I am thinking of a divorce, I'm fed up with the lies!
Q. I'm seriously thinking of divorcing my husband. I'm tired of all the lies and deceit. Back in April I checked out an email account that both my husband and I have access to but I hadn't looked at in over a year. I was sickened by what I saw. My ...
A. 29 July 2009: Hi there, You've just restored my faith in dear cupid. A friend of mine is in the same situation here in England. She has to cancel plans with me and my other friend to tend to the never ending needs and wants of her husband. Shes very unhappy. This ... (read in full...)
His woman "friends" from the past keep coming out of the woodwork!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for one year now. Since then quite a few of his female "friends" from his past keep coming out of the woodwork, still. Some turned out that they had once been more than friends but because he calls them all friends, ...
A. 27 July 2009: Hi, i'm sure you'll be fine. He's doing as you ask at least and not leading a secret life emailing visiting and calling behind your back. At our time of life there's no such thing as a guy without a past, so men always come with some baggage. Trust ... (read in full...)
Is she giving me a signal that she wants me?
Q. Ok my first question so here we go... I got out of a bad relationship about six months ago and since then I started chatting to a girl I have known for many years well she rang me on Wednesday night from tesco and I said I fancyed some lemon ...
A. 27 July 2009: I think its safe to say you've got the green light, lol. Hope it works out for you both... (read in full...)
I need someone to talk to because I feel extremely depressed....
Q. hey guys, i need some help! im not quite sure whats wrong with me doh! Im extremly tired i work a full time summer job have the greatest boyfriend ever feel extremly depressed and i really need someone to talk to iv got no friends anymore their ...
A. 27 July 2009: Hi there, i'd be depressed too in your shoes. The one thing i'm sure about is everything changes. I know you feel you should be out enjoying the summer, but if your older sisters are too selfish to share the burden and your dad won't listen, i'd try ... (read in full...)
My sister's been very disrespectful and I resent my mother for her reaction!
Q. I dont even know where to start.....I'am worried that i might be heading for unhapinness for ever. ok so this is the deal. I am 22 with alot on my shoulders, not because i have to but because i choose to. i have 2 jobs. so this sat i came home very ...
A. 27 July 2009: Hi there, i can relate to you on many levels. Firstly i'm afraid theres no way your mom would choose between you and your sister,its unrealistic of you to expect that. Your sis sounds messed up and very unhappy and she's probably abit jealous of you ... (read in full...)
Why does he want to hang out with me when he has a wife, a kid, and another on the way?
Q. hey everyone. i am a 17 year old girl and im having an issue. I like this guy named Tony who is 26 years old and he used to work as a security guard for my school. When he was working for my school i used to skip class andhang out with him and we ...
A. 27 July 2009: Hello again, I am 110% sure this guy is a sleazeball who sees you as easy meat. Please read my first answer again. You seem determined to go ahead with it anyway. I find this quite depressing. He is married with a kid on the way. Some people have ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he be more concerned about my safety?
Q. Ok, so my bf went to a party with his friends the other night, while I was out with my friends. When I was on my way home, my bus broke down and I had to wait for another bus in a sketchy neighbourhood, alone, in the dark. I called my bf to keep me ...
A. 26 July 2009: Hi there, I'm sorry to say but i would've dumped him for both or either of those scenarios. I wouldn't let my female friend go home on her own like you describe and i'm a woman. If he's like this now what will he be like a few years on? He sounds ... (read in full...)
Lost! Ex keeps changing his personality
Q. My ex keeps changing his personality and i'm totally lost. I'll start at the beginning. We met at work and were flirting straight off. he is a couple of years younger than me but that was never a problem. He puts so much stress on himself that he ...
A. 24 July 2009: hi there, sounds quite straight forward to me. Hes with the other girl and he's keeping his options open by giving you mixed signals so you'll still be there for him in case it all turns to shit with the girl in london. The monkey needs to find a ... (read in full...)
Why does he want to hang out with me when he has a wife, a kid, and another on the way?
Q. hey everyone. i am a 17 year old girl and im having an issue. I like this guy named Tony who is 26 years old and he used to work as a security guard for my school. When he was working for my school i used to skip class andhang out with him and we ...
A. 24 July 2009: hi there hunny, i think this guy is hoping you will have sex with him sometime and is grooming you to be his bit on the side. Ask yourself this. If you are such good friends, wouldn't you have already known he had a wife with a kid and one on the ... (read in full...)
How do I stop lying and just end this?
Q. I have been with my bf for 5 years. Over the past year or so my feelings for him have really changed. I can't pin point exactly when it happened or what caused it, but I don't want to be with him anymore. Everytime I hug him, kiss him or we have ...
A. 24 July 2009: I've been where you are hunny and i empathise. You will both be hurt, he may always love you after you've gone deep down, but you need to let him go for his sake if nothing else. He can grieve get over it and meet someone else and be happy,which he ... (read in full...)
Why are we so shy around each other?
Q. I like this boy and he likes me back We talk or actually text everyday but all of a sudden stopped, no I idea why Anyways.. the thing that bothers me is that when we see each other, we act like we don't like each other ( crush like) When we ...
A. 24 July 2009: its always a bit awkward whan you like someone, no matter how old you are. Give him abit of time and he'll probably muster up the courage to do something about it. Boys can be quite slow in coming forward cos they really don't know what to do or ... (read in full...)
He wasn't making me feel good, so I broke up! Should we try again?
Q. Well... my boyfriend and I been dating close to a year, never been perfect, he sucks in bed, but I have fallen in love regardles. For some reason, can't explain it why, he casues for me to withdraw, I like him and want to be cheerful and happy ...
A. 24 July 2009: No no no, a thousand times no!! What for exactly hunny? So you can be absolutely sure hes no good? How much longer will you need? You should be really happy after 12 months. These are the happy times. Have you ever had a good relationship? ... (read in full...)
I am thinking of a divorce, I'm fed up with the lies!
Q. I'm seriously thinking of divorcing my husband. I'm tired of all the lies and deceit. Back in April I checked out an email account that both my husband and I have access to but I hadn't looked at in over a year. I was sickened by what I saw. My ...
A. 21 July 2009: No, of course you're not making too much of this. If this was my husband i'd never stop throwing up. I'd be curious to go to the joint session to see if hes so 'what's the big problem?' when talking to an outsider. What a total asshat he sounds. ... (read in full...)
I had sex with a girl I love very much, now shes ignoring me...why?
Q. So I been hanging out with this girl that I work with. I’m totally crazy about her, we pretty much got hired around the same time 6 months ago. A couple of weeks ago we met after work to have dinner and we later did “stuff” in my car. Fast forwar...
A. 21 July 2009: Hi i'd have to discreetly take her to one side and ask her whats going on and if you've done anything to offend that you're unaware of. Be brave and put yourself out of your misery. good luck x... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to like him!
Q. i was asked out by this guy i like, but i turned him down. i tried to make myself believe i turned him down by making up some lame excuse, but the real reason i turned him down is that i'm scared to like him. i have never had a boyfriend before and ...
A. 21 July 2009: Hi you're over thinking things way too much honey. If you text or call him then whats gonna happen? He's going to take you on a date thats all. You dont have to marry or spend the rest of your life with this guy cos you text him. Try to put this in ... (read in full...)
Am I heartless for even thinking about this?
Q. I'm engaged to a lovely girl. We've been together for over 5 years, but ever since we bought a house together she's become very distant. She still chooses to live with her mother rather than at our house, and openly admits that she doesn't know if ...
A. 21 July 2009: Hi, i don't think you're heartless. You should get a medal for what you've put up with. Country girl and bigsis are 100% right. You can't make her better no matter what you do. Please make yourself happy while you can. good luck
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Will he start to back away from our relationship due to the additional stress in his life?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and things are going really well between us (no signs of him backing off or anything like that). 4 days ago he called to tell me that he is getting layed off (this stress now on top of other stresses ...
A. 21 July 2009: hi i understand your fear but if you've made it clear you're there in the background, it's just a waiting game unfortunately. good luck... (read in full...)
I trusted my long-term boyfriend enough to stop using condoms with him, but now I am itchy! Could it just be thrush or something more?
Q. I need help. I hope I am just worrying for nothing. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and been completely faithful. Before him I have only had sex with 3 other guys all who were my boyfriends. I was safe with all of them (using ...
A. 21 July 2009: sounds like thrush. try canaston, you can get it from boots. only a tablet and theres cream to soothe the itching. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's blue balls.....he says if I don't give him head he will leave me!
Q. My boyfriend says every time we hang out he gets blue balls and is in pain for hours, even days. It causes him headaches and muscle cramps too. I do plenty of sexual things for him almost every time we hang out. He's tried masturbating beforehand, ...
A. 21 July 2009: Oh my god! he sounds like an absolute horror of a human being. Dump this man immediately please!! x... (read in full...)
To call or not to call....
Q. This might sound stupid to you all and i feel so by just asking. When i like a girl i want to see her often, only recently have i undertaken the two step forward, one step back rule. We've been on 8 dates and are sleeping together. Last ...
A. 21 July 2009: hi just text her something light hearted, tell her you are out tonight and you were wondering if she had any plans for weekend cos youd like to take her out somewhere. That way you dont look desperate but you do look respectful and see what happens. ... (read in full...)
My partner wont divorce his wife!
Q. I have been in a relationship for over 2 years now I am 52 and he is 62, i was married when i was 19 and left my husband 5 years ago, this is my first proper relationship since then, I was wary at the beginning about going into a relationship, but ...
A. 21 July 2009: hi there, you'd think the wife would want a divorce wouldn't you? I can only assume the wife is a brainwashed dish rag and he's still got some kind of hold over her. My guess is his reasons are financial and doesn't want his kingdom to be split in ... (read in full...)
How to get him to initiate sex more often?
Q. Hi, My bf and I have been living together for 10 months and were going out for 5 months before that. Since Jan he has had limited interest in sex and this only occurs when I initiate. He has given various reasons for this, more recently saying ...
A. 21 July 2009: two wives runnin off with other guys? Hmmm i'd see that as a big warning sign of frustration to come. When you have to make the moves all the time it will chip away at your self esteem. You need to know your guy thinks your hot, its a fundamental. ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to text me or what?
Q. I don't know what to do with myself. I just wait for him to text me because we haven't talked since thursday night. He knows that I like him and he showed all the signs that he was into me too. We've been on and off talking for about 2 years now. ...
A. 21 July 2009: if he likes you he will text or ring you. 100% guarenteed. if you text him you'll never know if he really likes you or whether hes just using you cos you're the one chasing him. Put the spotlight on him and watch what he does. If you text him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been calling me horrible names but always claims he is joking after!
Q. my boyfriend and i have a very close relationship we've been on and off but recently he's been calling me a bitch a slag and a c**t wen i say thats rude he always replies with im jokin but is he really joking but i love him so much i could never ...
A. 20 July 2009: Im sorry hun but why even bother writing if you say your never gonna leave him. You sound like a young lady with rock bottom self esteem. He says these awful things to you because HE CAN!! you allow it, so he'll keep doing it, and it'll get worse i ... (read in full...)
His parents don't want to get to know someone unless she is going to be a permanent fixture in his life
Q. Ok...so..I've been dating this man for 8 months. I've only met his parents twice, and his whole family (6 brothers and sisters)once. This is really tricky situation, but...his parents told him a while ago that they don't want to get to know someone ...
A. 18 July 2009: hi,he's got to put his foot down with his family so you travel with and sit with him. you're going to support him and in return he must support you. Theres no way i'd go otherwise. I'd feel like a fool. good luck x... (read in full...)
Pornography & drugs, but no sex!
Q. Ok, I have quite the dilemma, and don't even know where to start. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now. Up until six months ago, we had a great relationship, and amazing sex. About six months ago, he started losing interest in our sex ...
A. 18 July 2009: hi honey, you're absolutely right, you do deserve better. 18 months is apparently the usual amount of time it takes for the bloom to come off the rose where sex is concerned, after that you have to work at things a bit more. It doesnt sound like ... (read in full...)
I've been pushed aside AGAIN! Any advice?
Q. I have been in a relationship for five years. It has been really hard, because I have been put to the side so many times. I have been stood up, and I expressed how I felt. He promised to change, showed up at work with roses, and told me he loved ...
A. 18 July 2009: Hes standing you up cos of his job? Is that right? I never heard of such a thing. He's treating you like nonsense. stop hanging around, waiting for him to change. Big mistake..dump him x... (read in full...)
Should I split from him, hes never physically cheated!
Q. Hello readers, I hope you can give me your perspectives on my situation as it's making me sad. I've been with my bf 10 years. We lived together pretty happily for 7 years, until last year, when he broke up with me, saying he didn't know what he ...
A. 18 July 2009: good advice from cerberus. i agree with everything she said,and i would also add that in life we will all be bored/frustrated/lonely,but who the hell deals with it be sending and receiving dirty texts?!! Please dont fall in the trap of thinking ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have male friends and go out with them behind your BF's back?
Q. Is it wrong to have male friends and go out with them on ocassion? But behind your boyfriend's back? I ask this because I've had a good guy friend for 2-3 years. We don't talk all the time just when we want to hang out. Initially, we we...
A. 18 July 2009: hi there, you're not friends with this guy,end of story. You went out initially with a view to date even though nothings happened yet. Why even bother with feeling guilty afterwards and worrying about what your bf would say if he knew. If you cant ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend emoitionally unstable or just nasty?
Q. I have just, for the second time, ended my relationship with my emotionally abusive ex who is 50 and I am in my early 30's. When I first started going out with him he was exciting, funny, devoted, adored me (although he was still seeing his ...
A. 16 July 2009: Hi my heart goes out to you honey. My advice is please run...run for the hills and keep on running. Then don't get into another relationship with a guy for a long time. Work on yourself ONLY. Stop trying to figure this guy out, he's a complete drain ... (read in full...)
He stood me up a few times, yet I still think I should stick around
Q. what do you think when you've been seeing a guy for over a year (dating) and he all of a sudden, stands you up (more than once) and says he'll call you back and doesn't? im not a spring chicken im almost 30. it seems as though this guy doesn't...
A. 15 July 2009: Hi there, what has your age got to do with anything? Have you no self respect girl? He sounds like the typical no balls kind of guy who wants to get out of the relationship but doesnt have the guts to end it himself so he's hoping you'll do it. I ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure and paranoid that he still has her as a friend
Q. I used my husband's laptop the other day and I went on his Facebook and read his messages. He had received a message from a girl that he used to go to college with, they might have even dated in the past. She was basically saying to him "I can't ...
A. 14 July 2009: Hi there, remember that it is impossible for another woman to steal your husband. She can only take him if he allows it. It sounds like you've got a good one there so dont get upset. He wants to be with you x... (read in full...)
I think she is cheating but it's weird..
Q. Ok I am in a bit of a problem and not sure how to handle this, I am not new to the dating game but this is one of the more complex problems I have had. We will start from when we first met, I met my girlfriend online one year ago (a few days ago ...
A. 25 December 2008: Hi there, every doormat says welcome. Put your foot down with her or finish it. End of story I'm afraid. Who could live like that together? Good luck.... (read in full...)
No commitment from her, help!
Q. Im a female and imm in loev with another female but the thing is she isnt a lesbian i went for it anyway got her number she accepted my advances but made it clear that she wasnt gay i still went for it we go out on dates and have had sex and all ...
A. 25 December 2008: The girl's tellin you she's not a lesbian so i can't see this going anywhere unfortunately. Just try to treat your relationship with her a bit more light heartedly. There's no point getting really into her cos it sounds like a phase she's going ... (read in full...)
Worried about fiance's lack of interest
Q. My fiance and I have been together for two years now and are beginning to have a strained sex life. She never feels like having sex anymore. I have received all the garden variety answers: I am tired, I have a headache, I don't feel like it, I ...
A. 25 December 2008: Hi, it's a common scenario this one. You either need to talk to her about why your sex life has gone off the boil or hire a private detective. After 2 years the bloom is usually off the rose by then and you have to work at great sex a bit more than ... (read in full...)
Christmas eve, hav girlfriend but alone with the cat...
Q. help, ok, now it's year three in the relationship and we still don't live together mainly because I would have to let her 26 year old daughter live with us, which I won't do. She's old enough and has a boyfriend who still lives at home too. Here it ...
A. 25 December 2008: Sorry mate,but you don't sound very nice. So what if her daughter's in a low paid job. Lots of good people are in that situation. No wonder you're alone xmas eve.... (read in full...)
Husband is a liar and a cheater, I do believe he loves me but I doubt his ability to do the right thing, any advice?
Q. I met my husband 6 years ago. We had the most wonderful 2/3 years together and we both felt we had found a love that was very special and rare. He had an affair 1.5 years ago and I threw him out, the pain was almost unbearable, he had become in...
A. 13 December 2008: Hi there, being in this relationship is the cause of your pain right now. How can getting rid of him be as bad as this? You know he loves you,but you also know that he just cant be faithfull to anyone,not just you. Short term pain and long term gain ... (read in full...)
Is this kind of behavior acceptable in a serious relationship?
Q. my boyfriend went out for his guys night out, but I looked at his tex messages and found out that he invited over one of his female friends an later he tex her again saying that saw her at the bar make him nervous like a little kid, I guess he was ...
A. 9 December 2008: Yes honey,i agree with the other ladies. Its a definate no no. His explanation is very lame indeed. I'd monitor the situation carefully from now on. Good luck x... (read in full...)
How can I control my controlling behavior?
Q. ok... i have a bad problem. ok im young like high school young and so is my bf! we have been together for almost 10 months and i really think that i love him and he loves me to! but my problem is that i am verry controlling and i dont like it w...
A. 9 December 2008: Hi honey, good for you for acknowledging you have a problem,so you're already half way to fixing it. This may never go away 100% but you will learn to manage it in time. My advice is to go to your local bookstore and find a self help book on the ... (read in full...)
Ex dumped me for the mother of his child, we still have sex, does he want me back?
Q. Hi guys, I need help over my ex bf he dumped me for his ex the mother of his child, anyway we are still having sex once or twice a week,talk on the phone everyday,i see him most days aswell, anyway for the past week hes invited my for a drink an...
A. 7 December 2008: Hi honey, i'm sorry if this is abit harsh sounding but what this guy wants from you is a shag. Sorry, but why do you want to be with a guy who dumped you for his ex and then has sex with you behind her back? Sounds like a real prince charming! Don't ... (read in full...)
Did he dump me?
Q. I have been dating with this guy for 3 years.He recently lives in Lisbon for getting an Portuguese residence.He used to call me and we talked on the phone every week.I live in Madrid since we dont see each other alot,i knew that he doesnt have a ...
A. 7 December 2008: Hi honey, I know its tough,but its a waiting game now. Try to put the ball in his court and see what he does. I hope he phones and puts your mind at rest. Good luck x... (read in full...)
I tend to get a rash after shaving my pubic area, any tips to avoid this?
Q. Please help! I have noticed that when i shame my pubic area that i tend to get a rash afetr which is really painful and itchy does anyone have any tips or could tell me why this happens?? ...
A. 7 December 2008: By one of the more expensive razors,like Gillette fusion.I think thats a good one. Exfoliate the area regular and see what happens. It happens to loads of girls even with waxing. Welcome to the world of women x... (read in full...)
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