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writes:Is there such a thing as Destiny? I'm asking this because I believe that me and an old friend of mine are meant to be together, despite our ups and downs. You know when you feel a connection with someone and there is so much tension when you're around one another? Well it's like that. Here's the brief background; I admitted my feelings to him (nearly two years ago) and a bit too soon after becoming his friend. He turned me down. Things were a bit awkward for a time but he really wanted to stay friends so we resumed our friendship although this was very difficult for me. A couple of months later, I noticed a change in his behaviour towards me - he started being really shy. I got the instinct that he was becoming fond of me. A few weeks later a friend of mine (who also likes him) decided to stir up trouble and spoke of untrue things to turn him against me. I thought he hated me and drifted apart from him (I wanted so many times to confront him but this so-called friend of mine advised me not to - and now I know why!!). Then last Novemeber it was revealed through one of my good friends that after everything he actually does like me and had been considering asking me out. Nothing evolved from that, but each time we was around each other it would be really nervewrecking - neither of us knowing what to say and being fidgety. Then recently, just before taking an exam, I noticed him glancing at me so I looked up at him and I felt such a powerful connection between us. I can't even put it into words! It was one of those moments you just can't forget.So, having finished college now. I doubt that I will see him in the near future! But my instinct tells me that in a few years time, our paths will cross again. You know when you just have a feeling about something? I guess what i'm asking for is whether anyone has any personal experiences they would like to share on how 'destiny' brought you and your partner together? I'm trying to seek out if Destiny actually exists or whether i'm just mad for believing that it does!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): Absolutely not. Destiny is a culmination of life choices and random acts and events that we have no control over, but still have a choice in how we handle them.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Destiny doesn't always imply a fairy tale ending hun.
Your destiny may also be a lifetime of longing glances and chemistry etc in which he never quite closes the deal, and you'll have wasted your time.
Look around for someone who actually wants to be with you now and not in the future. x
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Destiny may or may not be real. I can't answer that for you. But what I will say is similar to what celtic_tiger brought up:
Destiny MAY be real, but even if it is you should not just wait around for it. Don't take the chance and wait for destiny. Make your own destiny and go out there and look for that boy. Find him and tell him how you feel.
If you wait around for destiny you may end up passing up other opportunities with good men in the future.
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reader, MisguidingBoys +, writes (16 July 2010):
OMG i feel to slap you upside your head.
if i was you friend right now i would shake you so hard right now.
I completely believe in destiny that despite how much you screw up or how much you stray from it you can always get back to it.
but why leave something that can be simplely be sorted with words up to destiny.
Do you wanna wait years to be with someone you feel so deeply for.
or do you want create you own future by take this situation into hand
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (16 July 2010):
 As someone who has felt excactly what you are feeling, been there, done it, and believed it, please please please dont let yourself get so attached to him that you hurt yourself.
Because life is not like fairy tales. Sadly.
Dont spend your life wishing and hoping that he will come back to you, and everything will be rosy, because he wont.
Fate and destiny are not real. It only leaves heartbreak and pain in its wake. Please dont end up like me, feeling hurt, depressed and lonely because the man you fell in love, and are still in love with after many years, cant or wont be with you. Move on while you still can.
Take care.
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