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*oco15xxx
writes:hey, so there's a guy I like! We work together in a supermarket, were really close friends, have been since I started over a year ago!! We speak all day, go on a lunch together, breaks together the lot! He walks me home a lot too! We recently had our work Christmas party were we got extremly flirty and very drunk and ended up kissing on are way to a club!! At the end of the night I stupidly invited him back to mine, which he declined with the excuse he had work early! Anyway so we went through the whole embarrassment of seeing eachother in work a few days later! Got over it and were fine! Okay so This guy happens to have a girlfriend who I know he loves!! (I know! I'm horrible). So anyway I reaslised I was never going to get him and decided to try and keep our friendship more brief! No more lunches, texting, flirting! But since my decision he just doesn't stay away! Obviously a hurt ego of some sort but he's really trying to make things the way they were! Even bringing up the kiss and how he really wanted to! I just don't know what to do I'm trying to ignore him but its sooo hard! Any advice would be much appreciated xx
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reader, coco15xxx +, writes (17 January 2012):
coco15xxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice! Its just soo hard because I like him soo much! I know I shouldn't!!! I'm trying though :) xx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 January 2012):
 It is simple talk to him, tell him that you are not going to continue flirting with him when you know he has a girlfriend. You need to be straight with him and explain to him that you are not going to come in between a relationship. He is looking for a bit of fun to keep him entertained, but you would be the one that would end up hurt, because as you say he loves his girlfriend. He is not to be trusted. Tell him you want to keep your friendship professional and that is it. You just need to be straight with him, he needs to know. If he was a decent man who loved his girlfriend then he should know that and should not be out kissing other girls. Shame on him!!
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (14 January 2012):
 As nice as this guy may be, he clearly does not have a huge amount of respect for women. He cheated on his gf, and if he does really love her imagine how he would treat someone he didnt? And as soon as you show a lack of interest he is putting in extra effort? You are right when you said there is deffo some ego involed here!Would you really want to end up with a guy you know that cheats.I think you should stick with what your doing, distancing yourself and if he brings up the kiss tell him it isnt going to happen again and it was wrong as he is taken.
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