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My ex and her friends have turned my new girlfriends life into a living hell

Q.   Okay so I dated this girl for a while and we even got engaged. We broke up because I made a horrible mistake. I wasn’t attracted to her and I didn’t love her, I proposed because I thought it was the right thing to do. When I realized that it was ...

A.   1 August 2012: You need to stop talking to, texting, emailing, and any other form of communicating should stop. You don't tell her you don't want to talk to her, you just stop talking to her. You should also block her on any social networking sites. Getting any ... (read in full...)

I want to know how to gain my jailbird boyfriend's forgiveness!

Q.   I was friends with this guy for the last two years, he helped me out when I was in difficulties and needed emotional support. We were close friends plus I thought he was gorgeous and was very attracted to him. A year ago he was sent to prison for ...

A.   1 August 2012: You didn't care much about him to begin with if you had a relationship and then cheated on him while he was in jail. I can't see that you care much if you cheated and then didn't contact him for a month, but then, how can you possibly have a ... (read in full...)

We had a very emotional and nasty breakup and haven't spoken since.

Q.   My ex-girlfriend and I dated inconsistently for over three years. We also lived together for most of that time period. Throughout that time period, we had some rocky times, but also some amazing ones. However, the major problems were her twin ...

A.   1 August 2012: Why does any of these stories even matter? She showed you who she was the first time, it's up to you to believe her. If someone is signing up for "Casual Encounters" when she is supposed to be a girlfriend to you, I'd think that would be enough of ... (read in full...)

I'm tired of being the guy that every girl falls back on after their relationships don't work out

Q.   Hi there everyone! I'm the guy that every girl falls back on after their relationships don't work out, or when something upsets them. I'm only talked to when it's convenient for others. One specific case has been bothering me lately however.....

A.   31 July 2012: If you don't like being this guy, then don't be this guy. You have the full and complete power to tell the girls you're busy and move on. Like Abella said, get some new hobbies. You do sound like a great guy, but that is probably why you shou... (read in full...)

Do you think he is blowing me off?

Q.   I am in my mid twenties. I have been on about 5 dates with someone who I met online and things seemed to be going really well..a good pace, good momentum..we text, talk almost every night..I didn't feel that anxiety too much wondering if he is go...

A.   31 July 2012: When someone has an extremely stressful week at work, it is ok not to see one another as long as there is still communication and connection, and each person is aware that there will not be much together time. Also, despite being "busy", when a p... (read in full...)

Blown off once again... WTF?

Q.   Hi Everyone! I've been best friends with this girl in my class for about a year now. She's someone I had a big crush on a few years back but eventually realized what kind of guys she likes... a kind of guy that I could never be lol. So... I...

A.   31 July 2012: Abella has given you an excellent response. It sounds like she is into her drugs more than she is you. I personally would cut off contact from her. If you have tried time after time to ask her out with no success, it's time to call it quits. I ... (read in full...)

Do I chase the girl I'm sleeping with's affections or give up?

Q.   Do I chase the girl I'm sleeping with's affections or give up? I've been sleeping with possibly my best friend of the last 6months for a week or so and we've been hanging out and snuggling in bed etc. I asked her if she wanted to do a proper date ...

A.   31 July 2012: How many times have you asked her on a proper date and been turned down? I would ask her if she's interested in dating you or if she's interested in someone else. In the meantime, stop sleeping with her. You're just making the situation more ... (read in full...)

Relationship Help... PLEASE!

Q.   I find pictures of other woman on my boyfriends emails... some that he secretly took on his phone.... not only that... But i found some photos of him wearing all girls clothes... several of them... What does all of this mean? Please help... w...

A.   31 July 2012: You need to tell him exactly what you told us, and ask him what it's all about. You also need to explain your feelings. Some will tell you the naked pictures are ok and that they are no different than porn. I'm not going to tell you that. I... (read in full...)

Am I reading too much into things?

Q.   How do you ever know if a guy likes you (but is too afraid to tell you) or just cares for you as a friend? I have a guy friend whom I've known for two years. He's helped me a lot and been through a lot with me. One day he suddenly texted "I like you ...

A.   31 July 2012: When a guy says "he likes you very much" that means he is romantically interested in you. If you are not ready for another romantic relationship, I wouldn't be saying it back. I am confused when you say that after he told you he liked you that... (read in full...)

Does he still want this to continue?

Q.   Hi Aunts. This is about a married man i have been seeing for about 7yrs, No judgements please,but i would like you insight on this He knows that i love him but he will only say to me,you know my situation,I can't give you more than i do,but obvious...

A.   31 July 2012: Of course he wants it to continue, but he is not going to leave his wife and that was what he was trying to explain to you. If you are content with getting what he can give and settling for being second best, then you are in the right situation. ... (read in full...)

I love him, but he treats me so bad.

Q.   Hey everyone, so, I've got a big issue here. I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now, and, I love him to pieces. But, recently, he's been treating me so horribly. Recently meaning 2 months ago he started this habit. He's just flat out an ...

A.   31 July 2012: I am very sorry you have fallen for someone who abuses you, but you must get away from him and start reprogramming your mind. Deep down he is NOT sweet. Deep down he is anything BUT sweet. You need to take off the rose-colored glasses and see ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to be with someone who has someone else?

Q.   Hi Pals,I want you to help me on this issues. I have a computer training school. I have many students both male and female that are learning computer. There was a girl in my school. The first day I set my eyes on her, I feel something deep for her. ...

A.   30 July 2012: You're about the same age, so I can see why this is bothering you. I don't think there is any harm in talking with her and telling her your thoughts and feelings. However, I would not do it if she is currently in a relationship with someone else. ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend tells me now that she never liked doing sexual things and only did them to make me happy!

Q.   Well I'm mainly just wondering if I should be telling my girlfriend sorry? Or expressing my draining trust in her? The problem emerged quite recently when she told me that she didn't like talking about sex and that she wanted to wait longer for it. ...

A.   30 July 2012: I wouldn't be sorry, but this would definitely give me something to think about. It looks like she really wants to please you. That is good. The bad thing is, she doesn't have enough self-respect to say "no" if she's uncomfortable with it. Maybe ... (read in full...)

I am crushing on a famous person, and I want to stop!

Q.   Okay, so this is going to sound beyond crazy, but I don't know what to do. Please don't laugh.. So, I really, really kind of like a guy, but the problem with it is, he's famous, and I've never met him. He's a rapper, and I absolutely love his...

A.   30 July 2012: This is absolutely normal. In fact, I know 50-year-old women who have crushes on famous people and go bananas over them. Have fun with it and don't take yourself too seriously. Most of us never have a chance with someone famous but that is why a ... (read in full...)

It broke my heart and I cried my eyes out!

Q.   Okay I've never done this before and don't know where to even begin. The other night I did something stupid and went through my boyfriends msgs on facebook. We've been together for just over 5 weeks. We have just started renting a property in both ...

A.   30 July 2012: You cannot trust this man. I don't care what excuse he gives you, or how much he says he loves you, he doesn't. If he did, he would not be communicating with anyone in this manner. Do not continue living with him. In fact, I would pack my bags ... (read in full...)

I'm tired of doing all the work! Why doesn't my b/f initiate anything?

Q.   My boyfriend of a year and a half almost never initiates anything. He hardly ever bothers to make plans with me in advance anymore. Sometimes he will say, ok I am picking you up. But otherwise it is me making plans for us. And sometimes he will just ...

A.   30 July 2012: I agree. You should simply stop doing everything in the relationship. The problem is...you have probably trained him quite well that you will take the lead in planning everything and he does not have to do anything. When you stop calling,... (read in full...)

Fallen in love with my teacher. What should I do? She looks at me too.

Q.   i am 13 year old girl and have fallen in love with my new german teacher ( she is female) i think she knows because in an asemberly all my frends said she was looking at me and when me and my freinds and i were sat out side and she kept lookin at us ...

A.   30 July 2012: If you say ANYTHING to her that is inappropriate and not school related, she can and will report you to school authorities. When students make passes at a teacher, it is a threat to the teacher's job and reputation. It is not flattering. You have ... (read in full...)

My feelings for him are strong. His actions indicate he doesn't care. What should I do?

Q.   I know i need to split up with my boyfriend, he is constantly out with his friends even though he has no job. We have a child together and when he is out im stuck in the house myself with no one to speak to, it has gotten so bad that it has driv...

A.   29 July 2012: You are not feeling "clingy". You are feeling what any normal woman would feel concerning the man she loves. You love him and want to be with him. The problem is...he has decided otherwise. It is ok for feelings to flood back, but you must sta... (read in full...)

He was mean to me. Sent me dirt nasty text. So I did something he called spiteful. Was I wrong to do that?

Q.   Two months ago I met this guy at the birthday party. He seems nice and we exchaged phone numbers! We met three times, and afterward I tried to avoid him (i thought he was difficult and feel like all he wants is just have sex!) And here's a deal...

A.   28 July 2012: Yep, YouWish hit the nail on the head. You like this type of negative attention, not only from men, but also from women. How do we know? You keep arguing and seeking out attention here. As for the ones I've met (and Cerberus you may be the exce... (read in full...)

Is it possible to be with someone who has someone else?

Q.   Hi Pals,I want you to help me on this issues. I have a computer training school. I have many students both male and female that are learning computer. There was a girl in my school. The first day I set my eyes on her, I feel something deep for her. ...

A.   28 July 2012: How old is this girl? Is this computer school of yours a type of university or like college here in the states where someone pays for your services, or is she more like a high school student? ... (read in full...)

He's committed to me. FWB without the sex. So what do we have? And am I being too clingy?

Q.   I have been with a guy for 5.5 years now. We are both 21 right now. we dated the first 2 years and then we broke up because of something one of my friends at the time told me he was doing. I later found out she lied. He said sorry many many man...

A.   28 July 2012: How can you be FWBs if you aren't having sex? The only definition of FWBs that I know is two people who agree to have sex, but have no other components of a good relationship/friendship. Let me get this straight. So, at some point some girl ann... (read in full...)

He was mean to me. Sent me dirt nasty text. So I did something he called spiteful. Was I wrong to do that?

Q.   Two months ago I met this guy at the birthday party. He seems nice and we exchaged phone numbers! We met three times, and afterward I tried to avoid him (i thought he was difficult and feel like all he wants is just have sex!) And here's a deal...

A.   28 July 2012: As far as guys learning their lessons, I have never known too many guys in the 15-30 age group that ever learn their lessons. If they've been brought up thinking these thing are "ok" or "funny" to say, they usually continue on...finding someone who ... (read in full...)

He was mean to me. Sent me dirt nasty text. So I did something he called spiteful. Was I wrong to do that?

Q.   Two months ago I met this guy at the birthday party. He seems nice and we exchaged phone numbers! We met three times, and afterward I tried to avoid him (i thought he was difficult and feel like all he wants is just have sex!) And here's a deal...

A.   28 July 2012: Why would that make a difference? OP, you need to learn not to be so thinned-skinned. If a commment like this offends you, you'd better prepare for when you get out in the real world as it sounds like you aren't there yet. Like someone else said, ... (read in full...)

He was mean to me. Sent me dirt nasty text. So I did something he called spiteful. Was I wrong to do that?

Q.   Two months ago I met this guy at the birthday party. He seems nice and we exchaged phone numbers! We met three times, and afterward I tried to avoid him (i thought he was difficult and feel like all he wants is just have sex!) And here's a deal...

A.   28 July 2012: It's petty because you have an immature view of things. If someone offends you, you walk away and maintain your own dignity and self-respect. You don't further engage and/or provoke them. If you thought the guy was difficult to begin with, you ... (read in full...)

He was mean to me. Sent me dirt nasty text. So I did something he called spiteful. Was I wrong to do that?

Q.   Two months ago I met this guy at the birthday party. He seems nice and we exchaged phone numbers! We met three times, and afterward I tried to avoid him (i thought he was difficult and feel like all he wants is just have sex!) And here's a deal...

A.   28 July 2012: What makes the difference? If the guy means nothing to you, let him be. I've heard worse propositions than the one he gave you, and I walked in the other direction never giving the guys a minute of my time again. What he said was rude, but your ... (read in full...)

I Am Just Fed Up With My Husband...!!!

Q.   Hello Everyone... I am 25years old and my husband is 30years old,we are married for 6years now and have two kidz who is 5years old and 1year and 4months old..I am not happy at all in my marriage,It seems it was the biggest mistake of my li...

A.   28 July 2012: With all due respect, if you are so unhappy, why are you continuing to have children with this man? Is sex the only thing you are having trouble with? Is he generally a good husband and father? The first thing you need to do is have a serious ... (read in full...)

If my ex Gf breaks No Contact, is she just checking up on me?

Q.   Been in a relationship for 8 months. Month ago we got into heated discussion over something silly which resulted in break-up. Over next two weeks I tried to talk to her. It was not on a daily basis but rather every 3-4 days with no contact in ...

A.   27 July 2012: If you still like her and hope to possibly get back with her, then you need to answer her texts. If you are happy with the break-up, then ignore the texts. You NEVER ignore a girl's texts if you are interested in her. Most girls do not like men ... (read in full...)

Do girls masturbate?

Q.   hi i reacently talked to a good friend whos a girl and she addmited to me this got me wondering.... do other girls masturbate too?...

A.   27 July 2012: Yep, absolutely. Like one of the posts said...some do and some don't. I think some people (not just girls or guys) grow up thinking it is somehow wrong or dirty, so they either don't do it or repress themselves. It's kind of unfortunate in that ... (read in full...)

Text I need help figuring this guy out and where our relationship going.

Q.   I need help figuring this guy out and where our relationship or whatever you want to call it is going. We have known each other for years because I used to date his close friend but we never really talked much. About a month ago we started ...

A.   27 July 2012: If you don't want to be just a text buddy, then ask him out. I am not sure why you've waited this long anyway. As far as this person and that person not wanting you to be together...are you going to listen to what other people say when it comes to ... (read in full...)

I'm in a bad situation with my husband and really need some advice!

Q.   Okay so I'm legally married, my husband in the past has hit me before and is extremely verabally abusive. We have an 2 year child together, I decided I wanted out of the marriage for my daughters sake because she can already tell how he treats me ...

A.   27 July 2012: I am trying to understand how it is legal that he has put an order on you that no one of the opposite sex can see your daughter. That does not make sense to me. So, let's say your daughters go to school and have male teachers? I would contact the ... (read in full...)

Text How do you know when to let go and move on from a relationship?

Q.   How do you know when to let go and move on from a relationship or when to stay with it and move forward? Lots of positives in the relationship, but there are trust issues and I'm learning that we don't communicate well- I don't think he "fights ...

A.   27 July 2012: If you are miserable in the relationship and find you are having few moments of happiness and joy, it is time to move on. If he doesn't seem to understand you or fight fair, he probably won't ever change. If he was communicating with you, I w... (read in full...)

I love him, but he treats me so bad.

Q.   Hey everyone, so, I've got a big issue here. I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now, and, I love him to pieces. But, recently, he's been treating me so horribly. Recently meaning 2 months ago he started this habit. He's just flat out an ...

A.   27 July 2012: If your boyfriend is being disrespectful, I would just tell him that you don't like how you're being treated and you're leaving. It sounds like he is either emotionally abusive or being a jerk on purpose to get you to leave. Don't cheat on... (read in full...)

Love, virginity, scared. How do I deal with my fears about losing my virginity with my BF?

Q.   So I'm a virgin a complete utter virgin, but I think I might be too childish or I am thinking too childish about sex. My body is telling me it wants to but my head is saying different. I'm not scared of having sex, I'm just scared of what my ...

A.   27 July 2012: I agree with some of the other posts. When the time is right, you will know it and want it. It isn't right for you yet. That is nothing to be ashamed of and it certainly isn't anything for which you must apologize. When the time is right, you ... (read in full...)

My ex is stalking me, calling me in the middle of the night and has even threatened to kill himself. What am I supposed to do?

Q.   Hi I recently posted a question regarding my ex threatening to die if I did not patch up with him. When I met up with him the other day to talk things over things got so bad I told him if he meant what he said I was going to report him to the ...

A.   27 July 2012: You do not go back with someone threatening to kill himself. He is controlling you and this is very serious. Do not answer texts, do not answer phone calls, do not email. If he comes to your house, you don't answer the door. It he tries beating ... (read in full...)

Do I agree to see him when he never responded back to my text?

Q.   I met someone from online and we have been out on about 5 dates..things were going at a good momentum and we were pretty much in contact each day whether through phone or text. He has a different type of job where his schedule varies. He has shown ...

A.   27 July 2012: First of all, guys do not get "hints", so whatever you want to say, you just need to say it. If he's been studying and taking exams, he probably IS exhausted. I agree that he should still at least call and tell you what is going on and then tell ... (read in full...)

Why does she do this to me? Even though she concurrently flirts with other guys?

Q.   Well recently i started talking to this girl online, the online messaging was okay. We just chatted about normal things and she didnt seem to flirt too much, so i was not expecting much for our first meeting. So when we finally meet it was grea...

A.   27 July 2012: You weren't "in love" with the girl in middle school. You had a crush which is a short term infatuation with someone. Love takes time to build. You must spend time together and get to know everything good and bad about one another. You get to ... (read in full...)

He's unwilling to commit to me. Any suggestions or ways to encourage commitment from a guy?

Q.   I need help... I love this man and he loves me. We do really care about each other trully. I want to be with him only. We've been "dating" for 6 mos now. But he wont make any commitment to me. Im not asking for a wedding ring just a standard re...

A.   27 July 2012: He may not be willing to commit to you because of his addiction issues. Is this really someone you want to be with? Is this someone you really want to commit to? I agree with Aidan. If he won't commit for whatever reason, you are best to move ... (read in full...)

Love, virginity, scared. How do I deal with my fears about losing my virginity with my BF?

Q.   So I'm a virgin a complete utter virgin, but I think I might be too childish or I am thinking too childish about sex. My body is telling me it wants to but my head is saying different. I'm not scared of having sex, I'm just scared of what my ...

A.   27 July 2012: If you're with your boyfriend and you are not sure about having sex yet...don't do it. You need to discuss this with him and if he cares about you, he will wait. To me, you don't even have to have an excuse why. You're not ready, so you don't do ... (read in full...)

Now I'm in this predicament. But does he still love this other girl? Or is he just a player?

Q.   My boyfriend (21) has told me he has had 3 past girlfriends (N, G, M) and that he's had sex with only 2 of them and he doesnt even remember who he fucked G or M. Those supposedly are the only girls he has had sex with and also the first girl he lost ...

A.   27 July 2012: Things I'm thinking while reading your post: #1-Why did she have sex with someone who had so many previous sexual partners and why did she sleep with this guy that obviously cannot be trusted? #2-Why did she have sex with this guy she cannot t... (read in full...)

How can I heal his heart?

Q.   My bf's first gf i.e A broke his heart so he has been playing with the feelings of girls since then, A and i have become good friends and she told me she was the one who broke my guy's heart because she isn't in love with him but with someone and ...

A.   26 July 2012: If he is denying he is with you, your "boyfriend" isn't over the other woman yet. You need to have a serious talk with him. It's not fair to you to keep stringing you along if he isn't interested in you. Like Cerberus said...YOU can't heal som... (read in full...)

I feel he doesn't care about me, anymore, and now he's just using me for his own pleasure.

Q.   I have been married for 13 years... we have had or share of ups and downs. He has had PE and only got medication a few months ago. He helps me orgasm by other means. a month ago he woke me up at 2.00 am and aroused me and as i started responding ...

A.   26 July 2012: This is very strange behavior on his part. Have you tried talking to him about this? This is almost like abusive behavior to me. He is doing something to please you then takes it away? I would talk to him and see what he says. Could he be ... (read in full...)

Why does she do this to me? Even though she concurrently flirts with other guys?

Q.   Well recently i started talking to this girl online, the online messaging was okay. We just chatted about normal things and she didnt seem to flirt too much, so i was not expecting much for our first meeting. So when we finally meet it was grea...

A.   26 July 2012: First of all, when you have ONE DATE with someone, it does not mean you are "DATING". It means you've had one date, you're getting to know one another, and the POSSIBILITY is there for more dates. But in no way, shape, or form does it mean you are ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to be with someone who has someone else?

Q.   Hi Pals,I want you to help me on this issues. I have a computer training school. I have many students both male and female that are learning computer. There was a girl in my school. The first day I set my eyes on her, I feel something deep for her. ...

A.   26 July 2012: None of what you said here really matters. What matters is that you are in a position of authority as her teacher and should not be asking her such personal questions. The answers are honestly none of your business. Why? Because not only is she ... (read in full...)

Why does she do this to me? Even though she concurrently flirts with other guys?

Q.   Well recently i started talking to this girl online, the online messaging was okay. We just chatted about normal things and she didnt seem to flirt too much, so i was not expecting much for our first meeting. So when we finally meet it was grea...

A.   26 July 2012: And I agree with Aunt Honesty...you don't tell ANY girl you love her on a first date. NO ONE will go out with you if you don't stop doing that. I absolutely love people, but even I do not want to hear someone loves me after just meeting them. You ... (read in full...)

Why does she do this to me? Even though she concurrently flirts with other guys?

Q.   Well recently i started talking to this girl online, the online messaging was okay. We just chatted about normal things and she didnt seem to flirt too much, so i was not expecting much for our first meeting. So when we finally meet it was grea...

A.   26 July 2012: You only met her one time and already you are hurting? You just met the girl. You've been on one date. She returned your touches. She laughed at your jokes. She could do a lot better with her conversational skills, but what do you expect on a ... (read in full...)

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