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writes:i was with a woman for a about 2months. she ended it and said were not right for each other but she would like to be good friends. she hasnt had a relationship in years and her ex died years ago. that maybe why she ended it as she maybe scared but unsure. anyway we see each other most days still as friends and i stay about 4 nites a week. we have sex but she said we dont have to but im ok with it as i want the sex. she holds my hand cuddles kiss me has a bath with me and all is the same as it were when we were together. she says we friends though and not together. do you think shes wanting to take slow and see what happens or does she only want to be friends. i did ask her and she said just friends but she treats me as if we are together. is there hope for us in the future?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2012): we got bak together last nite and im moving in with her.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (18 March 2012):
 It does sound like she wants all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment of being in one.
If you want to know where you stand then you need to talk to her about it and ask her what she wants and if she says she are just friends point out ot is unlikely that she has sex or tales boths with all her friends, explain you arent trying to pressure her you just want to know where you stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): How odd! It sounds like your in a full blown relationship, the time you spend together, the things you do.
To protect your own heart I would back off a bit, treat her as a friend. She's put you in the position where she can end it whenever without explanation, where does that leave you?
I don't know why she won't commit - only she does, maybe you should ask her outright.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (16 March 2012):
 Difficult question, She is making all the signs that you are together but seems frightened to fully commit.
I would suggest you treat it as a FWB situation until you get some clarity. You don't want to fall for this lady only to have her see someone else and claim "we were only friends".
Take it slow, try and communicate and keep a check on your own feelings. If it starts becoming to much it maybe time to speak with her about it.
Good luck
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