Mixed signals from ex are really confusing me.
Q. A confusing scenario, probably simply answered by you guys, and girls, one of my ex girlfriends, who absolutely without a doubt does not want to be with me any longer, has moved on, but shows up when her and her mom or her boyfriend get into an ...
A. 28 August 2012: You need to be honest with her and come clean about your intentions. If you want more, then you tell her you want more.
That said, if she says she doesn't want anything but friendship, you need to stop the snuggling and sleep-overs.
And lik... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from ex are really confusing me.
Q. A confusing scenario, probably simply answered by you guys, and girls, one of my ex girlfriends, who absolutely without a doubt does not want to be with me any longer, has moved on, but shows up when her and her mom or her boyfriend get into an ...
A. 24 August 2012: There are some people in life who will perplex and confuse you continually...if you allow them. All I was saying is that if this situation confuses you, and she will not provide you with any satisfactory answers, you are either going to be stuck in ... (read in full...)
Long distance stringing along?
Q. Met a guy 6 months ago, he knew I was moving West in a few months he fell in lone with me and I fell for him too. We spent 4 months together every night then I left for Nevada. We are 1700 miles apart he calls or web cam daily, says he misses me ...
A. 14 August 2012: I think people can change, but most choose not to. Maybe he is an exception. I think you must be very careful from here on out. Even if he does move, how much support is he paying for his children/women/wives? I think it is odd that he has not ... (read in full...)
He says if I really loved him I would go back to him ...
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up around two months ago. But, we work together and he keeps beging me to take him back. Funny thing is that he broke up with me. We had been together for four years, I managed to get him off drugs and he stopped party...
A. 12 August 2012: Besides that, yes, if you really did love him, you probably would go back with him. The problem with that is, he doesn't deserve your love because he doesn't treat you the way you should be treated. And, after the things he's done, your love has ... (read in full...)
He says if I really loved him I would go back to him ...
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up around two months ago. But, we work together and he keeps beging me to take him back. Funny thing is that he broke up with me. We had been together for four years, I managed to get him off drugs and he stopped party...
A. 12 August 2012: It sounds like you had good cause to break up with your boyfriend and I would stick to your guns. That means to hold steadfast and do not waiver from your decision. He was disrespectful to you more than once and took you for granted. I would not ... (read in full...)
She went to Vegas with her guy friends and came back shaven!
Q. My gf is very pretty and curvy. she has an issue with her weight and therefore, she has a problem being naked in front of me. she dresses sexy and wears pushup bras to work, but around me its time to hide the girls. i tell how sexy she is all the ...
A. 12 August 2012: Girls will do a lot of things to help make themselves feel sexy. Not necessarily for anyone else either...but for themselves. That alone would not make me suspicious. Even closing out her FB account would not make me suspicious because anytime ... (read in full...)
I think I'm her Rebound, and shes talking to her EX! What should I do?
Q. I have been dating this girl for about a month and a half now, and it was going pretty good until recently. First things first, I want to make it clear that I met this girl two days after she broke up with her ex, and started dating her about a ...
A. 12 August 2012: It sounds like she wasn't and isn't over her ex. She started dating too soon afterward and now she is in two relationships. You are correct that she should not be texting him or communicating with him. She has the power to stop that and she ... (read in full...)
Living with boyfriend is draining me financially but he's happy where he's at!
Q. Whats wrong with me? Im having some serious issues with myself right now and I don’t know what to do or what Im even doing. For starters I feel like im not good enough for my boyfriend. Hes popular, funny, full of confidence and the tall, dark...
A. 12 August 2012: If your relationship isn't a source of strength and support for you as you go through hard times with your friendships and job, then I would leave it. A relationship is supposed to be your soft place to fall...as is a proper boyfriend. You don't ... (read in full...)
My rib area hurts and is sensitive to cold. Why?
Q. I have pain in my left rib area under and to the side of my breasts. It hurts randomly when I move, and is sensitive to cold. I thought it was due to sleeping in the hotel bed during vacation but it still hurts now that I'm back home. During my two ...
A. 11 August 2012: I would also go see a doctor if it does not go away in a few days. I have this problem frequently as I do circuit training and often pull a muscle in that area. Sometimes I can even hear weird sounds in that area as I breathe. I know mine is just ... (read in full...)
I never get turned on. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I am almost 20 and wondering if something is the matter with me. I don't really get sexually turned on, ever. "Hot" pictures or videos don't do it for me - I've heard other women talk about how pictures of attractive men make them need to go and ...
A. 11 August 2012: I love the advice from YouWish! I think when you have a real relationship with someone you want to have sex with, you will know it. Otherwise, you may have a hard time getting excited over just anyone and everyone. I am kind of the same way as it ... (read in full...)
Should I get involved with a relationship or should I just stay focused on my career?
Q. i am 20 year old and not in a relationship.when i see committed people i also feel that i must have a gf.But i am not ready to get involve in a relationship with girl because first i wanted to build my career first. but i think many times in a day...
A. 11 August 2012: I think you should focus on what you want. There is no law that says you have to have a girlfriend at any age. Plus, if you aren't ready to have one and get one, you are going to be selling the girl short because you are not going to want to give ... (read in full...)
My mom and my ex were talking behind my back! Is this a violation of privacy or am I making a big deal out of this?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I have this issue and I am not sure how to handle it. I am 22 and live with my parents, but I pay them rent and utilities.That said, I had a boyfriend that I recently broke up with, but my family does not know, they just kno...
A. 11 August 2012: I disagree with you and the post below. Your mom and your ex were not talking behind your back. Your mom did not know he was an ex at the time because YOU LIED. She probably said something in passing to him about what a nice thought it was to ... (read in full...)
He says I scare the hell out of him!
Q. What does it mean when the man your interested in says to you, "you scare the hell out of me"?...
A. 11 August 2012: I think this could mean many things depending on your situation. For me, it has always meant that a man was intimidated by me and/or felt like he could not control me in one way or another. Some men are scared by women who have a strong sense of ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my psycho wife for the woman I truly love?
Q. I have no idea where to start. I am a 24 year old married man who just passed his 2 year anniversary. I am married to a somewhat sweet woman, but she isn't very open with her feelings which kills me. She has a very strong personality which throws me ...
A. 11 August 2012: This seems pretty simple to me. You have always wanted to be with the other woman and have cheated your wife out of a strong marriage. Now you are portraying your wife as cold-hearted and crazy so we will all feel sorry for you and tell you to get ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to climax during sex, is it because of his size? the position?
Q. Alright, so getting straight into it, my boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about 5 months or so. He is what I personally consider my first proper boyfriend, as my 'real' first lasted a very short time because of abuse, but we were not ...
A. 11 August 2012: You will need some more foreplay and you will need to stimulate yourself/show him how to stimulate you. Most women cannot orgasm just from being penetrated, they need a lot more. Try to relax and enjoy the sensations.
You could also just be ... (read in full...)
If we can't date, I'd like us to be friends, but how do I do this?
Q. Hey! Well... I have a problem. It's a long story because you'll need some background knowledge to really get what im talking about! Hahaha im a fickle one! Aaaanyway, there is this guy that i've known now for about 3 years and we started of well. Le...
A. 11 August 2012: It is really hard for people who have romantic/sexual feelings for each other to be friends. It is practically impossible. He considers you more than a friend and anytime he sees you it is in a romantic way...not a "friendly" way. You cannot go ... (read in full...)
I need some advice about having sex while on my period.
Q. For the guys out there; Recently me and the guy I'm dating had sex and he knew I just got off my period (literally the last day of my period, going to his place I was off my period) and its been a little while so we took the opportunity and went for ...
A. 11 August 2012: I would just go with what your boyfriend told you. Most men are pretty laid back with things that happen during sex (that I've found anyway)...they're just happy to be having sex. If you don't want to risk having some blood flow, just be sure ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from ex are really confusing me.
Q. A confusing scenario, probably simply answered by you guys, and girls, one of my ex girlfriends, who absolutely without a doubt does not want to be with me any longer, has moved on, but shows up when her and her mom or her boyfriend get into an ...
A. 11 August 2012: She may be playing games, but you are the one who is ultimately in control of this situation. If you don't want her in your life, then simply tell her that you do not think it is a good idea that she come over, come in, stop by, and/or ask you ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my dad, but he doesn't have the will to live. I just need some advice.
Q. I owe my life to my dad; I know I do and he wants nothing of it. I know this post is long but please, the details are needed. I need you all to understand the fact that I can't not live without my dad in my life. He's done everything for me under ...
A. 11 August 2012: Your Dad has sacrificed for you through your entire life. That is who he is and what he wants. As much as we hate it when people make these decisions, sometimes the ultimate act of love is not giving a liver, but respecting and accepting the ... (read in full...)
We're planning a wedding, but I don't think I want to marry her. Please help!
Q. Hi,Im with my girlfriend 5 years.We got engauged a couple of months ago and ever since we are not as close.I am happy about 70% of days but to be honest when we are out for a night I find we are very quiet with one another.We have sex about once a ...
A. 11 August 2012: I don't see that any of the issues you mention here are things that will ruin your relationship. Real couples have silent moments, real couples may only have sex once a week, real couples have jobs, come home tired, and may only have enough energy ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me, do I regret my decision?
Q. Hello everyone I'm Jasper, i'm 18 years old and live in Belgium. A month ago I broke up with my girlfriend after begin together for a year and three months. When we were together i had periods of nausea and after a while I discovered that ...
A. 10 August 2012: I had a boyfriend like that. The mere thought of him made me so anxious that I literally felt sick. It just wasn't meant to be. Then I was in the unfortunate position where I had to see him every day for awhile. It was terrible.
You broke up... (read in full...)
His FB status says married. Do you think this means they're together? He is a joker
Q. There's this guy I met at the very end of my exchange and we hooked up on my last night there. It's been almost 6 weeks now and on Facebook he's just put that he's in a relationship with some girl but it says "Married". I know that he is de...
A. 10 August 2012: I wouldn't trust Facebook to find out any facts about someone that I wanted to know. If you want to know something about the guy, call him and ask. I am not sure why you are so concerned if you are no longer seeing him. You hooked up and it ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel like shit but some days I feel as if I want him back, What should I do?
Q. Me and my now ex boyfriend stuart broke up a month ago. We were together for almost 6 months I really was in love with him and still am. We said that we would be friends but I feel he is making it really difficult for me to be friends with him. I ...
A. 10 August 2012: Definitely find another baby-sitting job. He is being mean and you don't need to put yourself through this torture. Make sure you stop communicating with him if you ever do, and block him from any devices or sites. I would also get my dinner from ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is mas at me because my ex wants to live with me?
Q. Hello everyone. I really did it!!! I pissed off my boyfriend and now he isn't talking to me. Well, I have been staying with friends since separating from my husband. I am ready to go out on my own but I don't make much money with my minimum ...
A. 10 August 2012: I think that if you asked them, most boyfriends would not want to hear about an ex in any way, shape, or form. To me, it s less insecurity than it is an ex trying to woo you back into his arms (which some ex-boyfriends DO try to do by the way). I ... (read in full...)
Please help me, should I stay friends with him or move on?
Q. I knew this guy for a month, I won't say we are close. The first time i met him we were both at a party and we were both intoxicated so we figured "lets have sex" so we did. The next day it was awkward so i thought it was a one night stand, however ...
A. 9 August 2012: I agree with SVConfused. First of all, how do you know he doesn't like you? And if you know this for fact, why did you sleep with him a second time? Then, why would you want to be friends with someone who doesn't like you and just used you for ... (read in full...)
He is generous but still has not said he loves me. Does he love me or not?
Q. Hi, I was always under the impression if a guy spends his money on you then his investing in a future. My boyfriend of 8.5 months is very generous. He books lovely holidays, hotels, takes me out to dinner etc but still hasn't said he loves m...
A. 9 August 2012: A guy who spends money on you is investing in his future? Seems like a cold and obnoxious statement. I've always heard a guy spends money on you to get you into bed. Regardless, I agree with the other posts. Money doesn't matter. The things he ... (read in full...)
Why does he hate me?
Q. Well a guy I've loved for two years keeps being horrible to me and he blocked me on facebook and he said its because I spoke to him to much. Then my friends mum tried to talk him round. It didn't work as such but he still spoke to me but when he did ...
A. 9 August 2012: I know it is not easy, but imagine if the shoe was on the other foot and you had a male admirer that wanted contact and you did not want to be around him/want to talk to him.
No, it doesn't mean you are a bad person, but you have to respect ... (read in full...)
Family? when? Am I destined to be alone and never know the joys of being a father?
Q. so I am not sure whats wrong with me. I will be 41 next month and have been single over a year now. before that I was single 5 years and so on and so on every single woman I have dated has cheated on me, lied to me stole from me abused me physical...
A. 9 August 2012: I don't think you are destined to be alone, but finding someone might not be on your time schedule. I am 40 and still single, mainly by choice. I was in a serious relationship for 7 years and he just turned into someone I no longer knew. So, even ... (read in full...)
How do you break up in a long distance relationship?
Q. I have a guy im in a long distance relationship with and i want to break up. Whats the best way to do it without hurting him....
A. 9 August 2012: Then you are not serious about breaking up and would rather string him along. I am not sure how one "gets romantic" long distance anyway. Good luck to you.... (read in full...)
How do you break up in a long distance relationship?
Q. I have a guy im in a long distance relationship with and i want to break up. Whats the best way to do it without hurting him....
A. 8 August 2012: If he really likes you, there is no way to do it without hurting him. Just be honest but kind. Then, do not have contact with him afterward. If you do, you'll just confuse him.
"Tony, I'm sorry, but having a long-distance relationship is not g... (read in full...)
Cell phone etiquette, She answers messages during intercourse!
Q. My girlfriend's idea of turning off the cell phone while having sex, is to just put it on vibrate. The noise totally takes me out of the moment and is getting extremely annoying. I ask her to please turn off the phone to allow us to have some ...
A. 8 August 2012: These things have a way of working out if they are meant to be. Wishing you the best.... (read in full...)
Long distance stringing along?
Q. Met a guy 6 months ago, he knew I was moving West in a few months he fell in lone with me and I fell for him too. We spent 4 months together every night then I left for Nevada. We are 1700 miles apart he calls or web cam daily, says he misses me ...
A. 8 August 2012: I understand you love him. I've been in my fair share of situations to know how hard it is. If you are happier than you are miserable, then you're probably doing ok. If you're starting to be sad about the relationship and wondering whether it is ... (read in full...)
He gets me excited! But I don't actually want to be with him! What do you suggest I do about this?
Q. hi, i have a problem, and this is the first time i'm asking for help . So i'm single i don't like anyone at this moment but i have a type (if u know what i mean) anyways, there's this guy a friend of mine, i know him since 2 years now, i know eve...
A. 8 August 2012: I am not sure what you are asking. Are you afraid you are falling for this guy, or are you wanting to sleep with him to see what he's like but not have a relationship? If neither, than I suggest you fantasize about him and keep it at that.... (read in full...)
Long distance stringing along?
Q. Met a guy 6 months ago, he knew I was moving West in a few months he fell in lone with me and I fell for him too. We spent 4 months together every night then I left for Nevada. We are 1700 miles apart he calls or web cam daily, says he misses me ...
A. 8 August 2012: This is a not a good situation for you. He has too many other responsibilities and obligations that he cannot possibly offer you much if anything. Even if he did get the money to move to where you are, is he going to be able to contribute much to ... (read in full...)
We broke up two years ago and he says he wants me to understand how much I hurt him. Should I keep talking to him, hoping he comes back?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up nearly two years ago. We were together for 7 years. He jumped into another relationship almost immediately, and told me that he did that to hurt me. The problem is during these last two years we havent stopped talking ...
A. 7 August 2012: If you can't stay away, there is some part of you that enjoys this turmoil. You have to ask yourself why you would stay with someone who wants to hurt you instead of moving on.
My advice would be to get out, do some new things, meet some new... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble showing my feelings!
Q. So I really messed things up with this girl. It started about a month ago when I started talking to this girl I met at a rave, we only communicated through texting and I just viewed her as a friend, but then one day we bumped into each other at a ...
A. 7 August 2012: If you are not showing interest in her, this girl is going to find someone else and never look back. Women don't pay much mind to men who ignore them or give them the cold shoulder. If you like this girl, you need to call her up pronto and ask her ... (read in full...)
In love with a married woman and she wont leave her husband!
Q. I have been seeing a married woman for about 4 months. We both started the relationship for the same reasons. I started my divorce and she went back to her marriage. This girl is the woman of my dreams. We both know that this is a once in a lifetime ...
A. 7 August 2012: I guess the important question to ask is if she is going to leave her husband or is she going to stay? It may be like a drug addiction, but when she leaves you for good, you are going to seriously emotionally distraught and not making jokes on an ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about us liking each other without being direct?
Q. Hello everyone. Well my friend T and i hse gotten closer, weve known each other for years, hes 18 and im 21. We first met in elementary school in dentention back then i use to just think of him as a friend. We would run into each other over the y...
A. 7 August 2012: Usually when people kiss, tease one another, and spend time together, that means they like each other. Does he actually have to SAY IT? My boyfriend and I never had that discussion. We knew we enjoyed spending time together and things just kind ... (read in full...)
Now that I'm dating someone new, he wants me to choose him!
Q. I'm in a new relationship. Now I am my friend has asked me to make a choice between him and my new boyfriend. I waited for my friend to ask me for weeks, I was mad about him. But instead he hinted about enjoying being single and not wanting a re...
A. 7 August 2012: You gave your friend a chance and he blew it. Apparently he thought you were going to sit around and cry over him instead of find someone new. I would ignore your friend and move on. I know it is hard, but do you want someone playing with your ... (read in full...)
Am I the one with the problem or does it sound like he's having second thoughts?
Q. I wrote a while ago about my boyfriend working in calgary and saying hed be home to stay in august but I wasn't so sure... He's not.. He's supposed to be home in december now. We are engaged now. Planning on our wedding to be next august. But the ...
A. 7 August 2012: To answer your question, Calgary is important because jobs are scarse. And if you want to be married and have a decent standard of living, you are going to need money. Are you going to be providing the money to live on? It doesn't sound like it ... (read in full...)
Am I the one with the problem or does it sound like he's having second thoughts?
Q. I wrote a while ago about my boyfriend working in calgary and saying hed be home to stay in august but I wasn't so sure... He's not.. He's supposed to be home in december now. We are engaged now. Planning on our wedding to be next august. But the ...
A. 7 August 2012: I agree with some of the other posts here. If you are not working, why can't you go be with him in Calgary? What is so important to you that is keeping you rooted where you are?
If your boyfriend has a good job, and is planning to marry you, he ... (read in full...)
He verbally abuses me, we had a fist fight, I don't trust him but I love him!
Q. Hello Agonies. Let me get straight to it..I seem to can't let go and move on from my bf, no matter what he ever did or said to me, whom has cheated on me 5x's, he's very disrespectful, he wants to act like a stray dog and do what he wants to do. ...
A. 7 August 2012: It sounds like this is an unhealthy relationship for both of you. You need to take a step back and ask yourself if this situation is really a good one for you. Sometimes what happens is that we are not in love with someone, but we get addicted to ... (read in full...)
Is it right to be jealous that they do more things together than he does with me?
Q. My bf of 2 years and never wants to go out and do things with me. All we do is sleep, really. Or hang out in his bedroom or mine, until we fall asleep. I can't remember the last time we went out and did something. I have mentioned that I would lik...
A. 7 August 2012: If they do a lot of things together and you don't do anything, then it is as good as cheating to me. He's giving his time and energy to someone other than you=cheating. I am not sure it is jealously as much as that his behavior and response are ... (read in full...)
Cell phone etiquette, She answers messages during intercourse!
Q. My girlfriend's idea of turning off the cell phone while having sex, is to just put it on vibrate. The noise totally takes me out of the moment and is getting extremely annoying. I ask her to please turn off the phone to allow us to have some ...
A. 7 August 2012: I am ticked off when a cell phone rings and I'm out to lunch or dinner, so I can't even begin to imagine how furious I would be if it was during sex.
It sounds like she is telling you that her phone and communication with other people is more imp... (read in full...)
Why does he hate me?
Q. Well a guy I've loved for two years keeps being horrible to me and he blocked me on facebook and he said its because I spoke to him to much. Then my friends mum tried to talk him round. It didn't work as such but he still spoke to me but when he did ...
A. 3 August 2012: I agree with the other post here. When someone does not want you to contact him, you need to respect that no matter how much you dislike it. Don't call to apologize, just don't contact him. I am sorry to be so harsh about it, but you must ... (read in full...)
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