younger he used to like me and now he us making me pay fir it. I'm always the one who.keeps calling him or texting him. Do you ...

A.   21 March 2012: Yes. Stop calling and texting. If he really likes you, he will try to initiate the communication you severed. Otherwise, if he doesn't contact you, you'll know he wasn't very serious about you. You being the one to always call/text can come off... (read in full...)

Should I tell her my feelings before I leave for uni?

Q.   I am 18 and work part time at a restaurant, but will be leaving in a few months to start uni. I'm dead into a girl my age at work, and always have been. We have gotten friendly while drunk a few times but I never asked her out, and would find it ...

A.   20 March 2012: Kyle007 is absolutely correct. And I assume uni means University right? College is going to be a very new, fun and challenging experience, so maybe focus on that.... (read in full...)

He makes my heart beat so fast. Did I miss my chance?

Q.   I am a 35 years old male, and gay actually. I met a very handsome guy, 8 years younger than me. In fact we work together and gradually I feel a mutual interest to grow between us. Today he started to ask me about personal things and that what do I ...

A.   20 March 2012: It's a matter of following your heart or your head. Try to not get involved at the time being, he's having relationship problems with his boyfriend, but you have to remember, he is still taken and unavailable. And to be honest, mixing love and... (read in full...)

How can I get him back? I love him so much...

Q.   I love my ex boyfriend so much. We were so in love but then he broke up with me saying he didn't want a relationship anymore:( A year later I'm still cryin and missing him. I can't get him out my heart and my head. Yesterday I rang him, he m...

A.   20 March 2012: You can't "get him back." He has to make that decision on his own. Don't lead yourself on thinking this is the process of getting back together- you don't know what he really wants. Which is why you should tell him how you honestly feel. Let it a... (read in full...)

We can't open up to each other

Q.   Will a relationship work between two people that are both quite emotionally closed? I feel I am that way, but my boyfriend is too. This hasn't been a problem in past relationships as the guy has always been very emotional and opened up about their ...

A.   20 March 2012: Consider giving it some time. You mention that you've been dating for a few months. That's not a long time in the grand scheme of things, therefore it's too soon to talk about "wanting to be together." Perhaps you two just need a little more time to ... (read in full...)

How can I make things better, so he'll want to come back to me?

Q.   my boyfriend and i broke up thursday we have an 8 month old daughter together. basically i feel as if i was a terrible girlfriend. why? i was always mad at him. bringing unecery drama in the relationship. lets just say he works monday, wensday,...

A.   20 March 2012: He has the wrong set of priorities. He has broken up with you on 2 occasions because he wants to hang out with friends and you get mad when he does. You have a right to be mad, he's the one seeing his friends whereas you say you haven't seen anyone ... (read in full...)

Should I tell him the truth? and if so, how????

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now but we were close friends for 2 years before that. I have been raped twice. The first time I was pregnant as a result and it was ectopic. The first time was when I was 16 and I'd had too mu...

A.   20 March 2012: I also say that you should refrain from bringing it up again. You have to answer this for yourself, but what good will it do reopening this issue again? Why should it change what the two of you have right now? I know you've had a difficult ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for an attached man to pay for lapdances?

Q.   Hi- I'm interested in guys' opinion on this one. Do ou think it's normal for a guy who has a gf to still go to strip clubs on the weekend with his guy friends and to pay for lap dances? I could understand the bachelor party thing and for single guys ...

A.   20 March 2012: I know you're asking for guy's opinions, but I'd like to say that I wouldn't have a problem if my man went to a strip club with his friends and had a little fun. I think it's completely normal. It's not cheating when they have paid a girl to ... (read in full...)

I'm sexually attracted to the neighbor

Q.   advice.... please, attraction and lust for my nabor and im married,i dont know what to do i turn into a horny school girl when i see him and when he call our phone asking for my husband i float on cloud 9....... sometimes when my husbands not in ...

A.   18 March 2012: You cheated on your husband, had sex with the neighbor, without a condom no less! Your behavior is repulsive! Don't you think your husband deserves the truth? You said you don't want to ruin or lose the marriage, but you already did. If ... (read in full...)

Should I let him sleep over... first time meeting in person?

Q.   Hi all, I'm new to online dating, and could really use some advice: I've been communicating with this guy over OkCupid for over 3 months. We're both students, facebook friends, and have regularly exchanged messages every other day or so s...

A.   12 March 2012: Yeah, it's still a safety factor. I hope you made him stay at his hotel. ... (read in full...)

I'm upset that g/f lied to me about knowing an old lover

Q.   I have been with more girlfriend for over a decade. Recently, a (female) friend of hers found her on Facebook. They lost touch because (I am told) they had a falling out over a guy. Her friend is living in France and married a Frenchman...

A.   10 March 2012: She shouldn't have to discuss her previous dating life to you if she doesn't want too. She's just protecting the privacy she deserves. She might be embarrassed or ashamed of it. That was a while ago, she shouldn't have to talk about it with you, ... (read in full...)

How can I overcome this lack of self esteem before I go to college so it doesn't hold me back??

Q.   Hello everyone, I will be starting college in September and I'm getting more and more worried about this event. I used to be quite a confident person, and I still am with the people I'm comfortable with and know quite well. I'm actu...

A.   10 March 2012: Sweetie, every freshman of college has those same exact feelings as you do. It's completely normal. Just go with the flow. High school is one thing, where everyone from the same county as you is bunched up together. With college, these kids pic... (read in full...)

I feel so undeserving of him! He's a 10 and I'm a 3. What do I do about it?

Q.   At 21, after 1 serious relationship, I think I have a little idea on what kind of man I would want to date. I know of this guy who's extremely funny and easy-going that everybody enjoys being around him. There are so much more about him that are ...

A.   10 March 2012: Don't try and rate yourself or compare yourself using numbers to rate the outside. Beauty comes from the inside! That cliche phrase is so true! Also, beauty has to do with the eyes of the beholder, remember? And you never know, it might be ... (read in full...)

Can a minor bicycle riding accident cause the hymen to tear?

Q.   Can a minor bike riding accident cause the hymen to tear? I had a bicycle riding accident when I was younger. I was still learning how to ride it and hadn't gotten used to breaking and getting down smoothly. I hit myself down there on the cycle ...

A.   10 March 2012: Yes, it sounds like the accident caused your hymen to tear. Your hymen is a thin membrane, that sort of impact could have torn it. Now are you trying to determine whether you have your hymen or not? You can do a quick check if your unsure- ... (read in full...)

How can I protect my girl friend from the psychological abuse her foster parents are imposing on her?

Q.   Hey – So long story semi-short. My girl and I have been together for 9 months. She’s 16, I’m 18. We’ve been together since she was 15 and a freshman in high school, and I 17 and a senior. She’s adopted, been with that family for 4 years now...

A.   6 March 2012: I wish I could message you privately, but here goes: First of all, it's very admirable for you to be wanting to help her, unfortunately, there are some guys out there that will dump the girl if she has too much family drama. You are a gem, and... (read in full...)

How can I get my ex back as a friend without scaring him?

Q.   I miss my ex boyfriend. I know this is a right of passage etc, but it doesn't make it any better. We were together for 6 months in a long distance relationship and were friends before we went out. It's been 3 months since we broke up and at the mo...

A.   6 March 2012: I've got bad news for you. No matter how you approach this, he is going to think you are interested in a relationship with him when all you want to be is friends. You are going to lead him on. You're going scare, confuse and upset him. Imagine... (read in full...)

Are there solutions to this problem or do I need medical advice?

Q.   Im 19 and I've been seeing this guy for a few months now. I am not that sexually experienced, im still a virgin but i've done foreplay. Yesterday, i allowed him to try and finger me for the first time, but it didnt work. He could only fit 3/4 of h...

A.   6 March 2012: Ok, I'm going to answer this from a Nurse's perspective. Your hymen is still intact, and it's going to continue to be painful as long as it's still intact. There are unusual circumstances, but for the most part, your hymen will not open from fin... (read in full...)

I feel guilty about this. I can't discuss this with my parents, but can I just have one 'one night stand'?

Q.   Hello Everyone, I have been bought up very distant from boys and because I went to a christian primary school think that I should only have sex with another virgin and this should be who I marry if it happens before I get married. But now I am 1...

A.   6 March 2012: NO. A 16-17 year old should not be having one night stands. Let me point out several things here: 1. Say you have sex with him after the first few dates. You will be labeled "easy" by your peers. Not to mention you will be labeled as a slu... (read in full...)

After 1.5 year of planning trip now g/f says she wants us to go separately and she's going with a male friend

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been planning on hiking the appalachian trail together for the past year and a half. The departure time is getting close, so 2 weeks ago she tells me that she wants to hike the trail separately now. That consists of me going ...

A.   6 March 2012: She is being extremely disrespectful to you. This is something the both of you were planning, and all of a sudden, she wants to go with another guy? She is taking your feelings for granted. I like how Maverick put it, whereas doesn't it sound a ... (read in full...)

He wants me to meet his guy friends. How do I feel comfortable and not too shy and cope with this?.

Q.   Hello fellow aunts and uncles. I've been with my wonderful boyfriend for 6 months and everything is wonderful, all though we've had some issues regarding friends and "us" time. He likes to see his college friends on Saturdays and Thursdays which I'...

A.   6 March 2012: Just laugh and smile a lot. Your boyfriend probably chatted with his boys already to remind them that there will be a lady present (so they should not be as rowdy as usual). Also, if they banter and tease you, it's a compliment. For whatever... (read in full...)

Starving for sex while husband jeks off in the next room!

Q.   My husband sneaks off to masturbate. One morning I woke up and wanted a cup of coffee while I watched whatever show I had recorded the previous night. My husband had left about an hour before, while i was still asleep. I made my coffee, and in m...

A.   5 March 2012: No, you're not wrong. You need love and affection too, and you need validation that he still finds you attractive. I would be upset too. He seems to be taking care of his needs on his own, but what about you? What about your needs? What did he s... (read in full...)

Should I let him sleep over... first time meeting in person?

Q.   Hi all, I'm new to online dating, and could really use some advice: I've been communicating with this guy over OkCupid for over 3 months. We're both students, facebook friends, and have regularly exchanged messages every other day or so s...

A.   5 March 2012: Do not let a guy sleep over if it will be your first time meeting him. You have to trust a guy first before you make that step. Please do the sensible and safe thing by having him stay at his hotel. ... (read in full...)

I figured out a way to break into her email to see if she's been lying and cheating. Should I?

Q.   I know it seems like here and else where there is the thing that if you look at someones email its almost as bad as killing someone but I have never seen it like this. Sometimes there are circumstances which make it almost so pressured to find out ...

A.   5 March 2012: You have to confront her based on the evidence you have, you can't just accuse her of cheating. You confront her about the things she is doing to you personally, not what you think she might be doing. Talk to her about how she gets calls from oth... (read in full...)

Can an online relationship work out?

Q.   I met this guy on this website for making penpals an we hit it off big time. We have been exchanging e-mail for about a month now. I love reading his mails. They bring a smile to my face, and make my day seem a bit more full of sunshine. A ...

A.   5 March 2012: Online chemistry is different than real face-to-face chemistry. You're an experiencing a huge crush right now, I would find it hard to believe that someone is "falling for someone" they have never met before. Realistically, this isn't going to... (read in full...)

I was wondering if you guys/girls think I could become pregnant.

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are in a pickle. We had sex and he finished inside of me. BUT some factors will affect this. This was on 3/1/12. Today is 3/3/12. 1. I am on birth control, the pill Ortho-Tricyclen. But on 2/29/12 I couldnt take my pill. ...

A.   3 March 2012: It's very unlikely that you are pregnant from this accident. On the warning labels on your birth control packets, they say that if you missed a pill, you take it as soon as you remember and you should be okay. If you miss it 2-3 days in a row, you ... (read in full...)

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