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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, I have been dating a married woman who is in a same-sex marriage. We have only been dating for a month and a half and I have already fallen for her. We have done a lot of stuff together and she has never treated me as her mistress. Recently, I told her that her and I can't get together anymore because of the fact that she is married. She cursed at me and called me all kinds of dirty names when I told her it was over. I still love this woman and it is killing me that I cannot be with her. What should I do? Should I apologize as well as ask for an apology or should I continue to hurt and let it go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2014): She is married and therefore cheating. Move on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 May 2014):
 you were wise to end it. the married woman is cheating on her spouse with you and she's also probably lying to her spouse.
therefore she's able to lie to and cheat on the person she supposedly loves most dearly. This means if you were her primary partner and not her dirty little piece on the side she could easily do the same thing to you.
you do NOT apologize for doing the right thing. YOU bite the bullet and endure the pain until the pain is gone and you move on.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (11 May 2014):
 No, just let it go. No apologies for or from either of you. Any more dialogue will just prolong the agony. Move on and cut contact. All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2014): Let's imagine you confess your love for this woman, she divorces her wife and the two of you become an item? Would you trust that this woman will be faithful to you for the rest of your life, knowing that she has cheated on her wife already? Can I ask you now, why did you hook up with a married person? Do you have less respect for her marriage because it's a same sex one? I think regardless of the gender, it's still a marriage and the both of you have cheated because you both know that one person is attached.Let's say she doesn't end her marriage and you continue to see each other? I don't think this is a very healthy option either.I think you both need to move on. I know that you love this woman but she is married! Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2014): Stay away from her. Don't get involved with someone who is married/attached again. Only bad will come of it.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 May 2014):
This woman is a mean cheater who will never fully give herself to you. You're wasting your time with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2014): Don't apologise! she was nasty to you & she is married!
If she is in a r/ship, she can never really be with you 100%, why would you want to be anyone second choice?
or be with a woman who calls you names and was nasty? you deserve better than that! its also not fair to her partner for her to cheat on her with you, how would you feel if your partner cheated on you??
you made the right choice, forget her and move on, it may hurt now but it will save a while lot of trouble later on if her partner finds out, and.... even if her partner knows and is Ok with it you will always be this womans second choice, do you want that? find a more available woman. Don't let anyone treat you badly..
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reader, llifton +, writes (11 May 2014):
 You continue to hurt and let it go. What's the other alternative? To stay with her and never truly be with her? You will always be second to her wife as long as they are together.
There is no other alternative than to hurt and move on. Give it time and stick to your guns. You've made the right choice.
Good luck.
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