Have to go swimming but have my period!
Q. Hello. I have a minor problem that isn't life changing but it currently feels like a big problem! Tomorrow I have to go swimming. I really have no choice in it. But I woke up this morning and my period had started unexpectedly. I don't know what ...
A. 7 February 2010: every supermarket, corner shop and garage in the uk sells them.
You just have to practice with them till it feels comfy.
Hasn't your mum got some you can have?
You'll easy get the hang of it. sorry but there's no other option if you want... (read in full...)
Do "mansluts" ever change or will he always be like that
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles Ok so, last night i was at a party, i had my eye on a guy on the guestlist. I went too the party and actually met him he seemed nice and after a few drinks we pulled. He is however what one may class as a "manslut" but i ...
A. 6 February 2010: You like him , lots of other girls like him too. That's how he's become a man slut.
Some guys just have it going on and he can have his pick.
Looking at your age group, this guy sounds like he'll be too young yet to settle down and be excl... (read in full...)
I'm going on holiday with my b/f and wondering if I can wear a bikini
Q. hey, Im a size 16 and im going on my first sun holiday this summer!! Im going with my bf so i want to look really good but im so worried about bikinis. Can someone please tell me wear i can get ones that will flatter my body but still look r...
A. 6 February 2010: try bravissimo or fig leaves on line. they make great swim wear for the curvy figure.... (read in full...)
He fancies me, he fancies me not ...........
Q. Well, this is quite a simple question. All i need to know is this. Does this man fancy me. I've been looking at this from every single angle i can think of, and i come back to yes, he does. But the thing is. He is not like some men. The story is t...
A. 6 February 2010: Hi, I reckon he fancies you.
I think you can't stop thinking about him cos there's nothing better come your way for a while.
He sounds very hard work to me. Be careful x... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I think she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder? She's pregnant!
Q. Should I tell the husband of a friend I strongly suspect has Narcissistic Personality Disorder that I think she has the disorder? He and I had a past crush on each other and she knows this. She is 8 months pregnant with their 1st child. We all no ...
A. 6 February 2010: I don't know anyone involved, but from what you've written I think you're absolutely right.
It does sound like sour grapes on your part and you will make things worse.
It's none of your business, let them get on with it.
If he asks you ... (read in full...)
Am I still in love with this guy after all these years?
Q. I have always had problems with my love life. I don't think I have ever gotten over my first love. I always find myself thinking and dreaming about this guy. I haven't seen him for 30 years. Just recently he found me on facebook and starting ...
A. 6 February 2010: Unfortunately he's a married man of 30 years.
If he sent you suggestive e mails and you respond in kind then you're asking for trouble.
He's not available and you've been burnt.
If you're looking for love, don't go looking for it in someon... (read in full...)
Why does he say he is still in love with me and has had sex with both myself and a new woman ?
Q. why does my ex still call me and text me if he has a new relationship. why does he say he is still in love with me and has had sex with both myself and new woman (until i found out).He was trying to convince me that we are not over. why does he ...
A. 5 February 2010: He does it cos he's a lying cheatin dog, who doesn't know what he wants.
So he reckons he'll have the nickel and the bagel as well while he can.
Tell him if he shows up at your work or home again you'll call the cops. That usually sees the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gave me the same engagement ring he gave his ex!
Q. Hello, my boyfriend gave me an engagement ring that was previously used by his ex girlfriend. He says that he redid the ring, but the diamond is the same. It makes me feel uncomfortable. There is also a plus, when we started the relation...
A. 4 February 2010: Hi hun, that's shocking to me and makes him look incredibly cheap in my view.
Instinctively you know it's wrong, which is why you're writing today.
There's no way I'd accept some other girls sloppy seconds and it probably reflects other i... (read in full...)
Is it possible for facial herpes to be passed to the genital region?
Q. Is it possible for facial herpes to be passed to the genital region?...
A. 3 February 2010: yes yes yes. never give a blow job till a cold sore has completely gone or you can pass it on 100%
take a tablet called l-lycine every day and it drastically helps in the number of outbreaks you get.... (read in full...)
The Etiquette of Casual Sex!?
Q. I would appreciate only responses from people who are not going to offer their own moral judgements on the following situation... Recently, I experimented with one of the 'casual dating websites' - no really seriously at first, but then I start...
A. 3 February 2010: Hi, If you sleep with a guy on the first date he probably thinks you're not someone he'd want to see again.
Why should he? There's a different one on the internet tomorrow to have sex with.
Bottom line, he thinks you're easy, no matter ... (read in full...)
I find young girls attractive, but I want to maybe seek help.
Q. I don't know where to start.. I'll explain it to the best I can. Please be kind and understanding with your replies. It IS normal for a guy to find girls attractive from when they can start to create a child. (Puberty). It is just society...
A. 2 February 2010: I admire your honesty and you're only 20.
It worries me a little that if it's the innocence and the cuteness of them that you like, then what are you going to do when your 40?
Little girls grow up and if you can't find girls your own age a t... (read in full...)
Becoming more than friends...
Q. I have a friend of the opposite sex with whom I started having a 'friends with benefits' relationship. He's always been clear that we are not an item, however, we've started spending so much time together - we hang out at least 4 nights a week and ...
A. 2 February 2010: Hi, If you don't tell him what you want from him and carry on this arrangement, you'll be on here again in a few months telling how you're devastated cos you thought he loved you etc.
I hope he wants something more, but if he doesn't you're g... (read in full...)
I'm scared to get married again...
Q. I left my husband for another man, after our marriage became passionless and I no longer loved my husband. I didn't rush into divorce, but moved in with the new man and things have been rocky but we love each other very much. Gave myself some time, ...
A. 2 February 2010: What do you have to marry this next guy for?
It's obviously not going to work by what you've written.
You're getting too serious too soon and it's all moving too fast and you're feeling out of control.
Take control of your life and step of... (read in full...)
He flipped out when I answered his phone. Is his anger justified?
Q. Tonight, I was playing a game on my boyfriend's cell phone. A private number called, so I handed him the phone. He pressed the ignore button, which ended the call. I went back to my game, and the private number called back about a minute later. I ...
A. 31 January 2010: He's up to something. He got angry cos he's scared of being busted. ... (read in full...)
Never thought I'd fall for a married man...super confused here!
Q. I never thought I'd fall for a married man! I didn't intend for things to get so heavy.I work in the same building and see him everyday..he just told me he wants to end our affair of only 1 month. Yet on the weekend he texts me and sends me pics of ...
A. 31 January 2010: Hi, His wife is on to him, either that or he enjoys playing with your head. Passion and lust are one thing, but there are other things in life such as morals and principles. He's a coward, and has no feelings for anyone except himself. If... (read in full...)
I love my husband but he acts like if I want to be with him I am taking up all his time
Q. I have been married for two years now and this is my second marriage.. I am trying to learn from mistakes from the first one. For example. My first husband and I did nothing together even when we were at home alone we were in seperate rooms and ...
A. 29 January 2010: You need to find a happy medium.
You can still do your own thing and be a close partnership.
I presume your husband works all day and then from six he's feeling he has to spend his time with you.
It's not fair on him,he needs some down t... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell b/f of previous relationship problems
Q. I was in a relationship for 7 years. I was very young when we started dating, I ws 16. He ended up being very mentally abusive. Were no longer together, but due to him my self esteem has taken a huge hit, and I no longer feel pretty, and worth ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hi, you say your relationship is new, but you don't say how new.
Don't tell him anything like that for at least 6 months, cos you don't really know him.
Enjoy dating him and don't get all bogged down in baggage early on, cos you don't get th... (read in full...)
If a straight man in a relationship with a straight woman receives "a massage + a happy ending" from a male masseuse--no emotional intimacy involved--is that cheating?
Q. Brief facts: I'm female. Been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. I'm very, very open minded. Compared to other relationships I've been in, our sex life isn't so great (for various reasons), but there's a lot of love between us. I KNOW he's int...
A. 24 January 2010: he paid for sex from a third party... if you think think that as long as emotion isn't involved, then sex with other people is ok, then there's no issue
otherwise you need to tell him it's not to happen again or you'll have to dump him... (read in full...)
Kicking myself for failing my driving test. Again!
Q. Morning guys, Im on such a downer. I failed my driving test again yesterday-my 2nd attempt. I had such awful rainy weather and the route was so difficult. I know i need to book myself in again but im soo scared.To make it all worse my family ...
A. 23 January 2010: 3rd time lucky girl!
don't leave it, get a cancellation asap and do it again.
The test is so much harder now than it was when I did it, and in bad conditions it's easy make a mistake.
As for your brothers, that's just the typical sort of... (read in full...)
Boyfriend getting divorce and wants to be left alone now?
Q. I have been dating a man for a few months that I have found myself getting very attached to. He filed for divorce in June of 08', but the divorce has not been settled. We have had a great relationship, but he does get very moody at times and "goes ...
A. 21 January 2010: Hi hun,
" I am so sad and think that I may have pushed him away by saying he was being inconsiderate of me "
I hate it when I read things like that. Of course you should pull him up on his behaviour,it's outrageous!
What's the alternativ... (read in full...)
Jealous of the blonde downstairs who is getting in between me and my man.
Q. So there's this blonde girl I was really jealous of who spends time with my bf and talks to him all the time and it was really bothering me, I recently found conversations between them that were really disgusting and hurt me a lot, she even sent him ...
A. 21 January 2010: Wouldn't it be great if you could be a fly on the wall?
I'd be insisting he moved out of that flat and into a new one but that's just me.
Or better still she moves, but if I thought it was happening again, he'd be dumped... (read in full...)
Was I right to be upset about this?
Q. i am 60 years old and my husband is 75. we have been married for 4 years and very happy. unfortunately he has a heart condition and diebeties and has been impotent from when i met him.he makes me laugh and very caring all the time.last week i came ...
A. 19 January 2010: It's true that men enjoy porn more than women as a rule because most of it is made for men by men.
I could see why you'd be shocked, so don't give that another thought.
I think from what you say his motives were pure, as it must be frustrat... (read in full...)
Am I a slut for letting other men cum on my face?
Q. I wrote about that my husband and me want to invite a couple of men join in and cum on my face. Am I a slut even if my husband agrees to this?...
A. 18 January 2010: Do you think you'll consider yourself a slut? That's the question. At the end of the day its your conscience that's got to be clear.
... (read in full...)
Texting affair...
Q. Hi again, I put the following post on last night but the site seemed to be faulty and it didn't appear for hours. I have had one reply but am wondering if due to the fault it wasn't read by many other people. In case you could offer me help and ...
A. 18 January 2010: What if you never do?
How long will you give him to fess up?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is heavily in debt and I don't think it will be cleared before he retires
Q. my boyfriend of 50 is in £25,000 debt and it doesn't look like it's going to be cleared by the time he's retired. he says it's a mixture of things but generally bulit up from everyday living - i can't really see how because he hasn't had any ...
A. 17 January 2010: he could be debt free in 5 years maybe less.
He needs to ring the CCCS consumer credit counselling service.
Its 100% free. Its even a freephone number.
They will sort it out.... (read in full...)
Texting affair...
Q. Hi again, I put the following post on last night but the site seemed to be faulty and it didn't appear for hours. I have had one reply but am wondering if due to the fault it wasn't read by many other people. In case you could offer me help and ...
A. 17 January 2010: Hi Scrambled Brain,
I have read quite a few of your posts but not all.
Why do you think he had an affair in the first place? If you've asked him this and i'm assuming you have, what did he say? If you've never had a straight answer, you need... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a "straight" guy.
Q. Hey everyone, I’ve been debating where I could actually post this and get opinions and thoughts on it. I’ve tried typing out the situation I’m about to explain many times, but I often lose focus and tend to just stop writing… This is kind of lengt...
A. 17 January 2010: Hi there Affliction,
I feel this guy you like doesn't understand his own sexuality yet,that's why he lists his orientation as straight on facebook.
He's clearly bi in my view, but the way he talks about the girls he's had sex with makes me th... (read in full...)
When will he get his karma?
Q. Karma?? I have heared that word countless times on this web site and my question is, do people believe it happens to everyone? I ask because I know someone, a very sneaky evil and cold person who uses women, he meets them moves in with them normal...
A. 14 January 2010: wait long enough and the body of your enemy will be carried past your front door.
Wise words from the native indians.
This story reminds me of someone i know, and he's a barrister.
He's been doing the same thing for 20 years, but now i can ... (read in full...)
Should I believe my boyfriend or his supposed one-night stand?
Q. ok i need help with this, i have been with my boyfriend almost 2years now we have a good relationship however around 2weeks ago i heard his cell phone go off in his pocket so i got the phone and there was a text from someone he named "who" the text ...
A. 14 January 2010: I'm sorry hun, but i smell bullshit.
Tell him you want to see all his cell phone bills if he's on a contract. You'll soon know then.
It doesn't sound true so that means it's not.
If the sex was shit though why is she texting him? I thin... (read in full...)
Are they mind games or is he scared of his feelings?
Q. Recently the man I was seeing decided that he was confused about his feelings and wanted no contact for an indeterminate period of time. I have totally respected that request, despite feeling pretty bad myself - I have not phoned, texted, emailed or ...
A. 12 January 2010: I hope he sees the light and comes running back to you asap.
You sound like a great girl to me and i don't want you to waste too much time in limbo waiting for him to get his act together.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
What to do about this Scarlet Letter?
Q. The guy I'm seeing has a girlfriend. I've met her, I know who she is and I remind him all the time that he has a girlfriend. I know some of you will judge me, knowing he has a girlfriend, but I've tried to stop, so has he, but apparently it's still ...
A. 11 January 2010: I don't understand your question poster. Can we help figure anything out? What are you hoping to hear from us? This guy is laughing up his sleeve at both you and his girlfriend. Unfortunately, you are too addicted to the drama... (read in full...)
I got drunk and kissed a guy from work, do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Hi there... Well basically I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and I really love him. We were best friends for about 3 years before we got together. Everything is great now but the start of the relationship was a bit awkward r...
A. 11 January 2010: No, don't tell him. No good will come of it.
If you tell him, he may not trust you in future, and you don't want that do you?
Just see it as a lesson learnt.... (read in full...)
Scared of Anal sex?
Q. I'm 19. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year, and I've built up this barrier in our sex life. I'm afraid to have anal sex, so much so that I've made him believe I can't have it or I'll freak out. I know he had anal sex in his previous ...
A. 11 January 2010: Hi there, Does he like it? Tell him, you'll buy a big dildo and penetrate him and when he's loving it and screaming for more, you'll have a another go. Don't EVER do something that you don't like or hurts you to please any man. Believe ... (read in full...)
Are they mind games or is he scared of his feelings?
Q. Recently the man I was seeing decided that he was confused about his feelings and wanted no contact for an indeterminate period of time. I have totally respected that request, despite feeling pretty bad myself - I have not phoned, texted, emailed or ...
A. 10 January 2010: Hi, could really do with some more info, but from you've put it sounds like he's a waste of your time as a romantic prospect.
He sounds like a drama queen, who's wasting your time with his angst.
He should be wanting to be with you no question.... (read in full...)
Cheating boyfriend slept with an old flame!
Q. HELP my boyfriend cheated on me!! My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a few months. He was my best friend for almost a year, and it took us a long time to start dating. It immediately got incredibly serious, and we fell in love. I was i...
A. 10 January 2010: They say people deserve a second chance.
If he's really sorry and you really want to, then forgive him and start over.
Who knows how long it'll take before you feel the same about him. It'll never be the exactly the same as before cos he's ... (read in full...)
Is giving her a full kiss on the mouth cheating?
Q. my partner danced with another girl at a family wedding, whilst i was pregnant and he didnt really acknowlege that i was there as he was so drunk, (he did ask me to attend and everything was ok until he got drunk) then he kissed this girl i dont ...
A. 10 January 2010: It probably isn't cheating but what it definitely is though is selfish, rude and hurtful.
That's what your husband was unfortunately.
I hope he's very very sorry now. ... (read in full...)
I really love my best guy friend, now he's engaged and I don't know what to do.
Q. I'm afraid of losing my best guy friend. I've loved him forever and been afraid to tell him for fear of losing him, maybe just fear it wont be recepricated. We spend a lot of time together always have, I tell him almost everything, not this. He's ...
A. 10 January 2010: If it's worth it to you to not tell him in order to not lose him then don't tell him.
I don't see what you'll gain by telling him.
By your post i sense that this is tormenting you, but obviously not enough to take the risk.
By the way, i d... (read in full...)
Unsure of how to deal with my mother
Q. My parents have been divorced for about 15 years now and my relationship with my mother has always been rather rocky but I feel our problems have particularly escalated recently. It all started when I moved in with my boyfriend in Pennsylvania....
A. 28 December 2009: My mother is 81 now and what you describe i can relate to and lots more.
If this site had been available years ago i would have been posting here about my mum for sure.
In my experience my mum only got worse with age. If this happens to you, ... (read in full...)
How do I stop negative thinking and enjoy dating?
Q. When I first meet a guy I'm really confident. But if it goes to the next level, like going on a date, I start to get insecure! I always think that there is someone better out there for him and why is he wasting time with me? The guy I'm going out on ...
A. 28 December 2009: Hi, I hope this guy isn't thinking " why is she with me? " etc, otherwise nothings ever going to happen is it?
Reading your post, it comes across to me that you aren't really into this guy.
You are right that there will always be someone bette... (read in full...)
How much does he actually like me???
Q. How much does he actually like me??? I met a guy 3 months ago, we worked at the same place but he was just at my work for few weeks until we got another head chef. He is 23 and i am 26, i really liked him from the beginning and turned out he liked...
A. 28 December 2009: Hi hun. I think he likes you, but not as much as you like him right now.
Just relax and see what happens.
Chefs are usually like this, lol.
If you have a good time when you're together then that's great.
... (read in full...)
Commitment phobic boyfriend - do you have any experience with this?
Q. Hi, I think my boyfriend is a commitment phobe. Has anyone had any experience with this? How did you deal with it? I always thought it was something made up in the movies. Or that the guy just wasn't that into you. Anyone have experience with ...
A. 28 December 2009: I've been there and there's no magic key to change him.
Men don't have to commit these days cos they can get all their needs met without marriage.
Back in my mothers day, if a guy wanted to get laid he had to get married. Not so now.
If yo... (read in full...)
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