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writes:pleasee hellppppppp me..im an 18 year old male that hates his life and everything in it..i think i am veryy uglyy. fat people tell me im ugly all the time and when they do it brakes my heart because i should be used to it by now. i was always teased in school about being gay ugly and a lil too big. i hate when i think i feel attractive and it really is the other way around.. i also feel like GOD put me on this earth to suffer and i hate the feeling. ill never say i hate God but i always question him. i have the best personality in the world im funny and always try to have a smile on my face but deep down in my soul im crying twenty-four seven. if my tears were to fall from my body it would probablly fill up an eight foot pool.. all i wish to have was someone to love me for me and and friends that would accept me and make me feel right what should i do i question my life almost every two months. im always being verballyy abused and as a child it was both physicall and verbablyy. so i wish someone would make me feel alive for the first time in my life cause these tears won't stop falling.please hellp meeh Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): I can relate to your situation since I went through most of the things you explained in your post but like baddog mentioned in his post, I reinvented myself. Once I started going to college and expanding my circle of friends I began to stop feeling as a victim and regain the confidence and RESPECT that was lost during all those years of allowing others to take it on me. My best advice is, try changing your circle of friends or move to a different location or take some time off from all the negative people, like a vacation maybe. And when you do that, be the person you want to be and not the one those other people thought you were and most importantly, don't ever let others take away you self respect. Be yourself and don't think too much about looks, at the end of the day people want to hang out with someone who is comfortable to hang out with and not someone who has good looks and be admired.Trust me, things will get better even when you don't see it now. I was down that road many years ago and came out loving life again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): I can relate to your situation since I went through most of the things you explained in your post but like baddog mentioned in his post, I reinvented myself. Once I started going to college and expanding my circle of friends I began to stop feeling as a victim and regain the confidence and RESPECT that was lost during all those years of allowing others to take it on me. My best advice is, try changing your circle of friends or move to a different location or take some time off from all the negative people, like a vacation maybe. And when you do that, be the person you want to be and not the one those other people thought you were and most importantly, don't ever let others take away you self respect. Be yourself and don't think too much about looks, at the end of the day people want to hang out with someone who is comfortable to hang out with and not someone who has good looks and be admired.Trust me, things will get better even when you don't see it now. I was down that road many years ago and came out loving life again.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (10 December 2009):
 beat the crap out of the next person that calls you ugly thats wha t would have done to the frst person but thats just me. other then that stop all your cryn you should be thankfull you could have been born a starvn somalian you could have been born a maggot or a one legged prosttute or a midget focus on the positive things in your life and beat the negative things out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): Hey hun, have you thought about seeing a therapist? I think it would do you some good to talk about this with someone. Are you close to any family? You know I'm in the same boat I'm depressed as hell and I hate my life and people say I'm beautiful. Looks won't make you feel better let me tell you. Do you exercise? Sometimes going for a long walk will make you feel good and you get to think about things. Do things for yourself that make you feel good. If your not happy with the way you look start a diet and exercise plan that will make you feel better. Not sure what else to tell you but just to let you know some of the most beautiful rich people in the world are depressed and hate there lives. The world is a tough ugly place for everyone just got to try to think positive. Set some goals. I hope you feel better! Hang in there! And remember your not alone!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (10 December 2009):
My guess is the people that you're hanging out with. Maybe you need some new friends? I know you're going to ask how you make new friends, but sometimes it takes time. School and work are always the best ways. I'm sure you have at least 1 really good friend. True friends don't call you names.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): I kinda had the same problem, i was called gay many times, deep inside i was dying so i came on here got some advise, pulled weights got a sexy tonned body now most people just stares at me like who's that guy, i can see it that i am now so attractive. Pull some weight please and also learn how to have a dude swagger like Beyonce's male dancers, Also get in an activity like dancing or what you like most, believe in yr self, change the look in your eye like passionate staring peopel can take you seruusly, let someone notice it and they will take you differently.
Good luck
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 The Great News is that you are 18 which is the perfect age to reinvent yourself. You will soon be heading off to university or leaving home and you can go somewhere where none of these people who have been dragging you down are and you can start being the person that you wish you were.
God did not put you on this world to suffer but so long as you hate yourself and your life bullies will be able to smell that you are a potential victim. It is up to you to break the cycle and stop wearing that sign that says "Victim". Day dream and imagine being the person that you would like to be, imagine what you would do in any particular situation and how it would feel. Move somewhere (or travel somewhere if you can't move permanently) to get away from those that know you as a victim and one day at time, reinvent yourself.
You won't find love until you feel yourself worthy of love so forget about that for the time being.
Ugly or not ugly is really neither here nor there for a man it comes down to competence and confidence.
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