Why does he hate me?
Q. Well a guy I've loved for two years keeps being horrible to me and he blocked me on facebook and he said its because I spoke to him to much. Then my friends mum tried to talk him round. It didn't work as such but he still spoke to me but when he did ...
A. 9 August 2012: I know it is not easy, but imagine if the shoe was on the other foot and you had a male admirer that wanted contact and you did not want to be around him/want to talk to him.
No, it doesn't mean you are a bad person, but you have to respect ... (read in full...)
Cell phone etiquette, She answers messages during intercourse!
Q. My girlfriend's idea of turning off the cell phone while having sex, is to just put it on vibrate. The noise totally takes me out of the moment and is getting extremely annoying. I ask her to please turn off the phone to allow us to have some ...
A. 8 August 2012: These things have a way of working out if they are meant to be. Wishing you the best.... (read in full...)
Cell phone etiquette, She answers messages during intercourse!
Q. My girlfriend's idea of turning off the cell phone while having sex, is to just put it on vibrate. The noise totally takes me out of the moment and is getting extremely annoying. I ask her to please turn off the phone to allow us to have some ...
A. 7 August 2012: I am ticked off when a cell phone rings and I'm out to lunch or dinner, so I can't even begin to imagine how furious I would be if it was during sex.
It sounds like she is telling you that her phone and communication with other people is more imp... (read in full...)
Is this three month mark a real thing and should I be talking to him about the next step in our relationship?
Q. So I've been dating this guy for about 2 months. We started out as friends which is really nice because we're super comfortable together. And I haven't felt this way about someone in years. Yes, I know its only a couple months. But there's something ...
A. 7 August 2012: I am not sure what you are talking about with this "three month mark". Your friends must put a lot of emphasis on the calendar instead of the actual relationship. It sounds like something silly that people who don't know much about relationships ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to stop the horrible comments and accusations of me cheating on him?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years keeps accusing me of cheating. I have never had a sexual relationship outside of our relationship. He is always saying that sometimes I am significantly tighter than others. I tell him that its because I am tightening my ...
A. 7 August 2012: What your boyfriend is doing is insulting and disrespectful and will eventually be detrimental to your well-being if you do not get away from it. To have a man comment on how he doesn't feel anything and/or your genitalia is not good enough is ... (read in full...)
Was he being rude or protective? opinions please
Q. Hey guys. I went on a night out, and I have a male best friend who is four years older than I am. Now before he knew I was planning to have a night out, he claimed to not be going out this weekend. Yet somehow he managed to be in ever single plac...
A. 6 August 2012: Men and women can't be friends. Sorry, it is just a fact of life. If this was a colleague, a neighbor, or such, yes, then men and women can be "friendly" but not "best friends". If a man is your "friend", he is likely interested in you for more ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends ex is spreading around that he uses girls for money which isn't true! what should I do?
Q. Ive been with my current boyfriend for 8 months now. To begin with when we first started seeing each other his ex was still trying to get him back and would basically slag me. She would text him saying he should stop seeing me and that im a fa...
A. 6 August 2012: Your boyfriend should not really be telling you about every single text he receives from his ex. In fact, he should block her/not read them/respond to them himself. This is a good lesson to learn in case you ever have to deal with anyone else who ... (read in full...)
Why am I fantasizing about a much older man?
Q. I am a 22 year-old college student and I have always been attracted to older men (50+). My oldest crush was 56 but I have been fantasizing about one of my professors this year who is 65! Isn't that crazy? The funny thing is that he is not even ...
A. 6 August 2012: Kind of made me laugh to read some of those responses. I can say that I agree with each of them a bit, but some older men are refined and hot, so I can see the attraction to the professor. I can see the attraction in general as a lot of older men ... (read in full...)
Is it enough to want a divorce because my husband won't be intimate with me?
Q. Is it enough to want a divorce because my husband won't be intimate with me? It has been this way throughout our 25 years of marriage. He is a wonderful man and every one loves him, my friends, family, our two 20 something children. He would do ...
A. 6 August 2012: I understand how you feel. I think if you feel you are ready to move on, that is what you should do. It is a hard call sometimes giving advice as we don't know every detail about your situation. You have provided some additional information on ... (read in full...)
I don't think he's over me and I'm afraid he will ask me out again!
Q. Hey everyone, I'l make this short!!or atleast try;) So about 4 years ago this guy asked me out,he said he loves me and I dint so I said no and we were friends,when I said no he cried,he stopped coming to college then about 2 years after he moved o...
A. 6 August 2012: You may lose him as a friend if he wants more. It is awfully hard, down near impossible sometimes, to be "just friends" with someone you love. If you do lose him, try to see it from his perspective. It would be very hard seeing you all the time ... (read in full...)
Why am I fantasizing about a much older man?
Q. I am a 22 year-old college student and I have always been attracted to older men (50+). My oldest crush was 56 but I have been fantasizing about one of my professors this year who is 65! Isn't that crazy? The funny thing is that he is not even ...
A. 6 August 2012: Nothing is wrong with it, you're perfectly normal. I have found myself in the same situation fantasizing about a man who could be my dad! Fantasies are just that...they are fantasies. You don't have to tell anyone about them and you don't have to ... (read in full...)
I don't think he's over me and I'm afraid he will ask me out again!
Q. Hey everyone, I'l make this short!!or atleast try;) So about 4 years ago this guy asked me out,he said he loves me and I dint so I said no and we were friends,when I said no he cried,he stopped coming to college then about 2 years after he moved o...
A. 6 August 2012: I am completely confused on what you really want. You say you don't want to lose him again, yet you say you're "afraid he is not over you and will ask you out". What is it you really want from him? I don't think we can respond unless we know what ... (read in full...)
Is it enough to want a divorce because my husband won't be intimate with me?
Q. Is it enough to want a divorce because my husband won't be intimate with me? It has been this way throughout our 25 years of marriage. He is a wonderful man and every one loves him, my friends, family, our two 20 something children. He would do ...
A. 6 August 2012: I agree with the other posts, but I also know what it feels like to be in a relationship with no intimacy of any kind. I also know that you cannot force someone to go to a good sex therapist if he doesn't want to. It's a nice thought and a good ... (read in full...)
I want to cause upset but it's not in my nature! what should I do?
Q. OK I've a dilema here that I need some advice on because i'm on the brink of doing something I may well regret. About 10 months ago I found out my now ex, who I had lived with and we had both talked about marriage etc had been texting/flirting...
A. 6 August 2012: So what is your question? You are not going to get permission here to ruin someone else's life. If you despise this woman and lies as much as you say, you should feel content in knowing that no relationship she has will be able to stand the test ... (read in full...)
Something feels a little off with him lately?
Q. So basically, for the past month I've been talking to this guy I like. Everything has been great, we've been flirting and he was texting me every day, and we even saw each other accidentally last week at this mall, and he texted me to tell me it was ...
A. 5 August 2012: Why are you asking us? Why don't you ask him? Does he have a job and work a lot? Is someone ill in his family and he is helping out? There could be A LOT of reasons why he is a little "off". Also, you do need to be realistic about how often ... (read in full...)
Any tips to help me accept that I may never find love?
Q. How do I accept that I'm not meant to have love? I'm 30 years old and I've been in a couple of relationships, but none of them went anywhere. I've accepted that I'm not pretty, and that I can't plat "the game". Not being down on myself, but fact...
A. 5 August 2012: I think you are being a overly dramatic. "I am not pretty and will never find love." You will probably never find love because of your negative attitude and outlook on yourself. I'm hoping this isn't how you are in real life and actually have an ... (read in full...)
More than a friendship?
Q. This may seem a bit of an odd request for help here but I need some opinions other than mine on a situation. I have become very close to a girl at work and we have become, I think, good friends but I am concerned that I am being used by her. We w...
A. 5 August 2012: I agree with the others. I had an emotional affair with a good friend of mine. He was married, I was not. We both crossed lines that we shouldn't have. I can't say that it was dangerous and I can't say it was exciting. What I can say is that it ... (read in full...)
Does the father of my kids have a right to know my situation I'm going through
Q. I got myself in a complicated situation. I just found out that i am pregnant with my third. The problem is i am not too sure if i want to tell the father of my children if i am because i have been with him during this month and some other guy i ...
A. 5 August 2012: Whoever the father is has a right to know you're pregnant and also has a right to know you're considering an abortion. You are talking about terminating the life of the child belonging to one of these men. That is no small issue.
The thing is... (read in full...)
Do you think that I hurt him and he doesn't want to have anything to do with me, or would be willing to give me another chance?
Q. About four months ago I met a really nice guy at a bar in San Fran (not a sleazy one)- we had a few mutual friends. We talked for a bit and ended up making out for quite a while. He waited two days to call me, and I didn't answer as I was taken ...
A. 5 August 2012: So you meet a guy at a bar, you make out, he actually has the decency to call you and you don't answer? Sometimes I wonder if men can ever win with us women. We are upset when they don't call, and when they do, we won't answer the phone. Plus, if ... (read in full...)
Was he just after sex? Should I call or wait for him?
Q. Hi. I met a Brazilian guy last wed .we met online and I knew before we met we would have a great time and great chemistry .well I was right .we had a great time chatting about all sorts of things .I am aware that Brazilian men are very forward but ...
A. 5 August 2012: I agree with the other posts here. I would assume anyone I met online was out for sex because most of them are. Brazillian men may be very forward, but most decent men I know (from any culture) who are interested in a real relationship do not ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend makes it out like I'm the bitch from hell but he's the difficult one!
Q. I can't stop arguing with my boyfriend. Last week we started having sex doggy style but it hurt me as he's quite big. Because I was moving away from him he got really angry forced me off him and pushed me down onto the bed. I felt really humiliated ...
A. 5 August 2012: What your boyfriend did was disrespect you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It sounds like he thinks you are just a vessel for his sexual pleasure and has few if any positive qualities. If I were you, I would leave him and spend some time ... (read in full...)
Why a year later am I the chosen one? We broke up. But since then we have had sex.
Q. I'm in love with my ex after I broke up with him for cheating. we have not been together in a year. we had sex he didn't call or text after that and he has a big ego, so he won't say how it was or say he misses me I didn't text or call him eit...
A. 5 August 2012: Unfortunately, I think what you fear is the reality. You can't just hop back into bed with someone and expect the reality of a relationship to change. You broke up with him for a reason, so you should have also stayed out of bed with him. All ... (read in full...)
A year after our break up he wants me back. Did I do the right thing by ending our relationship?
Q. Hi there. I was in a live-in relationship with a guy. I loved him more than my life. I would help him in every possible way. He said that he loved me a lot and it seemed so,too but we had lots of fights over his drinking ( daily), smoking weed and ...
A. 4 August 2012: You have not said one good thing about this guy and yet you are asking if you did the correct thing by breaking up? What do you think? This guy had to be nothing but a drain on your life. It's best that you broke up and you remain apart. ... (read in full...)
How to move past trust issues?
Q. I could really use some help. Im in a relationship where there have been trust issues. My bf has and is doing all he can to rectify the situation, he told me and showed me everything it was very difficult for me. I have gone back and forth debating ...
A. 4 August 2012: It depends on if you feel that moving forward is worth it, or if there is anything he will be able to do to make it up to you and build your trust back. Sometimes when cheating takes place (and this was cheating even though he didn't sleep with ... (read in full...)
Does my b/f want a threesome? He lets his friends hit on me!
Q. Lately my bf of 4yrs has been letting his friends hit on me. They will do it right in front of him and he just smirks. They say some inappropriate things most of the time. Then just yesterday i was with my bf and his bff and his best friend would ...
A. 4 August 2012: I don't care whether his friends "want a threesome" or not. What they are doing is inappropriate and disrespectful. I would probably further exclude myself from activities or get-togethers where his friends are going to be in attendance. Also, I ... (read in full...)
I love him but he doesn't feel the same way about me...
Q. I have been with this guy for 2 1/2 years. We have been thru alot in our relationship. He has recently left for Job Corps and he so called started dating someone else. He told me that I been new it would be over but i cant seem to get him out of ny ...
A. 4 August 2012: I know you love him, but he is dating someone else and has moved on. You need to find a way to do the same. Get out of the house and attend some events in your area, go anywhere you can meet people. I know it is hard as I've had to do it, but you ... (read in full...)
My mom is dating a guy a little older than me. Do I need to step in?
Q. My mom who is in her mid 40s is in a relationship with a guy who is apparently in his early 20s. Their relationship is merely based on sex from what I can tell. She wears low cut tops and short shorts when she hangs out with him. i moved out of the ...
A. 4 August 2012: Your mom is an adult and can date or sleep with any man she chooses. I know you probably don't like it, but just as you would not like her interfering with someone you were dating, you don't have any right to interfere with someone she is dating. ... (read in full...)
Now he just wants to be friends. Says sleeping with me as a mistake. Can we start again or is it over?
Q. Hi, I need some relationship, love advice. I am 32 and a few months ago met a lovely guy. We slept together few times really early on and now his saying he just wants to be friend's to get to know each other as his never just slept with girl like ...
A. 4 August 2012: I am going to give you the same advice I gave another woman. I can't tell what exactly he is saying. Is he saying that you slept together too soon and now he wants to get to know you better? That only seems reasonable. Or, is he saying that he ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to him about becoming exclusive with out scaring him off ? And not seem pushy?
Q. I was seeing a guy I've known for some time last year just after my marriage break up. We discussed becoming exclusive and he said it was too soon after my break up and it wouldn't work. Over the last month we have been seeing each other again,(n...
A. 4 August 2012: For him to make the decision for you and decide that it is too soon FOR YOU to be exclusive is being pretty bold. The last I knew, that would be YOUR decision to decide if it is too soon for you.
What I would tell him is probably somethin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has mites, and still wants to be intimate!
Q. My boyfriend recently told me he had mites, or some sort of bug on his skin which he isnt sure how he got. I am rather freaked out, especially since he said it will be gone in a few days. However, I looked online and it said what hes got is highly ...
A. 4 August 2012: If you are talking about scabies, then he needs to see a doctor as soon as possible for treatment. I would not see him as scabies are VERY CONTAGIOUS. This is a bug that burrows under your skin...trust me...you do not want them. They also live in ... (read in full...)
Should I listen to the little voice inside telling me something is not quite right?
Q. Something happened last night and I'm not quite sure what to think of it. I'm hoping you guys can give me your opinion. My boyfriend was supposed to come here last night at 7-8pm and not having heard from him at 7, I text him to get his ETA. He ...
A. 4 August 2012: I don't think this has much to do with security...sorry to disagree. If you had an issue with him going out drinking and talking to women at the bar, I can understand why you might think negatively when something like this happens, but I don't ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about going on holiday with my female friend!
Q. hi, i have been with my partner for five years we have just come back from vacation abroad (greece) i wanted to go on holiday in 5 weeks time to spain with my best girlfriend also. The thing is he's not happy about it and he says I'm being selfis...
A. 4 August 2012: I do not understand what is wrong for wanting to go away for a weekend with your best girlfriend. If you allow him to control this, he will continue to do it for as long as you're with him.
Why does he have trust issues with you? Have you ever... (read in full...)
How do I best show I care? Or do I step away, until he's ready?
Q. A dear (platonic) friend of mine has shut himself off from everyone. He has recently had some trouble with the law and I think he may be ashamed of what he did. What he did was very uncharacteristic and in truth I thought he might go to jail. That ...
A. 4 August 2012: Write him a note or a card and send it through the mail, or if you cannot get his addres, send an email or text. Tell him you were thinking of him and wondered how he was doing. About all you can do is let him know you're thinking of him...it's up ... (read in full...)
I love him, but he's being so unreasonable. Should I break up with him?
Q. hello all. my problem is that i am dating a guy who was also my bf in school. but we broke up in a matter of days at that time. he had a crush on a girl who happened to be my friend ( good friend). So, since me n my bf were not talking, i was n...
A. 4 August 2012: I would not date anyone who tried to tell me who my friends should be. That is disrespectful to you, and if he is like this now, he will try to tell you what to do in other aspects of your life. Plus, it sounds like he doesn't want you being ... (read in full...)
I've been single forever. How can I have someone in my life and get over my loneliness?
Q. I'm a 29 yr old female, who has been single forever, I just don't think it's on, as people say that I am warm, considerate,kind, generous, well basically everything any one would actually want. All the people I have asked, have said they just wan...
A. 4 August 2012: You aren't the only one in this situation. I am still single at 40, and I fully agree with Blonde30's. I have found it is sometimes easier and more fulfilling to be single. I had one serious relationship of 8 years and thought he was the one. ... (read in full...)
I want her but she doesn't feel the same!
Q. I'm in love with my childhood friend we haven't talked for years about seven months ago we seen each other again she just got out of a bad relationship we started talking again ive told her I've wanted more than just being friends awhile back ago ...
A. 4 August 2012: It is really hard to be just friends with someone you like romantically. I think you were very respectful and told her just what you should have. These situations are very hard, but you were very mature about it. I know it hurts. I would not ... (read in full...)
How can I approach the marriage subject without scaring him off?
Q. I am what you call a "career woman" and my parents hate it. Don't get me wrong, they're proud that I've been as successful as I've been all my life, but because I'm their only daughter, they want to see some grandchildren from me soon. Well, I'm 31, ...
A. 3 August 2012: I find it interesting that neither of you want marriage, but you are "casually dating". If I didn't want to be married for 10 years, I'd certainly turn down any offers for dates in order to ensure I'd remain single.
However, now that you've b... (read in full...)
How can I get a girl when I'm timid?
Q. hello I'm male and i've got 16 and I did never have sex or kiss a girl or even touch one! Because I never have a girlfriend and that is my probleme when I like a girl and i want to tell her about my feelings to her I can't because I'm shy! So ple...
A. 3 August 2012: It is sometimes hard to get over shyness, but I usually just remember that everyone has a little shyness when it comes to certain things. When it comes to members of the opposite sex, I think a lot of people (not just you) are self-conscious and ... (read in full...)
Why does he hate me?
Q. Well a guy I've loved for two years keeps being horrible to me and he blocked me on facebook and he said its because I spoke to him to much. Then my friends mum tried to talk him round. It didn't work as such but he still spoke to me but when he did ...
A. 3 August 2012: I agree with the other post here. When someone does not want you to contact him, you need to respect that no matter how much you dislike it. Don't call to apologize, just don't contact him. I am sorry to be so harsh about it, but you must ... (read in full...)
How can you have a relationship with a man who blows hot and cold?
Q. Hi everyone I am in a very confusing situation I have know this man nearly 2 years now I know he likes me but he is always blowing hot and cold all the time it has been like this since I met him like for instance I see him sometimes he won't speak ...
A. 3 August 2012: I had a man who was supposed to be my boyfriend do this to me. I finally ended up deciding it was emotional abuse, or else he was just completely clueless when it came to how to be a decent human being. On the other hand, I think some men (in ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my daughters father but I am scared he will take our daughter!
Q. I feel completely lost. I want to leave my daughters father, and take my daughter with me and move back home. Bit of a background story I moved here to Louisiana from California to be with him, its been 3 years now and I am miserable. I hat...
A. 2 August 2012: Usually, unless he can prove you are an unfit mother, children always go with the mother. He may be the breadwinner, but he has not been the caretaker. I would try to see an attorney and see what choices you have. There are some places that you ... (read in full...)
He's hurt so many people but I still have feelings for him
Q. Is this guy really a loser. ive got this ex from 5 years ago,occasionly he has contacted me and wanted to hook up,a few times i have given in to this. thing is he is 46 never been married he got a women pregnant but wasnt interested in th...
A. 1 August 2012: It's ok to have feelings for someone, but you seriously need to get away from this guy. You already know that. Due to their charm, some of these guys become more of an addiction than a real relationship.
When you know how a guy behaves, and you ... (read in full...)
My ex and her friends have turned my new girlfriends life into a living hell
Q. Okay so I dated this girl for a while and we even got engaged. We broke up because I made a horrible mistake. I wasn’t attracted to her and I didn’t love her, I proposed because I thought it was the right thing to do. When I realized that it was ...
A. 1 August 2012: You need to stop talking to, texting, emailing, and any other form of communicating should stop. You don't tell her you don't want to talk to her, you just stop talking to her. You should also block her on any social networking sites. Getting any ... (read in full...)
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