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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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He's ONLY hit me twice recently. But should I end this relationship?
Q. My partner used to physicaly and mentaly abuse me. it became worse during my pregnancy , and i miscarried. After this he became better for a while and has only hit me twice in serious arguments. i still can't get over how he treated me and even tho...
A. 1 May 2011: Yes. You cannot continue to lessen the amount of damage he did to you. what's worse is that he struck you while you were pregnant. What future do you see for this relationship?
You might think he is better now but you can never be sure. Abusers ... (read in full...)
Why do so many marriage end in divorce? what can I do to ensure my marriage is as solid as my parents?
Q. Hi all, First off let me say that I'm coming at this from a teenage perspective and as such an outsiders perspective. As you may know the divorce rate in the USA is around 50per cent for first marriages. Though my own parents are not divorced (Ma...
A. 30 April 2011: What you can do is head toward marriage with a lot of patience. Most people rush into a marriage head first because they are head over heels for their partner. Some people are lucky meeting the love of their life and forming an instant connection ... (read in full...)
Cheated on husband, now want him back?
Q. Hullo there, I am a married woman with a 2 year old son who doesn't know what to do next. The thing is I cheated on my husband two times and I was caught out by my husband. I truly love him and badly need him in my life. He was angry at first, but ...
A. 30 April 2011: If he is as sweet as you say, you have to let him know that and show him that you truly appreciate it so he can see just how much you regret those mistakes. Be his wife. That's not to say you should bend to his every whim but show him that you love ... (read in full...)
I told b/f I hate him watching porn but he says its normal
Q. my boyfriend watches porn and i am not happy about it. i think he watches far to much even though he has me. i am willing to experiment, but he chooses these porno girls. i have told him i hate it but he says it fine and natural. is it? i am also ...
A. 29 April 2011: You have to ask yourself if there really is anything worth having in this relationship. If he cared about you, he would have given up watching porn, because no, it isn't natural, despite what most people claim, porn is and always will be unhealthy ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become abusive, we constantly fight and I'm always on edge. What can I do to stop this?
Q. Hi all. I am very upset. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a total of almost 3 years now, but lately we have been arguing a lot. The last heated argument we had I ended up crying on the floor while he made sarcastic remarks about ma...
A. 29 April 2011: And now you like so many others fall into that same trap. No it will not work, you might think it will but a relationship like this can never work, you will only end up getting hurt, both emotionally and perhaps even physically. Whatever sweet ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become abusive, we constantly fight and I'm always on edge. What can I do to stop this?
Q. Hi all. I am very upset. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a total of almost 3 years now, but lately we have been arguing a lot. The last heated argument we had I ended up crying on the floor while he made sarcastic remarks about ma...
A. 29 April 2011: If you stay with him, one day you will see how much you really hate him and you will no longer be his girlfriend but his emotional if not physical doll. A toy in his eyes, one he can rip apart for no reason, one he can destroy over and over again ... (read in full...)
Cheated on husband, now want him back?
Q. Hullo there, I am a married woman with a 2 year old son who doesn't know what to do next. The thing is I cheated on my husband two times and I was caught out by my husband. I truly love him and badly need him in my life. He was angry at first, but ...
A. 29 April 2011: Have you tried talking to him about it? Have you told him everything you have written here? If you have, then ask him, ask him what you can do to make him see you as his wife again.
While reading your whole post I was under the impression that he ... (read in full...)
My wife went behind my back and loaned her ex money
Q. I am a 43 year old guy. My wife gave (she says loaned) some money to her ex to enable him to purchase some real estate. He had purchased on option on the land which was about to expire. If his option expired, I was going to buy the property. She ...
A. 29 April 2011: You find it hard to believe she could be kindhearted without being completely in love with her ex? I would have thought that would have been one of the reasons you married her. She felt obliged to do this because her ex is someone she once was in ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to take me on a cruise, but I have social phobias
Q. My husband wants to take me on a cruise, but i am struggling with social phobia at the moment and other mental illnesses. I am petrified at the thought of him looking at other women especially around the pool. What do i do?...
A. 28 April 2011: If it is an actual phobia, doesn't he know already? Have you discussed this with him at all? Just tell him you don't want to go a cruise. If you haven't already, I urge you to seek professional help for this.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfriend
Q. I will try and keep this as short as possible. In my last relationship, I done something horrific regretted it completely straight away but it happened and there wasn't anything I could do to change it once it had happened. I was dating a pretty ...
A. 28 April 2011: There's nothing YOU can do to force yourself to trust him. He has to have earned your trust by now and if he hasn't, I suspect this relationships will struggle.
You are still at a young age and boys in that stage of life will always falter a... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to open up to me?
Q. ok, so i've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. and things are going great. i love him with all my heart, since way before we got together. but, hes gone through a lot in his past, like abuse, and he was made fun of by the kids his age ...
A. 28 April 2011: Give him time. People close up because they are afraid to feel vulnerable again. Let him open up to you at his own pace. If he tells you more than he does everyone else, he obviously really does like you but it has only been 3 month since you ... (read in full...)
Seeking: one agony aunt to help with complicated relationship problem
Q. ok i have a few problems with an ex girlfriend becuase we want to get back together but a few things have happened and now im reconsidering everything and i would like some input from a different point of view (not friends or family). the prob...
A. 28 April 2011: Message me and I'll see if I can help.... (read in full...)
Am I the only person in the world who feels this way?
Q. Hi. I am a 16 year old guy. The truth is...I don't know how to be myself...I am paranoid, truly suffering from paranoia. I do not think there is anyone who is like me on this planet. I am scared and nervous of life in general..as crazy as it ...
A. 28 April 2011: Not really. There are many boys like you. One thing I think you should know is that this sort of awkwardness is typical around your age. Things will get better but it will help if you just fight your fears. You can talk to other guys so why is ... (read in full...)
Is a good man worth cutting off for his financial lackings?
Q. If he has a bad credit and no job should this be an automatic dump my boyfriend prompter? I have been dating my current boyfriend for 10 mths. Everything seem great. When I met him, he had a business he was working on and was also a correctional ...
A. 26 April 2011: That depends on why you are with him. If you are with him because he is in fact a good man, do you want to break up with him because of this?
Finance is indeed one reason why most couples split. Mostly because they allow it to. Finance tends to... (read in full...)
My teacher kissed me! I don't know what to do or how to handle this!
Q. I KNOW ITS KIND OF LONG BUT PLEASE I NEED ANSWERS. Ok well i get along great with my maths teacher. hes funny, easygoing and a great teacher! We always have a laugh in class as well as getting the work done, but one day some of my friends started ...
A. 26 April 2011: He should be taken away. He had no right to touch you like that and his behavior is extremely inappropriate. You are letting this happen though, you are letting him get away with this sort of thing and that is unacceptable. It doesn't matter how ... (read in full...)
If we're both fifteen...what happens if we want to have a baby?
Q. What iF You're 15 And You And Your Boyfriend Want To Have A Baby?!?...
A. 26 April 2011: If these fifteen year-olds were to think carefully and deeply upon it, they would know to wait until they are truly ready. They may feel as though they are ready now, they may feel as though they are in love and they are completely ready physically ... (read in full...)
His mixed signals???
Q. This lad says he loves me and wants to be with me. we hold hands and he puts his arm around my waist and then says I dont want a relationship right now. whats going on???...
A. 26 April 2011: Loving someone doesn't always mean you are ready for a relationship. Maybe he wants to be with you but, because of some unseen reason, he can't. Maybe it is an issue he has with himself? Or maybe his family or his future. Who knows? He just isn't ... (read in full...)
Will a married man cheat if he is truly happy?
Q. Will a married man cheat if he is truly happy at home. As cheating I mean carrying on a emotional and physical relationship for over acyears?...
A. 25 April 2011: The honest truth is that even if he is happy, even if he has the best wife in the world, there is still a chance he would cheat, either out of a need to try being with someone else or simply because he has found someone else he connects with. ... (read in full...)
I've received an offer to work in the porn industry. What are the advantages and disadvantages?
Q. i worked as a shot girl in a club. i basically wear a g string, a micro skirt and a crop top. for those who dont know a shot girl goes around dressed like i described handing out shots. anyway, i got chatting to a guy one work night. i finished earl...
A. 25 April 2011: Consider that one day, what sex would mean to you. Would you still enjoy it if you ever found the right man and you wished to settle down? Would it mean as much to you? When you engage your body in things like this you have to consider the effects ... (read in full...)
HELP!!! Unhealthy Obsession with my Former Lecturer
Q. I have very deep feelings for my former lecturer, I think about her all the time and can't get her out of my mind, I miss her when I haven't seen her for a long time and continuously read information on her just to know more about her. I know that ...
A. 24 April 2011: Be careful when considering things you THINK are signals or hints, feeling the way you do about your former lecturer will lead you to see things you WANT to see even if in actuality they are not there.
You are not doing anything wrong really, ... (read in full...)
Promiscuous wife had 40 partners, I have only been with her!
Q. hi there, i dnt knw where to start but il try my best. My wife was promiscuous in her college days 40men to be exact. After i found out abt her past i asked her abt and told me she had low self esteem, i didnt believe her shes drop dead gorgous what ...
A. 24 April 2011: Perhaps she lied knowing you would react like this. In any case, do you actually want to leave her? I have to admit, it would be understandable were there to be trust issues born from this but you cannot assume everything she has ever told you was a ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my BF it's over? I said No. But He's still pressuring me. he wants to lose his virginity with me.
Q. I am a 14 year old virgin, but my BF , which is 15, wants to lose his virginity with me. We have been dating for not so long(1 month or so) and I'm scared that if I continue dating him, then I'll lose my virginity. At first it was a straight up ...
A. 24 April 2011: It is most certainly NOT for the best. Now is not the time to lose your virginity nor is it good for your to surrender to his pressuring. You have only been dating him for a month! Are you so certain that this is the person you want to lose your ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant with my history teacher's baby. Who should I tell? Cd I make out it's my Bf's baby instead?
Q. Hi everyone! So I finally found out I'm pregnant with my History teacher's baby and I don't know what to do. I'm 100 per cent sure I'm going to keep it and I don't know if I should tell him what's going on, or if I just should tell my boyfriend I'...
A. 24 April 2011: You tell your history teacher because he is the father and he has a right to know. Then you tell your boyfriend whose baby it is. The poor man should not be fooled into raising a baby he thinks is his own because one day he will find out.
I hop... (read in full...)
Promiscuous wife had 40 partners, I have only been with her!
Q. hi there, i dnt knw where to start but il try my best. My wife was promiscuous in her college days 40men to be exact. After i found out abt her past i asked her abt and told me she had low self esteem, i didnt believe her shes drop dead gorgous what ...
A. 24 April 2011: Just because you find someone extremely attractive, you cannot assume it is impossible for them to have such low self-esteem. It doesn't matter how many times people tell them just how stunning they find them, it is difficult to appease the desire ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with incest?
Q. This is an unusual question, but I'm curious to see what your answers will be. I was watching the HBO show Game of Thrones the other day, in which it is hinted at that one of the characters is having sex with his sister. On IMDB, this brought up ...
A. 24 April 2011: Historically it was only acceptable because it was a necessity. In times of near-extinction a race will turn to inbreeding to further expand their population and over time as more and more of that species appear, bloodlines will become more ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is no longer the man of my dreams...
Q. Heya guys and girls, here we go.... I have been living with my boyfriend and things havnt been great, well he just isnt the man of my dreams....he use to be the man of my dreams. We use to be so much together and now he isnt anything i want we use ...
A. 23 April 2011: I have just about sifted through your other questions, is this the same boyfriend who disrespected you? Became somewhat abusive towards you? You are still with him? Why I ask you do you still tolerate his cruel neglect and emotional torture? I ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is no longer the man of my dreams...
Q. Heya guys and girls, here we go.... I have been living with my boyfriend and things havnt been great, well he just isnt the man of my dreams....he use to be the man of my dreams. We use to be so much together and now he isnt anything i want we use ...
A. 23 April 2011: Have you expressed how you feel to him? What could have possibly changed? If there was nothing in particular perhaps he simply grew away from being that man you love. If you have talked to him or if you are going to, and he does nothing, perhaps it ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my bf to want me to spit on him before giving him oral sex?
Q. When giving my boyfriend a bj he always tells me to spit on it and make it really wet. Well I'm not down with making it wet. Thinking about it makes me wont to puke. I just want to know why I dont enjoy spit and why it grosses me out to think about ...
A. 23 April 2011: It certainly isn't abnormal...Just a preference. People have aversions to different things. Some people have foot fetishes and some people are absolutely disgusted by feet in general. It's all understandable.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Should I continue to connect with my estranged daughter, or stop trying?
Q. Dear Cupid I have a daughter who does not want to know me. She was just the most rebellious daughter you could ever imagine from 12 onwards. I tried counseling. But it never worked, she would not attend. I was a very young parent and she is my on...
A. 23 April 2011: Some people just cannot be helped either because they crave negative emotions or because they are impulsively resistant to positive ones. You were the best mother you could be to her, you can do no more than that, be proud that you fought for ... (read in full...)
Sex life has all but disappeared!
Q. Been married about 6 months, things are going great except that our sex life has all but disappeared! I am 38 hubby is 55 but we're both in good shape, good health and enjoy life. What gives? He never wants sex! We used to have sex several times a ...
A. 22 April 2011: He is 55 years old so, even though it is unlikely, he may be going through andropause and therefore, he might be losing his sex drive. Aside from sex, what of other aspects of your relationship? You mentioned you feel more like a roommate so I as... (read in full...)
Hot woman wants you but you are married...
Q. This question is for MARRIED MEN!!! But men in general can answer it. PLEASE ANSWER TRUTHFULLY!!!!!!! If a beautiful and hot woman was showing interest in you and was everything you were looking for in a woman and more, ie. you have everythin...
A. 22 April 2011: The way I see it, a strong emotional connection isn't always good enough, there are so many other things that may sever that connection and nobody knows whether or not over time that connection would fade anyway. If I were married, which I am not, I ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he has fallen out of love with me
Q. hello my boyfreind of six and a half years told me that he has fallen out of love with me a bit cause of the way i am but we had sex and he said he is back in love with me if i change will we be ok please help important ...
A. 22 April 2011: That is conditional love which in essence, really isn't love at all. What he wants isn't who you are. You cannot stop yourself from being a more dominant person, giving him more space however is completely reasonable if you do see each other all the ... (read in full...)
No money, no sex....can we survive on just love?
Q. My partner (50) and I have been together for 2 years now and he relocated to my town and moved in a year ago. We started a business not long after we met and as I have a good paying job it was assumed he would work in the business which I funded and ...
A. 21 April 2011: I wish I could tell you that you could but I have to doubt. Just how hard is he trying to find a solution to this? Can you see any evidence or actual effort in helping you with your financial problems?
He stands up for you and that is a good sig... (read in full...)
Will this poem help me get my wife back ?
Q. I wrote a poem for my wife ... is it too much? Will this poem help me get my wife back? She said she does not want space but to talk My Love, My Heart The woman who defines me The person who most inspires me The lady who completed me I did you ...
A. 21 April 2011: She said she wants to talk? Then maybe a letter would suit this situation rather than a poem that would only serve to remind her the mistakes you made in the relationship. If she wants to talk, then talk to her about it. If she is intent on leaving ... (read in full...)
Is my BF a racist?
Q. Hi all, I have a issue with my man, he is half Hispanic and half white He is great and funny and sweet but there's this problem A few days ago.. He told me this racist joke Like what 3 things scares a black man away and then he said a educat...
A. 21 April 2011: A little bit insensitive perhaps but I doubt he is actually racist. He is just using stereotypes to make bad jokes. Are there ever any other signs that he might actually have something against other races? If it bothers you, talk to him about it if ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend suggesting all these sex improvement operations for me?
Q. Been with boyfriend for 10 years, have always been there for him in every way. I take care of myself financially, stay fit, work out four days a week, dress sexy, do what I can to keep things exciting. The other night he brought up me having a ...
A. 21 April 2011: It is insensitive and selfish to say the least. He is looking for a perfect woman, in the physical sense and little more than that. Could he by any chance, be going through a mid-life crisis? One that takes form in a possible desire to be seen with ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he has fallen out of love with me
Q. hello my boyfreind of six and a half years told me that he has fallen out of love with me a bit cause of the way i am but we had sex and he said he is back in love with me if i change will we be ok please help important ...
A. 21 April 2011: Sex doesn't re-ignite suddenly re-ignite love unless that 'love' was lacking in much needed depth. What exactly does he mean by "the way you are"? What sort of change does he desire?
To be honest, I doubt this relationship will be okay. After si... (read in full...)
Is the perfect person out there.. Or should I resolve myself to a life alone
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. He couldnt deal with the fact i wanted to wait til i was married to have sex. He told me he couldnt be that person for me. I decided to be strong and walk away. Just wondering are there any like minded guys...
A. 21 April 2011: Everyone is different. There are men like your boyfriend who don't want to wait and there are men who do. Same as women. Not every man will want to have sex right away, some people appreciate that it should be something special between two people ... (read in full...)
I feel useless!
Q. Everytime my boyfriend is sad or depressed like....I feel bad or even useless when I ask him if he wants to tlk about it and he says no or i ask if i can help and he says "no". Of course i respect him,i dont try to pry into his buisness nor do i ...
A. 19 April 2011: You have to stop letting his depression affect you. He might say no but he needs help. You need to be his little ray of sunshine when he is feeling dark. Show him happiness, show him joy and he will stop falling into his own sorrow.
To be hones... (read in full...)
Should I confess my feelings to my stepbrother?
Q. I would really appreciate some advice To cut a long story short I am in love with my stepbrother and I really do not know if I can tell him. Each others parents are not married which makes things easier and my stepbrother and I are both single adul...
A. 19 April 2011: If you are going to confess it, texting is definitely NOT the way to go about it. You have to do it face to face. You really cannot do much wrong in telling him directly as long as you push these fears away. Rejection is not that bad. If you are ... (read in full...)
My buddy has not been a good boyfriend to the girl that I like
Q. So I have a recent dilemma with one of my good friends. She has been a friend of mine for about a year now and we have grown rather close within that time frame. I am a good friend of hers, and I am starting to develop feelings for her as time ...
A. 19 April 2011: Just be a good friend and respect their relationship. What she does with it is her's to deal with. She can either break up with him or go on with this unsure thing. But you need to be a friend and only a friend until she thinks otherwise.
If sh... (read in full...)
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