Is it possible to be with someone who has someone else?
Q. Hi Pals,I want you to help me on this issues. I have a computer training school. I have many students both male and female that are learning computer. There was a girl in my school. The first day I set my eyes on her, I feel something deep for her. ...
A. 30 July 2012: You're about the same age, so I can see why this is bothering you. I don't think there is any harm in talking with her and telling her your thoughts and feelings. However, I would not do it if she is currently in a relationship with someone else. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be with someone who has someone else?
Q. Hi Pals,I want you to help me on this issues. I have a computer training school. I have many students both male and female that are learning computer. There was a girl in my school. The first day I set my eyes on her, I feel something deep for her. ...
A. 28 July 2012: How old is this girl? Is this computer school of yours a type of university or like college here in the states where someone pays for your services, or is she more like a high school student?
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Why does she do this to me? Even though she concurrently flirts with other guys?
Q. Well recently i started talking to this girl online, the online messaging was okay. We just chatted about normal things and she didnt seem to flirt too much, so i was not expecting much for our first meeting. So when we finally meet it was grea...
A. 27 July 2012: You weren't "in love" with the girl in middle school. You had a crush which is a short term infatuation with someone. Love takes time to build. You must spend time together and get to know everything good and bad about one another. You get to ... (read in full...)
I feel he doesn't care about me, anymore, and now he's just using me for his own pleasure.
Q. I have been married for 13 years... we have had or share of ups and downs. He has had PE and only got medication a few months ago. He helps me orgasm by other means. a month ago he woke me up at 2.00 am and aroused me and as i started responding ...
A. 26 July 2012: This is very strange behavior on his part. Have you tried talking to him about this? This is almost like abusive behavior to me. He is doing something to please you then takes it away? I would talk to him and see what he says. Could he be ... (read in full...)
Why does she do this to me? Even though she concurrently flirts with other guys?
Q. Well recently i started talking to this girl online, the online messaging was okay. We just chatted about normal things and she didnt seem to flirt too much, so i was not expecting much for our first meeting. So when we finally meet it was grea...
A. 26 July 2012: First of all, when you have ONE DATE with someone, it does not mean you are "DATING". It means you've had one date, you're getting to know one another, and the POSSIBILITY is there for more dates. But in no way, shape, or form does it mean you are ... (read in full...)
Do I continue to put up with his behaviour? Or not? He's Flirting, but not to me.
Q. hey :) small question i hope, so my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 10 months. Urm.. hes never been much of a flirt but we've both had some trust issues however i had a reason not to trust him because he betrayed me before, not ...
A. 26 July 2012: Is this an online relationship or a relationship in real life?
Online relationships are very difficult because they are online. You are not bonding through physical interaction and you are not interacting with one another in a real way. Online ... (read in full...)
How can I know if she likes me and what are the signs?
Q. Hey everyone here is my problem, two months ago I met this girl who is a friend of my cousin and I felt something when I first met her. We Started messaging and I got to know her well. I really like her now because of her personality and i think she ...
A. 26 July 2012: I would say that you need to find a way to spend time together. If you like someone, you won't let the fact you're busy get in the way. You must find the time to get together, so you can see if you're really compatible and like one another. Do ... (read in full...)
Ladies: What Keeps A Guy Out Your Friend Zone?
Q. I've noticed that some guys sabotage their own luck with women, and may not know it. What they do to woo a woman, can sometimes end up friendzoning him instead. Outside physical attraction (which may be outside your control), what things can a guy...
A. 26 July 2012: I agree that flirting is a must. Or, let her catch you looking at her body instead of her eyes. Touching is good too, but don't be too obvious. Brush up against her or lightly touch her hand or something. ... (read in full...)
Should I be with my husband knowing he belongs somewhere else?
Q. pls help be4 i make a mistake im madly in love with this man my husband and i been trying to make this right from the shock of his cheating that was found out 2 weeks after we got married he was still sleeping with his ex. i have tryed to heal ...
A. 26 July 2012: When you got married you did not sign up for sharing your man with another woman. Exactly what does he mean when he says "You'll be sorry"? This sounds like a threat. He should be telling you that he loves you, he wants the marriage, and he ... (read in full...)
I confided in my friend about my partner's cheating and now I feel like I crossed the line
Q. I'm in a situation, I found out my boyfriend had cheated on me but we agreed to work stuff out. As it was a year later I found out he confessed everything we confronted the situation spoke to a counceller. But before we did all this I found myself ...
A. 26 July 2012: Everyone needs someone to talk to when we go through traumatic things in our lives. You do too. I don't see that you did anything wrong.
You could be having feelings for this friend because he was there when you needed him, was a good listener... (read in full...)
Texting: What boundaries are acceptable?
Q. I was just curious what boundaries various people think is acceptable when it comes to texting, having a few issues in my relationship because of this at the moment. In my opinion when you get in bed together to watch tv etc phones should be left ...
A. 26 July 2012: I also agree with you and think you have some terrific advice here. Just because we have 24 access to people doesn't mean we should. We need to pay attention to the people who are right beside us instead of constantly texting others. I hate ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment with women to gain sexual experience even though I won't be dating them?
Q. Recently I was having a chat with a friend and the subject of my virginity came up. He ask why I still choose to keep it because girls our age aren't anymore. He got me thinking that when I do find a girlfriend that she would have slept with many ...
A. 26 July 2012: Here's the answer to your question...Yes, it's ok to go experiment with women. Why not. Go out and have all the sex you want, but you are under several delusions about women, which is probably why you haven't found a girl yet. You don't lump all ... (read in full...)
Do I tell friend what I seen?
Q. i've just seen my mate flirting with her best friend's boyfriend what do i do?...
A. 26 July 2012: I agree with all the aunts here. You need to stay out of this and let things happen as they happen. It could be harmless flirting...if it is...you will have made a major error by making a comment to someone about it. If it isn't harmless ... (read in full...)
After asking me to leave and uprooting my life, now b/f wants me to come back!
Q. hello, Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over two years. Recently he asked me to leave because he needed time to think about what he wanted. He has asked me to leave and come back various times in the past aswell. But this time i ...
A. 26 July 2012: You have done the right thing except I would not be so quick to invite him into your home. He has proved with his hot/cold and indecisive nature that he can't be trusted. Being together does not have to mean living together. He could still move ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be with someone who has someone else?
Q. Hi Pals,I want you to help me on this issues. I have a computer training school. I have many students both male and female that are learning computer. There was a girl in my school. The first day I set my eyes on her, I feel something deep for her. ...
A. 26 July 2012: None of what you said here really matters. What matters is that you are in a position of authority as her teacher and should not be asking her such personal questions. The answers are honestly none of your business. Why? Because not only is she ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to make a move?
Q. I previously wrote about a guy who gave me his number and I was wondering what I should do. Following your advice, I texted him last friday if he wanted to go out on sunday, he said he had something already planned but that he would like to meet up ...
A. 26 July 2012: As I was reading your post, several things came to mind.
#1--If you were really interested in the guy, why did you arrive "VERY late" to your meeting? To me, this shows a lack of respect for your date and yourself. A first date is a place to... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a bitch but I want to break up with him
Q. Its been three years with this guy. Im over it i'm done.i'm a senior in high school now I need to get my life together and I can't when i'm being held back because of him.I recently went to Paris and its changed my perspective on life and ...
A. 26 July 2012: You tell him that you don't think you should see each other anymore. You don't make excuses, you don't beat around the bush, you just tell him. There is no way to break up with someone without hurting him, but you don't hae to be mean about it. ... (read in full...)
Why does she do this to me? Even though she concurrently flirts with other guys?
Q. Well recently i started talking to this girl online, the online messaging was okay. We just chatted about normal things and she didnt seem to flirt too much, so i was not expecting much for our first meeting. So when we finally meet it was grea...
A. 26 July 2012: And I agree with Aunt Honesty...you don't tell ANY girl you love her on a first date. NO ONE will go out with you if you don't stop doing that. I absolutely love people, but even I do not want to hear someone loves me after just meeting them. You ... (read in full...)
Why does she do this to me? Even though she concurrently flirts with other guys?
Q. Well recently i started talking to this girl online, the online messaging was okay. We just chatted about normal things and she didnt seem to flirt too much, so i was not expecting much for our first meeting. So when we finally meet it was grea...
A. 26 July 2012: You only met her one time and already you are hurting? You just met the girl. You've been on one date. She returned your touches. She laughed at your jokes. She could do a lot better with her conversational skills, but what do you expect on a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a very close relationship with his ex, should I be worried or just accept it?
Q. Ok here it goes and thanks... This guy I'm seeing for about 3 months seems to have a very close relationship with his ex who's the mother of his two boys. They play hockey together 2-3 times a week, he works for her, then he goes to her house 1-...
A. 25 July 2012: If you would have said they take the kids one time a week or every few weeks to do something, I would think nothing of it. I would think they are doing something together for the kids. However, playing hockey 2-3 times per week, working together, ... (read in full...)
Am I being unnecesarily jealous or do I have a valid point about her fling from the past contacting her?
Q. Hi all, I'm hoping to receive some impartial advice on a problem I'm experiencing ATM. Been with my GF now for over a year and living with each other for a month. While on holiday it came to my attention that a guy she had 'fun' with between h...
A. 25 July 2012: And, for those who are analyzing the whole dynamic of your relationship with her and her relationship with him...this should not even be an issue! As her boyfriend, you should not have to analyze what her affiliation is with another man because ... (read in full...)
Am I being unnecesarily jealous or do I have a valid point about her fling from the past contacting her?
Q. Hi all, I'm hoping to receive some impartial advice on a problem I'm experiencing ATM. Been with my GF now for over a year and living with each other for a month. While on holiday it came to my attention that a guy she had 'fun' with between h...
A. 25 July 2012: People can talk this subject to death, but it all boils down to ONE thing. Men and women who have had romantic feelings/sexual feelings for one another cannot be friends. Sorry to those of you who disagree.
I could see an old friend contacti... (read in full...)
We agreed we would only watch porn together, but now I've found loads of porn sites on his computer and phone! How do I confront him about this?
Q. I have been in a few relationships where my boyfriends would watch porn. I had a very hard time with it at first because I felt that I wasn't good enough so they had to look elsewhere... I now have done more research and understand it more - so ...
A. 25 July 2012: I think a couple can use porn as you are describing, but the problem comes when one person is watching more than the other. I do not know how much porn your boyfriend watches, but to me, it's not different than anything else you can make a habit or ... (read in full...)
School found out I like my teacher and its all sorted, but my teacher is still avoiding me! How do I act next year to make things better?
Q. i'm a 14 year old teenager and i have this major crush still on a teacher and at the moment i have summer holidays ,nearly half way through and still feel the same way a lot of things happend last year he even found out because of a student and i ...
A. 25 July 2012: I also teach, so I can give you the teacher side of it. From our perspective, students who make romantic advancements towards us are nothing but a threat to our jobs. Regardless of whether we like you as students, we will avoid contact with any ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my ex still likes me even a year after breaking up or am I reading too much into it?
Q. Hello, Big question, I went through the most painful breakup of my life last year, it took me almost 12 months to stop crying on a semi-daily/monthly basis for him. I must admit I still cry for him once in a while but I now have a boyfriend and ...
A. 25 July 2012: I've been in the position where I fell in love with a man who was married. It was an emotional affair. It got to the point where he wanted to be "just friends" but then wanted to still flirt, communicate, and carry-on as normal. When people have ... (read in full...)
Good relationship or good sex?
Q. I always wanted the relationship, but is having better sex worth leaving? I love my bf with ALL my heart and we are both stable and mature enough to get married. but my friend wants to sleep with me, and unlike my low testosterone bf, this guy can ...
A. 25 July 2012: What do you think? Do you want a relationship where the two people really don't care about one another and have terrific sex. Or do you want a relationship where there is caring, trust, respect, etc?
Relationships aren't about making someone ... (read in full...)
This man wants to date with no strings attached
Q. man with bagage from last relationship just wants to hang out, no commitment, supper, movie, site seeing, sex and interrested in other women also what should i do?...
A. 25 July 2012: Don't put yourself through the emotional turmoil of a situation like this. How can you have all of those things, but no responsibility to one another? He would be using you and it isn't a good idea.... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but I get the feeling he's into me.
Q. I met up with an old friend, who has a new house and a new girlfriend, yet he invites me over every week in the evening when his gf is not there. Is he into me? Okay, the above was basically the cliff notes version. Here's a more elaborate descri...
A. 25 July 2012: Unless he breaks up with his girlfriend and tells you he wants a serious relationship with you, he is just playing games. None of this even matters really. He could be very much attracted to you, BUT HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND AND HAS NOT LEFT HER.
... (read in full...)
Could Dylan be the one?
Q. Lately I’ve been thinking about this guy, Dylan. We’d gone out on two dates back in February. It’d ended as quickly as it begun. He’d made it so easy for me to lose interest with all his talk about superheroes and comic books. I didn’t want to date ...
A. 25 July 2012: It sounds to me like you're preoccupied with wanting a boyfriend and have a major crush on Peter. Unless you want to wait for 8 more years, I would suggest you move on from Peter and try to find someone new. I understand you like him, but you ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment with women to gain sexual experience even though I won't be dating them?
Q. Recently I was having a chat with a friend and the subject of my virginity came up. He ask why I still choose to keep it because girls our age aren't anymore. He got me thinking that when I do find a girlfriend that she would have slept with many ...
A. 25 July 2012: No, your friend is not right. Who is he to say what the vast majority of women do with their bodies. I was 26 before I lost my virginity and wish I would have kept it then. I slept with a guy twice before he went to college and I never saw him ... (read in full...)
Why is this man asking me to marry him when he already has a wife and kids?
Q. I met a man online a couple of years ao and I soon found out that he has a family( is married but has not slept with his wife in a loooooomg time because she has gained weight and they also bicker way too much)) so I told him I just wanted to be ...
A. 25 July 2012: If you were an excuse for him to leave her he would have done so already. You've been talking online for two years. How in the world could you even think about accepting a proposal from a MARRIED MAN? He's already married!
You should be a lot... (read in full...)
Can you tell the difference between a lie and the truth? Did this woman sleep with my man?
Q. *I need some ones help please* im in a really horrible place right now in my head and i need someone point view and help on my situation,it would be greatly appreciated. ok so im 24 yrs old and have been with my boyfriend for almost...
A. 25 July 2012: And as you can tell...I totally disagree with the other two aunts. Your boyfriend has given you NO reason to mistrust him. His story checked out. Everyone has a past and he does too...regardless of what it is. If he liked the chick, he'd be ... (read in full...)
Can you tell the difference between a lie and the truth? Did this woman sleep with my man?
Q. *I need some ones help please* im in a really horrible place right now in my head and i need someone point view and help on my situation,it would be greatly appreciated. ok so im 24 yrs old and have been with my boyfriend for almost...
A. 25 July 2012: Ok, first of all, you should not be contacting other women to accuse them of doing things with your boyfriend. Other women are none of your concern. YOUR BOYFRIEND and his activities are your concern.
Before I start, I want to preface this com... (read in full...)
Am I his friend or is there something more?
Q. Confused. Am I his friend or is there something more?! Me and my best friend have admitted to falling in love with eachother (when drunk) But I always ask him to tell me sober but he doesn't. Most nights I'll go to his, and despite sexual ...
A. 25 July 2012: You have said nothing positive about this guy or your experiences with him at all. You are always drunk when you are talking about feeling. This is bad. Why aren't you ever sober? This would be the ideal. He is always grinding on other girls. ... (read in full...)
I am upset that I am being criticized for my parenting!
Q. My daughter is about to be a year old next week and does not walk nor try to. She just crawls and she goes to the furniture and stands up on it. She was born 2 months premature and her doctor always said that some things she might do a little bit ...
A. 25 July 2012: No offense, but it sounds like you are surrounded by ignorant and inconsiderate people. Anyone who knows anything about babies knows they do things in their own time (just like you said). Of course we can help them, but we can't MAKE babies do ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering how my married lover can lead a double life!
Q. This question is directed more towards the experts in the field of infidelity because I'm really curious as to how she can live with herself. What gets me is how some of her peers and co-workers perceive her to be this classy upstanding woman...
A. 25 July 2012: I know the type very well. Upstanding citizen, great-all-around-guy, church every Wednesday and Sunday, on every board he can be on around the city, had two kids and a wife at home, and still had time to see me and email me. It was an emotional ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my ex still likes me even a year after breaking up or am I reading too much into it?
Q. Hello, Big question, I went through the most painful breakup of my life last year, it took me almost 12 months to stop crying on a semi-daily/monthly basis for him. I must admit I still cry for him once in a while but I now have a boyfriend and ...
A. 24 July 2012: I think Anon needs to look at this realistically. He may be calling you pet names and saying he misses your body, may miss you like crazy, he may still be in love with, and on and on. BUT, HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND and I believe he has crossed the line ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my ex still likes me even a year after breaking up or am I reading too much into it?
Q. Hello, Big question, I went through the most painful breakup of my life last year, it took me almost 12 months to stop crying on a semi-daily/monthly basis for him. I must admit I still cry for him once in a while but I now have a boyfriend and ...
A. 24 July 2012: You didn't trust each other when you broke up. Now he is flirting with you and has a girlfriend. Has much changed? I don't think he is much to be trusted now either. For me personally, I would not try to be friends as you are still enamored with ... (read in full...)
I don't if I should start a long distance relationship, because I fear boredom with no physical contact is just gonna kill attraction or do I begin a relationship and hopefully keep it going?
Q. So I started talking to this girl on and off after meeting her at a rave, but the conversations were just mutual and friendly, like to hang out soon. So after a while I haven't heard from her and we met again at a rave and everything changed. We ...
A. 24 July 2012: Leaving for 3 months is a lot different than moving to Europe to go to college or moving there permanently. I say you just see what develops. There is no harm in getting to know her and if it develops into something more, you can make it work for ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my ex still likes me even a year after breaking up or am I reading too much into it?
Q. Hello, Big question, I went through the most painful breakup of my life last year, it took me almost 12 months to stop crying on a semi-daily/monthly basis for him. I must admit I still cry for him once in a while but I now have a boyfriend and ...
A. 24 July 2012: Like Aunt Honesty, I would like to know why you broke up in the first place. I understand you love the guy and you aren't over him. We've all been there and done this before.
My response back to him would be "If you are still with so-and-s... (read in full...)
I need to move forward but don't want to hurt my husband
Q. The one thing that is so diff. B/w me and My husband is he wants material things to make him happy. Always has. Yet these things just create more work for him that stresses him. I get happy from the close moments doing nothing that requires $. My ...
A. 24 July 2012: Maybe YOU should see a counselor without him then? I know you have children, so you would have to find a sitter or work around their schedules, but it could help both of you if you went. Just a suggestion.... (read in full...)
My friend hit on me and now she's angry because I rebuffed her advance!
Q. is she still angry cuz she still has heavy feelings for me and she knows she'll never have me in the manner that she wants me, otherwise i dont know why she wont speak too me. i had this friend who came out the closet...that didn't bother me...
A. 24 July 2012: If she was your friend, she would have approached you with the idea that you would probably turn her down. Doesn't she know you well enough to know you like men?
If I was in this situation, I would let it go. Life is too short to waste on peopl... (read in full...)
I adore everything about him but his height turns me off!!
Q. After a break up, I met this guy that ive been friends with for about 9 months now. During the first 4 months we got a little physical but we did not have sex. I adore everything about him but his height turns me off so much. He's as tall as me and ...
A. 24 July 2012: It all depends on you and what you want. If you really liked him, height and other physical tihngs would not matter much. Date who you prefer and do not lead anyone on.... (read in full...)
I got pregnant and had an abortion and the guy accused me of forcing myself on him and said that I had got pregnant on purpose. I'm crushed..
Q. I am 25 years old I know that I don't have the greatest self esteem, and I've never had a boyfriend ever. All of my friends have had someone who is willing to be in a relationship with them and call them their girlfriend. I have never had that, no ...
A. 24 July 2012: To be blunt, the guy you slept with is emotionally abusive and an immature jerk. Why would you get prenant on purpose only to have to endure an abortion?
We all make poor choices. Your choice in this guy was not a very good one. There are men ... (read in full...)
I need to move forward but don't want to hurt my husband
Q. The one thing that is so diff. B/w me and My husband is he wants material things to make him happy. Always has. Yet these things just create more work for him that stresses him. I get happy from the close moments doing nothing that requires $. My ...
A. 24 July 2012: After your latest post, I think some form of counseling would be your best option. I have to be honest, I tend to let life's stresses get to me also...especially with my job. I do not completely shut down, but I recognize that I change during the ... (read in full...)
I need to move forward but don't want to hurt my husband
Q. The one thing that is so diff. B/w me and My husband is he wants material things to make him happy. Always has. Yet these things just create more work for him that stresses him. I get happy from the close moments doing nothing that requires $. My ...
A. 23 July 2012: Sorry, we are just trying to understand. We can't give very good advice if we don't fully understand the situation. If your husband is lost spiritually and emotionally numb due to his upbringing, it sounds like maybe the two of you should try ... (read in full...)
I need to move forward but don't want to hurt my husband
Q. The one thing that is so diff. B/w me and My husband is he wants material things to make him happy. Always has. Yet these things just create more work for him that stresses him. I get happy from the close moments doing nothing that requires $. My ...
A. 23 July 2012: Sorry, we are just trying to understand. We can't give very good advice if we don't fully understand the situation. If your husband is lost spiritually and emotionally numb due to his upbringing, it sounds like maybe the two of you should try ... (read in full...)
I need to move forward but don't want to hurt my husband
Q. The one thing that is so diff. B/w me and My husband is he wants material things to make him happy. Always has. Yet these things just create more work for him that stresses him. I get happy from the close moments doing nothing that requires $. My ...
A. 23 July 2012: I am not sure what the question is. Are you saying that your husband will not conform to your philsophy, so you want out of your marriage?
Your husband is like many people and wants to enjoy material things during his time here on the planet. ... (read in full...)
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