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Im a 20 something year old masters student, who is in a homosexual relationship. I live in Lincoln and i have had many ups and downs in a short 20 somethinh years which makes me want to try and help others.

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Is there an age gap problem if girl 18 dates 25 yr old guy? Or are they about the same?

Q.   What is your view on an 18 year old dating a 24 or 25 year old, if their maturity level is fairly the same?...

A.   19 March 2011: It is not a major age gap and if the maturity is around the same it shouldnt be an issue, just remember that at 25 he may be on your maturity level, but he has had more life and relationship experience than you have.... (read in full...)

She's 59 and I'm 18 so how can I tell her I love her? Also she's with someone.

Q.   Help i am in love with my mums friend and i think she likes me too. But she is with some one and she has two kids. I am 18. i really want to tell her but i am not sure because she is with this other person and she is 59 and she doesn't act nor look...

A.   19 March 2011: Im not even going to go into the age gap and the fact it would never work and just say, you would really do that to your mother?! Upset and embarrass her all in one stupid moments? Find someone closer to your own again who isn't your parents ... (read in full...)

How do I know if I'm bi-sexual or not?

Q.   im a 17 year old girl. i think im bi-sexual but im just not sure! in my group of friends we have a lesbain, and as a joke my other friends and i lead her to believe i was bi, but now i really think i am, but i dont know how to know for sure. ive ...

A.   17 March 2011: Hey, just to start with pretending to be bisexual to make fun of a lesbian friend isnt exactly the nicest thing to do. Now about you, well the first few times everyone has sex it hurts and isnt really that nice so what you felt is totally norm... (read in full...)

My friend is a lesbian and tries it on with other girls, but she has a boyfriend! Should I tell him?

Q.   ok, one of the girls in my friend group, so my friend, is lesbian, like she's said so, and come onto one of our other friends-who-is-a-girl. however, she has a boyfriend, also in my friend group. her boyfriend doesn't know she is, but like 90% of o...

A.   17 March 2011: Have you never heard the old saying its the messenger that gets shot? If you tell him yourself it will come back on you, she will be mad at you, he will , your friends maybe angry to. Also it is not your secret to tell, and it would be unfair o... (read in full...)

I miscarried and it was HER fault!!!!

Q.   recently i fell pregnant now im only 14 so initially i was freaking out about it. i had told my boyfriend and he was going to support me on wanting to keep the baby. i told my best friend everything and she was happy for us although i never told my ...

A.   15 March 2011: What you do is totally up to you and im very sorry for your loss. If you was me i wouldnt tell her, she didnt not know your were pregnant so could never have known what she was doing. Telling her wouldnt make you feel better in the long run and... (read in full...)

Developing feelings for my best friend, but she's seeing someone else.

Q.   im a girl at 14 from Ireland and i have had this friend (who is also a girl at 14) for around three years now. she means the world to me and i don't know where id be without her. we are really close and tell each other everything and recently...

A.   15 March 2011: Well atleast you know that your feeling towards her aren't sexual but instead strong feelings of friendship style love. Unfortunately as you get older you will see this happening more often, when friends get into relationship they seem to have les... (read in full...)

Sometimes I am so sure I am gay that I want to shout it to the world, but then I will meet a guy and the confusion starts again.

Q.   I feel silly asking such a personal question to a bunch of strangers but... am I a lesbian? I know I am attracted to women sexually; I have fallen in love with two women in my life and have only ever fantasised about my own sex. The thing is... I ...

A.   14 March 2011: Ill try not to repeat what has already been said. What i want to say is, why do you feel the need to label yourself? You should just enjoy been young and experiment with your sexuality to whatever level you feel comfortable with. If you meet a wome... (read in full...)

Crush or does she just regard me as a good artist and respects me to the point that it just makes her nervous or shy?

Q.   I'm a girl and I go to art lessons on Sundays. I've been going to these art lessons for 5 years. There's others there around my age who've been at the lessons for quite some time as well. It's fun to talk to each other while we draw and paint. I'm ...

A.   14 March 2011: I think this is simple really. Asking her about her sexuality or if she likes you out right would put her on the stop and of course be very awkward. Instead try and talk to her one on one a bit more and try and start up a conversation about wh... (read in full...)

Developing feelings for my best friend, but she's seeing someone else.

Q.   im a girl at 14 from Ireland and i have had this friend (who is also a girl at 14) for around three years now. she means the world to me and i don't know where id be without her. we are really close and tell each other everything and recently...

A.   14 March 2011: I kind of agree with the answer above, but just want to add my own twist to it i guess. Been 14, its true your sexuality is something that will change and develop over time and that is fine and nothing to worry about. The feelings you describe... (read in full...)

Leading a double life, I thought I could go back, but I can't!

Q.   When I started uni I decided to do something I've wanted to do for as long as I remember but never had the freedom to; explore my sexuality. I had a one year relationship with a boy in high school, pretty much because it just sort of happened and ...

A.   10 March 2011: The other answer is pretty much right, you did not make yourself gay by sleeping with women or by letting yourself try new things. If you hadn't explored your sexuality now, it would have happened some time in your life, you would have realised the ... (read in full...)

How do I meet someone?

Q.   Dear Cupid..... hi, i'm 16, i'm lesbian and i need a girlfriend! How do i meet someone??? i've crushed over loads of girls now, older and younger and i'm feeling really really horny a lot of the time. I touch myself a lot, but i want more now, do ...

A.   23 February 2011: Your situation is one that many young gay people face, too young for bars and not knowing many gay people if any at all. Off topic i know, but when you do find someone dont just rush into bed with them, make sure you care anout them and they do you.... (read in full...)

I want my mistress to go away. I'm NOT leaving my husband!

Q.   Hi Aunts, I'm in a quandary. I'm married and I've been having an affair with a female coworker for the past 3.5 years. I promised her that I'd leave my husband for her this June after my youngest child graduates from high school. How do I gently let ...

A.   23 February 2011: Im not going to tell you how in the wrong you are because im sure you know it. You need to be very careful in letting her down, as an angry woman is a dangerous thing, and you have to keep in mind it would be very easy for her to tell your hus... (read in full...)

How do I show her that I've moved on?

Q.   Okay so me and my ex has been broken up for almost a week now. And people are telling me that she's saying I've been playing on her phone but honestly i haven't even attempted to call her.. and it makes me angry because I'm trying show her that I ...

A.   20 February 2011: The best way to show someone you are over them is to be mature about it, dont wave other people in their face or arfue but instead be marure and stick to what you say, be nice to them but no more and in time she will be able to see that you dont ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my parents I'm bisexual?

Q.   I've always likes girls. Like, when I was younger I'd spend my alone time with girls kissing them. Right now I'm in a "I want to be with you but I don't know what my parents would think." relationship with my best girl friend. She likes me and she ...

A.   18 February 2011: Good luck and remember it may take sometime so be patient!... (read in full...)

How do I tell my parents I'm bisexual?

Q.   I've always likes girls. Like, when I was younger I'd spend my alone time with girls kissing them. Right now I'm in a "I want to be with you but I don't know what my parents would think." relationship with my best girl friend. She likes me and she ...

A.   17 February 2011: The best way for you to do this is to be honest with them, not only about how you feel about this girl, but about how you feel in general about your sexuality. It may not be what they want to hear and dont expect them to be ok with it right from... (read in full...)

An incident with my same sex friend has left me confused and angry - I don't know what to do.

Q.   I am a female in her mid twenties studying at university. I have considered myself, on the whole to be straight and have had one or two major boyfriends. Now, if asked, I might say I was bisexual. Might. Last year I met a girl on my course and we g...

A.   16 February 2011: First of all there is nothing wrong with having feelings for someon of the same sex but i understand how confusing it can be, especially if it is the first time it has happened to you. It also does not help that she seems to not be as bothered by ... (read in full...)

I'm a lesbian and its forbidden in my country. Do I run away?

Q.   hello I'm very embarrassed to write about this but i need to let it go even to people that i dont really know...anyhow,I'm a 20 year old girl and I'm sure I'm a lesbian ....oh God that is killing me i dont know what t do or to whom i should talk i t...

A.   15 February 2011: The other people are right it isnt just as easy as running away but asylum was set up for reasons and this is one of them, you need to find the britsh embassy in your country and apply for asylum, use the net to search for information on help on ... (read in full...)

I'm getting feelings again for my ex but she has a boyfriend now!

Q.   Ok, right. I'm 17 and I'm a lesbian, I have known since I was little and I've no doubts about my sexuality whatsoever. Anyway, I found my ex girlfriend on a website a couple of weeks ago and we started talking again. I met up with her and her ...

A.   13 February 2011: An ex is normally an ex for good reason. If she is willing to forget her boyfriend so easily then keep it in mind that she could do that to you too. If you really do have feeling for her and feel the need to tell her then do it, but keep in mind ... (read in full...)

If I leave, I will bring shame to my family, and they will break all ties with me! What should I do?

Q.   Hello everyone, I am a 24-year old girl from Bordeaux. My family comes from Pakistan and we are quite a traditional family with close family ties. They do not allow me to meet my friends and my only occupation is staying at home and doing my house...

A.   12 February 2011: Your English is brilliant! This is a very hard decision to make and you need to think about what you really want. You may still be young but your are far from been a child anymore and this is your time to live the life that you want to. You do not ... (read in full...)

Lesbian cyber sex?

Q.   I'm in a relationship and I want to know how to cyber with my girlfriend. I know it sounds stupid, but she really likes it and I feel so lame, because I'm not that great at it in real life either, and I just want to make her feel good. So I was ...

A.   12 February 2011: Just a quick note, you said you aint good at in real life, one im sure that is untrue and you should have more confidence in your own skills and two have you and your girlfriend had real sex yet. Now about your cyber sex, you should only do thing... (read in full...)

Since when is being gay/lesbian cool?

Q.   This is not exactly a relationship question but I was hoping that I could get views on this issue here. Okay, so my question to all you gays and lesbians out there is: Since when is being gay/lesbian cool? I'm sorry, I am a lesbian myself, bu...

A.   4 February 2011: Im 20 now, but when i was about your age 16/17 loads of girls at school and college would say they were bi because it was cool or because they thought the the boys would like it and it used to drive me crazy. I have found as you get older people ... (read in full...)

My lesbian friend suggested we have sex before I can be her gf. Is this how it operates?

Q.   I'm a virgin and a lesbian. There's this girl who goes to the same college as me and she's also a lesbian. We met in our history lecture and have become tight. She's been out for 6 years and has had lots of girlfriends. She keeps telling me that...

A.   29 January 2011: You are very right to be concerned. You only get one first time time and what this girl is asking just does not make sense to me! If she cared about you there is no reason you need to have sex with her before a relayionship!! i have never heard... (read in full...)

Do I sound like I am a lesbian?

Q.   So, I thought I was sure on my sexuality. But, lately I feel like I'm not a lesbian. Or I don't know where my feelings point to. Because I find both boys and girls attractive in 'that' way. But then again, lesbians aren't blind, and neither are ...

A.   26 January 2011: You are only young and sexuality is a fluid and ever changing thing so it is not a shock that you are not 100% sure of what you want. Dont rush in to anything sexual as your young and the best sex is when you are ready. But still have fun, date peop... (read in full...)

Girl masturbation

Q.   Is it just me or is using a vibrator a lot better than using your hands or fingers when you masturbate? is that a lesbian thing to use a vibrator? :s...

A.   26 January 2011: Using sex toys are a human thing! Like others have said a lesbian thing is like and wanting sex with other girls. ... (read in full...)

I used fake pics online & met a girl. I want to tell her the truth, but I'm scared. What should I do?

Q.   I recently met a fantastic woman over the net but i made the stupid mistake of using someone elses (who looks like me a bit) pics as im a little insecure on how i look! we chatted over the phone for 4 months and we've been talking about seeing each ...

A.   26 January 2011: You need to tell her why you cut her off the quicker the better so she does not feel like you have rejected her because of something she has done. You need to tell her the truth about the pictures and make sure you explain exactly why you did it and ... (read in full...)

Does she like me?

Q.   Well... There is this girl, and At the beginning of the year on the first day of College she and another student are talking us through what it is like to be at the college. The whole time when I am not looking at her, she is staring at me, a...

A.   26 January 2011: Your best way of finding out would be getting to know her, maybe having a conversation about if there is anyone she fancies, maybe suggest some female celebrities that are hot and see how she reacts. If yoy want a more direct approach then you coul... (read in full...)

HELP ! 13 and think I'm a Lesbian !!

Q.   Please can sumone help me imediatley please im really confuzed rite now because im 99 percent sure im lesbian ,and ive told most of my friends ,but 1 of them thinks im going through a phase but I have felt like this for over 2 years and at the ...

A.   22 January 2011: Your 13! your so young to want to put a label on yourself, when there will be enough people trying to do that for you. Sexuality is very personal and complex and you do not have to decide " what you are" or tell people untill you are happy and sure ... (read in full...)

How to get over a same sex friend who is straight?

Q.   I am 19, and I can't get over my feelings for my friend who is a girl. It is killing me. We were close friends but lately she has become distant from me. I wrote her a letter but I haven't given it to her yet. About our relationship. I think I am in ...

A.   20 January 2011: If she has already told you how she feels then i am sorry but there is nothing you can do to change her mind, she knows her own feelings. The best thing i can tell you is that time is a healer and moviong on has no time limit, the best way is tryi... (read in full...)

No more sex!

Q.   I accidentally stumbled across this forum because I'm also stuck in a rut: I'm bisexual, and I've been in a lesbian relationship for about 2 years with my girlfriend. She's been my best-friend for over 8 years, and we always knew that we had feel...

A.   13 January 2011: Well even though sex is not everything it is very important and what is more important is affection, such as kisses and cuddles and if you are not getting those either i can see why this is a hard situation to be in. You need to sit down with her... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to have cyber sex, but I'm concerned that if he records the session, it will leak out!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship and he wants me to have cyber-sex with him. Its been a year into our relationship and I'm not sure of the whole thing. What if he records the session just for his sake and it gets leaked by ...

A.   12 January 2011: As much as i can see why he might be slighly upset that you think this, i understand where you are coming from, there is always the worry of what can happen if the relationship ends. If you are not 100% sure and happy that you want to do this then ... (read in full...)

Crushing on her.

Q.   I met another female through mutual friends one night. We all went out that night and had a good time. The female was kissing me and my friends girlfriend and after we all had went to bed, me and the female I had met had sex. We were both drunk and ...

A.   12 January 2011: The simplest wat to find out is to meet up with her again or even speak to her own the phone and tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels about it. If you dont want to ask her out right you can try hinting and flirting maybe putting your hand ... (read in full...)

Trying to work things out with my husband but his daughters think of me as a drill Sergent!!

Q.   My Husband and I have been seperated for three months. We both have children, and unfortuately his kids have never really gotten along with me. the girls have always lived with their mom, who has always been very lient with them. They have been ...

A.   8 January 2011: I get where you are coming from and the rule and life skills you are talking about honestly well they are not a lot to ask for. But still believe the best chance of fixing things with your husband is to step back and let him and their mother try and ... (read in full...)

Going to finally meet the guy Iv been talking to online. Any pointers on what to expect??

Q.   I got chatting to a guy I met on a social networking website in September last year, I was instantly taken in by his sense of humour and friendly nature. We continued contact and have since, got to know each other really well. I'm very cautious when ...

A.   8 January 2011: Main pointer you said you trust him completely....dont. I mean this in the nicest way possible i really do! It leaves you so vunerable and at risk, just always keep your wits about you. Many people meet on the internet and have great relationsh... (read in full...)

Trying to work things out with my husband but his daughters think of me as a drill Sergent!!

Q.   My Husband and I have been seperated for three months. We both have children, and unfortuately his kids have never really gotten along with me. the girls have always lived with their mom, who has always been very lient with them. They have been ...

A.   8 January 2011: I do not know how old these girls are, but i am 20 and if a few years ago someone had married my dad and tried to change my life style the way a behaved and force their ways upon me they would have gotten exactly the same responce, and this isnt me ... (read in full...)

He has been my boyfriend for two months, and is now trying to get me pregnant!

Q.   Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months now and he started talkinq bout having a baby with me. The thing is im 16 and he is 18. I told him i'm not ready to have a baby that's not in my life plan to be pregnant at 16. even ...

A.   8 January 2011: You feel guilty?!? what! Noo The person who should be feeling guilty is the young man putting pressure on a 16 year old girl to have a baby she is not ready for and certainly does not need at an age where her life is just beginning! Of... (read in full...)

Could I be bisexual? I think about this girl a lot

Q.   I am a 23 year old female. I think i'm bisexual? There this girl i used to be friends with, for a long time. And i always liked her for more than a friend. I have never told her this. Well we use to talk a lot and after a couple people told her lies ...

A.   8 January 2011: It sounds like she is certianly taking an intersted in you, by asking people questions and so on. Its possible she may like you too but not be comfortable with her feeling and that maybe why she changes the subject but the simplest way to find out... (read in full...)

I've given her so many clues. What is happening to me? And why can't she realise I love her?

Q.   Why do i love one of my closest friend of the same gender so much? This girl i have fallen in live with incredibly, everything about her is amazing, she got the most gorgeous eyes, shes perfect! I dont know what to do anymore, i hate looking ...

A.   8 January 2011: Its normal to have crushes on people of the same gender and not to consider yourself bisexual or gay and it is also perfectly ok to be bisexual or gay, but I wouldnt spend too much time worrying about labeling things, because honestly you are so ... (read in full...)

How can you be in a relationship without someone getting hurt? Or is this just part of the deal?

Q.   i've only been with two people. the first one last fall...well, i met him online and we hung out a few times and i wasn't even interested in him... i liked him in a friendly way - he was fun and funny company - but i knew in my heart that i was only ...

A.   7 January 2011: Well getting hurt from time to time is part of the deal of life as much as anything else. Im not saying that everything is doom and gloom, but there will always be ups and downs and i guess how you look at them deal with them and move on is what ... (read in full...)

I don't like women in any way but I watch lesbian porn. What does this mean?

Q.   im 110% straight. but i watch lesbian porn. i dont like women in that way just the porn. what does this mean??...

A.   7 January 2011: Many people that are safe and happy in their sexuality watch porn that is outside what they would take part in in regualr life, it is totally normal and nothing to be concerned about.... (read in full...)

I'm crushing on a straight girl. How do you tell someone you like them?

Q.   I’m someone who has had crushes on males and females. I don’t worry about my sexuality because I don’t feel the need to label myself. I also have not made my friends aware that I like women, nor have I had any sexual experience with a woman (I have ...

A.   7 January 2011: Every bisexual/gay girl has had a crush on a straight hirl at some point, i have had a few. When i was younger, i decided it would be a good plan to tell my straight friend i liked her, not good lol. As hard as it is, staright girls are straight... (read in full...)

I really want to find a girl who is like me to be with. Any advice?

Q.   I am a 17 year old closeted lesbian...I've never been in a relationship with another female but I have had some drunken hookups (as a closeted lesbian it's easy to "blame" alcohol). Lately, however, I've been really wanting to get into a ...

A.   6 January 2011: It does not sound silly at all! Very girly gay girls are not the most common, well generally, but they are certainly out there. Well bars is a good place to start but there is the age thing. I know internet dating may sound weird but it is a good w... (read in full...)

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