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writes:so, I was talking to my girlfriend last night. and we were talking about her friendship with her baby daddy. and she told me, that i was replacable and he was irreplacable. after she tells me she hates him. i can understand keeping a friendship for the kids. but would she say something like that if there werent feelings between the two of them?this really hurts, cuz she told me that i'm "one in infinity", then like a week or so later tells me i'm replacable. i flat out told her, she'll never ever find another guy like me, and she knows thats the truth.do i have reason to read into this, or am i being rediculous? Reply to this Question
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (26 January 2011):
If I were you I would be very hurt about that comment.
I wouldn't care about how she feels her baby's father is irreplaceable. The problem is how YOU are replaceable.
I mean, every body is replaceable, of course. But you don't tell that to the person you love. Do you?
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (26 January 2011):
 Relationships of this nature are very hard and complicated.
My son's bio father was never there for him, ever. The only time he wanted anything to do with him was when he was showing off for his underage girlfriends, he never helped me, at all. He was def replaceable.
I found my current bf when I was six months pregnant and we were friends, close friends, up until my son was five months old, that's when we started dating. I didn't have high expectations and I didn't expect him to become my son's father, but he did and I wouldn't have it any other way. He shows me everyday what a real father is supposed to be.
I don't think it's right of her to say that you are replaceable and the biological father isn't. Granted she did have a child with him and that's a connection that can't be severed, but I believe it is wrong of her to tell you you're replaceable and he isn't.
She shouldn't have told you that you are replaceable, have you talked to her about how hurtful she was when she said that to you?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 January 2011):
 I think it comes down to the fact that there will always be a connection between her and the baby-daddy, which is the child. No matter how much of a douche-bag that guy is... he will always be the father of her baby.
She most likely DO NOT have any "good" feeling about him.
So yeah, I think you are being a little ridiculous.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (26 January 2011):
It could be that she's saying he is irreplaceable since he is her baby's dad. There will always be a tie between them because of their child. She can't really lose contact with him because they will always have to be in contact for him/her. So in that sense, she can't replace him for someone else, he will always be in her life.
As for saying you are replaceable, I'm not sure why she would say that. That's a pretty hurtful thing to say. Were the 2 of you fighting at the time? She could have meant to hurt you. Or she could have said it like a bitter fact (boyfriends seem to be very replaceable these days. Have to go through many before settling on one).
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): I think what she means is that he is her baby dad so he will always be there. I do not think at all she put it across the right way! and you should tell her that
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