My wife cheated on me and is now worried that I'm cheating on her. Its causing a great deal of stress in our home
Q. I had recently discovered that my wife of 12 years was having an affair for past one year. I confronted her with the evidence I had and she admitted it. She has promised to end the affair, which I presume she did, and work on marriage. I do not ...
A. 20 July 2012: I will be thinking of you since I know you are in a terrible position. I know people say staying for the kids isn't healthy, but you have already been doing it for so long, it probably would not make much difference. Sometimes staying for the kids ... (read in full...)
He tells me he likes me but is constantly talking about another girl!
Q. So me and this boy have been "best friends" for awhile now. He admitted that he used to like me but was to scared to do anything because he was unsure about how i felt. We hang out every now and then and I started to like him. When we hang out he's ...
A. 19 July 2012: He didn't say anything else? Is he still talking about the other girl? It sounds like he does like you and may be willing to work on his behavior. I would wait and see how things go, but I think it is weird he just said the letter was "sweet" and ... (read in full...)
He tells me he likes me but is constantly talking about another girl!
Q. So me and this boy have been "best friends" for awhile now. He admitted that he used to like me but was to scared to do anything because he was unsure about how i felt. We hang out every now and then and I started to like him. When we hang out he's ...
A. 19 July 2012: The picture is a good sign, but has he responded to the letter in any way? ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore but am stuck in the relationship!
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 6 years, the 1st 3 years was a hell as he was cheating on me an I wasn't aware until I found out he had a child with someone else. It was hard then cause I was head over heels for him so I forgave him. Recently ...
A. 16 July 2012: Yes, we do understand the pain. We have all been through one thing or another and that is why we try to help. I am hoping that he does not have the potential of being violent towards you. You are kind of worrying me by what you say that you have ... (read in full...)
It used to be fine but now the thought of sex gives her panic attacks!
Q. I've been dating this girl for about a year and at first she seemed uninhibited and we were having sex all the time but as we began to explore it turned out I was less innocent than she had imagined and we started finding some things she didn't want ...
A. 15 July 2012: Sometimes when one person in the relationship constantly wants to try something new sexually, it becomes a intimidating and unnerving for the other partner. I would have a talk with her telling her how much you care about her and you only want to ... (read in full...)
He took my virginity and then went back to his ex. How do I move on?
Q. How can i move on from someone who took my virginity? He's 26 and I'm 18. We've been together for 5 months.then, he broke up with me after reading an email from his 8 year ex girlfriend telling him that my family are allergic to him and that the...
A. 15 July 2012: For future reference, please remember that you should NEVER talk with ex-girlfriends. You should see red flags (warning sign) if your boyfriend is texting, emailing, and/or talking with his ex-girlfriend. If a guy is into YOU, YOU will be the ... (read in full...)
Freind with benefits coping methods
Q. Hello, a month ago I met a guy via an online dating website. We got along well, went on a few dates and after 6 dates he slept over at my place. The next morning I was rather shocked as I did not want to turn this into a relationship, so...
A. 15 July 2012: When people engage in an emotional activity, ie-SEX, emotions are going to get involved. Contrary to popular belief, we are human beings, not robots. Humans, especially women, sometimes find it difficult to do the FWBs stint because someone always ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore but am stuck in the relationship!
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 6 years, the 1st 3 years was a hell as he was cheating on me an I wasn't aware until I found out he had a child with someone else. It was hard then cause I was head over heels for him so I forgave him. Recently ...
A. 15 July 2012: You don't agree to buy a house with someone with whom you are not in love with anymore. If you've signed the papers, you are legally bound to help pay for it. This is what happens when we are not honest with ourselves and others. The only ... (read in full...)
I thought my trainer was my friend but he has upped his prices!
Q. Over the past year I have become good friends with my personal trainer. But recently he told me he had to raise his rates and asked me for more money. Of course I was surprised he would do this to me and I am hurt by it. I thought he conside...
A. 15 July 2012: Sorry to say, but he is in a business and business has nothing to do with the friendship. He is raising his rates because he feels it a necessary part of his business. If you don't want to patronize his business, then don't, but that doesn't mean ... (read in full...)
We split up but he suggested a FWB arrangement. Should I do it?
Q. I've met this man right after I ended my marriage of 20 years. It was so nice to feel being wanted and loved again. He is 16 years older than me. Four years on I don't love him any more. He is not a caring person and just enjoy being looked ...
A. 15 July 2012: I would advise you against it unless you feel you can absolutely keep your emotions separate. Most people can't. Besides this, why would you want to have sex with someone who isn't caring? I'm hung up on that statement. How are you going to feel ... (read in full...)
My husband wont touch me, and an old boyfriend has reappeared to light the fire!
Q. I am so confused. I am married for almost 28 years been together for 30 years. I do love my husband but here lies the problem. He does not want to seem to touch me. I admit that I gained some weight during the marriage and was busy raising the kids, ...
A. 15 July 2012: Sometimes men need help in taking care of anything that is medical in nature. Some don't but others do. Your husband sounds like the type who needs help. Plus, this particular topic makes men very self-conscious. Why don't you make the ... (read in full...)
Should I clear the air by telling him I love him?
Q. Hi ladies! So i know of this guy through a chat site and we've been talkin for almost 2years now. We've gotten close recently and say i love you to each other all the time over the phone. It used to be pure flirting but recently its more than that. ...
A. 15 July 2012: Have you ever dated this man in person? How do you know you are special to him? Because he shows you? How could he possibly show you when all you do is talk on the phone and chat online? Telling someone you love him when you haven't met or dated ... (read in full...)
He tells me he likes me but is constantly talking about another girl!
Q. So me and this boy have been "best friends" for awhile now. He admitted that he used to like me but was to scared to do anything because he was unsure about how i felt. We hang out every now and then and I started to like him. When we hang out he's ...
A. 15 July 2012: It is hard to tell. The ball is in his court right now, or in other words, it is his move on how he wants to behave. The next thing I would want to know is if he likes you as a girlfriend or just a friend. It sounds like you may want more with ... (read in full...)
I want a dominate male in the bedroom and my boyfriend just isn't one!
Q. I have been thinking about the relationship I have with my boyfriend of 4 yrs lately. We have not been intimate in a while and I thought it was me. I thought that I just didn't want to have sex (we used to all the time). I have met another man that ...
A. 15 July 2012: I know what you mean because that is always my problem too! One thing I do to get my boyfriend to be a little more domineering is that I email him and tell him what I want him to do. Then, if he wants me, he knows what I want and takes more ... (read in full...)
Depressed guy at start of short long distance relationship. Any advice would be great!!
Q. Hi I think im suffering from depression from a short long distance stint with my GF. Shes been living with me for the last 8 months and we've spent a lot of time together. Shes now working abroad for a month, will return for a month then will move ...
A. 15 July 2012: Contact her and tell her that you miss her and would like to set up one day during the week to Skype. If she gives you the run-around or some lame excuses, she is not the girl for you. The reason I say that is because if she really likes and cares ... (read in full...)
How do I confront my boyfriend about talking to other women?
Q. I am trying to figure out how to confront my boyfriend talking to other women behind my back?? I am afraid he will deny doing this and the proof has already been deleted and there has not been any other proof since I checked his phone the first ...
A. 15 July 2012: My ex used to do this right in front of me with women sitting right beside me. He would sit and talk to them and stare at them as if I wasn't even there. A little different than being on the computer, but not by much. Tell him how you feel and ... (read in full...)
G/f texting her ex and tells me not to worry. I don't want to get angry so easily!
Q. Hello, I am experiencing a problem. I get mad way too easily. My girlfriend, who I've been in a relationship for a month, had a fling with a guy for about 6 months, they had sex, etc.. the whole ordeal. It all stopped when I came along, and she a...
A. 15 July 2012: Plus, I honestly do not know where your friends are coming from. This texting an ex thing must be something new for the younger generations. It would be no different than me spending time on the phone talking to my ex, which I won't do because ... (read in full...)
G/f texting her ex and tells me not to worry. I don't want to get angry so easily!
Q. Hello, I am experiencing a problem. I get mad way too easily. My girlfriend, who I've been in a relationship for a month, had a fling with a guy for about 6 months, they had sex, etc.. the whole ordeal. It all stopped when I came along, and she a...
A. 15 July 2012: You tell your girlfriend that you do not like her texting her ex and if she is dating you, she needs to stop. I do not know why there is such an epidemic of this lately. Everyone is texting an ex. If your girlfriend likes you and respects you, ... (read in full...)
I get so emotional before my period! How do I make these mood swings go away?
Q. I am so incredibly emotional during the week before my period. I end up taking it out on my boyfriend. It's getting worse every month. I go to bed sobbing and wake up perfectly fine. I tell my boyfriend things like he doesn't think I'm good enough ...
A. 15 July 2012: Welcome to the world of being a woman. I can tell when I am about ready to have my period. I get very moody and will cry just about anything. The most important thing is that you can identify how you feel and act during this time, so you could ... (read in full...)
My b/f is still in contact with his ex and I feel he's comparing me to her!
Q. Hi there, I've got an issue with my boyfriend and I was wondering if you guys could help. We've been together a couple of months now and so far everything has been great. He's the nicest guy I've dated and treats me really well. However, there ha...
A. 15 July 2012: If he is dating you, he should not be communicating with his ex. I have already made the statement a lot so far this weekend that men and women cannot be friends. Especially if they have had a previous relationship. Someone always has strong ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me and is now worried that I'm cheating on her. Its causing a great deal of stress in our home
Q. I had recently discovered that my wife of 12 years was having an affair for past one year. I confronted her with the evidence I had and she admitted it. She has promised to end the affair, which I presume she did, and work on marriage. I do not ...
A. 15 July 2012: If you want to work on the marriage then work on the marriage, but do not play games with your wife just to spite her. I know you have been hurt and deceived, but If you can't be mature and honest about this (because you are the one now being ... (read in full...)
B/f cheated, I kissed my ex and now I'm really confused!
Q. I ask for advice, not to be judged as I know what I did was wrong, please. I have a boyfriend I care very deeply about, a few weeks ago I caught him texting a girl in a way that was massively inappropriate and wrong. After confronting him, we talked ...
A. 14 July 2012: You were hurt and insulted by what your boyfriend did, so while what you did was not right, it's understandable. If you think you have feeings for your ex again, I would ask yourself if he was just filling a void when you were together the one ... (read in full...)
I'm stressed out and worried all the time. Please tell me I'm not insane!
Q. Aunts and uncles... Please tell me im not insane. I think i have depression... I feel sad everyday and suddenly hve such a negative attitude which i hate, cancer has attacked my family and its took its toll throughout us all, ive been stressed with ...
A. 14 July 2012: You are normal. You have had too much reality lately and it is starting to catch up with you. There is only so much one person can take before all of the stresses get the best of you. Cancer is very devastating...especially if it is in your ... (read in full...)
I told my fiance I wanted to break up so she took our daughter away and now I'm really depressed!
Q. hi there i am at a loss... my fiance well ex fiance now, i live with her and have a beautifull 15mnth daughter. i have not been happy in the relationship for about 6-7 months now and have been with her for 5 years, i have said that i think we shoul...
A. 14 July 2012: Also, do not feel too badly about your boss noticing your depression. Mine told me I had a negative attitude this year, but I refuse to go on anti-depressants. A lot of people where I work are on them though. Hopefully they are helping you a ... (read in full...)
I told my fiance I wanted to break up so she took our daughter away and now I'm really depressed!
Q. hi there i am at a loss... my fiance well ex fiance now, i live with her and have a beautifull 15mnth daughter. i have not been happy in the relationship for about 6-7 months now and have been with her for 5 years, i have said that i think we shoul...
A. 14 July 2012: Did you try talking to your fiance about why you are so unhappy? Maybe try a therapist? I am not trying to be mean, but what did you think she was going to do when you told her you wanted to break up? You had to have known that she would take ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 14 July 2012: Then go get your sex and forget about all of us normal women out here. Sounds to me like you wanted someone to argue with and/or stroke your ego to just go do what you want anyway.
I don't know why someone would spend this much time online g... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about where this thing is headed?
Q. I just recently started talking to a ex girlfriend of 6 years and everything was going fine for the first weeks, now we go days without talking. We decided when we first started talking again to take things slow, and i have asked her if anything is ...
A. 14 July 2012: I think some couples can go days without communicating, but I am not sure what kind of relationship this is. I am a big believer in daily communication even if it is just "Hi, how are you today, what are you doing, and I was thinking about you." I ... (read in full...)
My relationship is suddenly falling apart and I don't know how to stop it.
Q. About one year ago, I was the happiest I had ever been! I had fallen in love with a mysterious man. He was constant smiles for months. We made love at every given opportunity. He complimented me and bragged about me to everyone. We both spent our ...
A. 14 July 2012: I know it is hard as I have had my fair share of bad experiences. You just cannot stay in this type of situation. It is weird how people can be so wonderful one minute and almost change overnight. It really does a number on us when this happens. ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 14 July 2012: While I don't want to be offensive, this is getting more pathetic by the minute. I'm 5'9" and have gone out with men my height or shorter. It's made absolutely no difference. I've changed my mind on this whole issue. I now think you should go ... (read in full...)
My relationship is suddenly falling apart and I don't know how to stop it.
Q. About one year ago, I was the happiest I had ever been! I had fallen in love with a mysterious man. He was constant smiles for months. We made love at every given opportunity. He complimented me and bragged about me to everyone. We both spent our ...
A. 14 July 2012: Why would you be FORCED to move in with someone's mother? Then why would you be FORCED to help pay all the bills? Then again, why would you allow anyone who is a drug addict to stay in the same household with you? Helping a drug addict recover is ... (read in full...)
Why does my guy do things that frustrate me so much?
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years, we live together, we have already discussed what we want with our futures and things are generaly good between us. Recently, however, he has been driving me insane to the point of me feeling like i s...
A. 14 July 2012: I feel your pain and I know exactly what you are talking about. My ex was the master of this type of behavior. For the first three years of our relationship he was wonderful. He did things around the house, we listened to one another and solved ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend want to have sex with me because he got turned on by the other girl?
Q. I have been with this guy for 3 years. He is really good about not staring at women, or at least when I am with him. But the other night when he came in from work he was flirting around with me and he said something about picking out some sexy ...
A. 13 July 2012: You may not like what I have to say here, but you made the first mistake in saying you were "ok" with him texting his ex. Men and women cannot be friends, especially if they have already been in a relationship together. One person or the other ... (read in full...)
Is to okay to experiment with girls?
Q. Hey everyone, I am 23 years old,lately I have been very curious about having a sex with a girl..is it because I want to experiment or I'm just curious or bisexual I don't know.. I have never kissed or made out or even done it with the girl,but bef...
A. 13 July 2012: I agree with Sprite that having feelings or an attraction to both sexes is normal emotional and sexual growth. Of course I have thought about what it would be like to be with a woman, and I have even fantasized about it. I have just never wanted ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is mad at me for something that isn't really my fault. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend working outside the country, he flies back every few months and I have been to see him twicein the pasy year. I bought him a plane ticket to come home for my birthday in April and his first words at the time were'when it's my ...
A. 13 July 2012: With as little as you get to see one another, this is a big deal. If he didn't have the money, he should have just told you that he is having trouble getting his bills paid, etc...and that he couldn't afford to fly you out there. The other part of ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love two people at the same time?
Q. Is it possible to love two persons at the same time? actually i am in a relationship, and we love each other a lot. i never want to loose him. but few months before i met a guy. he is my classmate. we also both love each other. but we have not ...
A. 13 July 2012: I think you can be attracted to two people at once, and I suppose it could be possible to actually love both of them. Within the realm of human experience, almost anything is possible. The problem comes with expectations. Usually people expect ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend want to have sex with me because he got turned on by the other girl?
Q. I have been with this guy for 3 years. He is really good about not staring at women, or at least when I am with him. But the other night when he came in from work he was flirting around with me and he said something about picking out some sexy ...
A. 13 July 2012: Honestly, do you really care? He's making love to YOU, not anyone else. Besides, we all have fantasies about getting someone else into bed. I know my best friend fantasizes about Matthew McConaughey in her bed and she has a great and very sexy ... (read in full...)
The man I'm with love with said ,"I care about you more than you know". Does that mean he loves me too? If yes then why doesn't he just say that?
Q. Help please Aunts, I am having trouble trying to understand what this man i'm in love with is trying to say to me. He knows how much i care about him very much,and he has said he cares about me.but we had a little tiff and i challenged him a...
A. 13 July 2012: What makes the difference how he expresses himself if everything is going ok and he shows how much he cares about you? I think sometimes women get into this funk that the man they are seeing has to SAY "I love you" or he doesn't really love you. ... (read in full...)
He tells me he likes me but is constantly talking about another girl!
Q. So me and this boy have been "best friends" for awhile now. He admitted that he used to like me but was to scared to do anything because he was unsure about how i felt. We hang out every now and then and I started to like him. When we hang out he's ...
A. 13 July 2012: Guys sometimes do this and have no clue that they are doing anything wrong. I would tell him that he seems to talk about this other girl a lot and it upsets you. See what he says. If he really likes you, he will try to eliminate talking about her ... (read in full...)
Can you tell the difference between love and lust?
Q. Dear all, Is it possible to be affectionate and miss someone a lot but not love them? I'm 5 months in a relationship and have developed strong feelings but I'm not sure if its love? What's the difference and how do you know? We currently on...
A. 13 July 2012: Right now I think it is too early for you to tell whether you are in love or not. It really depends on the individual. Like Chigirl said, you will know when it changes for you. When I knew I was in love, I felt a very deep connection to my ... (read in full...)
My abusive ex owes me stuff worth up to $3000 which he refused to return and now he wants me to give him another chance
Q. Hey, I'm 20 years old , from France and i go to school in US i met a guy from Ohio , we had been together for 2 years. After he proposed to me last Christmas( We've in distance relationship for 2 years)i moved and transferred co...
A. 13 July 2012: I agree with the others here...civil lawsuit or forget about "the stuff". Those things are just objects and objects don't mean all that much to us in the long run. Your emotional, mental, and physical well-being mean more. Don't let him keep ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel, and risk loosing her as a friend?
Q. I have been friends with a workmate now for about5 months- we see each other all the time at and outside of work. I found out a few months ago that she liked me from her friend but I was unsure if I liked her back in that way. I definitely have ...
A. 13 July 2012: It's never too late. Call her and ask her out. She could say "no", but you will never know until you ask. Make it a casual night out. You could say "Hi, I hadn't talked to you for awhile and wanted to know if you would like to grab lunch ... (read in full...)
I had a threesome with two of my girlfriends, and now I'm wondering whether or not to tell my boyfriend.
Q. I am a girl and currently in a relationship with a boy who I truly love.We have been together for a year.But I feel very guilty and I feel akward whenever im around my bf or my friends.Because just a week ago me and my 2 friends,who are girls had a ...
A. 13 July 2012: You cheated on him and should tell him as soon as possible. If you don't, he will hear it from someone else and that will not be good.
As for him thinking it is cool...I am not sure that will be the case. Cheating is cheating whether it's wit... (read in full...)
Is he cheating, or is my past catching up with me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months n we were on a solid path. It's been work to secure him of his trust issues as well as mine. The last relationship I was in ended over a year ago to a cheating man. So before I met my current bf I went ...
A. 13 July 2012: If he is dating you, he should not be texting his ex or any other girl under any circumstances. HE is the one texting her back when he should just ignore her. You cannot blame this on the ex. He has the power to ignore and delete the text and not ... (read in full...)
My head tells me to get over her and move on, but I just can't let go of the feelings.
Q. hi i met his girl at work a month ago and we immediately go on well together. I absolutely loved her personality and her looks but I thought I'd get to know her a bit more before making any moves. She kept mentioning her ex and the stupid thing...
A. 13 July 2012: Have you asked her personally if she is back with her boyfriend? You have "heard" she is back with her boyfriend, but you do not know that for a fact, so I would ask her. I wouldn't let go until you find out what she is thinking. At some point I ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about where this thing is headed?
Q. I just recently started talking to a ex girlfriend of 6 years and everything was going fine for the first weeks, now we go days without talking. We decided when we first started talking again to take things slow, and i have asked her if anything is ...
A. 13 July 2012: It has never been normal for me to go days without talking to a man I care about. However, she may be afraid of taking much intiative at this point in time or she may not completely trust you yet. I think girls can be very protective of themselves ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.
Q. Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...
A. 11 July 2012: I am not a man, but I don't think with this question it really makes a difference. What is sad is that you are considering losing your virginity in a thoughtless and irresponsible way. I could better understand your feelings if you were 60 or ... (read in full...)
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