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writes:After a break up, I met this guy that ive been friends with for about 9 months now. During the first 4 months we got a little physical but we did not have sex. I adore everything about him but his height turns me off so much. He's as tall as me and I just do not feel like I am sitting next to a man whenever I am around him but yet he has an amazing job and he is basically the type of guy any mother would love to have her daughter date and be with for a lifetime. Recently, I have been seeing my old high school friend and I love being around him. He changed so much and I feel like I am with a man everytime we hang out. I am so torn between these 2 men. I just want to know that if height will continue to turn me off as time passes by? Has any women here been through this type of situation before? It is just a turn off for me to be next to a guy who is almost my height and he has small hands like me. I dont want to end up dating him then feeling disgusted. Both are such good guys, I am just torn in between the two! I need advice please!
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (25 July 2012):
 You're not attracted to his height and his small hands. It is what it is. There are plenty of men that would not date a woman if she were, say 6'2 with man hands. Hell, there are many men that would never date an average height female with man hands.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 July 2012):
 I personally at 5'2" don't mind "shorter men"...
If you are not attracted to him you are not attracted to him and you can't change that...
I think that perhaps you just don't' find him physically appealing... and you can't fake that.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (24 July 2012):
 It all depends on you and what you want. If you really liked him, height and other physical tihngs would not matter much. Date who you prefer and do not lead anyone on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): Love runs deeper than just physical aspects. If his height repulses you that much, date your friend who you consider more manly. Your shorter friend deserves someone who loves him for everything he is, not someone who settled because hes a good man. Im not trying to be rude but its the truth and the same goes for you. You can admire someone and not be in a relationship. Just because they are a good person doesnt mean they are right for you. Ever watched the movie liar liar? Pay attention to the ex wifes awesome boyfriend that she loves because hes a great guy but clearly isnt in love. Good luck. If it doesnt feel right, it may not be.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Well, that all seems very silly to me, but I must admit that I'm a man of short stature. I'm an older man now, and have actually shrunk to about five and a half feet tall. Two of my wives in life were taller than me - and it did not seem to matter at all. If tall is all you care about, then so be it.
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (24 July 2012):
 If your already asking these questions then your answer is there already, the height thing will always be a problem for you, and it's something he can't change, to choose him because he's nice and has a good job is not fair, it will all end badly, stay friends with the short guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): Yes, I rejected a man because I was embarrassed that he was shorter than I am. The biggest mistake I ever made. Never turn down love for something as superficial as physical appearance. You'll live to regret it.
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