Natural birth questions
Q. These questions are for mothers who chose to have a natural birth with no pain medications. I am expecting my first baby this summer and i want to do it with out pain medications but my mother thinks i'm not strong enough to and iv hear some bad ...
A. 1 March 2014: My wife had a natural birth for our first child, but it hurt so much that she didn't want to do it for the second child.
The second time around it was a lot easier, but even with an epidural there was plenty of pain. Normally there is less the... (read in full...)
Can I ever really trust her after I found out about her threesome?
Q. 6 months into our relationship my girlfriend went on holiday and I later found out that she had a threesome with two men she met in a nightclub while she was away. After she said it was just a crazy one off I forgave her. But I just can't get ...
A. 28 February 2014: My reply didn't tell you to break up, I said that you're feeling this way for a good reason. You can't just turn it off, it's not like you have a psychological problem.
The only remedy is to figure out why she cheated and to solve that problem,... (read in full...)
Why is it a big deal for my boyfriend and I to be 7 years apart?
Q. im 14 turning 15 and my lover has just turned 23 and we are pretty far apart in age but does it really matter? we do not have a sexual relationship and nobody except a close adult friend of mine knows, I feel the urge to tell my mother that im in ...
A. 28 February 2014: I'm going to be honest and say that not everyone is the same, but for consistency we make rules that apply to everyone.
When I was 22 i unknowingly briefly dated a 15 year old. It didn't occur to me to ask because she acted the same as anyone e... (read in full...)
I resent that his ex-wife expects me and my family to run errands for her!
Q. I am frustrated and unhappy and thinking of leaving my 3 year relationship. My live in divorced boyfriend's ex wife seems to think it is appropriate for everyone to run errands for her and thir child. She instructs him to tell me to pick up art ...
A. 28 February 2014: Do you see yourself marrying this guy or spending the rest of your life with him? I'm doubting it. So why not just end it now since it seems to be a source of such frustration? ... (read in full...)
Can I ever really trust her after I found out about her threesome?
Q. 6 months into our relationship my girlfriend went on holiday and I later found out that she had a threesome with two men she met in a nightclub while she was away. After she said it was just a crazy one off I forgave her. But I just can't get ...
A. 27 February 2014: I'd say that you can't stop thinking about it and feeling insecure with some magic trick, mostly because she has proven untrustworthy. Your not having unwarranted feelings, this is your brain trying to protect you. ... (read in full...)
I don't think I love him as much as he loves me, what do I do?
Q. Hey its me again.I've been hurt by guys from time I started having boyfriend Which is at 19 .I have never had a real boyfriend before until now,I'm someone who likes older guys but this one I have now is only 20 and doesn't seem to be what I want. I ...
A. 27 February 2014: Some people feel passion when the other person makes them chase them and work for their affection. Maybe your boyfriend is too nice?
Your mom is kind of right. If you find your boyfriend attractive and he treats you great, that's a good start. I... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my son's ex-mother-in-law but our relationship is a secret. What should I do?
Q. im in love with my sons ex mother in law and she loves me but she says that we will never be able to get together because of her kids and our mutual grand son. our relationship is secret from everyone. i help her with money. we kiss but i ask her i ...
A. 27 February 2014: Hmmm, the "relationship" is a secret and you're giving her money. That doesn't sound good at all, especially since you both appear to be single.
When a woman likes a guy but is afraid he might be only wanting sex from her people usually suggest ... (read in full...)
He's so special to me, but I wonder if I'm just one more of the countless girls for him
Q. I'm having a hard time coming to terms with my boyfriend's past. In the beginning, I knew he had been somewhat promiscuous but I didn't know to what extent. I have never been promiscuous myself, although I have had no strings attached sex, only a ...
A. 26 February 2014: Love means a lot when you're having sex. And although I doubt you're the most sexually skilled person he's ever been with, it's certainly possible that the bond he has with you is greater than anyone he's been with, and that can make sex quite a bit ... (read in full...)
Will he be better to her than he was to me?
Q. Will he be different with her? My husband and I divorced mainly because he was very emotionally/verbally abusive and he walked out. We have a child together-so I try to maintain a civil relationship with him because of that. He has a girlfr...
A. 25 February 2014: It's likely it'll be the same. But there are personalities that are more compatible with potentially abusive people.
Some women tolerate abuse because they're afraid. Other women will not put up with it, which may help the other person keep it ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to give him a second chance? And I'm wrong for not holding our past over his head?
Q. I've been a single mom since my daughter was 8 months old. My ex and I got along and then i found out that he cheated on ( he fooled around with a girl at a party) we decided that we would break up but We have been co parenting my daughter and ...
A. 25 February 2014: Mistakes happen. It's not like he had a relationship and repeatedly chose to do something that would hurt you. People are also capable of learning from their mistakes and changing.
I do think it's important to address what happened... Why did ... (read in full...)
First one night stand has me wondering why boys are like this!
Q. On Friday I had my first ever one night stabd! But I really havebt taken it well I didn't know the guy I had met him that night And had spent most of the night with him we had got to talking and he took me back to his. Obviously everything happened ...
A. 25 February 2014: That's not the best way to find a guy interested in a relationship or your feelings for that matter.
Now if you had dated for awhile and he didn't contact you after the first time you had sex, it'd be different. ... (read in full...)
Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me?
Q. I dated and fell in love with a guy in the summer/ fall of 2012, but who ultimately went back to his ex (a prior very long term relationship) and was living with her. We reconnected some months thereafter where we talked about how much we still ...
A. 24 February 2014: You don't need an explanation, it's pretty obvious that he loves his girlfriend and is somewhat comfortable with her, but he's not totally happy either. You guys knew each other just enough for him to romanticize you, but it wasn't enough for him to ... (read in full...)
I am losing sleep and feeling really down on my self because he is having trouble getting over this, he makes me out to be such a horrible uncaring person!
Q. Okay I am having issues getting through a little speed bump with my boyfriend. There has been absolutely no cheating or lying just something from my past he cant get over. We had known each other for quite some time but only started seeing each ...
A. 24 February 2014: Tell him to go to counseling, or go to couple's counseling with him. If he doesn't agree then it's got to be over. He's not being logical so reasoning with him won't help. ... (read in full...)
How can I trust him to be a nice guy again?
Q. Hi everybody there, I have some trust and reliance problems with my boyfriend. We were in a long distance relationship about one year and now he's living at mine. I'm from East Europe and he's from West part and spends his holiday in my country....
A. 24 February 2014: Unfortunately you've come to the point where you realize that he's just not the right person for you. It's very hard to break up with someone who you love, but it's sometimes necessary.
And the truth is that finding love is actually quite ea... (read in full...)
Hurtful comments from stranger .........
Q. Today I went to a coffee shop and ordered myself something to drink. While I was about to leave the shop, I walked by a group of guys and they were looking at me and laughing at me. I heard one of the guys said, "did you see that girl?" "Did you get ...
A. 24 February 2014: Uhhhh.... I'm confused by this... I've seen countless "ugly" people and never seen grown men laughing at them. I can't even imagine it.
Is there something odd about you in particular? Crazy haircut? Huge boobs/butt?
Is it possible that th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I am cheating because I am 'too loose".
Q. Help, my boyfriend, we've been together for 2 years and he thinks I'm cheating because I feel "loose", and I feel it to. We used to have sex everyday, but it began to lessen. Now we have sex once every two weeks, and even then I still feel loose, I ...
A. 24 February 2014: Your problem isn't your vagina, it's your boyfriend. He's insecure and there's not much you can do to change it since his feelings aren't based in reality.
Regarding your looseness, kegals take awhile, just like going to the gym. Speaking... (read in full...)
3 month anniversary post on girlfriend's wall. What do I say?
Q. My three month anniversary with my girlfriend is today. She has asked me to post a long post on her wall. We have been through alot together and really are thinking about the future together. What do I say. Please help.. I need help fast I am ...
A. 24 February 2014: You know what? This is a ridiculous thing to ask of someone, and that's why you're not coming up with anything.
Love details are a personal thing. If I was you I'd tell her as much. You'll find out soon enough that women like to see how much you... (read in full...)
Broken up for 1.5 years yet still cry almost every day
Q. Has anyone else ever thought about something an ex did even though you've been broken up for a year and a half? The thing he did was two years ago. I don't want to say what it was. I cry nearly every day. My parents think I'm mentally ill as I ...
A. 23 February 2014: Well, mentally ill is a term that gets thrown around a lot, especially as an insult. It doesn't mean that you're crazy. It means that your normal brain activity is impaired, more or less.
So yes, I'd say you're probably mentally ill, maybe be... (read in full...)
How can I deal with these noisy people?
Q. This is quite a basic question but I feel like I need some objective advice on the matter. Basically, I live in a halls of residence at university so I don't expect silence in the slightest, I knew when I moved in that there would be noise and so ...
A. 23 February 2014: Earphones will definitely not prevent you from hearing a fire alarm. They just dull the sound enough to avoid damaging your hearing, or in your case to allow you some sleep. ... (read in full...)
She says she wishes she met me earlier.
Q. I have a female friend, She herself greets me and talks to me. She is in a relationship with a guy. But at times she says she wishes she should have met me earlier and that I'm very sweet. She really does try to make an interesting conversation ...
A. 23 February 2014: "You're sweet" isn't always the best thing to hear from a woman. Suffice it to say that she's not available and she knows you like her so she's trying to be nice when she says she's not interested. ... (read in full...)
Worried that I'm not meeting expectations and worried about having sex again. What to do?
Q. I am so worried that I don't enjoy sex because I'm too worried thinking about whether I'm living up to expectations or being good in bed. I'm 21 and not a virgin but had very little sexual experience all with guys who used me and at the time me b...
A. 23 February 2014: My advice is don't be a missionary Mary. Effort and open mindedness go a long way towards having good sex.
I have no preference regarding a woman's experience, I just want enthusiasm! ... (read in full...)
My thirteen year old caught my husband and I having sex. How do I repair the relationship with her?
Q. so every friday, my susband has a day off. we thought to make it special on valentines day, and ended up having sex. we didn't hear the key turn in the door because the next thing i know, my thirteen yearold daughter's standing in the doorway ...
A. 23 February 2014: I would talk about it. Just tell her you know it's a terribly awkward thing to see but it's just something that adults do. Apologize for not being very discreet and tell her you hope she's not too embarrassed by it.
... (read in full...)
Why is this position we use still causing me problems?
Q. My boyfriend and I have regular sex, we like to try different positions but our favourite is usually cowgirl where I am on top of him. When we first tried this position I had never done it I wasn't any good and he was doing most of the work. I thou...
A. 23 February 2014: You don't need to bounce up and down on him so much as you should rock back and forth. It feels better for both the man and woman and is easier. ... (read in full...)
After a year this is what our sex life has become?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. We used to have sex alot! But this month we've only had sex once he's 21 and im 20. The last time two times we've started having sex he just stops and says he's to tired, or his legs or whatever is ...
A. 22 February 2014: He's obviously not terribly interested in sex, that doesn't mean he's not interested in you. At his age I didn't care how tired I was, I would have sex all night long of the situation called for it. ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with these noisy people?
Q. This is quite a basic question but I feel like I need some objective advice on the matter. Basically, I live in a halls of residence at university so I don't expect silence in the slightest, I knew when I moved in that there would be noise and so ...
A. 22 February 2014: In ear earphones or earplugs. Problem solved.
There's nothing you can do to shut them up that won't make you enemies. ... (read in full...)
Does having anal sex make me no longer a virgin?
Q. I pledged not to lose my virginity until marrige but it has been hard with my kind of personality seeing naked guys and me getting wet. All the thoughts about having sex. I have a guy in my house currently and he has been here for over a week. At ...
A. 22 February 2014: Fill in the blanks: You have been having anal ____. You lose your virginity by having ____.
What you're doing is trying to cheat. What's the point of that? If your husband asks if you've ever had sex will you tell him no?
Now if you want to s... (read in full...)
Do I preserve my family or go with the love of my life?
Q. Hi all, im after some advice please , around 12 years ago i met the love of my life, we saw each other for a year and went our seperate ways due to seveveral miss understandings, weve always kept in contact losely but over the past year we got...
A. 22 February 2014: Misunderstandings? True love doesn't go it's separate ways because of some misunderstandings.
It sounds to me like you have a classic case of the grass being greener on the other side. If you and your wife get along well then you have a lot bett... (read in full...)
Should I have moved in on her that night?
Q. So I started talking to this girl like a month ago. We only started hanging out because there was a party and she wanted to go, ever since then she barely texts me or wants to hang out, we both just text each other when we know there's a party. ...
A. 21 February 2014: "She's just not that into you."
You may offer a fun distraction but that's it. ... (read in full...)
My ex who tried to ruin my relationship has contacted me. I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to hurt my partner. What should I do?
Q. Me and my ex broke up back in June after being together for a year and a half. We tried being friends but this proved impossible after I started seeing someone four months later. This lead to something of a bitter parting for us. She and her family ...
A. 21 February 2014: C'mon man, what she did was inexcusable, you have no obligation to contact her ever again, just for the sale of self preservation alone. You don't need people who have tried to hurt you anywhere near you.
If you absolutely must respond just say... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him respect me?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for two years and we have talked about marriage. Initially when we went out together in public his eyes were on me, but for the past year he has had a wandering eye and will look women up and down (with his sungla...
A. 21 February 2014: Dump his ass! ... (read in full...)
S true love real or do you think people generally 'settle' with a nice partner?
Q. Hi everyone, I have posted about this previously but I'm still in the same predicament. Basically, I am currently dating a lovely guy but I'm really unsure of my feelings for him. We met online but decided to be friends (he was keen, I didn't feel ...
A. 21 February 2014: Obviously true love is real but if you have no good reason why you aren't into him it may be something you need to talk about with a therapist. Maybe you're attracted to the wrong type of guy?
If you think that's silly then he could just be a lit... (read in full...)
Is he my boyfriend? Does he want to be my boyfriend? Is it too early to even bring that up after one month of dating?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 24 years old and have never been in a relationship. But three weeks ago, I met this guy, and we've been dating since (1-2 times a week). Things are going great. We get along, we laugh together, and we've had sex (he was my fir...
A. 21 February 2014: He's not your boyfriend, you're "dating". It's too early for some people to commit, but if it feels right then go ahead.
My guess is that he's not very interested in making things official, but he likes you and is happy he's getting laid. Be... (read in full...)
Why can I not express interest in the guys that I actually like?
Q. Why can I not express interest in the guys that I actually like? I'm a fairly confident woman. I have lots of male friends. I'm a flirt and pretty easy to get on with - except with one type of guy. The ones I fall for. Tonight I have made ...
A. 21 February 2014: Well you obviously have a fear of rejection. The easy solution is to face your fears.
Ask him out, if he says yes, great! If he says no, even better because you'll realize it doesn't hurt. Besides, you already think he's not interested in you, ... (read in full...)
My fiancée is having a stroppy moment over something seemingly small, why?
Q. Hi aunts n uncles, I have been with my fiancée for three years now, shes 23 im 26. The other night I told her that I was going to Bath in Somerset to maintain some equipment for a few nights and I said that I would like to be in my own bed when ...
A. 21 February 2014: First of all, I'd address the no sex thing unless that's okay with you. Because if you're not having sex very often before marriage you'll likely not be having any sex at all after a couple years of marriage.
I'd normally say she's just being a ... (read in full...)
I want my wife to give me a break! I am NOT looking at other women!
Q. My problem is this; that every time we go out, be it the mall, supermarket, wherever, she will accuse me of looking at another women, even though I most certainly am not, and most of the time don't even know who she is referring to until I really do ...
A. 20 February 2014: Sounds like insecurity issues more than anything, so you should encourage her to seek treatment.
From now on don't even acknowledge her accusations (tell her you're going to do this). It's hard for her to argue with herself. ... (read in full...)
Would telling her I find her attractive be a better way to move things forward?
Q. Hello Cupid I was wondering if it is good idea to tell a girl you like her if you want to move things forward with her . I know the girl for about three months and I want to take things forward by telling her how I feel. I have decided to...
A. 20 February 2014: Telling her you find her attractive won't move things forward by itself. Your problem is that you aren't taking the initiative to move things forward, you're leaving that up to her. You'll be waiting for awhile....
You should tell her you're a... (read in full...)
She broke up with me, acts like we're still in a relationship, but is talking to other guys
Q. So my girlfriend broke up with me after a year of being together. We moved in together after three months of being together so we have a close bond. My ex states that she doesnt think she loves me enough and that she isn't happy within herself so ...
A. 20 February 2014: It's time to tell her that you no longer want to be strung along and you don't want to see her anymore. She may care for you, but she's only with you physically until someone else comes along, which seems to be happening. She's using you because ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't have sex with me
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years. We are both 22.We used to have a great sex life but over the last 6 months, he doesnt want sex with me. I'd say this has happened gradually, before I had hope but now I know it's useless. He says ...
A. 20 February 2014: The issue, to me, is less about the amount of sex you're having but rather his unwillingness to listen to your pleas and act on them.
You've done everything you can, it's time to decide if this is a deal breaker or not.
It's always very diff... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from girlfriend's best friend.
Q. I am getting confused by a girl I have feelings for. I told her a while ago I really liked her and asked her how she felt she just said I'm a no go area. She likes talking to me but says not about that and we should forget about that, but looks at...
A. 19 February 2014: I think it's obvious she doesn't want to have sex with her friend's boyfriend. Easy enough to understand. ... (read in full...)
I want him as a friend on FB but I don't know what's up with him!
Q. A boy and me are friends on FB for last three years.he wanted to meet me five times in two years ...But I did not.after three years and after a huge gap of communication between us he wanted to meet me again...and this time i did...well after I met ...
A. 19 February 2014: Since I have no idea what I just read with the exception of the title, I'll just ask why being Facebook friends with him is important if you're not clicking in real life?
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Does asking for pictures make him a bad guy?
Q. I can't believe it has come to this again. Last week a met this guy through Uni and instantly started messaging me on Facebook once he tracked me down. And has not stopped since. He was shaping into such a nice guy, even invited me out for ...
A. 19 February 2014: I don't think it guarantees anything, but it's something to be aware of. Wait a little to sleep with him and see if he's still interested. ... (read in full...)
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