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writes:Ok so here it is... I work with this girl... I've really begun to like her... she and I tend to work one double a week... And on lunch break I take her out to eat every time... We talk on lunch break about ourself and things of that nature... But we also talk about her dick boyfriend who don't rly give a shit about her... He treats her bad and every one else at work keeps telling her to leave him because he makes her misrable... She and I talked a few weeks ago about wat we like in a guy and girl... And she is every thing I want in a girl and I'm every thing she wants in a guy... How do i get her to relize that I'm the right guy who can treat her the right way? I'm not sure if this is a lost cause... But I kno she deff see that I'm a good guy, because she tells me all the time... Help please I'd really like to get this girl....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): You don't sound like the right guy to me. You sound like a sucker who is helping her stay with him by being everything for her that he won't be. If you weren't there then she might actually get frustrated enough with him to leave him. Instead you are being the nicer half of a perfect BF. He only bothers to be the bad-boy half of a perfect BF, but he still gets the benefits of being both of the halves that she wants/needs as long as you complete the rest of what he won't.
Look up "ladder theory" on the internet. You are in the Friend Zone and there is usually no coming back.
She will continue to thank you for your support and then go screw him again every friday for as long as you keep this up.
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (7 December 2009):
If it's worth losing the friendship, then be a man and ask her out. Life is a risk.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Sadly you have already become her girlfriend and it is near impossible to make the transition from girlfriend to boyfriend. Best to hold on to this one as a friend and seek a lover elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): She needs to end the relationship with this other man before you and her will have a go. You'll have to be very very patient. First she needs to become single. Then she'll need some time to pass to get over him and get everything out of her system. Only then it's the time to start courting her. I guess you could drop hints now on how you feel, but keep it as friends for now. Good friendship makes a solid foundation for a great relationship.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink, and in the same way, you can show this girl as much as you want to that you are a decent guy but you cant make her your girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): look bro..u are already in a difficult position..she already put u in her " friend zone"
You hardly get out of there.
Being nice is not always way of getting girls to like u trust me..Thats why many girls fall for boys who are jerks!
And even tho he makes her miserable she doesnt dump him..coz he triggers her emotions !
Trust me dude..i know what am talkin about..
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