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17 January 2016: If you are reading this you know there's a lot of stuff in the net about Retroactive Jealousy. As someone who's gone through that decades ago I've read a hundreds of articles and discussion about it myself. There is a lot of misguided advice, and ...
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My girlfriend just dumped me because she thinks I'm being paranoid!
Q. my girlfriend has just dumped me because she think iam being paranoid. 2 weeks ago she changed her profile picture on facebook and i started to get paranoid so i started asking her if she loved me and she replied yes. but the next day i appologised ...
A. 1 February 2011: IF it's true that you haven't been paranoid after she forgave you. I would rather think she is cheating you OR she never loved you really.
Dumping you after forgiving you (for a single reason) makes no sense.... (read in full...)
I'm giving my girlfriend her fantasy to be with a former lover/friend. Will I regret it?
Q. I would appreciate any help and comments on my situation. I met a wonderful woman last year and we had an immediate connection. Stronger than any I've known before and she said the same thing. On our third date we were talking openly about fan...
A. 1 February 2011: You and your girlfriend seem pretty sure about doing it. I think that's why you should do it. But you asked how will you feel afterwards. And we don't have even the roughest idea. But you already know two things can happen.
You can come to enjoy... (read in full...)
I am thinking about leaving my boyfriend because I am not pretty enough compared to his ex!
Q. What do you do if you are not pretty? I feel so insecure about myself. Its not my body, in fact I think my body is amazing I am blessed in term of genetics but my face is so...plain. ITs not ugly or weird its just boring and shapeless. ITs more ...
A. 1 February 2011: You are giving more value to your perception about her ex's beauty than what your boyfriend thinks about you. In the end, he's dating you and not her.
Shouldn't you talk about this with him?... (read in full...)
Am I too slutty for a serious relationship?
Q. So, I'm searching for a serious relationship. I've never had one. I know this guy who is really nice and friendly, but I only saw him as a friend... until two weeks ago saturday we went to a party and he held my hand and was really nice to me. I had ...
A. 1 February 2011: I think both questions are related now. Will anyone take you seriously if you get physical in the first date? I think most guys (specially those who get the girls to sex in the first date) won't take you seriously if you give them oral sex in the ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not wanting her to be friends with this guy? Do you think it is a trust issue?
Q. I've been married for almost 11years. At the 3-4yr mark I found out my wife had an affair with one of our older friends son. He is about a year younger than us, we were around 19-20 and he was 17-18, he was in college. Okay so when I found out, I ...
A. 1 February 2011: You wife is supposed to love you. Now, does a person who loves you hurt you on purpose?
I mean, she cheated on you with a guy and you forgiven her, now she wants to be in touch with him again. She do know you will be hurt with that.
In my o... (read in full...)
Was it reasonable for me to ask her to remove the guys she had a threesome with from her facebook?
Q. I have been with my fiance for the last 11 months, she has many of her ex-boy freinds on her facebook account which she claims to be good freinds with, This also includes 2 guys who have had a threesome with her, it is a bit confronting and hard ...
A. 1 February 2011: I don't think you are being unreasonable. Most people have sex only when they are into a serious relationship. It's part of the popular culture. Even when there is a lot of people who are ok with free-sex and open relationships. I think you are ... (read in full...)
He's my friend but I really like him and he thinks I'm not a virgin...
Q. So i'm at University and I have this great bunch of friends. Within this group is a guy who I really like, I can't go a day without thinking about him. I have a feeling that he likes me as well, he treats me nicer than the other girls in our group ...
A. 31 January 2011: In my own opinion 80% of the answers in that poll are false. In a group of people telling face to face how much experienced are them in sex, most will just lie.
I don't think it's a big deal, really.... (read in full...)
Telling someone you cheated in the 1st 2 weeks after being together for 2 years?
Q. Ok so this is just one about cheating and being unfaithful I would like to ask the females since I'm a guy. If you cheated on someone in the first two weeks of a relationship because it was long distance and you didn't think that person would last ...
A. 31 January 2011: I think the problem here is whether this will eat _you_ up. I mean, if you are writing this this has to be something that bothers you enough. In the other hand, unless she decide to tell you, you will never know for sure based in whatever she may ... (read in full...)
Should I propose to her, or am I making a mistake?
Q. I've known and have been sleeping with my girlfriend for 2 years besides a several month period where she changed her number and took me out of her life. Here's the deal and I am trying to get to the bottom of this and it isn't easy...we have h...
A. 30 January 2011: Of course I'm not certain about it, but in my own opinion she could be cheating on you. As she seems pretty horny but then she wont take the chance to have sex with you.
Anyway, at this point I guess it doesn't even matter. The question here is ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for the relationship that might not happen or just go for it and see how far it could go?
Q. Im single and so he is. It's always been more than just friends, we 'sext' all the time. He wants us to have sex but doesn't like talking about a relationship. He's not a virgin but i am. Should i wait for the relationship that might not happen or ...
A. 30 January 2011: If you want a boyfriend and he wants just sex. You should end this now. Otherwise you will regret in the future having lost your virginity with someone who didn't love you. You can read a lot of such stories here.... (read in full...)
It seems like my girlfriend is the only one having fun. I'm worried about her behavior!
Q. Hey all, So here's the deal i've been in a relationship a little over year. We live a little farther apart than usually. Things were really good and still are for the most part. However it hit a little ruff spot a couple of months ago with alcohol...
A. 30 January 2011: She has the right to enjoy life. You have the right to sleep well. Ask her to change her behaviour for good. If she doesn't want to. She may not be the right girl for you.... (read in full...)
I'm not feeling validated in this relationship and she can't fully commit!
Q. Alright, this is going to be slightly long, but bear with me for a moment. I started dating this girl when I was 19. I've always had a lot of trust issues, so opening up to people wasn't something I was good at. For about 6 months things were goin...
A. 30 January 2011: I agree with aunt honesty, you have to take a DNA test to check it's your child for real. You have to get away from her as it has already been enough. Giving her more chances doesn't make sense to me.
She decided to get pregnant without your con... (read in full...)
Does this make me a sick person? I don't want to hurt him.
Q. I've been talking to this boy online for a few months now, we're both 20. When we met I was getting over my ex, so he was kind of like a rebound. He gave me comfort and made me happy from a distance, which is what I needed. Eventually I told this ...
A. 30 January 2011: I don't know if I get the whole scene. But it seems like you are about to hurt him. I mean, he thinks both of you are into a serious relationship. But you have on-line sex with other guys and you have sex with your ex. Is that true?
He seems to be v... (read in full...)
Are men really ok with small perfect breasts?
Q. my boyfriend is a boob guy.. i know that he loves boobs,..big boobs especially. Im about 34b. i lost a lot of weight and lost most of my breasts( i was 180lbs now im 125). they are perky, he tells me he loves my boobs but always comment's on boobs ...
A. 30 January 2011: Are women ok with small perfect penises? You can only speak for yourself. I can tell you I am ok with small breasts. But every one has their own preferences.... (read in full...)
Is it right to stay with the only man I have ever been with?
Q. dear readers, i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, he has been the only proper boyfriend that i have ever had. i love him very much and he loves me to, we have a great relationship. But people always seem to think its ridiculous that ...
A. 30 January 2011: Why would you ever do something you don't want to. And just because other people thinks you should? That would be ridiculous.
If you don't feel the need, just don't do it. Would you like to ruin a good relationship?
If you could see the fu... (read in full...)
How can I bridge this terrible predicament?
Q. I am a middle-aged man, I have a daughter who was born when I was in my teens. Her mother and I were High school sweet hearts and I loved her very much. My daughters mother was unfaithful to me many times, I tried to make it work but I could no ...
A. 30 January 2011: I don't get way don't you want to tell her the truth about her mother. Or, at least show up so she can see who you really are. I guess your daughter is old enough, already.
You could, at least tell to your daughter that you won't talk about he... (read in full...)
The guy I like! Please answer this for me!!:)
Q. I'm sorry if it's too long, I just think it's better more than less:) I have been meeting a guy quite a long time we first met for about a year ago just to have sex and rarely talked together, but now we are starting to meet more and for ot...
A. 30 January 2011: Well, you said you were afraid of talking about this with him. If you are going to talk to him, actually. I would recommend you to tell him the whole true. That's the best thing you can do. Even when no success is warranted before hand. Since you ... (read in full...)
I had no feelings for him, so why do I feel like my world's come crashing down?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend because i didnt like him but only thought of him as a friend but why do i feel like my worlds come crashing down on me when i had no feelings for him?...
A. 29 January 2011: If you don't know the answer I don't reckon you will find it here. May be you do have feelings for him, or may be you were just used to him.... (read in full...)
The guy I like! Please answer this for me!!:)
Q. I'm sorry if it's too long, I just think it's better more than less:) I have been meeting a guy quite a long time we first met for about a year ago just to have sex and rarely talked together, but now we are starting to meet more and for ot...
A. 29 January 2011: May be, if you are unable to talk to him about it, you shouldn't be his girlfriend. I mean, at this point, talking is the only way your relationship can change from sex to a real relationship. The fact that you can't talk to him may be a reason for ... (read in full...)
I hit my girlfriend, is it my fault or hers?
Q. im 15 ma girlfriends 14 were in the same year but im not proud of what i did but i need some advice me and my girlfriend were arguing after something that happened at school i kinda said she was flirting with my bestmate because she was hugging him ...
A. 29 January 2011: She was very mean. But nothing justifies slapping her. It's your fault for not being able to control yourself.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's best male friend is an old fling, which makes me way uncomfortable.
Q. I have just started seeing a new girl. She has admitted she has never felt this way about anyone in the past, and I feel the same; this is all after only 2 months. My problem is that one of her closest male friends is someone she has slept with in ...
A. 28 January 2011: In my own personal opinion, there is no room for past lovers when you have a new boyfriend/girlfriend.
You have the right to ask her stop seeing him. I mean, he's not like any other male friend of her (any friend she didn't had sex with). Even if ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy cries for a girl?
Q. What does it mean when a guy cries for a girl? This guy is those kind of people who never give up or fight for whatever he deserve until the last moment. He gives everyone an image that he is willing sacrifice almost anything for things that he w...
A. 28 January 2011: Well. Now I understand better the situation but I don't get the point of your original question. I mean, most people cry if someone them love hurts them. I guess that means that being hurt by someone you love hurts enough for making you cry.
I'm a... (read in full...)
Should I enough them to break up by telling him about his Gf's cheating?
Q. This guy started talking to me back in march of '10. I never gave him the time of day, but gradually he started to like me. I only saw him as a friend. Then I started to realize how cool a person he is and how he's been trying to get with me for ...
A. 28 January 2011: Unless you have proof of the cheating I would recommend you don't tell him about that.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him to kiss me?
Q. ok well im 13 and i have a boyfriend and hes really shy and we have been dateing for awhile and he hasnt kissed me and he told my friend he was gonna kiss me awhile ago and he hasnt but i dont want to kiss him first so how do i tell him i want him ...
A. 28 January 2011: You can try leaving some hints. But, if that doesn't work keep in mind that if you really want something you have to go for it. You already know that he wants to kiss you, so he must be too shy to try. And if you kiss him, he won't refuse.
One h... (read in full...)
I chased a loser and lost a winner...
Q. Hi everybody I came here to vent and maybe someone can help me out. I'm lost and sad. I spent the past 4 and half years chasing after a man who come to find out had a fiancee. I found that out half way through but didn't leave him since he kept ...
A. 28 January 2011: It's funny that you said "No man can take Marvin's place" and you kept playing with him until he left.
How come Marvin was such a wonderful guy and you left him as your second option. Right after a guy who played with you for more than four yea... (read in full...)
Telling someone you cheated in the 1st 2 weeks after being together for 2 years?
Q. Ok so this is just one about cheating and being unfaithful I would like to ask the females since I'm a guy. If you cheated on someone in the first two weeks of a relationship because it was long distance and you didn't think that person would last ...
A. 28 January 2011: Bringing it up now won't do any good. Even when I think that cheating the first day is like cheating the 365th day. If it's a serious relationship.... (read in full...)
Keep feeling guilty or keep hiding what happened?
Q. About a year and a half ago myself and my current boyfriend took some time apart from our relationship due to the fact that I hadn't gotten over my ex boyfriend and bumping into him again had caused old feelings to emerge. During this "time off" and...
A. 27 January 2011: I think you did the right thing. The results seem to be great by now, and I wish you good luck. Anyway the mind of a guy can be really tricky so stay alert. And make him feel reassured in the relationship and let him know how much you love him.... (read in full...)
I want to have the 'talk' about getting serious, how do I go about doing this?
Q. I've been having this fling with this guy for a while now and I'm at the stage where I want to talk about things, so I sent him a message saying that I wanted to talk and he said that we can. We saw eachother not long ago at a get together but it ...
A. 27 January 2011: Better sooner than later. You have to talk about this if you feel like this is the time for you. If he isn't for something serious at all right now, he won't be tomorrow. In the other hand, if he is for something serious but he thinks you aren't he ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy cries for a girl?
Q. What does it mean when a guy cries for a girl? This guy is those kind of people who never give up or fight for whatever he deserve until the last moment. He gives everyone an image that he is willing sacrifice almost anything for things that he w...
A. 27 January 2011: Well. It's hard to answer without knowing the facts that lead to this guy crying. Assuming he was rejected, it could be his pride too hurt that made him cry.... (read in full...)
I'll never be happy with my boyfriend till he lets this go
Q. I have a boyfriend that is very insecure about himself. He was this way before our relationship, but I made it much worse. See, I was not over my first boyfriend when I started dating him. He was my rebound guy. I compared him to my ex and said some ...
A. 27 January 2011: For any given insecure guy, letting go the subject of his girlfriend's ex-boyfriends is not easy. Your case seems to be much worse as you seem to have said too much.
Two years is enough to try. I think both of you will be happier if you break up.... (read in full...)
Are there any couples out there who are 100% faithful to one another?
Q. I dont know if it's because Ive been reading the articles on this site too often (this being a relationship help site and all), but it seems that everywhere I look, people are unfaithful to each other. Im basically asking, are there any couples ...
A. 27 January 2011: Dear Napalm, fortunately there is such faithful couples on the earth. So, not everything is lost yet.
Anyway, quoting: "Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or anoth... (read in full...)
does he think I'm a whore and he is just a really really good liar?
Q. ok,this is really confusing me-I have this new boyfriend-we've been seeing each other for a couple of months and he is saying that he loves me and he wants to have a serious relationship and he sounds really genuine and when he says what he likes ...
A. 27 January 2011: I will tell you this: 99% of the guys who have sex in the first date think that the girl they had sex with, is a whore.
Yes, there is guys who won't have sex in the first date.... (read in full...)
Is waiting worth it to a woman?
Q. I am also the authority of an other article '22 Year Old Virgin: Weak or Responsible'and this will be my second article on the subject matter. I am struggling with the issue of virginity. Because I am a very disciplined individual as my previous ...
A. 27 January 2011: I don't think waiting is worth —most of the time. But I think that's a vary personal subject too.
I would tell you two things:
1. If you decide not to wait any more. Don't go for a striper or prostitute.
2. If you wait, the look for someo... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my girlfriend want to tell me if she's a virgin or not?
Q. Hello. I have been dating this girl for almost a month already. I usually spend at least 1 day a week with her because we both go to different schools. I can tell she feels the same way I feel about her. She has told me before that she has had ...
A. 27 January 2011: In the first place: Right now there's no way you can know whether she is or she is not. Some people is afraid to say they are virgins. Other people is afraid to say they aren't. Most people won't answer that question in just one month of relatio... (read in full...)
She's lied about her virginity so I don't trust her
Q. I have been dating my girl friend for three years now and she has lied to me about her viginity for two years i love her and i cant live without her but i dnt trust her anymore what should i do please help ...
A. 26 January 2011: Well, as you have been told you should discard your entire relationship for just one lie.
In the other hand, this particular lie is not easy to oversee. I agree that talking is the only solution. If there is one.
You have to find out why she... (read in full...)
Can you be friends with your ex?
Q. My ex and I broke up two weeks ago after a year of going out. We're both 15, (i know, I shouldn't be worried about this, but still). We broke up b/c we didn't have much to talk about or say to one another anymore, not because we didn't still care ...
A. 26 January 2011: As you have been told, it depends on you and your ex.
But let me add that you will find another guy, eventually. And this new guy may not like the idea of you being friend with your ex-boyfriend.... (read in full...)
I can't even say "hi" to him without my boyfriend getting angry
Q. Im having trouble with my ex when we broke up and i moved on he didnt wanna know me at all but we would say hello to each other now and again now that ive got a boyfriend he keeps texting me saying hello you i miss your pretty face it was great ...
A. 26 January 2011: If your boyfriend doesn't want you being fiend with your ex, you should stop talking to your ex. I guess your current boyfriend is more important to you than your ex.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has slept with 6 women, but he's my first. It bothers me!
Q. I've been with my bf for 2 years and when we met I was a virgin and he had slept with 6 other people. I love him a lot but I find this incredibly hard to deal with sometimes. Sometimes it does't bother me, but when I think about it it weirds me out. ...
A. 26 January 2011: What happens to you is just normal. And very hard to understand for people who hasn't been there.
If he doesn't stop seeing this ex-girlfriends, things won't be any better.... (read in full...)
Keep feeling guilty or keep hiding what happened?
Q. About a year and a half ago myself and my current boyfriend took some time apart from our relationship due to the fact that I hadn't gotten over my ex boyfriend and bumping into him again had caused old feelings to emerge. During this "time off" and...
A. 26 January 2011: In my own opinion, what happens during a break is part of your relationship. You can start dating a guy and never tell him about your past. But in this case, if you don't tell him anything. He will assume nothing happened during that period.
I thi... (read in full...)
Why would she say her baby daddy is 'irreplaceable' if she supposedly doesn't have any feelings for him?
Q. so, I was talking to my girlfriend last night. and we were talking about her friendship with her baby daddy. and she told me, that i was replacable and he was irreplacable. after she tells me she hates him. i can understand keeping a friendsh...
A. 26 January 2011: If I were you I would be very hurt about that comment.
I wouldn't care about how she feels her baby's father is irreplaceable. The problem is how YOU are replaceable.
I mean, every body is replaceable, of course. But you don't tell that to the... (read in full...)
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