What action is needed by us, to resolve this family issue?
Q. I have been with my partner for four years living together for three years. Last year his mother died and his father had major heart surgery. We offered to have his father living with us temporary until he got better although he didn't tell his ...
A. 23 January 2016: Hi
I'd speak to his father directly about this.
He knows he can play his son
Are you going to put up with this nonsense?
You need to bring this out in the open
Stop tiptoeing round him and get it off your chest
I think that would... (read in full...)
Do I let a work collegeague know that her fiance is cheating on her?
Q. I've come across something quite disturbing and need some advice please. Last weekend I was on a hen party spa weekend with my friends. We went to this beautiful hotel which also had a spa and was a 2 hour drive from our town. Whilst we were ...
A. 8 January 2016: I say tell her what you saw then show her the pictures if you can handle the fall out. Good luck x... (read in full...)
My best friend has been ignoring me and I suspect his girlfriend is behind it
Q. I've been best friends with a guy for the past 6 years. We don't see each other very often anymore because we're in college, but whenever we're home we make a point to meet up, and we visit each others' colleges occasionally. Our friendship has ...
A. 31 December 2015: Hi
Talking from experience here
To you its just an innocent friendship
To his girlfriend you are an agent of social chaos.
It takes a mature and self confident person to embrace your relationship with this guy.
Perhaps he talks about you a lo... (read in full...)
Is it wrong not to call when you get their number?
Q. I've seen sites saying to get as many girls phone numbers as you can. To give you experience and therefore confidence etc. Other sites say it's cruel to get numbers and not call. On the other hand, girls sometimes give out false numbers or play oth...
A. 27 December 2015: Why don't you just take numbers from girls you really do want to call? End of problem x... (read in full...)
Why is it considered wrong to just want to date or just crush on people?
Q. I have this problem where I had crushes on boys before and I always look forward to dating and having boyfriend until I actually got one. he wasn't a bad guy he did nothing to hurt me but he was sort of laughing a lot and kind of mock me by sayin...
A. 27 December 2015: Hi Crushing is one thing but leading them up the garden path is another. This behaviour never ends well. I see you are around 18. Boys that age are hoping for a bit more in the end than a bit of flirting and maybe a cuddle or whatever. It you've... (read in full...)
My friends uninvited me for Christmas!
Q. I live alone and I decided to invite a couple (who are friends) to dinner on Christmas Eve. She accepted the invitation and said why didn't I have lunch with them on Christmas Day. I was pleased as I am often alone at Christmas. A few days later ...
A. 23 December 2015: Hi Yes of course it's rude! I can see what they mean but the the very blunt way she put it was a masterclass in how not to be tactful. I'm assuming they're not always like that or you wouldnt be friends. People can be under a lot of pressure a... (read in full...)
We've been on 5 or 6 dates but he still won't add me to Facebook
Q. I've been on about 5-6 dates with this guy who I met on online dating. At the moment it seems to be going really well. He makes the most to see me in his spare time, even if he has other plans, he'll try and fit in seeing me.. He's taken me on lo...
A. 20 December 2015: Hi
I think this is well dodgy!
What's the big deal?..its only Facebook. It's like he dangles it like a carrott before you while you try to earn it.
He should have just added you straight away after 5 dates, always presuming you're not crazy etc :)... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants a tattoo of her dead ex!
Q. How should I feel and/or respond to my girlfriend asking about her wanting a tattoo to remember her dead ex? We have been dating for almost 2 years. I do love her. She had known this ex for a long time before me and describes him as a dear friend. ...
A. 18 November 2015: Hi
What a horrible situation you are in.
Firstly I'd say that my fiancée died too so I can understand how she feels
She is totally self absorbed and dramatic in my view.
You have been with her for two years and she expects you to be happy about t... (read in full...)
I'd be willing to start a real relationship with him, not a FWB, however he says he won't ever get married because it will affect his sex life!
Q. I had a relationship with a guy over 25 years ago. He was very special to me and my first love. We split up and bearly saw each other until a couple of months ago. We went out for dinner and the chemistry between us was very intense. We tal...
A. 18 November 2015: Hi
What did you do wrong the first time?
He doesn't want to get married. He's made it clear he wants to have sex in the future with other women besides you.
Why are you bothering? You've got a strong chemistry but nothing else on his side.
Are y... (read in full...)
Is ogling a sign of disrespect or am I really overreacting?
Q. A wee bit of background. I am 46 and self-employed and get to travel the world quite often because of my job. Several years ago on a business trip, I met a great guy a couple of years older than me out in Belgium, divorced and we hit it off big ...
A. 18 November 2015: Hi Do you really need the aunt's to tell you this guy is a caveman? You seemed to have glossed over his other failings in your post, which I bet if you were to tell us some examples they would be equally as dubious. He probably has some great quali... (read in full...)
Do older men who are dating have something to prove to themselves?
Q. Do older men who are dating have something to prove to themselves? I met a older guy online and he is in his early 50s, where I have just turned 40. He's played hot and cold from the start. Seemed very interested then disappeared only to return s...
A. 11 November 2015: Hi I'm 50 year old single woman so I have some experience with the 50 plus guys to say the least. I assume this guy of yours is divorced, this could explain his reticence to get involved. A few months ago someone I know who got divorced about 5... (read in full...)
Why don't I get asked out by men I fancy?
Q. Why don't I get asked out by men I fancy? I am single and through my life I have only been involved with a couple of men, who wanted to be with me as much as I wanted to be with them. All the other times it was either unrequited love or I have b...
A. 8 November 2015: I agree with you poster
What's the point of going out with someone you know you couldn't have sex with? Sometimes it's just obvious
I wouldn't rule out nice guys who make you feel nice and that don't make you vomit. Some men can grow on you,... (read in full...)
He called to say he'd been cheating. Do people usually tell the truth while drunk?
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my current boyfriend for 4 years, we have our ups and downs and i love him and he says the same though some times i do feel he doesn't love me as much as i love him. Long story short, yesterday he had few drinks too ...
A. 8 November 2015: Is he crazy??
If not then I would assume he's telling the truth. Who would ring their girlfriend and say that otherwise??
I would wait for him to contact you then see him and dump him. I don't see you have any other choice I'm sorry to say.
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How could he treat me like a queen and then block me from facebook and act like I did something wrong?
Q. On and off since HS my friend and I have always been good friends. We may go a few years and not see each other but when we do we talk and catch up. After 30 years he invited me to visit him. I did and we had the best time. Laughing, talking and ...
A. 8 November 2015: Hi hun
You did absolutely nothing wrong honest!
This scenario reminds me of a joke I heard recently
A man tells his wife, hunny I'm just going down to the store....need anything?
He comes back ten years later
He comes through the door a... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable for feeling like this? Do you think I should ask him to at least meet me at the entrance?
Q. Hello Dear Cupids I have been seeing a man as just friends for about three months, we only see each other every couple of weeks or so as we live about 90 miles apart. We've been out for meals and outings and he's always been very attentive - flow...
A. 13 August 2015: Hi
I would just bow out gracefully on this one with a nice excuse
I think you know this day will not be about you and him having a nice date, it'll be about him indulging his hobby.
See him another time on an equal footing x
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My boyfriend claims he is still on a dating app just to make friends?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy and we have met loads of times, been on plenty of dates, ive met his family and stayed at his and are now dating for about two months and ive noticed hes still on the dating app... which i find insulting.. but he says ...
A. 23 July 2015: Babes, you need to dump him x... (read in full...)
Why is he so commitment phobic? Is he frightened of commitment?
Q. I am a 51 year old women who looks quite young for my age. I work as Air Cabin Crew and also as a college lecturer. I met up with my first love a few days ago after not seeing him for over 12 years. He came to me in a dream and I felt it was a ...
A. 14 July 2015: Hi
This guy has lived a pattern all his life
From reading your post it seems to me as an outsider that if you go there again, you will get hurt again,as is the pattern
You would think he would want to settle down, it seems crazy that he doesn't, ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with problems with my mom?
Q. My mother always disagrees with things I say. If she's having an issue with something she'll ask me and then I'll tell her what I think but then we end up arguing about it. She then goes, maybe weeks or days later, to ask my 2 brothers(I'm the only ...
A. 11 July 2015: Hi
You won't change your mother, you will have to change yourself if you want to stop feeling like this
You don't need validation from your mother or anyone
Knowing this is maturity
I'm the youngest and have always had a crazy relationship wit... (read in full...)
I'm falling for him! (But cannot afford to)
Q. Hello everyone. Been a while. So here's the deal: I'm now in my mid thirties and very single. I've been happy about my life so far. I got out of a toxic relationship about 5 years ago and have not dated since then. I've been enjoying my free...
A. 8 July 2015: Hi
Please think about what you are doing
Live a life and not a pattern
Your last relationship was toxic and now it looks like you are going the right way to step into another with a married guy
If you get involved the chances are it will end in h... (read in full...)
Am I the problem? Have social media issues and everything is conflict and a battle with him
Q. Hi, social media issue unfortunately.. I have been dating my partner for two and a half years. I have been widow for over three years, he had a relationship before me that lasted around three years. Through our relationship our exes would be br...
A. 7 July 2015: Head games city girl !
Seriously,it seems a bit creepy to me. It must make you feel bad. If there is anything else that makes you feel the way this does then dump him immediately if not sooner.
He's a hypocrite .
You have to have a face to face... (read in full...)
Meeting people you admire and being disapointed, it is ok to feel this way?
Q. Recently a friend met a theatre actress after a stage show she admired, and though the actress took a photo with her ( and even sent a tweet the next day,)she seemed rushed when she her and others and not interested in chatting There wer...
A. 7 July 2015: Its not a way I would like to meet a famous person, stood outside a concert venue for example. I got stuck in an elevator for about ten minutes with Elton John years ago,that was a good way to meet a celebrity cos it was natural.
I would tell your... (read in full...)
What do you think of men secretly taking nude photos and videos of their wives?
Q. I've visited some forums about men secretly taking pictures of their wives while they are nude, either during sexual contact and without them being aware in other areas, such as disrobing. According to the forums some of the men do this because ...
A. 7 July 2015: I wonder why women wouldn't think to do this?
At least that is what I imagine is true.
Its deeply misogynistic.
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How can I resolve this problem? My trust in him has gone as I have a suspicion that my husband may have taken nude pictures of me
Q. In the past my husband has snapped pictures of me in the shower and changing. I told him to delete the pictures each time. I have told him he can't take nude pictures of me without my consent. This all started after we got married. Recently...
A. 2 July 2015:
Hi
You poor thing, you must feel terrible, I know I would!
Its you with the problem. I don't feel sorry for him at all!
Who knows what else he might be up to?
You're going to have to have a long hard think. Have you talked to him about this?
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Should I dump him? Also he tells me I need a breast implant for sagging breasts !
Q. I have been with a 64 year old guy who flirts and talks about women constantly (always younger women)! He rarely tells me I'm nice looking (I'm 61), he stares at good looking younger women and likes to hang out at his son's gatherings to be aroun...
A. 20 June 2015: He sounds horrible! Better to dump his vile ass asap and feel immediately better about yourself than spend another second with him. You will be rewarded for your assertiveness x... (read in full...)
Online dating, is he a good guy or a player?
Q. Hello, I would really like some suggestions: I am recently back to dating after a long spell, and I found this guy who I feel a sparkle for online, he lives in a distant city (where I am going to go in 1 month) so meeting is not an option. He wrote ...
A. 20 June 2015: Run for the hills.... He sounds like a weirdo! x... (read in full...)
Love love serve...what is he trying to say?
Q. I wrote a note and told this guy we have a attraction between us, he wrote me a note saying, love, love, serve and put 15 at the bottom, what is he trying to say?...
A. 20 June 2015: Who is this guy... Bjorn Borg?
I personally would find that sort of cryptic message a turn off but that's me. A game player....literally x... (read in full...)
What I don't understand is why the ladies never initiate contact with me to set up a game. Why not?
Q. I'm in my 40's and I like to play tennis. I've asked some ladies to play, and it's fun. (BTW I'm married, and most of them are too.) What I don't get, is why they never call/e-mail me to ask if I'm up for tennis. When I contact them, usuall...
A. 20 June 2015: They may think your are after more than a game of tennis, that's my feeling anyway ... (read in full...)
Should I initiate and make a call? Or hope for the best?
Q. I have an acquaintance that about 6-8 weeks ago told me that he had someone he would like me to meet and that he would set up a night out (drinks and appetizers kind of night) for a few couples to get together so we could meet. I agreed to this. ...
A. 20 June 2015: I agree with honeypie.Sometimes you have to play the long game. Have a bit of patience and faith. If he's not in the right place for whatever reason there's no point in forcing it. Good luck x... (read in full...)
My ex is using my insecurities as a bargaining tool.
Q. Hi everyone I need some reassurance, really, as I'm finding it hard to properly separate from my ex and he keeps talking about getting back together - it's confusing me and I keep being drawn to him, like a moth to a flame. Maybe the first thin...
A. 5 June 2015: Hi
My advice is go NO CONTACT with this guy. Hes taking too much of your head space.
Nothing new can come in till you do. Take your power back.
Follow your gut instinct. Dont be lead by fear
A great website is www.soberecovery.com... (read in full...)
Should I message him? Did I put him off by being a bit aloof in my response to his slightly gushing message?
Q. Hello I met a man through mutual friends and he contacted me via Facebook to ask me to join him at an event. I said yes and we then spent the week before the event messaging each other every day - I suppose getting to know each other. He is ...
A. 30 May 2015: Hi
I think your response was great so dont concern yourself with that.
Im trying to put myself in your shoes. If i were you i would not message him again, no way
Who knows why hes on the missing list but it does suggest he is a bit unre... (read in full...)
The married man I'm seeing has now pulled back. What am I supposed to think?
Q. I met a man, he's married. We've been seeing each other but only slept together that first night... It's been 5 weeks of texting and short visits. We have very strong feelings for each other. He said he doesn't want to drag me into his mess, also ...
A. 30 March 2015: Hi. I totally get why you are doing what you are doing. I was seeing a married guy once. Id known him for 32 years on and off before he started waging a campaign to get into my knickers. He said all the right words and we spent four nights t... (read in full...)
Just found out my long term boyfriend texts a woman from work... and also gives her a lift to work in the morning! should I be ok with this?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. He is very loyal and sensitive... In fact I have never known him to really text other women, even though he is a very friendly person. He is very trustworthy, I honestly don't think he would cheat ...
A. 11 January 2015: Hi,
Course he knows he should have told you, thats a no brainer hun. His excuse for not telling you is poor.
He obviously doesn't tell you everything does he?
Maybe its all innocent, but you don't know him as well as you thought you did.
... (read in full...)
How do I distance myself from my abusive mother? Anyone else experienced anything similar?
Q. I need some advice from people who might be in a similar situation to me. I’m a 25 year old woman who has always had a very strained relationship with my mum, but which recently has become unbearable. I’ll try to only give the information which is ...
A. 23 December 2014: Hi there, Even though its 2 in the morning, i feel compelled to write you a few lines. Im a 48 year old woman who's had no contact with my mum now for about 4 years. Its such an awkward situation, not just for me emotionally, but socially as ... (read in full...)
How can I get a date with this shy guy before I lose my chance?
Q. Hello. I'm in a band and have suffered from some hearing damage so may need to leave. I am band members with a guy I really like but we only see each other at these rehearsals and if I leave I know I won't see him again until I go to my band's gigs ...
A. 4 December 2014: Hi, Just drop something into the next conversation you have about leaving the band along the lines of " its a pity i've got to leave the band.... hope we'll stay in touch though "
Just act all innocent... he'll get the message
good luck... (read in full...)
They say that opposites attract and you can complete each other, but is that too optimistic?
Q. Hello. I need some help in figuring out if opposites really do attract. I'm 18 and I'm starting to like someone who I probably wouldn't usually befriend, not for any negative reasons, but just because we're very different. For example, I like ...
A. 6 October 2014: forget the tick list, just give it a whirl and find out if it works
good luck xx... (read in full...)
I feel unsupported by life, but I don't know how to solve this!
Q. Dear cupid. I'm upset and feel unsupported by life and intuition is saying that I'm subconsciously running behavior patterns that keep eliciting the same responses in others but I can't see where I'm going wrong. Please will someone offer some...
A. 6 October 2014: great question but need more info really... (read in full...)
My alcoholic ex boyfriend died 10 months ago and I still feel empty inside
Q. So fed up with life. My ex alcoholic bf who I spent a crazy 6 years with died 10 months ago. Time does heal but only because it has to. I have a job I do what I gotta do but I am empty. I feel like a nothing. I have a great family but they...
A. 6 October 2014: soberecovery.org/friends ad family of alcoholics
i found that forum so helpful and supportive.
just reading other peoples posts was great.
everyone there has bought the t shirt to your scenario... (read in full...)
The Guy I Like Has A Girlfriend :( How To Get Over Him?
Q. So, yeah, I'm 21 and recently met this guy who's in his mid-thirties through a friend. I really liked him (though we're just acquaintances), but I just heard my friend mention his girlfriend in conversation with someone else. This always, ALWAYS ...
A. 23 September 2014: Hi hun,
Please stop beating yourself up about it !!
Its ok to like someone, and i reckon it didnt work out cos he's not the one for you. In the fullness of time you will look back on this and realise it just wasn't meant to be.
There's s... (read in full...)
He stood me up and I don't know if he deserves a second chance...
Q. We had a first date/meeting set up for Wednesday. We're both pretty busy and hardly get to chat, let alone set a time to get together. Wednesday comes and I hear... nothing! I then realise he was last online on Monday evening, which meant he hadn't ...
A. 12 August 2014: Wave bye bye girl.... aint nothin to see here!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend going to Vegas. Help!
Q. My 30 year old boyfriend of 6 months was invited by his best friend (he is in a 3 year relationship and looking to get married soon) to Vegas. He asked me how I felt about it, and although it didn't make me happy I told him as long as he doesn't go ...
A. 7 August 2014: Hi there,
At first you said you trusted him. Well, if that is true it wont matter how many strip clubs or bars he goes to, he'll be faithful.
I worked in those sorts of places for years when i was younger and i am telling you hun NICE GUYS DO... (read in full...)
Is cell phone snooping okay?
Q. Is it okay for someone you are dating to go into your cell phone behind your back and look at text messages you have received and sent to other people?...
A. 30 May 2014: I am sure this opinion won't go down well, but i think if your partner is acting shady round their phone, then somethings up. If they take it with them everywhere they walk, even to the bathroom and keep it in their pockets at night etc... you get ... (read in full...)
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