Does anyone know why this is happening?
Q. I really need some advice before this kills me. In november i got mild thush whilst i was on holiday, i couldnt find any thrush treatment and i was in turkey so i didnt really want to guess what i thought was thrush treatment. When i got home ...
A. 23 May 2010: Sweetie you don't have to wait 11 days to see a doctor. Ring the surgery tomorrow and demand to see a doctor. You don't have to explain why to the receptionist and you can demand that a doctor phones you that day even if you can't get seen.
If yo... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 21 May 2010: As you've proved you don't know what's round the corner.
Something nice let's hope. Any chance of wedding bells with you two? Keep us posted x... (read in full...)
He says it's over -- is it?
Q. Ok, this is going to be a long one but I really need as much advise as I can get. So, I was with this guy for over a year. In this year we got very serious. We lived together, had a boat, a dog, a quad. Our friends are even the same people. We moved ...
A. 21 May 2010: Let's say that someone on this site gets him all figured out and you receive the most incredible insight . Then what? You cannot change his behaviour towards you so unless you change yourself this dreadful destructive cycle will just limp along ... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 20 May 2010: Hi I'm actually double that lol. 22's just my favourite number. I'm going to keep hopeful though. x... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 17 May 2010: Thanks for your advice , I will keep that in mind. I'm so pleased that everything worked out so well for you x... (read in full...)
Should I cancel the date because he told me his penis size?
Q. Hi friends, I met a guy online and he is 13 years younger than me. I am 48, take great care of myself and get alot of attention from guys. We are both professionals, work out alot and he is very handsome. We have been emailing, within a week he...
A. 14 May 2010: Did this guy think he was on Gaydar ?... (read in full...)
My comfort eating...
Q. Well the thing is I'm 12 stone and in my early teens and I have really big issues with my weight! I have fake friends (basically 2 faced but to the extreme and one of them is my cousin) and they used to like me but I went depressed and they were ...
A. 29 April 2010: Hi, Don't take comfort with food cos food is a fake friend as well. It will harm you in the end just like a two faced friendship. Get a hobby or join a club and make some new friends.
... (read in full...)
Help with a hairy chin
Q. Hi...I need some advice. I recently just discovered that I am growing hairs on my chin!!!!! I keep plucking them, but its really beginning to freak me out and I am petrified that my boyfriend will see them and leave me. Is this normal? or is th...
A. 27 April 2010: It's very common unfortunately for us girls and you just get more as you get older. The good news is there's laser hair removal that's around 30 quid a session up here in the north, and that will get rid of them permanently. Most beauty salons do ... (read in full...)
I always fall in love with straight guys. Can it stop?
Q. Hi all, I am gay.. even though I have not admited openly to anyone yet (and mean it.. i did a couple of times but guys around or girls think I am kidding, even though I say it seriously), 21 years old and a virgin. Well, the fact is that i ...
A. 22 April 2010: Hi, You're from Greece so why not take a trip to gay friendly Mykonos this year? Be around some people who are openly gay and have your eyes opened.
You might be bi or gay, only time and experience will tell
Good luck x... (read in full...)
Help! I need some advice about my mothers controlling attitude
Q. Help! I need some advice about my mothers controlling attitude! I'm 26 and live at home but am currently house hunting so I'm hoping some of my issues will subside, My mum has a way of making everyone feel guilty and ever since I was small...
A. 21 April 2010: Hi there, I can relate to your problem poster. My advice is to get a place on your own or with a friend asap. While you're living under her roof things won't improve I wouldn't have thought. ... (read in full...)
I have just discovered some very loving and sexy texts on my husband's phone to another woman!!!
Q. Please help, I have just discovered some very loving and sexy texts on my husband's phone to another woman called Anne (he is in bed asleep). Something made me look, I have NEVER thought to check before. Don't ask me why because he has always b...
A. 21 April 2010: Hi there, so sorry this has happened. I'm trying to put myself in your shoes and I wouldn't be waiting for more evidence. What are you hoping to find out by not confronting him? What else do you need to know now?
Your intuition is obviousl... (read in full...)
He's going to visit a nude beach -- should I be worried?
Q. I have a friend I've been involved with for 3 years. He told me not too long ago that he and some of his boys are going on vacation in Jamaica, and that he plans on going to the nude beach there. The way he was talking about it he's been wanting ...
A. 20 April 2010: I think your boyfriend will be very disappointed when he gets there. I bet he thinks it's all gonna be bay watch type babes minus there swimming cossies. The reality is it'll be miles of middle aged/older people, mainly men by the way and no young ... (read in full...)
He never exactly said it, but he didnt correcj me. When is a gray area considered lying...and does it indicate a pattern of deceit?
Q. Do you think if a guy lies about what he does for a living it says something more about himself? Do you think he's lying about other things? Or he's just a liar in general? The weird thing is, that he hasn't technically lied about his work. ...
A. 15 April 2010: Hi, Are you seeing this guy? If so for how long, or are you considering dating him?
My friends in a similar spot, but she's been seeing her guy for about 4 months and she called him out on it a few days ago.
Exactly like your situation, h... (read in full...)
Do I leave him and try to cope on my own?
Q. I've met this much older man after my divorce. I was so desperated that in my mind any man will do. We have been together a few years. I am still young and he has aged a lot and health has gone downhill. I still like him but not sexually ...
A. 13 April 2010: Why do you feel you can't cope being on your own?... (read in full...)
Why does she stay with him when she knows hoe he treated me?
Q. Hello! I am friends with my exboyfriend's new girlfriend and I really care about her! I was verbally and physically abused by him and she knows everything that happened and how he treated me! He even told her himself! But to the extent that it w...
A. 11 April 2010: Cos she probably thinks it'll be different with her. It's the oldest one in the world.... (read in full...)
Is an intensive driving course worth doing?
Q. Hi, I'm hoping for some opinions/ feedback. Do u think an intensive driving course is worth doing? I have failed my test 3 times- each time making more mistakes. I found a 12 hour course split over 2 days and then you take the test. It's £350 but ...
A. 7 April 2010: spend the money on a cure for your nerves and then you'll pass. ... (read in full...)
Is fate trying to tell us something?
Q. okay well, i was in love with my best friend of four and a half years, and i think he loved me back, but he said he didnt believe in love, i was just 'different from anyother girl he'd ever known' etc im sure you get where im going with this so ...
A. 7 April 2010: Read up on Karl Jung and what he wrote about synchronicity or meaningful coincidences like you describe. He studied it in depth. I'm still not sure about fate and all that, the jury's still out in my head.... (read in full...)
A woman says she was with my husband, but he denies it
Q. I think im going to leave my husband because I can't take it anymore. About this women that keeps sending me messages about him. I think he was with her last year when he went on a trip to florida. And we had just moved into our house. She keeps ...
A. 7 April 2010: When I first read your post I thought you never know, if you love him give him the benefit of the doubt, but if if anything happens again that seems dodgy then dump him.
Tisha put me on to your previous post and my opinion is he is using you and ... (read in full...)
My husband gave oral sex to a female friend who had passed out at the party we were throwing!
Q. we had a party in our home and my husband decided to give oral sex to an old female friend that was passed out in the room down stairs while i was upstairs sleeping. he never said anything to me until the girl called me the next morning and told ...
A. 7 April 2010: Yes, I can see why that might be socially awkward lol
I don't understand why you don't divorce him...I mean ewwww!
Did she tell you she liked it? If she didn't why isn't he in jail? You say you can't stand him anyway. How much more of a ... (read in full...)
How do you make a person see that they are in love?
Q. Oay well I don’t know where to start .... my dad has meet this women and she is 40 something... he has just moved out of her house because he said he loved her but was not in love with her... my dad started dating this young girl again and she is...
A. 7 April 2010: He probably shouldn't be with either of them.
Don't try and make your dad settle for someone he's not really that into. Perhaps he's not ready for another committed relationship so he's keeping his options open. There's more than these two wome... (read in full...)
Do men only want women in their 20's?
Q. Do men only want women in their 20's? What happens when you get to 30, 40 or even 50? What happens then? Will all the guys be busy chasing all the hot young 20 year olds and ignore the older women? So guys- who do you prefer?Women your own age...
A. 7 April 2010: Men like girls in their teens, 20's 30's 40's 50's........
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Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 6 April 2010: Please sell me the film rights to your story. Who will play you and debbie? There won't be a dry eye in the house x... (read in full...)
My g/f wants me to skip my brother's wedding for our anniversary
Q. Dear readers, I have quite the tricky situation on my hands and I would like to know what you guys would do if you were in my situation. Here it goes. Me and my girlfriend began dating on October 8th, 2008. We've been relatively okay, except we ...
A. 4 April 2010: I'm sorry hun but your girlfriend is being ridiculous.
Of course your brothers wedding comes first. ITS YOUR BROTHERS WEDDING!
Stop indulging her spoilt nonsense. Aren't you taking her to the wedding? What's stopping you both having a nice ti... (read in full...)
I'm meeting his parents and wondering how big of a deal it is.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a bit from Feb now. We've been for countless coffees, movies, lunches. He likes me. I fancy him like mad. He's extremly shy and hasnt made a move on me physically but we act like a couple otherwise and everyone thinks ...
A. 4 April 2010: Where's he from? For you it's as important as you want to make it in your mind. Just go and have a nice time.... (read in full...)
Email saying he's in love with another woman. I want answers!
Q. hi i met this man on a dating agency, he works on the oil rigs, we chatted and texted for 3 weeks and got on really well, we arranged to meet up for a meal when he returned from his months leave, we went out on the thursday,and then after i went to ...
A. 4 April 2010: Hi, I'm sorry to hear you've been messed about . It's bewildering how people can behave like this. I don't understand why you want to know about his reasons for doing what he's done so much. You did only know him for 3 weeks. He could be anyb... (read in full...)
I told her I like him, but she was all over him at the cinema!
Q. I went to the movies lastnight with my friend and this boy I really like came too. My friend and him were all over each other..... I am so mad what should i do? I mean I think I might love this guy and I talk about this all the time to her but it ...
A. 30 March 2010: Hi, This is how it sounds to me from what you've said.
This girl is not a friend in the real sense of the word cos instead of supporting you in your crush,she's competing with you instead. She's competing with you cos she's insecure and frighten... (read in full...)
40, Gay and given up on love! Is there any hope?
Q. I am 40 this year and as one would expect, I have had, by now, a few mini mid-life crises, but nothing too major. Most recently, I realize that I have almost given up on EVER finding love or meaningful relationships, and it's starting to bother me. ...
A. 27 March 2010: Hi The only person that can ensure you have a happy future is you and not your family. You will have to accept their attitude towards your sexuality in order to make progress.
It's very sad that some people, especially from the olde... (read in full...)
What do my dreams about my teacher mean?
Q. Hey. suddenly I have been having dreams about my teacher. There mostly about him comforting me when I'm upset then him kissing me. I like these dreams. I was just wandering why I'm having these dreams and what they mean? Extra info. We ...
A. 26 March 2010: Hi It could mean you're into him or it could also mean he's an authority figure who you feel understands you and that you could share your worries and feelings with.
The second scenario is more likely if you aren't close to your parents ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems a bit obsessive about his privacy
Q. basically my boyfriend acts really suspisious around his mobile phone. it's always in his pocket (along with his keys and his wallet) they never get left on the side and he makes a thing about how it's private to him etc. fair enough, i can see it ...
A. 26 March 2010: You're only 21 if your age is right on here and he must be at least 15 years older than you if he has kids that old. It sounds extremely suspicious to me. Only people with something to hide take their phone to the toilet with them.
I understa... (read in full...)
My wife seems in a dream world, while I feel I don't have time to think of myself. Are there others like me?
Q. I am in my 40's and married. We have 4 children who I adore. We live in a place which is where my wife grew up and where she wanted to live. She lives near to her family and is very close to her mum and sister. I do not really feel like I belo...
A. 26 March 2010: If you're not good at communicating verbally and this is stopping you being heard, try writing your feelings in a letter to her. I find it's really good cos she will have to read and take in what you're saying and can't shout you down.
... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 26 March 2010: Have a great time both of you x... (read in full...)
He wont move out from his mum's house. Should I move on?
Q. i have been with my guy for almost 4 years, but anytime wee talk about moving in together he sais he has to live with his mom to help her!!!! Do i stay with him and see where it aill go or do i try to find my happiness somewhere else???...
A. 22 March 2010: He sounds like he's wasting your time in terms of a serious relationship. Look around for someone else who wants a commitment cos he doesn't. You can do much better.... (read in full...)
Where do we stand in this relationship on our year abroad? Does he like me?
Q. I am British and he is from a European country. We are both on our year abroad in university. He is slightly older than me and we have been meeting in our university campus between and after classes for like two months now. I approached him and sort ...
A. 22 March 2010: You've been seeing him for ages now, so if you think he likes you and you fancy him try holding his hand or moving in for a kiss.
If he doesn't respond then give it up cos he's a lost cause.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to be more attractive physically or am I just too old to be considered attractive?
Q. I would like to hear a sincere answer. Not a mean one, but a sincere one. I've been feeling very depressed about my age and my appearance lately. I feel like I'm very plain and unattractive and I want SO BADLY to be attractive and desir...
A. 22 March 2010: Hun, your seventy year old self is rolling her eyes at you right now. I'm 10 years older than you and I can't believe you think it's all over at 35. You've still got it all ahead of you.
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He doesn't think condoms are safe enough and I dislike pills. Should I go on the pill?
Q. Me and my boyfriend want to have sex but I am not on the pill and I don't want to, I have regular periods and they a very light, I have no problems with mood swings etc. very lukcy, I think and I don't want to go on the pill because this could ...
A. 22 March 2010: Tell him that no method of contraception is 100% safe. You're totally right to not want to take the pill.
I don't take it cos it doesn't agree with me at all. Your bf doesn't sound like he knows what he's talking about and wants you to take the... (read in full...)
Would I appear desperate if I texed her and suggested meeting up before the end of next week or might she be touched?
Q. I'd be grateful for advice please. A colleague who works in a different office has said that she's willing to meet up with me. She's said that she'll text me at the end of next week to arrange meeting up. I'm really keen to see her before the e...
A. 20 March 2010: Hi again. There's something I'm going to have to wait for now in my life for 9 days and there is nothing I can do to alter that. I know how it feels.
My guess is you like her a lot more than she likes you right now. Why is the ball in her c... (read in full...)
Lost, don't know what to do?
Q. Hi, I've been married for 17 years. There is a 12 year age gap between me and my husband. At first it did not seem to matter, but now he has turned 50 and has no teeth, i'm struggling. I have had 2 one night stands in the past and felt very g...
A. 20 March 2010: Hi hun. You're doing it cos you're a 38 year old girl who's still young and wants some romance and passion in her life.
At your age to be saddled with a fifty year old who sounds plain mean and unappealing must make you panic.
This guy at work ... (read in full...)
Why is my 42 year old boyfriend obsessed with young girls?
Q. My fiancé is 42 years old and I am a 24 year old girl. We've been together since I was 20. We get along great about 85% of the time and he treats me very well but it seems like he is obsessed with young girls and youth in general! Most of his/our ...
A. 20 March 2010: Hi, Just cos he does this in front of your face, doesn't make it any better in my view. It sounds to me you're beginning to feel he's sniffing round for a younger model which can't be nice for you.
I'm 43 and I do know guys like your bf. I th... (read in full...)
Would I appear desperate if I texed her and suggested meeting up before the end of next week or might she be touched?
Q. I'd be grateful for advice please. A colleague who works in a different office has said that she's willing to meet up with me. She's said that she'll text me at the end of next week to arrange meeting up. I'm really keen to see her before the e...
A. 19 March 2010: I know you're kicking yourself hun but do nothing for now and play the waiting game. You don't want to scare the horses as it were. She said she'd text you so leave it and see what happens. At this early stage you don't want to risk anything, ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be branded "the guy with the ugly girlfriend!"
Q. My friend said the girl I'm dating is ugly. I've only been on three dates with her, but I am attracted to her even though most of the attraction isn't from her looks. I was going to ask her to be my girlfriend, but now I'm scared other people will ...
A. 19 March 2010: I know a guy who's in his forties now and he's dating a girl who has the wow factor looks wise and she attracts attention wherever they go.
All his mates were green with envy at first and he would strut round the bars they hang out in as proud as... (read in full...)
What's wrong with wanting to marry a woman others might call a slut?
Q. I am an older gentleman. Raised in a religious family but never made the connection. Over the years, I have known people from all walks of life, but, other things being equal, have felt most comfortable with people who are open-minded about sex. ...
A. 14 March 2010: I never met a "floozie" I didn't like. Go for it if that's what floats your boat.
At your time of life, no one should be telling you how to live. You've earned the right to live as you see fit.
Good luck
... (read in full...)
Love among the ruins
Q. I hope it's all right if I write. I'm not your traditional client. I'm 62, and I recently bumped (quite accidentally) into my very first real love, a girl for whom I gladly would have died, in 1966. The Vietnam war separated us. She then married ...
A. 7 March 2010: I like this story. Saddle up and get on over to her house. I mean what have you got to lose?
The only thing I'd say is though don't let your imagination run riot just yet. If you come on too strong and show your hand too early to her she might ba... (read in full...)
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