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writes:my girlfriend broke up with me last Thursday because of some mixed feelings and confusion on both of our parts. I pushed her away because I was starting to smother her too much and she lost interest in the relationship and was feeling miserable, at the same time she feels lost and has no direction in life right now and hasn't been able to really sit down and think about what she wants and where she wants to take her life. We talked about things before the break up and I told her I now understand what I need to change about myself to make the relationship work, but she said no matter how hard she tries she cant shake the overwhelming feeling that she's not good enough for me. So we agreed to break up, I am still deeply in love with her and she said she still loves me she has just lost the passion in the relationship. She has planned to move out but has to keep her stuff there until she can find a place and hasn't been home but one night and then a little bit during the day one day. I've been trying to give her as much space as possible. I've had to text her a few times and can tell she's just not very interested in even talking to me. I feel deep down inside that we are meant to be together because of our relationship past and how it seems fate keeps bringing us back together. I just don't know if 1 month two months or three months if she's going to even miss me...I know nobody hear or anywhere can tell me if she's going to miss me enough to get back into a relationship. But is there any advice anybody can give on how to help the process get to that point? where she would consider getting back together? I love her so much and cant explain how much of a connection I feel with her, I cant stand the thought of not being with her...
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (5 May 2014):
 Read CMMP's reply again 'cause he said it right!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 May 2014):
First and foremost, if it's meant to be it will be. Don't try and force things.
Second, take the breakup seriously and move on with your life. If you keep asking for her to explain, give you a time line, etc, you're going to push her away. The sooner you move on the more likely it is that she'll want you back.
Let her move out, then work on bringing yourself back to 100%. Eat healthy, work out, do fun, enriching things.
She may realize what she's missing and come back. If she doesn't, you're on your way to moving on so it's no big deal.
A song lyric that I believe is applicable to your situation is "if you want me for your girl, all you have to do is see that you're not the girl for me."
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