Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 20 July 2012: Don't buy him anything and don't communicate with him. He is using you. Don't fall for it again.... (read in full...)
I can't get over my jealous feelings about his texting with his female best friend!
Q. So today, I read my bf's text messages (he let me) between him and his girl best friend. They haven't talked for a few days, but I'm bothered. Keep in mind that he's not the person to really text, and when he does, it's short and to the point. ...
A. 19 July 2012: Let's face it, wouldn't we all have an insecurity problem if our man was talking texting, talking to, and emailing other girls all the time? I think it is really poor advice to be saying that just because this upsets you you have an insecurity ... (read in full...)
Would you be upset if your bestfriend started "fooling around" with someone that you absolutely hated?
Q. Would you be upset if your bestfriend started "fooling around" with someone that you absolutely hated? Back gorund story sorry if its long. im 18 an both my bf and bestfriend are 20 My bestfriend is also my boyfriends bestfriend (my boyfrien...
A. 19 July 2012: If this was me (speaking for me only), I would do things by myself for awhile or hang out with someone different who actually values the alliances between friends. If all of this friends of yours are taking sexual relationships so lightly, it won't ... (read in full...)
I'm loving 2 men and not able to decide between them!
Q. I really, really need advice because I'm desperately unhappy and hopelessly confused. I used to be in a relationship with a guy (say X) two years ago. It was an intense, passionate relationship but there was trouble from the beginning. I did...
A. 18 July 2012: As many of the aunts have advised on here before, I would be very careful with falling "in love" over the internet and meeting a man in person who you have never met before. Internet friends are often a fun diversion that can turn into something ... (read in full...)
I have a terminal illness and my husband will not give me affection!
Q. my husband and i have been married for almost 8 yrs and have a 3 yr old daughter, i have been fighting brain cancer for 5 yrs and lost 100 lbs. now he wont hug kiss or touch me, he says he loves me, but all we do is argue. anytime i need some ...
A. 18 July 2012: Tell him you need to feel his arms around you and your touch. You don't want sex, you just want him to hold you. Tell him you are afraid of passing on and that when you do, you want to go remembering his arms around you and his loving kisses. I ... (read in full...)
Is she playing hard to get?
Q. So I've been talking to this girl for the past 2 weeks and I've told her that I like her and she said that she likes me too. We would always text each other everyday and flirt. But last sunday we were supposed to hang out, but she cancel on me...
A. 18 July 2012: What was her reason for canceling on you? I did this once in high school. I agreed to go out with a guy and then when he showed up, told him I was getting back together with my ex boyfriend. I just didn't want to go out with him, but then, I quit ... (read in full...)
Would you be upset if your bestfriend started "fooling around" with someone that you absolutely hated?
Q. Would you be upset if your bestfriend started "fooling around" with someone that you absolutely hated? Back gorund story sorry if its long. im 18 an both my bf and bestfriend are 20 My bestfriend is also my boyfriends bestfriend (my boyfrien...
A. 18 July 2012: I am confused with all of the bf and best friends, but I'll give it shot. First of all, your best friend has a right to do what he wants with whom he wants. I question his judgement of sleeping with someone so quickly, but it's his business. It ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a guy who's not 100% certain about us.
Q. I've recently started dating this guy. He's smart, good-looking, fit and we have really good intellectual conversations. I feel a connection between us - he really understands me and he's very open-minded and sweet. He was engaged to a woman for a ...
A. 18 July 2012: Besides that, I think he's being very courageous that his breakup just happned 7 months ago and he is getting back out there to date again. If you want this to work, you will need to be very understanding and patient until he feels like he is over ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a guy who's not 100% certain about us.
Q. I've recently started dating this guy. He's smart, good-looking, fit and we have really good intellectual conversations. I feel a connection between us - he really understands me and he's very open-minded and sweet. He was engaged to a woman for a ...
A. 18 July 2012: Why are you rushing things? He was engaged to a woman for 6 years that left him. Do you expect that he is over her and all of the emotions and is ready to hop back into a relationship already? I am not trying to be disrespectful, but don't jump ... (read in full...)
I met up with my ex after not seeing for a year but I'm confused about how things went
Q. Okay so my ex and I first got together in 2006, we were like high school sweethearts and were together for just over a year, then out of nowhere he drops the bombshell that he doesn't think its working anymore, no real explanation. I've never had ...
A. 18 July 2012: It means that you were curious how things would go and how he would be after not seeing him for such a long time. After that much time has passed, nothing can really be the same. You are both different people than what you were before, so you may ... (read in full...)
Married 27 years, love each other like brother/sister. Do I stay here miserable or move on?
Q. I'm 45 years old. I married my wife when I was 17, and we've been married for 27 years. We've raised 4 kids together and we have 3 grandkids. Our relationship has been very tough almost from the beginning. We have separated a few times, but I always ...
A. 17 July 2012: If a relationship has made you so depressed that it is near impossible to recover, I think you need to do what will make you happy or at least ease up on the situation instead of returning out of "obligation". Your obligation was to try to make the ... (read in full...)
I found photos of female co-workers butts on my boyfriends phone. He says I'm crazy but could he be screwing around?
Q. So my fiancé and I got engaged in June this year. We had a baby together late last year. We have trust issues. Him because o his very serious ex relationship, and me because he is naturally a flirt and used to be a player before his ex. He used to ...
A. 17 July 2012: Whether he is actually messing around with any of these girls is not the issue...yet. The issue is that a man with a girlfriend should not have pictures of other girls butts on his phone. Then again, those who think porn is the most wonderful ... (read in full...)
How do you stay friends after breaking up? Is it possible?
Q. i was with my boyfriend for 1year and 9 months, yesterday he broke up with me, we agreed to stay friends, i havent seen him since but i think that it is doable, but others say staying friends is impossible, what can i do to make it easier to stay ...
A. 17 July 2012: Some people can handle it, but it didn't work for most people I know. One person in the relationship usually finds it hard if not impossible to change his/her thinking over to being "just friends". If you stay "friends" one of you will likely ... (read in full...)
I'm in a rut and don't see my life going anywhere! This isn't what I want!
Q. Hi. Would really love some advice. I'm approaching 32 and feeling my life isn't going anyway and should give up. I also am do jealous of my best friend who is 3 years younger then me and suddenly has the perfect life. I'm female, average looking ...
A. 17 July 2012: Here is a story I hope will make you feel a little better. I am 40 years old. I am still single and childless and I do not think I'm pathetic. I actually like my life.
I did have an emotional affair with a married man for a few years then whe... (read in full...)
Religious question: is it wrong we are not married?
Q. I am a christian woman however i havent been living my life the way a christian should. I have been with my boyfriend about 3.5 years. We have two children together, live together, and love each other. We both want to get married but we can barely ...
A. 17 July 2012: I think it will depend on who you ask. For me personally, as long as the committment is there, the wedding, reception, and legal document aren't necessary for some people. To others, they will say there can't be a committment until you get married ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend Jake or the new guy Brad?
Q. I don't even know where to begin with this one. It's gonna be a LONG read, sorry guys. I guess I'll just jump right in.. So I have been with my boyfriend (Let's call him 'Jake') for a year and a half. I'm turning 23 and he's turning 24. We h...
A. 17 July 2012: I don't even need to read your entire post to know that:
#1 You should not be moving in with a boyfriend who you feel suffocates you. This should be common sense.
#2 Do you want a boyfriend who apparently genuinely cares about you and wa... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to want to have a wedding but not get married legally?
Q. I'm talking to my ex again and things are heading in the right direction. However, I recently inherited a lot of money so my life is going to be very different. I'm planning to travel a lot and I'm not planning to have a "real" job. I just want to ...
A. 17 July 2012: This sounds like a post I answered once before of someone who inherited a bunch of money and wants to travel. Well anyway...if you are already contemplating divorce, you shouldn't get married. People who want to get married want to share a life ... (read in full...)
If this online guy has lied about simple stuff like this, I don't know what more he could lie about!
Q. I'm a 18 year old girl. Im pretty mature, not kiddish at all. I met a guy on a penpal site around 3 years ago and he introduced himself as just John (name obviously changed). He told me he was 24 then (should be 27 now) We eventually lost touch ...
A. 17 July 2012: I do not want to be disrespectful here, but what did you expect? You met him ONLINE where people are known to lie about lots of things. For your safety, I would not meet him. A roadtrip with someone you really don't know could be dangerous. ... (read in full...)
Am I the problem... or her?
Q. Is it me or her ? Ok my gf and I been dating for a while now. We started out fine till when she started acting sneaky i call it. I cant see her every time we plan on seeing each other. She always makes up an excuse, the first time was she had to ...
A. 17 July 2012: I have to agree with Tisha that there is some creative storytelling goign on. Up to you what you want to do. If you feel it would help you move on to tell her how you feel...do so. But, it may be better to just go no contact and move on with your ... (read in full...)
I found out today the guy I'm seeing has twins on the way.
Q. Found out today the guy I'm seeing has twins on the way. Its a shock. I like him a lot but I feel like running and fast. He already has two! I have no kids and though I love them I have no desire to have them now or to be a stepmom honestly. I know ...
A. 17 July 2012: I do not think you are being a coward. You are being realistic. There is no way I would want a man with four children at your age. I would just tell him that you are sorry, but you cannot see this working with all of the responsibilities he has, ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I don't understand.
Q. I'm 33 years old mother of 3 been married 12 years husband has looked at porn since he was a teenager. At first I was mad about it then realized He wasn't gonna stop no matter what. So I accepted it even though it hurt. He has told me when he ...
A. 17 July 2012: There is nothing wrong with you. You're a human being with feelings. There are all kinds of authorities online who will tell you that porn is ok, it is just an outlet, and to just get over it. But, that is not how I see it. If one partner has a ... (read in full...)
I can't get over my jealous feelings about his texting with his female best friend!
Q. So today, I read my bf's text messages (he let me) between him and his girl best friend. They haven't talked for a few days, but I'm bothered. Keep in mind that he's not the person to really text, and when he does, it's short and to the point. ...
A. 17 July 2012: I pretty much agree with everything YouWish is saying, but with one fundamental difference. I really don't believe men and women can be best friends without the issue of sex or sexual attraction entering into it at some point. I am not saying your ... (read in full...)
Am I the problem... or her?
Q. Is it me or her ? Ok my gf and I been dating for a while now. We started out fine till when she started acting sneaky i call it. I cant see her every time we plan on seeing each other. She always makes up an excuse, the first time was she had to ...
A. 16 July 2012: What concerns me is that while going through a very traumatic thing in her life (cancer), she doesn't seem to want any support from you. I find that very concerning. I know that different people deal with traumatic events differently, but it seems ... (read in full...)
We have no communication and he wants to get married!!!
Q. My boyfriend blocks everything out, including me. My kids love him to death but this relationship is going dead fast and i have talked to him about it and he sees he does nothing wrong. i am about to blow up because we have no communication and he ...
A. 16 July 2012: You need to tell him how you feel and tell him you are leaving if things do not change. If you have talked with him and he doesn't think there is anything wrong, he will keep behaving in the same way until you do something that shows you are ... (read in full...)
Am I the problem... or her?
Q. Is it me or her ? Ok my gf and I been dating for a while now. We started out fine till when she started acting sneaky i call it. I cant see her every time we plan on seeing each other. She always makes up an excuse, the first time was she had to ...
A. 16 July 2012: Have a serious talk with her about the things that are upsetting you. There comes a time when you have to sit a person down and actually talk about the relationship instead of talking to siblings, making assumptions, and playing phone tag. I do ... (read in full...)
Does every woman queef?
Q. Does every female queef? I really want to be able to stop queefing during intercourse, I usually do the first time, for example say on a night time the first time me and my partner have sex I usually queef then if we have sex more times during tha...
A. 16 July 2012: I think it just depends on the woman. I have before, but I don't all the time. Anytime you have a penis going in and out of you and pushing air in and out, you could possibly have this noise. I don't see why it would be a turn off to either ... (read in full...)
What do I do? He doesn't seem to have time for me any more...
Q. Hi all! I have a boyfriend and weve been together for 1.5 years now. We used to meet a lot but recently he has gotten very busy and i havent seen him in 3 months. Firstly about 2 months back he went to his native town, about 7 hours drive away from ...
A. 16 July 2012: You need to let go or you will continue to be disappointed. Some men do not give reasons as to why they no longer want to be with you. Some do not have the courage to tell you the truth, others don't really care. Your guy has not talked to you in ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: I think possibly what OldBag was saying is that you caved in by going out with him and letting him wine, dine, and try to romance you. She is telling you that you need to know what your real intention is. Is your intention to get back together? ... (read in full...)
The spark is gone in the bedroom!
Q. Im married for 8 years. The relationship is good we love each other very much. The problem is the spark in the bedroom is not there anymore. How can I fix that. She push me away if I try foreplay. What should I do? I really love my wife so I would ...
A. 16 July 2012: Goes ok for awhile and then you are back to the old behavior. I understand. I think if you have tried and she isn't willing, you have grounds to separate or even divorce if that is an option for you. I know a lot of variables go into making a ... (read in full...)
The spark is gone in the bedroom!
Q. Im married for 8 years. The relationship is good we love each other very much. The problem is the spark in the bedroom is not there anymore. How can I fix that. She push me away if I try foreplay. What should I do? I really love my wife so I would ...
A. 16 July 2012: I also know that sometimes no matter what you seem to do, nothing works. It sounds like you are a thoughtful and caring husband. I would just tell her you need to talk, take her someplace private, and tell her your feelings. ... (read in full...)
The spark is gone in the bedroom!
Q. Im married for 8 years. The relationship is good we love each other very much. The problem is the spark in the bedroom is not there anymore. How can I fix that. She push me away if I try foreplay. What should I do? I really love my wife so I would ...
A. 16 July 2012: Have you tried to have a serious talk with her about this? I know that does not always work. I know women who could care less about sex, but I always felt if I didn't have that with my man, I'd might as well be dead. I think sex is a very ... (read in full...)
The spark is gone in the bedroom!
Q. Im married for 8 years. The relationship is good we love each other very much. The problem is the spark in the bedroom is not there anymore. How can I fix that. She push me away if I try foreplay. What should I do? I really love my wife so I would ...
A. 16 July 2012: Sometimes women need extra romancing to get them "in the mood" and what is romancing to you may not be to her. Do you help her around the house with the cooking, cleaning, and laundry? Does she have a job that is tiring for her? Do you do ... (read in full...)
I want him to leave!
Q. i'm a 50 year old lady and i'm married, but i'm not in love with my husband. we have both told each other that we love one another, but we'll not in love with each other. we separate for four months' because he stole from me his attitude was bad he ...
A. 16 July 2012: I agree with AuntyBimBim. Get a plan in place so you can leave. Start packing things and storing in your car if necessary, or rent a storage unit somewhere until you can find another place to live. You can also get a safety deposit box at the ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: Plus, did you sit down and talk with him about all of the issues in your past relationship, or did you just let him shower you with food, wine, and compliments? Even if a relationship is still a possibility for you, you need to sit and discuss the ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: You need to decide if he is just a diversion in your life or if you really want to be with him. Sometimes we are bored and don't want to be alone, and we allow anyone in our lives so we don't have to be alone and bored. Any guy can come back, ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous and insecure of my boyfriend's childhood female friend. He admitted that he once loved her!
Q. I am feeling insecure about my bf and his female friend. My bf and I have been together for a couple of years and we live together, mostly quite happily. He and his friend have known eachother since they were small children. They have went on out of ...
A. 16 July 2012: I understand the "very much in love" part. At some point though, the pain might be more than you can tolerate. The fact she is an "old childhood friend" makes no difference. She is a female and seeing your guy...for whatever reason really doesn't ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous and insecure of my boyfriend's childhood female friend. He admitted that he once loved her!
Q. I am feeling insecure about my bf and his female friend. My bf and I have been together for a couple of years and we live together, mostly quite happily. He and his friend have known eachother since they were small children. They have went on out of ...
A. 16 July 2012: You should have a problem with it because if he really cared about and wanted YOU, he would not be communicating with and taking trips with HER. You need to make it known that you do not like him communicating with, seeing, and/or taking trips with ... (read in full...)
My wife has a crush on a man she met online. She denies it, I know its true
Q. wife has a crush? My wife of 2 years has recently been speaking to a guy daily since they met online about a week ago. They meet online every night speaking by mic, he compliments her very often and flirts as does she, they spend hours talking ...
A. 16 July 2012: Any time one spouse is talking to someone on the side, it is usually trouble. Especially talking at such unusual hours. If she loves you, she should not be talking to other men at all. I would tell her that her talking to this man really bothers ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore but am stuck in the relationship!
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 6 years, the 1st 3 years was a hell as he was cheating on me an I wasn't aware until I found out he had a child with someone else. It was hard then cause I was head over heels for him so I forgave him. Recently ...
A. 16 July 2012: Yes, we do understand the pain. We have all been through one thing or another and that is why we try to help. I am hoping that he does not have the potential of being violent towards you. You are kind of worrying me by what you say that you have ... (read in full...)
I feel like no one really cares about me. What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid Please will you help me? I feel upset, ashamed and embarrassed. It seems as though no one wants to form any genuine friendships with me. I'm making the effort to get in touch with all the people I know because I'm fedup with fee...
A. 15 July 2012: I am not going to tell you you lack confidence. Some people do, but you have actively tried to make friendships with others and they have declined. Don't be too hard on yourself. People are so busy in today's world, they don't have time to have ... (read in full...)
How do I end the drama with my baby mama?
Q. Well my gf and I had broken up almost a month ago. We dated for 2 plus years and have a child together. Recently I was caught lying to her and she ended it while upset. We went back and forth and it hadn't gone anywhere. So finally I just gave up ...
A. 15 July 2012: OMG...really? Just cut out all of this nonsense and talk and spend time together. What makes the difference if she only wants to spend time when friends and family are busy? Can't the girl have a life besides you? All she said was that the two of ... (read in full...)
I love him, but I'm not happy. Should I let this relationship go?
Q. Hi! I am in an interesting relationship. It's not an easy one to be in. My partner and I have been together for 5 and a half years. Through out that time I have struggled with turning into an alcoholic and depression. When we were first ...
A. 15 July 2012: He may love you and miss you, but he is not mature enough to see that his mistress is the alcohol and he has ruined his relationship with you due to his drinking. This is not a healthy relationship for you. His relationship is with the alcohol and ... (read in full...)
I'm having issues with oral sex. Help!
Q. Hi everyone. This is really embaressing. My guy wants me to deep throat him but he's too big! I literally just choke and have to stop and go back to just normal oral. Will the gagging go away with practise or is he doomed to never be satisfied? ...
A. 15 July 2012: I agree with HoneyPie...your guy is watching too much porn. There is no need to deep throat it to pleasure him except for the fact that he has that visual image in his head and thinks that is what you should do. Don't try to stuff it down your ... (read in full...)
It used to be fine but now the thought of sex gives her panic attacks!
Q. I've been dating this girl for about a year and at first she seemed uninhibited and we were having sex all the time but as we began to explore it turned out I was less innocent than she had imagined and we started finding some things she didn't want ...
A. 15 July 2012: Sometimes when one person in the relationship constantly wants to try something new sexually, it becomes a intimidating and unnerving for the other partner. I would have a talk with her telling her how much you care about her and you only want to ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore but am stuck in the relationship!
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 6 years, the 1st 3 years was a hell as he was cheating on me an I wasn't aware until I found out he had a child with someone else. It was hard then cause I was head over heels for him so I forgave him. Recently ...
A. 15 July 2012: You don't agree to buy a house with someone with whom you are not in love with anymore. If you've signed the papers, you are legally bound to help pay for it. This is what happens when we are not honest with ourselves and others. The only ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 10 July 2012: I have to admit that I think both of you are now playing games. Is all you want is him to act all sad and dejected like he has done something wrong, then go back to his normal behavior? Or, do you want a real relationship? If you want a ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 30 June 2012: Good for you. I remember getting to the point where I thought my ex was lying to me all the time. He would say one thing and do the opposite, or I would observe him doing something totally different. Then would further make things up when he knew ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 29 June 2012: You are welcome to come here anytime if you need someone to talk to. I remembere how terrible this was for me. Anytime he would contact me, it was such a temptation to want to make things work (in the back of my mind knowing that he would just do ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 28 June 2012: You know him pretty well by now so you can probably answer that question for yourself. I know my ex would always pour on the charm when he thought I had had enough. Once he thought he was in the clear, he would go back to his old tricks again. ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 24 June 2012: I think you should ask him directly what his motives are. You may not get a satisfactory answer, but you can at least ask and see what he says. If you want a long-term relationship, make that known. I honestly think some people do not know their ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 23 June 2012: I don't not know why guys do this. I am not a believer of the men and women can be friends theory. Unless you're co-workers or some such thing where you don't have a lot of contact and really are just friends. But, with someone you have deeply ... (read in full...)
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