Commitment phobic boyfriend - do you have any experience with this?
Q. Hi, I think my boyfriend is a commitment phobe. Has anyone had any experience with this? How did you deal with it? I always thought it was something made up in the movies. Or that the guy just wasn't that into you. Anyone have experience with ...
A. 28 December 2009: I've been there and there's no magic key to change him.
Men don't have to commit these days cos they can get all their needs met without marriage.
Back in my mothers day, if a guy wanted to get laid he had to get married. Not so now.
If yo... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another women on boxing day!
Q. I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got two children aged 17 and 19). He has always been ...
A. 28 December 2009: Don't worry about meeting someone else. You're only 52!
Your 50's are the new forties.
For gods sake don't stick to him at any price cos you're scared of being alone. Would you want him to be with you if that was the only reason he was ar... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another women on boxing day!
Q. I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got two children aged 17 and 19). He has always been ...
A. 28 December 2009: Hi, what a terrible thing to happen to you.
If it makes you feel better the statistics say that he probably will come back when he realises the grass isn't greener.
Make sure you talk to your friends and family and get support.
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He hasn't contacted me in 5 weeks since father's death--tradition?
Q. i need to know all the rituals of a death in saudi arabia especially when its the father how does the sons react i feel. for five weeks he has not worried aboiut me where as before he had to go home to attend his dads funeral we were starting a ...
A. 27 December 2009: you must feel terrible. Have you got his familys contact numbers in saudi?
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Is there something wrong when the man is no longer interested in sex?
Q. i just want to know if something is wrong in a relationship when the man youve been with no longer is interested in having sex.he no longer holds me or even looks at me as a woman,yet he checks out other women he sees when we're out somewhere.i lie ...
A. 26 December 2009: Sweetheart, please ask him what's wrong!!
We can't read his mind. You've got to talk to him about it.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
Should ex-wife tell "mistress" husband wants wife back?
Q. My husband left me for another woman back in 1991 and subsequently married the mistress. Afer 10 years of being divorced from each other, we reconnected and have been seeing each other since 2004. He moved from another state to be closer to me, but ...
A. 26 December 2009: So he comes back to you and then a few months later you start feeling suspicious, just a nagging feeling in the back of your mind. So you start checking his phone and email etc. Someone will have to be in the role of mistress. Who will it be t... (read in full...)
Should I walk away if he got another girl pregnant?
Q. hello im just wondering what i should do.my boyfriend of 5years got another girl pregnant an it hurts me soo much cause i was there an he didnt want me to have mine.but allowing this girl to have her baby.he say he love me an want to work it out wit ...
A. 26 December 2009: Hi, I can tell from your post you want to stay with him. Well, my friends daughter was in a similar position.
Her boyfriend got another girl pregnant and she stayed with him and 6 months after his first kid was born, she got pregnant as well.
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My b/f expects me to pay 50% of his mortgage with no guanantees for me
Q. I am just new to living with my boyfriend in a house that he owns. Recently while discussing contributions towards household expenses he told me that he expects me to pay half his mortgage and that he is not interested in putting me on the title. He ...
A. 17 December 2009: hi, if half the mortgage is more than a reasonable rent for where you are living, i'd tell him no way!
If you were renting from him, then the money would go towards the mortgage anyway, wouldn't it?
I sounds like you feel he is using you.
Th... (read in full...)
I am constantly daydreaming and fantasising about a man other than my husband!
Q. In my mind, I'm already cheating on my husband. I daydream about this other man constantly and I cannot help it. I try not to think about him, but then my mind starts piecing together these ridiculous stories involving the two of us. From things as ...
A. 16 December 2009: I understand how you feel, i'm in a similar spot myself at the moment.
I'm enjoying my work flirtation and using it as a nice distraction and an ego boost, but i'm not prepared to take it any further cos of our partners.
You're right of course,... (read in full...)
I am constantly daydreaming and fantasising about a man other than my husband!
Q. In my mind, I'm already cheating on my husband. I daydream about this other man constantly and I cannot help it. I try not to think about him, but then my mind starts piecing together these ridiculous stories involving the two of us. From things as ...
A. 15 December 2009: these thoughts will go away in the end so i'd stop thinking about that and think about why you don't have the same level of passion for your husband.
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Help, I think I have a tampon lost inside me!
Q. Ok so like 3 days ago i was on the last day of my period and had in a light tampon, I got extremely drunk later on that night and had sex with my guy friend.. I don't remember if I took my tampon out or not, and my guy friend was just as drunk as me ...
A. 14 December 2009: go and see the nurse who deals with your smear test. She will give you a proper examination. Theres not always a smell by the way, but it does feel kinda weird like you describe.... (read in full...)
Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 11 December 2009: Its about how the other woman makes him feel and i don't mean in bed.
Halle Berry has been cheated on so i know it's got nothing to do with looks... (read in full...)
My friend is a maneater and now she really likes the guy I'm seeing!
Q. I have a friend (lets call her gemma) and she is a maneater ! She has a boyfriend but yet wouldn't pass if anything better came along. She is getting a reputation for herself but that isn't what bothers me as it is her life... however, my pr...
A. 11 December 2009: Hi, hope you're ok!
Hun, there isn't a girl in the world who can take your boy away from you if he doesn't want to be taken.
All of this is out of your control.
Relax and see what happens. If you act all needy and insecure round him that ... (read in full...)
My creative son calls me judgemental
Q. How can you tell your son or daughter,if you don't really like something what they create,or dress up,or any other thing ,where they ask your opinion? I have very creative son, and he is good at music , and painting. But many times, I don't think, ...
A. 11 December 2009: Hi, I know a guy who has terrible emotional problems that have carried on into adulthood because of over critical parents.
Their comments seemed to have no discernable affect on his siblings.
His situation was extreme though,but my po... (read in full...)
He says that knowing how "in love" I was with my ex totally turns him off to idea of being with me sexually.
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for about 3 months and we haven't really gotten too physical, I mean I know he wants to but he says that knowing how "in love" I was with my ex totally turns him off to idea of being with me sexually. I mean ...
A. 11 December 2009: Hi there, he sounds very insecure. How does he know you were so in love with your ex anyway? If you have talked to him about your past and now he's imagining all sorts of things, then please stop. It is a passion killer.
If this was a man wr... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to pursue a relationship with her?
Q. I dated this beautiful girl in high school and for what ever reason I broke up with her. After high school graduation (1973), I started searching for her as I still loved her and have been searching and just now have found her. We have been ...
A. 9 December 2009: You've got to try and see what happens haven't you? If you don't you'll always regret it.
Just take it at her pace if you don't want to scare her off.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
Is flirting considered cheating?
Q. If your in a relationship, and you flirt with someone else would you consider that to be cheating? I haven't done this, i'm just curious to what people think......
A. 3 December 2009: flirting isn't cheating
Its just disrespectful and rude when with a partner... (read in full...)
How can I pluck up the courage and talk to him again?
Q. I really like this guy at church but I've never had the confidence to chat to him before, but recently at a friends suprise birthday party he started talking to me. We spoke for a long time and he was making a lot of eye contact with me but i was so ...
A. 3 December 2009: hi, ask him if he wants to go for a coffee after church . stop thinking and start doing.
good luck x... (read in full...)
His girlfriends says I have to stop texting him
Q. So I have this guy friend who I'm pretty close with and we always find ourselves texting each other hours at a time. The problem is his girlfriend texted me last week not asking me but telling me that I'm not allowed to text him... at all. Is s...
A. 2 December 2009: Have you got nothing better to do than spend hours texting someone else's boyfriend?
Of course it's wrong.
Leave him alone.... (read in full...)
He wants the benifits of marriage without the piece of paper
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a woman of 35 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. I have never lived with anyone but he has been married before (amicable breakup though, a long time ago). He wants us to sell our properties and live togethe...
A. 2 December 2009: I agree with you. Two years is enough time in my view to know whether you want to marry a person. Please listen to your intuition or your gut feeling about this cos it'll be right. ... (read in full...)
I gave him my number and he hasn't contacted me yet. Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hi, I spoke to a guy at work about 3 months ago. During the conversation we both dropped it in that we were single. But nothing else. I then spoke to a friend who is good friends with him. I asked him what he's like etc. He told me that I've got...
A. 1 December 2009: you did the right thing. Someones got to get the ball rolling so good for you. It was only yesterday so don't concern yourself. He's probably plucking up the courage to ring you.
This could take a bit of time lol.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
Have any experience with past lifes?
Q. Does anybody believe or have any experience here with past life's? When me and my husband meet many years ago, we had a feeling, like Déjà vu. And we both thought we are one person, like other half.. and it is not just romantically, but really ...
A. 25 November 2009: past life regression therapy is perfectly fine if done by the right person. Check them out thoroughly beforehand though. If you are interested in deja vu, i recommend you look up a guy called anthony peake. He's an author and lecturer. His ... (read in full...)
Read this email message and tell me what you think!
Q. I found a message in my husband's email. It was from the owner of a company he has done some work for (who is a male), and he has an email address at that company i just became aware of. He has been hiding all of this from me. The message ...
A. 5 November 2009: Hi hun, he's cheating on you or has been with this guy. It's obvious really. Men don't mess around when it comes to sex either so i doubt very much that it's just been emotional. There's no way i'd go near him again without wearing a cond... (read in full...)
Should I trust my husband or my gut feeling?
Q. Hi People i really need some help!!! Please let me know what you think I am a 24 year old mum of an adorable 21 month old girl, and have been married to her father for 2 years this December. since we got married my husband has been lying to me...
A. 5 November 2009: Hi, can't say i blame you for feeling like you do, cos i wouldn't trust him either.
Men always want to put everything under the carpet when they've been busted about something,while the woman is left to fume silently by herself or risk having h... (read in full...)
Help!! Did I do the right thing?
Q. I thought this guy liked me and he wouldnt tell me so i took the bull by the horns and told him, he hasnt been sure about how he feels about me for months and has told me he will give me an answer soon, i'm so scared... did i do the right thing? and ...
A. 2 November 2009: The point is you took assertive action. Good for you! Hope it works out x... (read in full...)
Do my actions warrent a breakup?
Q. I hope I didn't destroy my relationship with the man I want to spend the rest of my life with!! He has epilepsy, brought on by a blow to the head when he was in high school. He is on medication for it and as long as he takes it, he is fine. I hadn't...
A. 2 November 2009:
Brilliant advice from R&B2 in my opinion.
My father died of a huge epileptic seizure, probably due to the fact he stubbornly refused to take his meds if it meant interfering in what he wanted to do.
He was stubborn and pig headed as R&B2 d... (read in full...)
Why wont he make love to me?
Q. why wont he make love to me? my partner of 3 months wont or cant make love to me. he is 36, im 23 and without sounding pig headed im a good looking slim girl. I never turn him away. when we first met it was every night and day, now when i try to ...
A. 30 October 2009: This is just weird! Guys don't do this if their not seriously messed up. Stop trying to work him out and tell him to service you properly or get lost!!
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They're on a break, I'm really taken by her, but I'm worried he'll say "no more other people"!
Q. I am a 29 tear old male, who's been pretty damaged by love. yet, somehow remain consistently open to the prospect. i work 3rd shift 6 nights a week which makes meeting women difficult on top of that most realize off the bat that ill almost never be ...
A. 26 October 2009: Hi there, you say you've been emotionally damaged before, so why are you setting yourself up for heartache again?
Make her choose now before you get really hurt.
I feel you and him are both being played.
Hope it works out for you... (read in full...)
Will he try to contact me again, out of the blue?
Q. I have just ended a affair with a guy of 4 years and its over. I am ok with it wish him dead just joking.. What do I do if this sob decides to try and play me again and contacts me out of the blue. It has happened before and I wonder if it will ...
A. 26 October 2009: Don't take any of his calls EVER!!!! He'll get bored in the end... (read in full...)
Is a woman's worth tied to her breast size?
Q. I have many issues with my body. I hate having small breasts, because men may accept small ones, but secretly they all want big! My boyfriend masturbates to big chested women. Also I don't have all the time in the world to exercise, sure I...
A. 26 October 2009: Hi, hope you're ok. Do you live on Venice beach or somewhere? Where i live women come in every shape and size imaginable. Most of these women have sex its reasonable to assume and they don't look like glamour models to me.
When i read you... (read in full...)
How do I have sex if I'm not comfortable in my own skin?
Q. hey guys. its a bit long, but heres the issue. its quite personal so please be serious and give some good advice. im 17, i have never had any sexual experience, mainly because iv never had a serious boyfriend. obviously iv kissed guys, but nothing ...
A. 21 October 2009: Hi there, theres no reason to go on a diet when your a size 14 anyway, so that's not the answer. I reckon the best way to feel better about your body is to pamper it. Lovely body lotions and scrubs,get a great haircut a new wardrobe. Take ... (read in full...)
Crossdressing husband worries.
Q. Several years ago my husband/bf said to me he liked to crossdress and at first I was okay with it because I thought it was like some sort of sex game between us until I discovered he started secretly taking some of the clothing to his apartment and ...
A. 20 October 2009: Hi there, You've both had so much to deal with lately that i think you're doing a great job in handling everything as well as you have.
I think the least he could have done was fess up about the top and took you shopping for a new one, lol. He... (read in full...)
How can I resurrect my marriage when I don't feel the same about my wife?
Q. I have not had sex with my wife for over 6 years. I have been unfaithful over the past three years. I had been meaning to talk to my wife for a long time about all the problems in my marriage e.g. Lack of sex, differences of opinions about how to ...
A. 19 October 2009: Hi Mike, I really like the sound of Gerty, i can imagine your head must be in bits!!
Sounds like a wildly romantic story, and you know you've got 2 choices. Stay with your wife or follow your heart.
good luck x... (read in full...)
Is my husband's deception entirely unfair?
Q. Hi! I am so much in trouble that i don't know what to do. I am 26 years old woman married to a man who has now broke my heart.We have been married for 3 and half years and have 2 kids together.Everything has been ok for us, he has always been a g...
A. 19 October 2009: Hi there, hope you're ok hun, The reason he didn't tell you is cos he thought if he did you wouldn't marry him. He acted in a cowardly and selfish way.
The families have all been deceiving you as well. I'd feel sick in your shoes, and i think ... (read in full...)
Is he really interested, or just playing me?
Q. This guy is confusing me. We have worked together for two years, we have always got on and swapped mobile numbers, we text now and then not all the time, we have kissed quite intense, he has never asked me out although I have dropped hints a few ...
A. 19 October 2009: Hi. You really need to find out what this guys situation is, whether he's with someone or not, then take it from there.
He seems to me from what you've written distracted by something or somebody. This would explain the hot and cold behaviou... (read in full...)
So in love, must we part?
Q. I love my guy very much. He loves me very much. After three years he is not even ready to live with me and I am ready to get married. Today I am crying at my house and he is crying at his. because how can two people break up who are so right for...
A. 18 October 2009: Hi What are his reasons for not wanting to live with you? If he's at home crying i'd like to know whats stopping him ... (read in full...)
Turns out I'm not the submissive sex bitch he thought I was. Now he wants to end things?
Q. I need some advice please. I have been in contact with a guy over the internet since January of this year. We have been sharing pics etc and msn. The last month he suggested that we go on Skype. We have exposed ourselves over Skype as he has a major ...
A. 16 October 2009: He can do it cos he just thinks your a piece of meat. I cannot believe you would do this to yourself hun.
His only reason for having any kind of contact with you is the hope that you'll perform anal sex on the internet so him and his mates ca... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her so should I tell her how I feel?
Q. I need some help! I'm a 37 year old man who has only had one relationship which only lasted about a year about 10 years ago. This is due to low self confidence, also as I got older, it was harder to start a relationship. Last year, I met thi...
A. 15 October 2009: Ok then, thats great. Feel free to send me a private message with an update x... (read in full...)
My husband had an emotional affair and I can't get past it! Please help!
Q. Please help. My husband had a non sexual (I think I believe this} 'affair' with a work colleague during which time they got very emotionally close (I was being very unloving to him at the time although he never stopped showing he loved and fancied ...
A. 14 October 2009: Hi again, i don't think you can believe he didn't cheat cos you don't believe in yourself enough. He can't make you believe him, it's something that can only come from you.
You sound like you have poor self image or low confidence.
He's marr... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her so should I tell her how I feel?
Q. I need some help! I'm a 37 year old man who has only had one relationship which only lasted about a year about 10 years ago. This is due to low self confidence, also as I got older, it was harder to start a relationship. Last year, I met thi...
A. 14 October 2009: Please go to the concert!!!!! Go and see her and talk to her.
You only regret the things in life you DONT do. You'll be kicking yourself for ages if you don't.
Shes probably thinking you only like her as a friend or something. I be... (read in full...)
I don't want to ruin my marriage but I love his company! Am I wrong?
Q. I'm married with 2 kids. My marriage is a mess. To makes matters worse, I was at a family get together and started talking to my cousin’s husband’s brother. He respects my situation and claims to want to rescue me. We live in different states which ...
A. 13 October 2009: Hi, if you leave your husband for this " free spirit " it'll be the worst mistake you ever made.
For free spirit please interperit that as irresponsible loser with no future, who'll dump you the moment the novelty wears off.
Its just a fa... (read in full...)
My husband had an emotional affair and I can't get past it! Please help!
Q. Please help. My husband had a non sexual (I think I believe this} 'affair' with a work colleague during which time they got very emotionally close (I was being very unloving to him at the time although he never stopped showing he loved and fancied ...
A. 12 October 2009: Hi, i think you cant get past it and the mistrust you have of him is getting worse because you don't get enough reassurance from your husband. Has he said something along the lines of he's apologised enough now and wants it all put under the ... (read in full...)
How can I pluck up the courage and talk to him again?
Q. I really like this guy at church but I've never had the confidence to chat to him before, but recently at a friends suprise birthday party he started talking to me. We spoke for a long time and he was making a lot of eye contact with me but i was so ...
A. 23 September 2009: Hiya, Do you know what this guys situation is ? He may be with someone and thats the reason he's not coming forward.
I know it can awkward when you like someone and your brain goes and thats natural, so don't worry.
My advice is, if you are g... (read in full...)
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