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writes:Ok, new here and looking for advice. First a question for the ladies. In general, when grooming, if a woman shaves down below, is that usually something they do for themselves, or something they do to make someone else happy? The reason I ask this is leading up to question number two. For the last couple of months, my wife has not wanted any kind of sexual relations. I have been with her fo 20 years and her sex drive has always been much stronger than mine, we are in our late thirties and I would not expect her drive to slow down yet. Well we did make love again a couple of days ago, and I come to find out she has completely shaved. This is something she has never done in the 20 years we have been together. There has been a bit of regrowth so it was probably about a month to 6 weeks ago when it happened, so she did not do it to impress ME, as I have not been allowed near her for at least two months. Should I be suspicious that she may be cheating? BTW, she has had more business trips overf that lat 6 months than normal.I do not want to jump to conclusions, but am suspicious.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (29 December 2009):
 I'd say that she is or has been cheating.
Confronting her without hard evidence is just going to lead to a huge fight. Keep quiet and accumulate evidence until you have her nailed. Use the time to sort out your finances.
You may wish to think in terms of mobile phone bugs and gps trackers. They are remarkably effective.
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reader, amber0552 +, writes (23 December 2009):
I would say that she shaved to try it out personally every girl should be freshly shaved down there but thats my opiniion. Then again if she hasnt had any attraction to you and now all of a sudden is shaved and still doesnt want to then I would suspect she is cheating as well and if the business trips are all of a sudden coming up alot theres something going on. Hate to tell it to ya but thats my point of view. Maybe you need to just come straight forward and ask her. tell her you have noticed little things that she hasnt done before and its been in the back of your head that she is cheating...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Your suspicions are justified. If I were in your situation, I would be wondering the same things you are. Look around for more evidence; if you find anything solid (messages, trend in calls from/to numbers you do not recognize, foreign objects in your house or vehicles, anything else you can think of)confront her with it. Until then do your best to hide your suspicions so that (if she is cheating) she is unaware that you are catching on. I have been cheated on before, and personally have no tolerance for such a thing. However, your story is much different as you have a marriage and 20 years at stake. You should approach this slowly and develop a game plan before you follow through with anything. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 December 2009):
I agree with G. You might want to read that site (post at the bottom)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Honestly, I shave everywhere just to shave, its part of my routine in the shower. Regardless of whether I'm planning on having sex w/ my boyfriend or not, its just something I always do, like shampooing my hair, or shaving my legs. However, maybe she did do it for someone els? OR maybe she just thought about trying it out for once to see if it was for her? Honestly, I would come right out and ask her. Its easy to sit and over analyze every word, every action of hers, and you can ultimately blow nothing into something that its not. Im a very straight forward person, and if I have a question I'll ask, just do it in a way that isn't going to seem like youre accusing her of something.I would just ask her what spurred the new grooming habits.
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