In an LDR for 3 years, we rarely see each other, and have had sex 3 times! She says she loves me but I'm not sure she wants to be with me. What should I do?

A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello.I am a 31 year old guy and I have been in a relationship with a younger woman for the past 3 years.We live around 100 miles from one another but have kept things going but I rarely ever see her and in those 3 years she has come up to see me ONCE.She says this is becuase she has a young child of 4 years old.During the time we have been together I have caught her out lying many times.One time she told me she was at a party and kissed a guy but when I asked about it she said they had sex for 20 minutes but onky because he was threatening her and she was scared.She then changed the story and said she never done anything with him but he took her pants down (this was to explain the reason he would have known she doesn't shave down there). She goes days and weeks without contacting me but I get texts from her Mother regularly saying that my Girlfriend loves me,things will get better etc. Then a few months ago my Girlfriend said she lost her mobile phone so could only text or call from her Mothers phone but I have just found out that she has had a new phone for ages.She also has a Facebook which my Sister found,I tried to find it to add her but found I had been blcoked from her profile. Just last night,her Mother told me that my Girlfriend does want to be with me,loves me and wants us to start from scratch. We have only had sex THREE times in the time I have known her. I love this girl so much but it's stressing me out like crazy!Part of me thinks she is either ashamed of me or does now want me but just does not to tell me she doesn't want to be with me but I have said this to her and she is adaman she wants to be with me and loves me.I have a 9 year old Daughter and she has a 4 year old Son,they adore each other and my Daughter loves my Girlfriend and her Mother loads too.What on earth should I do? Please help!!

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