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writes:My boyfriend and I are long distance and recently he's been saying he wants to hear me come over the phone.The problem is I feel silly, I'm not a kid but I get the giggles and when we do do this I want it to be amazing - I want him to be thinking about it days/weeks later.For those who have done it do u have any tips?
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reader, Ldu  +, writes (12 January 2012):
you can start by talking about and describing your past sexual experiences . Then start saying things like i wish you were here so that you could ( fill in the blanks) by this time you both should just be in the moment and focused . If you do giggle play it off like ' oh were so crazy ' or be like baby Dont tickle or that tickles . Close your eyes and have fun with it while your not together .
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reader, person12345  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 Try masturbating on your own, then call him up right when you're close so he can listen then. Hopefully by the time you're close, you'll be pretty focused on other things and less on whether you silly or not. That can help you get more comfortable with it.
But if you really don't want to, there's no law that you have to. Some couples who are long distance set up masturbation dates, where they masturbate at the same time, then get on the phone/skype right after to enjoy each other in the "afterglow."
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2012): Yes I would hold off until some actual physical intimacy occured and you feel safe and comfortable to do phone sex. That you have to ask for tips; seems like its too soon.
How long has this LDR been? How did you meet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes we have had sex but I just find it hard to get into it and I'd rather not do it at all then spoil it by giggling
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2012):
An old girlfriend of mine left me a voicemail in which she did not say a word. She just breathed into the phone and then she came for me. She said that what she did was get intimate with herself and then at around the right moment she called. It was very sexy to hear her. I still think about it years later even though we are no longer together.
The nice thing about doing it how she did it was that there as no awkward conversation. If you want it to be "live" instead of a voicemail that would work, too, but I recommend that you just listen to each other cum and dispense with talking. Don't even say hello. That's how I would start. There's something sort of sexy about it being "anonymous", too.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 January 2012):
 BTDT.. HATE phone sex... so silly...
have you two had sex in real life?
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (11 January 2012):
 i have done it before. You do feel rather silly however it can be lots of fun and exciting. I find it easier at night time that way i can close my eyes and imagine what we say or want each other to do and it doesnt feel so silly because its dark. also try it when your at your most horniest. Just chat and once you feel comfortable ask him what he would like to do to you if he was their or tell him what your wearing. just both imagine what you would like to do to each other imagine places ie the shower/bath / living room where ever. you can say what you are doing or ask him to tell you what hes doing. you can do role playing tell him what to do or get him to tell you what to do. phone sex isnt just doing it and moaning its about the words and the stuff inbetween. Hope that helps. aphex xxx
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (11 January 2012):
 You need to feel comfortable.
Dont rush into the actually toching yourself, why not talk about things you like to do together and things you both enjoy to "get in the mood". This should help with feel uncomfortable.
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