Are we technically friends with benefits?
Q. We have had the exclusive talk, but I'm not sure if we are having a FWB relationship or if we are just both really busy and don't have much time to hang out before nighttime. Should I be worried? THanks for any input....
A. 3 April 2012: Well if you want to know the person you need to be asking is this guy. ask him how he sees your relationship.
but in my opinion if you only see each other for sex that is FWB, but thats just me.... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him and I'm sleepless in San Francisco
Q. A little help please :) I'm in love with the man I'm "dating" We were friends first for a while and started things up romantically a few weeks ago. Then I slept with him last week bi thought timing was ok because of how long ive known him The n...
A. 3 April 2012: If you don't want to be messed about by him then you need to get things straight.
You need to talk to him and find out what it he really wants, is it a relationshipe, just casual dating or is itjust FWB, because right now he isnt making it clear... (read in full...)
When I say no, girlfriend ends up taking what she wants anyways
Q. So I recently went to sex store this week to buy toys for me and my girlfriend, we're lesbians. So I bought the vibrators, bullets, eggs, and dildos for us along with anal beads and lube. I told my girlfriend I'd like to use it on her during our ...
A. 31 March 2012: Leave her.
Plain and simple.
You should NEVER have stayed with someone that forced you to have sex with them, thas sexual assult and a crime! What type of person is she if she can do that to you.
You deserve better, someone you can feel equ... (read in full...)
I feel jealous about my friends dating one another
Q. im in a relationship but i feel some feelings towards one of my good friends, now that they are in a relationship with another one of my other friends, i find myself feeling a little jealous and uneasy about hanging out with them. does this mean i ...
A. 30 March 2012: No it means your are worried about being pushed out of the friendship group as they now share a bond you are not involved in.... (read in full...)
I need a girlfriend, how do I find one?
Q. I'm 22 and have only had 1 girlfriend. I run my own business and spend half my life working but feel something is missing.........a girlfriend!!! Where can I meet someone? I'm not in a place where you go out and see loads of gay women and I'm not ...
A. 30 March 2012: Lord knows what the idiot below me is talking about.....
Do you have any friends that could set you up with someone, blind dates can be scary but you could meet them in a group first and see how that goes.
Even if your busy cant you go to a... (read in full...)
She's dating my ex best friend but is she over me?
Q. I am 16 years old and bi. My ex best friend was dating this girl, and this girl decided to break up with her to date me. We dated for three weeks and then she decided that she wanted to go back to my ex best friend. This caused a bunch of drama, ...
A. 28 March 2012: The best thing is to remove yourself from the situation by not speaking to either of them, they clearly both cause drama and you dont want that in your life. Move on find new friends and new girls to date.... (read in full...)
Why would she ask me my sexual orientation?
Q. Please comment despite the length pls. So I'm not out to everyone that I'm lesbian so at work maybe two people may know. Anyways there's this female that I noticed last month or so who has very beautiful hazel eyes with a nice creamy skin ...
A. 28 March 2012: Come on!! take the hint!
She is clearly interested in you as more than a friend and is trying to be respectful and not push you too hard, spend some time with her and get to know her you never know what you might find.... (read in full...)
We've been married for 10 years but I fantasize about making love with another woman!
Q. Do i love my wife? We're married for five years but no one knows i have a fantasy about making love with another woman! WHat should i do? I don't want to get divorced!...
A. 20 March 2012: Lots of people think and fantasize about so so many different things that they would never do in real life, as long as they stay in your head and do not happen in real life then there is no reason anything needs to change between you and your ... (read in full...)
Are they playing me for a loop?
Q. My girlfriend and I went to shoot pool to this pool hall with our straight friend and her boyfriend. The night was going smoothly we were all enjoying our drinks having an awesome time but something weird happened and am now a little confuse. My ...
A. 19 March 2012: I can definately see why you would think something is going on that is what would go through my mind, especially after they tried to turn it round on you which screams guilt. But just because they were acting guilty doesnt mean they were gettin... (read in full...)
Can you feel when something has happened to your soulmate, even if you don`t know them yet?
Q. This morning/night I woke up at like 3:30 am for no reason whatsoever and just instinctively knew that something had happened to, dare I say, my soulmate. I know this sounds crazy and everything, and no, I wasn`t drunk or high (I know there will be ...
A. 19 March 2012: I'm not going to sit and tell you that yes you deffinately know something happened to what you want to call your soul mate because nobody can know that for sure.
But i do believe the universe is a strange place and gut feeling can be worth a ... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend about having a lesbian encounter.
Q. hi, i am in college and i have been dating my amazing boyfriend for almost 10 months. he is the best man in the world and i know he was put into my life for a reason. well i went to this girls house who is a lesbian and she started kissing me and ...
A. 19 March 2012: Cheating is cheating whether it is with another man or with a woman so i understand why he is so upset.
You need to talk to him and explain what happened and why,as well as take any stick he is going to give you.
You need to make sure he kno... (read in full...)
How long should a hand job last?
Q. How long do handjods usually last when the guy is 17? And how shud I clean it up when im done? And how much will there be?...
A. 18 March 2012: There is no how long, all people are differnt some will be very short overs take longer to reach climax, try tissue to clean up i guess? and again the amount varries from guy to guy... (read in full...)
We broke up but still havr sex!
Q. i was with a woman for a about 2months. she ended it and said were not right for each other but she would like to be good friends. she hasnt had a relationship in years and her ex died years ago. that maybe why she ended it as she maybe scared but ...
A. 18 March 2012: It does sound like she wants all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment of being in one.
If you want to know where you stand then you need to talk to her about it and ask her what she wants and if she says she are just friends ... (read in full...)
Is vasectomy really reversible?
Q. hey guys...i hope everyone is doing fine..i want to ask if a vasectomy can really be reversed? Like my bf had one and he doesnt have any kids..im just qurious if we will ever have our own one day if he says he is ready? I googled but im not ...
A. 14 March 2012: It is possible to reverse some yes but not all, it would all depend on when he had it and how it was done.... (read in full...)
Not turned on by straight porn when I'm in a relationship and I only seem to be turned on by gay porn! Does anyone else experience this?
Q. Hi im a female and i was wondering is there any other women out there who aren't turned on by straight porn enough to masturbate over it? I like watching it to remind me of sex when I'm single and imagining me and my boyfriend. I used to get turned ...
A. 14 March 2012: Straight porn is very much aimed at males, the situations or sex shown are not aimed at what women enjoy or would like to see, due to this many women enjoy other types such as gay or lesbian even though it is not what they enjoy in real life as they ... (read in full...)
I'd like to be honest about my issues but I don't want to scare him off
Q. ive gone through alot in the past year for this i have been put on anti depressants and i am seeing a counsellor. it was family related and i was the pillar of strength but it caught up with me. i am now seeing a guy who i really like and we...
A. 13 March 2012: Being honest is great but telling people everything in one big go after a short space of time can be a lot for them to take in, that is not saying you shouldnt tell him though.
Try telling him things slowly, that way you have time to see how well... (read in full...)
I have no way to contact her except the internet and she doesn't even know me
Q. Okay, so here's the deal. There was this girl I liked in my old school, but we didn't really know each other and I never had the guts to talk to her. I had her on facebook but she deleted me recently because we weren't really "friends", which I can ...
A. 13 March 2012: If the internet is the only way you can speak to her and you really want to talk to her then that is what you will have to do.
Try adding her on facebook again, or sending her a message. If she accepts try talking on chat and getting to know her... (read in full...)
Cheated on my boyfriend with a girl, how is he going to react?
Q. hello.. i cheated on my botfriend with a chick during our 2 day break up, and im not interested in having a three some. how would you guys react to something like this if you were the boyfriend? (coming clean tomorrow)...
A. 13 March 2012: You didn't cheat on him at all.... (read in full...)
How did the pill make her breasts bigger?
Q. My friend is 19 and has been taking the pill to make her breasts bigger. I thought this was a stupid idea since the pill doesn't do that and she isn't sexually active, so why bother? However, she has been taking it and they have gotten bigger be...
A. 13 March 2012: The pill CAN increase breast size in a small number of people, due to the way it affect the hormone production, it can help skin in some people and cause spots in others.
Taking the pill with the sole aim of large breast is just daft, it does not... (read in full...)
Scared about having sex, what should I do? My girlfriend keeps asking me and I don't know why I'm so scared
Q. hi im a lesbian woman and i just wanted some advice due to sex. i really do not like anything inside me, fingers anything and have never had sex before as im scared to. well not inside me anyway. why is this. nothing has ever happen bad to me...
A. 12 March 2012: Some people don't like penatration and that is normal, but being scared of it is not ideal.
Have you talked to your girlfriend about how the idea makes you feel, so she understands why you are not keen on this idea?
Trying to put a finger ins... (read in full...)
Is he testing the sexual boundaries?
Q. I started seeing this guy about 3 weeks ago. I have seen him 3 times. I'm confused though as Ive had bad judgement when it comes to guys before. Im not sure if my gut is telling the truth or I am just relating back to previous heartache. The first ...
A. 7 March 2012: Well its not abnormal. How quickly you choose to get sexual with someone is up to you, although when you rush into things it is often very hard to figure out the other persons intention, eg do they just want sex.
He is more than likely testing ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to help my girlfriend cope with losing her mother to a stroke?
Q. I'm in a lesbian relationship and nearly 5 years ago I lost my mother to breast cancer that metastized to her kidneys and she died of renal failure. It took a hugh toll on me and really took years to become strong again about 3 or 2 1/2 years. My ...
A. 6 March 2012: You need to let her know that she can talk to you if she needs to but also if she does not want to talk then you will just sit with her or hold her, whatever she needs you to do.
If she is depressed and having thoughts like wanting to swap pla... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is hurt and says I am keeping her a secret
Q. hello guys, me and my girlfriend are very serious about each other and have even spoke about engagement. althought we have both agreed to do it next year when we are both graduated. i love her so much and we have even looked at booking a holida...
A. 6 March 2012: Of course she has a point I'm afraid to say. She wants to feel loved and like you are proud to be with her, how can she feel that way if you don't even tell people about her or the two of you? She will feel as if you are embarrassed or ashamed of ... (read in full...)
Not been with her long but she broke up with me and I really want her back! Help!
Q. hi im a gay woman been seeing someone for approx 5 weeks and shes just finished with me saying we are best off as friends. any tips on how to get her back. she does seem to care about me and been texting to see how i am and how my course went and ...
A. 6 March 2012: It's hard from the deatails you gave to work out who she she made this decison, but 5 weeks is a very short amount of time for a relationship to start getting serious, is it possible you could have got too serious with her too quickly and this may ... (read in full...)
His friends think I'm unfriendly
Q. Hi all. I have been in a relationship with a guy, things are going well between us but the problem is, some of his frnds think im unfriendly. What can i do to prove them wrong and make them like me? What can i also do to improve my relationship with ...
A. 4 March 2012: You just need to let his friends get to know you, make sure you are nice with them and try and make conversation and in time they will like you for who you are.... (read in full...)
I feel worthless as a wife because I can't offer him more!
Q. Before I dated my husband I use to date only woman . But there was something about him that caught my eye and my heart. I started dating him and I got in a serious relationship with him and we marry. Things between us was good and we were even ...
A. 29 February 2012: To say such an awful small minded thing such as you will burn in hell, to the woman he is meant to love, is just unacceptable! You have never lied to him, if he did not like the way you are, he knew this from day one, he shouldnt have married one ... (read in full...)
Body fluids tend to make me gag, how do I control this?
Q. just a simpol thing that worries me slightly. Me n my boyfriend have been together for a year and our sex life is great but when ever my boyfriend cums and I see it I always seem to gag and I cant control it. (Altho when I give him a blow job it ...
A. 17 February 2012: Is there any reason they make you feel like this or did it just come from nowhere?
You cant control how you feel but you work on telling yourself they are just fluid and nothing to be concerned aboutm and generally try not to focus on them.... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay or bisexual?
Q. Ok here goes... I'm 18, and my husband is 19. we've been married for 8 months. we have a daughter, who is 2 years and 2 months and i'm 11 weeks pregnant with our second child. Basically, i know in my heart that my husband is gay. He claim...
A. 17 February 2012: Whether he is gay or bisexual is this really the life that you want? Loving a man that is willing to sleep with a man and cheat on you then come home are play happy families with you? Dont you and your children deserve more?
You are so young an... (read in full...)
Is my secret lesbian relationship with my best friend doomed?!
Q. Help/ opinions will be really appreciated. Sorry for such an essay but I can't talk to anybody about this. I'm 22 and have always been with guys. Around 3 years ago I met *A now 20 we soon became best friends. Even though she was also 'straight' ...
A. 15 February 2012: I really want to be able to tell you that this can end without tears, but darling it cant. How many and whos tears is what you need to think about now. If you are really sure that you dont want to spend the rest of your life, or atleast try, wit... (read in full...)
My cousin loves me and wants me to have his baby
Q. my first cousin and i have always been close. we barely saw each other when we were little due to him living in another country, yet when he can to visit with his mum we always hung out. i didnt see him for about 6 or 7 years and he was 18 when i ...
A. 30 January 2012: I know you cant help how you feel but you need to think about this rationally. It is illegal. It will mean having to lie to your family or rip them apart. The child could have all sorts of medical issues. If you get found out there is... (read in full...)
14 and not sure if I should come out?
Q. I am a gay 14 year old and I'm sort of unsure if I should come out. I've known I'm gay since I was 12 and the two years following have been really hard because I've been trying to hide my sexuality because when I was 13 I moved school due to bulli...
A. 28 January 2012: You should never be ashamed of who you are and also do not listen to people who will try and tell you that you are too young to decide if you are gay or not, only you know your own mind. Nobody can tell you whether or not to come out, that is up ... (read in full...)
Is this girl dropping me hints she likes women or is she teasing me?
Q. I'm a lesbian and I have this female coworker who I disclosed my attraction to women. She has a boyfriend, but lately she's been licking her lips at me and sticking her tongue out in provocative ways. Maybe I started this when I blew her a kiss. ...
A. 25 January 2012: Sounds like she is either looking for an experiment or is just getting off on teasing you and seeing that you like her in that way.
Either way she has a boyfriend so you are not going to get anything meaningful from her expect problems!... (read in full...)
I saw my friend getting spanked...
Q. I saw my friend getting a spanking and now I'm having fantasies about being spanked ... wtf is going on?? She's a bit younger than me but we're good friends and we're always in each others houses. Anyway, a few days ago I went round hers and ...
A. 19 January 2012: Spanking is a common sexual fantatsy. Although you are still young and i would not go acting on this at your age, it is still very normal for you to begin to learn what turns you on or interests you.
I also wouldnt suggest annoying your parents ... (read in full...)
We had a great connection, now he is ignoring me because of family issues. What should I do?
Q. I met a guy about 2 weeks ago and started talking on facebook things were going good so we started meeting up in real life. He is incredibly attractive and we spent hours upon hours talking and eventually cuddling and kissing eachother. We'd go out ...
A. 14 January 2012: I dont think that continuing to send him messages if he is not answering is the best idea as honestly it can look desperate and generally be a bit annoying (TOTALLY understand why you have being doing it though!). If it was me, i would sent hime ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but he keeps flirting with me.
Q. hey, so there's a guy I like! We work together in a supermarket, were really close friends, have been since I started over a year ago!! We speak all day, go on a lunch together, breaks together the lot! He walks me home a lot too! We recently had ...
A. 14 January 2012: As nice as this guy may be, he clearly does not have a huge amount of respect for women. He cheated on his gf, and if he does really love her imagine how he would treat someone he didnt? And as soon as you show a lack of interest he is putting in ... (read in full...)
He cheated twice while travelling, why didn't he tell me?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years in a very happy relationship.He recently went travelling for 9 months and cheated on me twice once whilst drunk and the other time sober with a girl he had met up with a few times.I only found out after ...
A. 14 January 2012: He didnt tell you because he wanted to try and get away with it so that when he came home he could carry on as if nothing happened instead of having to face up to it and maybe end the relationship. Why he did is, well only he knows that, but ... (read in full...)
I hate being on top, it's way too tiring.
Q. i feel so lazy in bed as i hate being on top, purely because practice will not make perfect and i find it so hard and tiring! im quite short and my legs are quite small, and i feel like i cannot move up and down enough to please him or even myself. ...
A. 14 January 2012: Well the simple answer is if you do not enjoy being on top then dont!
There are literally 100s of positions you can try that suit people of all shapes and sizes, why not look online and find new ideas of things you think would suit you more, be... (read in full...)
FWB accuses me of cheating, how can we be a proper couple?
Q. Hi all I have a problem and I don't know what to do I am in a fwb with a man for the past 11 months we started sleeping together and naturally after a few months my feelings grew stronger for him I don't love him but I really like him I talked to ...
A. 14 January 2012: Well he said he has trust issues and you are seeing them first hand.
There is nothing you can do to make someone who has trust issues trust you as their issue is with themselves and not you, therefor changing your behaviour would not change t... (read in full...)
Can't orgasm with condom!
Q. So here's the prob, I can't cum whilst wearing a condom...I recently had sex with a condom for the first time (2 nights in a row and didn't cum on either) , I've had sex without before and had no problem with ejaculation. Is there anybody that has...
A. 11 January 2012: It is a mixture of all the suggestions.
It wil take you some time to adjust to the difference, cant expect to be used to it straight away.
The more you think about it, it will become more of a issue as you will be thinking about that and n... (read in full...)
I can't stand my boyfriend's best friend and I don't know what to do about it.
Q. I'm having an issue with my boyfriend's bestfriend. They've been friends since they were babies but I can't stand him. I just think he's an idiot and a bad influence. I normally have a high tolerance for people but I actually can't stand to be ...
A. 11 January 2012: I agree with you that you shouldnt have to put up with him just for you boyfriend, if you dislike him this much then your boyfriend should understand this and not try and make you spend time with him.
But you also need to understand that you can ... (read in full...)
Long distance phone sex
Q. My boyfriend and I are long distance and recently he's been saying he wants to hear me come over the phone. The problem is I feel silly, I'm not a kid but I get the giggles and when we do do this I want it to be amazing - I want him to be thinki...
A. 11 January 2012: You need to feel comfortable.
Dont rush into the actually toching yourself, why not talk about things you like to do together and things you both enjoy to "get in the mood". This should help with feel uncomfortable.... (read in full...)
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