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writes:Why does my male friend avoid me?We are both 21 and final year university students, 2 years ago our friends tried setting us up - (which we objected to)... and ever since then its like our friendship has been destroyed!He can't stand to be near me, when we are with friends he will act completely natural but when its me and him he makes excuses to leave, and i find it difficult to have a chat with him. We was out for a friends birthday and we literally avoided each other all night, she pulled me to the side and told me that everyone could see the tension that was between me and this guy... I actually think he hates me, we both like each other in the bf/gf way but somehow its like he is blaming me for our friends trying to set us up (which i had nothing to do with!)Its really starting to bug me, if i enter a room he will walk out of it, and he has also deleted pictures of us off my camera in the past, so now i refuse to have any taken with him. Whats he playing at... i have tried talking to him about it but he insists nothing is wrong, when we last went out we both had a bit to drink and he held my hand, it felt so right, i looked at him and he looked at me and i knew that he felt the same way i did. Thats another thing... he only really talks to me when he has had a drink!Also, when i first got with my ex i bumped into him and he asked me about my at the time bf, he had the look of pure jealousy in his eyes, and when we broke up he seemed really happy about it. What do you guys think... Does he hate me, or does it sound like there is more too it?
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (29 February 2012):
 You say "we objected to it" when your friends set you up. Are you sure it was "we" or just you?He might have felt rejected when your response to the set up was to object it. You might need to consider that. If you guys like each other in a gf/bf way, then I can't understand why you objected to being set up. He's probably nervous and doesn't know what to do about it. Mainly, he's probably confused, it sounds like you are giving him mixed signals in a way. You say he's blaming you because you two set him up, but you claim you had nothing to do with it. Does he know this? Or is he under the impression that you had something to do with it and then you objected it?If you two like each other, then stop trying to be just a friend and trying to find out what's wrong. If you like him, show him. Be a romantic sap like in the movies and go run up to him and kiss him! I think that will make it obvious as to how you feel about him and that you want to be with him. And then tell him how you really feel after you've caught his attention. Just tell yourself that you've got nothing to lose at this point. Because you really don't. He can either continue ignoring you, and you have to accept that. Or you guys can fix it if you put some effort. If you try to fix it and he still ignores you, well, at least you get to say you tried.
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