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Retroactive jealousy, the missing tip

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17 January 2016: If you are reading this you know there's a lot of stuff in the net about Retroactive Jealousy. As someone who's gone through that decades ago I've read a hundreds of articles and discussion about it myself. There is a lot of misguided advice, and ...

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Can't get this boy off my mind, even though I barely know him. Is it possible to truly like someone without knowing them?

Q.   There's this guy who goes to my school that I really like but barely know. Basically, whenever I'm not in school I miss him so much that it always gets to the point of me crying my eyes out or lashing out at my family. Everything I do makes me think ...

A.   26 April 2011: If you have a good excuse you can ask him to talk in private. Of course the others guys will make silly comments. But if you like this guy you won't care about that.... (read in full...)

Can't get this boy off my mind, even though I barely know him. Is it possible to truly like someone without knowing them?

Q.   There's this guy who goes to my school that I really like but barely know. Basically, whenever I'm not in school I miss him so much that it always gets to the point of me crying my eyes out or lashing out at my family. Everything I do makes me think ...

A.   25 April 2011: If you aren't close to him, you could make up an excuse for talking to him. About anything you can think of. Or asking him about something. If you start talking to him frequently you will notice if he likes you.... (read in full...)

Old boyfriend perfect...new boy...exciting

Q.   hey everyone okay heres the deal ive been with this guy for three years.. and i love him i think. but i met this guy not long ago and he seems nice and he flirts with me and i have to admit i flirt with him. hes exciting and new but i feel bad a...

A.   25 April 2011: Yes. Right now you are cheating on your boyfriend by flirting with the other boy. You should make up your mind and choose one of the an let the other alone.... (read in full...)

We had our first big fight...over his friendship with another girl

Q.   Hey everyone. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months now and had our first big fight the other night. We've been having a few communication problems in the past few weeks and we both knew that the argument was coming. It was about t...

A.   25 April 2011: As Aunty BimBim, I don't know why SHE needs to know about your relationship. It would be better to tell your boyfriend needs to tell her. Which is more understandable, as long as this girl is her friend and isn't someone wanting to break you ... (read in full...)

Can't get this boy off my mind, even though I barely know him. Is it possible to truly like someone without knowing them?

Q.   There's this guy who goes to my school that I really like but barely know. Basically, whenever I'm not in school I miss him so much that it always gets to the point of me crying my eyes out or lashing out at my family. Everything I do makes me think ...

A.   25 April 2011: You barely know him so it must be just physical attraction. You have a crush, if you get to know him you could or could not like him later.... (read in full...)

How will my Bf react if I tell him I want a threesome, with us and his twin brother?

Q.   I want to have a threesome with my boyfriend and his twin brother. I'm so in love with my boyfriend, we have been in a relationship for 6 years and just a few months ago his brother came from italy and he was totally different, i want him but just...

A.   25 April 2011: I agree with ND in part. I would say your relationship will be at risk. All that ND has listed as a potential problem is true. Besides, what if his brother is better in bed that him. I mean, what if you find him so much better? At the point where ... (read in full...)

Is what I have with this boy real love?

Q.   There's a guy i think i really truly love. We've dated before but broke up. When we broke up a few days later he talked to me. He said that I've been on his mind since that day. Just 3 days ago he made an attempt to kiss me. Soon after i put a ...

A.   25 April 2011: The problem with real love is the definition of 'real love'. Couples get married in love and then split up many years after that. Sometimes hating each other. One have to question what real love is and if it's possible at all. If you are really i... (read in full...)

Partner says she just can't love me! Should I just put up and shut up for the children's sake?

Q.   Hi. My partner and I have been together for 8 years and have 2 children together (aged 5-7), yet a couple of days ago she admitted to me that she doesn't love or trust me and will never be able to. She has had a difficult childhood though I have ...

A.   25 April 2011: You can be certain that a person who thinks will never change, in fact will never be able to change. Did she showed some love in the past? How come you married and got two children? If she doesn't loves you, you have to divorce. You hav... (read in full...)

My ex never gives me the answer that I want!

Q.   Why does he always do this? am really hurt:(? ? ? Whenever I speak to my ex boyfriend and I ask him why he cheated on me, lied to me and dumped me, he gets defensive and angry and never give me the answer that I want. He gets angry and makes me feel...

A.   25 April 2011: Why are you hurting yourself like that? I mean, who cares why he cheated on you and dumped you. If you were the real cause you would be certain about it. If you have no idea, then you aren't the cause of this. Maybe there is no reason. Maybe he lost ... (read in full...)

Married man cares about me or does he only want some action?

Q.   Hey all. Me and this married man have become friends. We are both married and we both know we are sexually attracted to each other. He seems to want to talk to me and be around me all the time and we have connected emotionally. We are both ...

A.   25 April 2011: "How do you do that his motives are sincere?" Simple. You can't know. The only way to know is risk everything staying with him and seeing him do the same. I mean, you don't have to wait for ever. But once you two say each other you are ready fo... (read in full...)

Should she weigh more at this age?

Q.   I need to know what you guys think, My 9 month old baby girl weighs 13 lbs, should she weigh more at this age?...

A.   24 April 2011: I have no idea but you HAVE to see a doctor to control your baby. You can't be asking this here as we are no doctors to tell you how much your baby should weight.... (read in full...)

My wife had a one night stand

Q.   hi my wife had a one night stand when we where enganged six yrs ago, but has being faithfull so far now i feel like cheating on her because am hurt. am just thinking about it. am not talking to her how can i forget she did it with our family frien...

A.   24 April 2011: I totally agree with QuantumModulus she hid it for six years and that's even worst than the cheating itself. There is no way you can trust such a woman now. So, there is no relationship here.... (read in full...)

Found someone I love, my old friend is back, so are the old feelings, what do I do??

Q.   Dear Cupid, i have a very big problem, you probably get it a lot here. I dont know. My problem started when i was in high school. I fell in love with my best friend, we did nearly everything together, going to the cinema and such. The only probl...

A.   23 April 2011: Well. Your friend is being ridiculous when being mad at you for falling in love, after he told you he saw you like a friend (not a girlfriend). Come on, what was he waiting for? Just because you loved him in the past and even after he rejected you, ... (read in full...)

I want sex, but my boyfriend doesn't

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for a while, and he's told me that he has really bad sexual temptations; which is why i don't understand why he doesn't want to have sex with me. I'm not a virgin, so i can see why he wouldn't like that. But i alwa...

A.   22 April 2011: Right, you have to ask him why. There is no point in guessing. And once you've got the answer you can figure out what to do.... (read in full...)

What reasons would you give for his actions?

Q.   Let s just say it was you alright? You are schooling with this guy. He s always checking you around, giving you a very perculiar look with many questions. Sometimes he would change his direction when he sees you walking the same path as his. What ...

A.   22 April 2011: My guess: He likes you but he's afraid of telling you. Probably very shy.... (read in full...)

Does anyone ever feel sexually inadequate when they know their partner has had many more partners before you?

Q.   Does anyone ever feel sexually inadequate when they know their husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend has had many more partners before you? I'm in a very loving relationship with a wonderful man. We've discussed marriage multiple times and we're both ...

A.   22 April 2011: Yes. Of course hearing your partner talking about past lovers make you feel inadequate. Maybe he didn't noticed yet, but he's making a big mistake by giving you details about his sexual past. That could hurt you and damage your relationship in the ... (read in full...)

I want to spend my life with b/f but don't want to lose my youth as a consequence of it!

Q.   My boyfriend and I love each other very much, but we come from different backgrounds and have many differences. He is European and I am American; he is 27 and I am 19. We get somewhat jealous (e.g. when an old acquaintance stops to chat with him at ...

A.   22 April 2011: Well, I don't know if I can answer your questions. I can tell you my girlfriend is younger than me. About the same age gap you have with him. When my girlfriend goes to see her friends (specially male friends) I feel a little uneasy. I have never ... (read in full...)

G/f has intimate scenes in drama show, should I go to see it?

Q.   My girlfriend is in a drama group and they are putting on a show. I really want to see her in action and be there for support but she has told me that she has a couple of intimate scenes with a guy. She said she would love to have me there but would ...

A.   22 April 2011: Don't go. You will be able to support her in the future (another show). But seeing her in such situation can be very hard for you, even when you know it's fake. Some people can handle it, some people can't. You don't know before hand but I wouldn... (read in full...)

Girlfriend has been pushing me away because I am "like a puppy"

Q.   Goes like this. About 5 months ago I got together with a wonderful lady (shes 26 I am 34). We had known each other for several years and saw each other just as friends on a semi regular basis. She has a 5yr old daughter that loves me to bits a...

A.   22 April 2011: I wouldn't tell you to drop this already. There could be chances for this to work yet. But right now she is trying to break this up. I mean, she knows she's pushing you away, she know she's putting 20% when you put 150%. What does it means? You are ... (read in full...)

Going away for an overnight with a guy I like...how can I make something happen?

Q.   I am going to try and make this as simple as I can because I tend to waffle on. I like someone a lot at the moment and he is part of my reenactment group. Next Saturday, him, me and two other boys from the group are going to Norfolk for a camp. On...

A.   22 April 2011: The only advice I can give you is waiting until you are 16 (if that's the age in your country). Because doing something before will turn it a felony. And anyone could put him in jail within seconds if reports the incident to the police. If yo... (read in full...)

Are the differences between my bf and me too much for us to work out?

Q.   Hi there, i've got a real issue and i need as much help as you can give me! Me and my boyfriend are on the verge of breaking up. We love each other loads and used to be head over heels and really happy. But recently we've been arguing all the time ...

A.   22 April 2011: Rule: if you need him to change in order to be with you, there is no future for your couple. The same if you have to change to suit him.... (read in full...)

She asks me for help, for advice at all hours of the day and night...and then finally when I ask her out she says she just likes me as a friend!!!

Q.   OK I had this friend, a girl, who I was interested in, right. And she probably knew it, I mean how could she not since I went outta my way to help her. Now she would call me for advice, for help when she was in trouble. And I would always help her...

A.   22 April 2011: "Was it wrong for her to take so much from me if she just liked me as a friend?" Of course NOT. Friends are there for helping you when you are in trouble and when you need advice. So she was in her own right when she took what YOU were offering... (read in full...)

My fiance says she's a virgin but I'm not sure if she's telling the truth

Q.   Hi, I need your advice. I am a 31 yr old guy. I am a virgin and about about to get engaged to a girl. She is 24. Before getting engaged to her, I want to know if she is a virgin or not. She told me she does not have any boyfriends but the way she ...

A.   20 April 2011: In the first place I'd like to make it clear: you are in your own right to want a virgin girlfriend. No one can tell you otherwise. As for this girl you are dating, there is no way you can be 100% sure she is telling the truth. Even if you take... (read in full...)

My brother told me to leave my boyfriend!

Q.   Im 24 yrs old dating a guy of 26. My brother told me to leave my boyfriend. Because my boyfriend talked bad things about my brother. My boyfriend is too jelous and gossips other people. I told him to leave that life. He agree. I love him. My brother ...

A.   20 April 2011: If you love your boyfriend, stay with him. Your brother won't stop being your brother anyway. If your boyfriend gossiped your brother he should apologize. That will help for sure, and is the right thing to do.... (read in full...)

I can't get over his exes!

Q.   My boyfriend is older than me and has had lots of sexual partners. Everytime he mentions them I get really jealous and upset, and I cant stop picturing him with all these different girls. How can I stop doing this? Its starting to affect our ...

A.   20 April 2011: Well, there's a lot of people out there with your problem. You can read a lot of post like yours here. I've been there before so I can tell you, you will never forget about his past. With time it will start bothering you less, and less. Eventual... (read in full...)

Should I remain friends with an ex who cheated on me while we were dating?!

Q.   My Open Question: Why would he do all of that and want to be friends afterwards? During our relationship, my ex boyfriend had a one night stand at a party cos he was having problems getting it up and he thought he'd try elsewhere. he w...

A.   19 April 2011: Let's make it simple. He cheated on you, he disrespected you. What's the point in being friend with a guy you loved and treated you so bad? He's not a good person. And choosing your friends is as much important as choosing your boyfriend. You can't ... (read in full...)

Am I too old fashioned about sex?

Q.   It seems everyone is having sex these days. I'm only fifteen but I believe in 'no sex before marriage', I don't know why I believe in this because none of my family do. Everyone at school says I should try having sex with someone, I'm not at all ...

A.   18 April 2011: Take into account that a lot of people at your age lie about having sex. You can be sure half the people about your age who told you they are not longer virgin, are lying. Today virginity is being depreciated. And it's not completely wrong. B... (read in full...)

My husband and I are Jewish, how do we go for a traditional Catholic wedding without feeling uncomfortable??

Q.   My husband and I are Jewish. A very good friend of ours is getting married - and having a traditional Catholic with a full mass and communion. The problem is that we are not comfortable being in a Catholic church / mass. There is nothing in our ...

A.   16 April 2011: I was raised into a Catholic tradition but I left the faith when I was 10 years old or so. When I attend to a catholic mass (only because of a marriage) I don't sit at all, I don't follow the steps of the mass. I stay at the side as I'm not ... (read in full...)

This guy I've been talking to didn't want to sleep with me...and I ended up sleeping with his friend. Why do I feel badly?

Q.   I have been talking this guy and we have been keeping it cool. I spent the night at his place twice but we have only done oral. So I was with him and his best friend we had all been drinking and his friend asked us if we were staying the night since ...

A.   16 April 2011: You should let the guy alone for a while. He is obviously mad at you, maybe he didn't even liked it when you went to talk with his friend to another room. Maybe he thought you were trying something on his friend. Funny thing is you ended up having s... (read in full...)

What is a woman's view on a 27 year old guy who wants to date, but never has dated a girl?

Q.   What is your view on a guy who has never dated? How would you react if you asked the guy how experienced he is and his reply was that everything you've done so far has been with you? Would you bother with a guy like this?...

A.   16 April 2011: Some women will like the idea, actually. But almost any women will keep dating you after you tell this. They won't freak out.... (read in full...)

How can I find out if she has a new boyfriend?

Q.   Last month my girlfriend and I broke up for reasons that were better for both of us. She said maybe in the near future things could work out so I just had to accept it. I know I can't force her into anything. Now recently, she's been putting a photo ...

A.   16 April 2011: Chances are she's got a boyfriend. I guess you are worried because you are waiting that "near future" where you maybe can be together again. I guess you have to move on right now.... (read in full...)

Concerned about what my brother wrote on Facebook.

Q.   Hello i need a bit of help and advice on what my older brother wrote on fb, he hasnt had a gf for ages but think he likes someone that doesnt like him Im getting a bit concerned about him to Below is what he wrote : Sometimes no matter how...

A.   16 April 2011: How old is your brother? Had he a girlfriend once?... (read in full...)

Must a guy make the first move?

Q.   I have known a girl for sometime now. she likes me but pretends she don't. I want to be sure she likes me before making a move. Must a guy make the first move?...

A.   16 April 2011: No. The first move can be made by the guy or the girl. It really doesn't matter, there is no rule about that. The first move should be done by the one who is interested. In your case you will have to. As she won't do it if she is pretending she d... (read in full...)

How do I stop urges to like other men when my boy friend is unavailable? Even though I do love my Bf?

Q.   hi. i am 24 and I have a boyfriend... he is studying in a different state and hence we are maintaining a long distance relationship from last 2 years our relationship is really good in all respects. but i have a problem of getting attracted toward...

A.   16 April 2011: I don't know how to stop that, but maybe you should try masturbating. I don't know whether this will help or not. But I don't have any other idea.... (read in full...)

Do I deserve a girl who loves me as much as I love her?

Q.   Do I deserve a girl who loves me as much as I love her? Recently, I started to question myself whether I deserve a girl who loves me. I know I am young; I know I should focus on academics even though I am pretty good; I know teenage love is ...

A.   15 April 2011: You should realize you have to stop loving her already.... (read in full...)

He's in love with me but my feelings seem to change everyday

Q.   So I have never been more confused in my life. I've known this guy for three years and we have always been good friends and recently he told me he's madly in love with me. I feel like I have feelings for him but my friends tell me I can do so much ...

A.   15 April 2011: Well. It doesn't matter what your friends think. Do you think you can do better than him. If you find him less attractive for being fat, you shouldn't date him. Sex appeal is integral part of a relationship. If there isn't any you should stay ... (read in full...)

Sister is having a party when my parents go away. She asked me if I wanted to drink too. Please advise.

Q.   Hey guys this isn't about relationships but this is now the only place I can get advice. My parents are going away for the weekend and my older sister is having people over. They are all gunna bring alcohol and some will bring fags. My sister asked ...

A.   15 April 2011: What's the fun in being drunk. Chances are they with laugh at you for being drunk. And you won't laugh at all. Specially the day after tomorrow. Tell your sister you will be at the party. But you won't get drunk. ... (read in full...)

Do I deserve a girl who loves me as much as I love her?

Q.   Do I deserve a girl who loves me as much as I love her? Recently, I started to question myself whether I deserve a girl who loves me. I know I am young; I know I should focus on academics even though I am pretty good; I know teenage love is ...

A.   15 April 2011: I will tell you what a good person is: it's someone who, even without caring for you, won't hurt. A bad person is someone who, even when is supposed to care for you, will hurt you. You tell me which kind of person she is.... (read in full...)

How do I stop urges to like other men when my boy friend is unavailable? Even though I do love my Bf?

Q.   hi. i am 24 and I have a boyfriend... he is studying in a different state and hence we are maintaining a long distance relationship from last 2 years our relationship is really good in all respects. but i have a problem of getting attracted toward...

A.   15 April 2011: I think you have sexual urges. I guess it's your instinct trying to have sex with them. And you mind (your rational mind) stopping you from doing it. Put it another way: you want to get laid with them but you know it isn't right.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend called me a bad person

Q.   My boyfriend recently called me a "bad person" and pointed out the many wrong things I do. I admitted the wrong but I felt the use of the word "bad person" was very harsh. I asked him to leave if he wished to, but he said he wanted to be with me and ...

A.   14 April 2011: At least he's accusing you of something you really did. I guess you don't share his point of view about how bas is what you did.... (read in full...)

I love my Mom, but how do I regain her trust? She's discovered I've lost my virginity.

Q.   Hello there, I really need your help. Basically my Mum listened in to a conversation with my sister yesterday and found out: i've lost my virginity to my boyfriend, i was hoping to have him stayover secretly when they went away, that she doen't know ...

A.   13 April 2011: Your mother is sick. She tried to force you to follow her beliefs and then she forced you to tell to your dad you've lost your virginity. I find that very repulsive and sick. Of course it's totally natural you want to have sex. And you are over... (read in full...)

She likes skinny guys and I'm a big guy. How can I convince her I wouldnt be violent in a relationship?

Q.   For a while i've liked this girl. A girl who likes these skinny, effeminate guys. I'm a 6'4 and 17st rugby player. I don't fit her criteria of a 'type'. We've been friends for a good few years but how can I get her to understand that just because ...

A.   13 April 2011: Are you sure the though of you being violent is the only thing here? I mean, maybe she isn't attracted to you physically. Don't get me wrong, it's nothing with your body. But some girls will find you appealing and other won't. And that's a big part ... (read in full...)

Turns out the girl I like is my friend's sister and its just awkward

Q.   Hey everyone! It's been months since I last sought the help of my favorite group of agony aunts. But here I am, imploring you for aid once more (clearly, I'm a mess :]) This is going to sound odd. Be prepared. I'm good friends with a f...

A.   13 April 2011: There is plenty of girls out there, and it's very rare you would find the love of your life at 15 so date another girl. Don't mess around with her because it could really hurt your friendship. Think what happens after you break up with her.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend called me a bad person

Q.   My boyfriend recently called me a "bad person" and pointed out the many wrong things I do. I admitted the wrong but I felt the use of the word "bad person" was very harsh. I asked him to leave if he wished to, but he said he wanted to be with me and ...

A.   13 April 2011: How do you deal with the insecurity issue or being called a bad person? With the later, everybody can say something harsh out of anger in the middle of an argument. Does he stands for what he said? Does he know you were too hurt by that? ... (read in full...)

Do I deserve a girl who loves me as much as I love her?

Q.   Do I deserve a girl who loves me as much as I love her? Recently, I started to question myself whether I deserve a girl who loves me. I know I am young; I know I should focus on academics even though I am pretty good; I know teenage love is ...

A.   13 April 2011: She's playing with you big time. She uses you and you seem to be right in the friend zone. You are right, you should date a girl who loves you back. Not her (even when I guess you aren't dating her at all).... (read in full...)

How do I stop urges to like other men when my boy friend is unavailable? Even though I do love my Bf?

Q.   hi. i am 24 and I have a boyfriend... he is studying in a different state and hence we are maintaining a long distance relationship from last 2 years our relationship is really good in all respects. but i have a problem of getting attracted toward...

A.   9 April 2011: Well, you should ask yourself if you love your boyfriend for real. Because, usually, when you are in love you don't feel the need to get close to other people (in that way). Do you fear you will end up having sex with one of them?... (read in full...)

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