Boyfriend will not stop groping me in public!
Q. this is slightly, well very, embarrassing, I'm posting this out of sheer desperation, so please serious replies only! My boyfriend is um, rather disinihibited in public. This includes mainly groping my bum, breasts and talking about sex in ful...
A. 13 September 2009: Hi, i've been there and its absolutely mind boggling that after telling them to stop repeatedly they still continue.
It all came to a head one day in the cinema queue. After telling him again and him doing it again, i lost the plot with him and ... (read in full...)
I can't tell if he is just being friendly or wants more?
Q. My friend Rob and I have know each other for a year or more and he started out a long time ago acting nice and flirting. He used to have me listen to his music and watch videos on his ipod, I did a word search and he would write our names on it, ...
A. 13 September 2009: mention another guy that likes you and say your thinking of dating him and watch his reaction. You'll know for sure then. good luck x... (read in full...)
He only seems interested in the television and computer. Is this normal in a relationship?
Q. Good morning to all... I am writing for some advice or just another opinion outside of the one that I have within my relationship. I have been living with a man for nine months now and would like to think that my intentions are good. I do my ...
A. 12 September 2009: Hi there, I really feel for you. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Theres an old saying which goes.. when poverty comes through the door, love flies out the window. Seems to be a truth in your scenario. Sounds like your situation is ... (read in full...)
Friends and family are judging my guy on his appearance.
Q. Hi. Recently, I decided I'd introduce my boyfriend to my friends. I met him through the internet and we had an online relationship until we met some months ago. Of course all of them didn't believe such thing as internet relationships could ever ...
A. 12 September 2009: All that matters is YOU fancy him. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is torn between his wife and me
Q. When my boyfriend and I first met it was love at first sight. Not something I had ever believed in before especially at 28. After having our 1st date, he called and told me that he was separated with a daughter and going through a divorce. Not ...
A. 11 September 2009: Hi there, hope you're ok. I'm sorry to tell you this but it comes across to me that this guy is bulls*iting you. He is using his kid as an excuse to stay with his mrs. He probably enjoys the whole drama of it all. If he wanted to be with you f... (read in full...)
How long to wait around before moving on?
Q. I have been dating someone for about 7 months, the last 2 months has been less and less...I don't get return phone calls for days, we rarely see each other. We have never argued, when we are together we get along well, although there is a bit of ...
A. 11 September 2009: Hi there, At our time of life theres no point waiting around for him to get his act together. Tell him exactly how you are feeling and if you dont get the reponse you want, move on.
If my guy didnt get in touch for days he'd be gone and he knows... (read in full...)
My sister is having an affair. Should I tell her lovers wife.
Q. My sister has been having an affair for over a year now. They are both married although only content in their marriages. I want to reveal the affair to his wife but do not want to reveal my sister's identity because she has young children in the ...
A. 9 September 2009: Why do you want to do this to your own sister? I cannot understand you at all. Do you think you are the morality police, or are you jealous? Its outrageous you think its ok to do this, its absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it e... (read in full...)
I am seeing a wonderful man... so why am I so insecure?
Q. Hello, I am seeing a wonderful man, he is full of compliments and hugs and makes me feel great. So, why am I so insecure? He has a LIFE! lol.. he goes and does and stays busy and I sit and worry and am so afraid this wonderful thing we have ...
A. 9 September 2009: Hi there. Hope you're ok. Firstly i'd say that looks has nothing to do with anything.. Even Halle Berry has been cheated on. Second, my feeling is you put more eggs in the relationship basket than he does. You say hes got a life, well make ... (read in full...)
Perhaps I'm not such a good judge of character?? What do you think?
Q. I met a guy who is a friend of friend a few months back. We got on well even though he appeared quiet and reserved initially. Eventually we left the bar together, leaving our friends behind to go to another bar where we chatted for another 4 hours ...
A. 9 September 2009: Hiya honey, My heart goes out to you right now. I've been where you are, and as the old sayng goes " a guest for a while can see for a mile " Please believe me when i tell you, you've had a lucky escape!! I'm about ten years older than you s... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is very close with her ex's but wont let me meet them! Should this be a warning sign?
Q. My girlfriend of 7 months is very close with her ex husband and ex boyfriend even though they both left her, she considers them "good friends". She keeps her relationship with the both of them very seperate from our relationship and is insistant on ...
A. 4 September 2009: Sounds quite weird that she insists on keeping one foot in the pub all the time. Tread carefully with her. Is she a boozer? If the answers yes then run for the hills.. good luck... (read in full...)
Problems with my son since my husband passed away. Please help.
Q. Our eldest son is 15 and has gotten in the habit of borrowing my records without permission (it seems he likes Sixties music). While he was at school yesterday, I was looking for another album. I found two others in his room, so I started ...
A. 4 September 2009: Hi there. My dad died when i was 14 and i remember my mum looking through things i considered to be private and i still think of it with a shudder even now.
It all sounds perfectly harmless to me, just a guy with a giant crush. Relax mum x... (read in full...)
Is his cannabis really any worse than me having the occasional fag socially on a night out?
Q. Hi - really just looking for some opinions and advice. I've recently got back with my high school sweetheart after 5 years apart and everythin is gonig really well, however I've recently learned that he smoke cannais maybe once every one to two ...
A. 4 September 2009: Its fine as long as he's not doing it to excess,just like anything else, boozing or eating etc.... (read in full...)
Perhaps I'm not such a good judge of character?? What do you think?
Q. I met a guy who is a friend of friend a few months back. We got on well even though he appeared quiet and reserved initially. Eventually we left the bar together, leaving our friends behind to go to another bar where we chatted for another 4 hours ...
A. 4 September 2009: Hi there, I'm really sorry to tell you, but he's just not into you. I know if i was you it'd be the last thing i'd want to hear, but sadly this is the truth.
If he had wanted to see you he would've got your number. Shyness has nothing ... (read in full...)
Met the man of my dreams at the coffee shop...what do I do??
Q. The other day I met this guy who is the man of my dreams at a coffee shop. He stood there and stared at me for awhile,letting me look him in the eyes for a while, and than walked away. How do I know if he is coming back? Do I have to do anything...
A. 3 September 2009: you'll see him again if its meant to be.... (read in full...)
Was I rude to not check, or right to not lead her on?
Q. Hi there, I recently attended Reading festival (and had an amazing time!) and i was approached by a girl who couldn't find her friends on the first night and was lost. I lent her my phone to call her friends but she couldn't contact them so ...
A. 3 September 2009: Hi there, Thanks for helping that girl out at reading. I know how that feels cos i got lost at Glastonbury once, lol. You were there for her when she needed you. Please dont feel you owe her any more than that cos you dont. I'm sure she knows ... (read in full...)
I can't trust him... I really need help to control this obsessive behaviour!
Q. Please Help! Hi, I am having major problems trusting my boyfriend after he cheated and lied for the first year. We got together very soon after he broke up from a long term relationship...I think I should have been his rebound but we fell in love,...
A. 25 August 2009: Hi there, hope you're ok. My thoughts are these. You say you're always thinking about his ex. Stop thinking about her cos you're giving away your energy and power to her. Think about how great he's been lately and try and think positive thoughts ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfriend plan this baby? Can I trust her?
Q. Hello everyone. Im really not sure how to put this really but my gf and i are expecting a baby in early feb, but the thing is im becoming more worried about this as when we both found out i didn't want a child as really we havent been out that lon...
A. 21 August 2009: Hi, not quite sure i'm with you on this one mate. You say you found out she wasn't on the pill. Why didn't you put something on the end of it then? If you suspected this was what she was about you could've done something about it. You chose not to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is super paranoid about her health and I don't know how to handle it?
Q. For the last six weeks, my girlfriend has been experiencing pain around the entrance of her vagina when we make love. Because of something that happened around a year ago (she was treated for a cervical erosion) she thought it must have been the ...
A. 6 August 2009: She should get a second opinion. Doctors are not all knowing gods unfortunately. If i were her i'd be worried too. Sounds like you're being really good with her just be understanding and patient... (read in full...)
We work together and care for each other, married to others, she is being laid off, should I stay in touch?
Q. Help...I am a successful, 34 year old married man with three great kids. My 8 year marriage is average...fair share of arguing, not much sex, but happy kids and my wife and I get along about half of the time. Actually we are more like roommates at ...
A. 6 August 2009: Hi You know as well as i do that you shouldn't keep in touch. I bet you won't be able to help yourself though will you? First it'll be texts,then calls,then meeting in hotel rooms in the afternoons for wild and passionate love making. You'l... (read in full...)
For women 50 and upwards, I need ideas for a fragrance for my partner!
Q. ..... For the attention of women between 50 upwards.... What sort of fragrances do you think you like to wear in the evening? Other than "Lilly of the Valley", I would like to get my partner something a bit more different....
A. 6 August 2009: Beautiful by Elizabeth Arden or Cristalle by Chanel both classic fragrances ... (read in full...)
Are men instantly turned off because I'm not young and thin?
Q. I am 49 years old and single. I feel like there is not much hope for me in finding a guy who would be interested in me. I think age is against me, and the fact that it is harder and harder to stay in shape. I'm not that heavy--but definitely not ...
A. 31 July 2009: Every pan has a lid. I have male friends who love curvy girls,and find skinny women a real turn off. If you feel your too heavy then do something about it. FOR YOU and not to attract some guy. You do come across as a bit needy and guys really ... (read in full...)
Ways to deal with my aggressive mother...
Q. I'm bisexual and have been in a relationship with a guy for eight months now. I spend weekends at his, and make up excuses to my parents who are conservative and petrified/repulsed by homosexuals. To the point that any defence of homosexuality is ...
A. 31 July 2009: Have you thought about leaving home? I would make that my priority. I would rather live in an egg carton in the road than live with my mum again. Some people are just not cut out to be parents and its the kids that have to live with the ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for me to text her how I feel?
Q. There is this girl that I talk to every day and I love her but I don’t know how to tell her and when I finally decide to tell her I get scared of what she might say to me so I don’t tell her. Is it ok to like text her how I feel? I get scared ...
A. 31 July 2009: Hi, i know its the easy way out texting her,but speaking as a girl,i'd think you were a pussy if you couldn't speak to my face. If you think she likes someone else, then i'd wait till i had more info. good luck... (read in full...)
Her daughter is standing in the way of us taking it to the next level!
Q. Need opinions please. I’m a 47yr old male in great 3.5yr relationship with 50yr woman. The woman lives with her 27yr old daughter and I do not. The daughter smokes pot daily (moms more of a friend than a mom) has dead end job, never has had a car ...
A. 31 July 2009: Next level? I assume you mean move in together. After 3 and a half years i would've thought you would've had the, wheres our relationship going? conversation by now. If your gf is happy with the way things are and doesn't want to change you'll just ... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can completely get over him?
Q. Hi - I need help in getting over this guy. I have had an on and off crush on him for ages. Some of the time I feel like he's amazing and would so be the right person for me - but then other times he just infuriates me (he doesn't deliberately do ...
A. 31 July 2009: Hi there, you sound like a very together young lady. I reckon most of the ladies on dear cupid can relate to this post. I've got some news for you girlfriend, most men regardless of how nice they are will infuriate you at some time or another,lol. ... (read in full...)
Ways to deal with my aggressive mother...
Q. I'm bisexual and have been in a relationship with a guy for eight months now. I spend weekends at his, and make up excuses to my parents who are conservative and petrified/repulsed by homosexuals. To the point that any defence of homosexuality is ...
A. 31 July 2009: Hi there. Have we got the same mother,lol? My mom is exactly the same, everything you write i have experienced myself. I'm in my 40's and my mom is 81 and nothing has changed. I can't tell her anything about my life or relationships. Shes firmly ... (read in full...)
I've lied to my husband to see him just like he did to me.
Q. I have serious issues. I'm in my late 30's I've been married 2 years, been with my husbad for 7 total. We don't have any kids (thank God!). Before him I was in two consecutive 3 year relationships. I broke up with both of them. In each of those ...
A. 30 July 2009: Hi there, you must be in bits over all this. I have to say though that running into the arms of the next guy who you fancy is not the answer to anything. Sounds like you've just gone off your husband as well. Not to worry, there's no kids involved. ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my husband?
Q. After 32 years of reasonably happy marriage, I suspected my husband was messing around with another woman. I asked him what was going on he told me his feelings for me had changed. He had strong feelings for another woman and she felt the same. It ...
A. 30 July 2009: My heart goes out to you, you must be devastated after all this time. Its the oldest one in the world though isn't it. Married man making a fool of himself, while the wife is oblivious. Then he gets found out. What are your options now? Whats ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep pushing me away for other girls when we get on so well?!
Q. I really like this guy who I am friends with but hes not interested in me. Ive twice slept with him in the past but he made it clear he did not want a relationship so I left it at that but I stayed friends with him as we got on so well. Ive noticed ...
A. 29 July 2009: You can't make him want you, nobody can. Evan Halle Berry has been cheated on so i reckon looks have nothing to do with anything. Why do you want to give up your job for someone who is so cold to you? I feel only a girl who didn't like herself too ... (read in full...)
I am thinking of a divorce, I'm fed up with the lies!
Q. I'm seriously thinking of divorcing my husband. I'm tired of all the lies and deceit. Back in April I checked out an email account that both my husband and I have access to but I hadn't looked at in over a year. I was sickened by what I saw. My ...
A. 29 July 2009: Hi there, You've just restored my faith in dear cupid. A friend of mine is in the same situation here in England. She has to cancel plans with me and my other friend to tend to the never ending needs and wants of her husband. Shes very unhappy. This ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking that he stole money from me!
Q. I think my boyfriend may have stolen from me, but I can't prove it. Saturday night, I came home from my waitressing job and counted my earnings and put it all away very neatly in my wallet to take to the bank. The next day, a large bill was m...
A. 29 July 2009: Hi there, if you don't trust your gut instinct enough to leave him, your only other possibility is to set a trap and see if he falls into it. May take a little time but it'll stop you wondering.... (read in full...)
Why is he still in contact with his ex when she clearly is after him!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year. His ex won't stop texting him. They had an on /off relationship for 2 years where she cheated on him a lot and eventually got pregnant by somebody else. They split up nearly 8 months before we met. ...
A. 28 July 2009: Your feelings should be his number one priority. They seem to be no 3 on the list after himself and her. I feel Grimm Reality gave the definitive answer here. Listen up girl! Good luck x... (read in full...)
Do I let my son go and see his dad and hope he does not turn him away or do I let him and hope everything turns out ok?
Q. Last night me and my son were talking and out of the blue he announced that he wanted to see his dad for whom he has had no contact with for 2 years, it was his dad's decision not to see him, my son was deeply hurt by this but never showed it and i ...
A. 28 July 2009: Its a really awkward situation this. If you don't let him see his father, your son may build him up in his head into something he isn't and be even more devastated if he rejects him again in the future. My friends son whos 18 now has been in the ... (read in full...)
I feel sad he has done this to rub my face in it
Q. My recently married ex from 6 years ago contacted me to be a facebook friend. I thought it was just to clear the air from our messy breakup - instead i went on his profile and it was covered in wedding pictures and the picture had been updated just ...
A. 28 July 2009: You should rest assured today knowing you did the right thing spliting up with this tragic individual. He's someone else's problem now.. yippee! Do a little dance if you feel like it. What a loser he sounds like. ... (read in full...)
Problems with pornography!
Q. I have got a problem. Last thing I would ever have expected, but there you go… Pornography. Yeah-yeah, you’ve heard it all before, right… But listen. About 6 month ago I find porn on my married-for-a-long-time husband's computer. I try not to over ...
A. 28 July 2009: why not just watch porn together then? loads of people do with no problems.... (read in full...)
2 years on and I still haven't told him I kissed my ex. Should I?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 2 years nad love him dearly. When we were together 3 months I kissed my ex. It was a very brief kiss and I immediately knew it was a mistake. I didn't tell my boyfriend as I was petrified of losing him. He is amazing and ...
A. 28 July 2009: Don't tell him, it will achieve nothing. Your being tortured in your mind about this anyway so thats punishment enough in my view. Do yourself a favour and stop thinking about it. Telling him to unburden yourself will bring nothing good if you want ... (read in full...)
My wife only wants to goes out with her male gay friends and always comes home falling down drunk.
Q. I'm 27, my wife is 26 and she's been going out partying all the time with her friends. Most of the time it's her gay male friends, very seldom she goes out with her girlfriends. She won't ever go out with anyone other than these gay male friends. ...
A. 28 July 2009: Hi there. Firstly may i say there is nothing odd about having gay friends, or going out with gay men. Lots of women do it because they're great fun . Why don't you take her out somewhere with you one night instead, nothing to do with family. If ... (read in full...)
Please help me choose between two men - my ex or my fiance?
Q. Hi I am in a very tricky situation. I broke up with my boyfriend 6 months ago (who I had been engaged to). Soon after I met another guy. They are both very different which was great in helping me forget my ex to a degree. However I have s...
A. 28 July 2009: Neither of them. Seriously though, if you want to have a family go for kindness and consideration every time. You'll have to find ways to cope with the boredom aspect.... (read in full...)
How long do you give a guy to get over his fear of commitment?
Q. I'm going to try and make this a short story but apologize for length. Basically I'm a single mom and have been dating my boyfriend for 4.5 yrs and no committment. We don't see other people, we are monogamous. We broke up last April 20...
A. 28 July 2009: And the answer is - For as long as you can put up with it. Some people would say 5 years some 3 some 10, whatever. If you think its gone on long enough ,give him an ultimatum, but you have to be able to carry it through and call his bluff if ... (read in full...)
He won't see his daughter when shes menstruates!
Q. Hi there, I have been divorced for some years now and since my daughter started her period, her Dad has refused to see her the weekends she menstruates. I was wondering if any Father's or other Mother's have had the same experience so so...
A. 27 July 2009: Did he not see you when you were on your period? Is it all menstruating women or just your daughter? ... (read in full...)
His woman "friends" from the past keep coming out of the woodwork!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for one year now. Since then quite a few of his female "friends" from his past keep coming out of the woodwork, still. Some turned out that they had once been more than friends but because he calls them all friends, ...
A. 27 July 2009: Hi, i'm sure you'll be fine. He's doing as you ask at least and not leading a secret life emailing visiting and calling behind your back. At our time of life there's no such thing as a guy without a past, so men always come with some baggage. Trust ... (read in full...)
I am thinking of a divorce, I'm fed up with the lies!
Q. I'm seriously thinking of divorcing my husband. I'm tired of all the lies and deceit. Back in April I checked out an email account that both my husband and I have access to but I hadn't looked at in over a year. I was sickened by what I saw. My ...
A. 21 July 2009: No, of course you're not making too much of this. If this was my husband i'd never stop throwing up. I'd be curious to go to the joint session to see if hes so 'what's the big problem?' when talking to an outsider. What a total asshat he sounds. ... (read in full...)
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