I really want to find a girl who is like me to be with. Any advice?
Q. I am a 17 year old closeted lesbian...I've never been in a relationship with another female but I have had some drunken hookups (as a closeted lesbian it's easy to "blame" alcohol). Lately, however, I've been really wanting to get into a ...
A. 6 January 2011: It does not sound silly at all! Very girly gay girls are not the most common, well generally, but they are certainly out there.
Well bars is a good place to start but there is the age thing.
I know internet dating may sound weird but it is a good w... (read in full...)
I'm still in high school and she's a mum!
Q. I'm a 17 year old female living in the UK. On New Years Eve I went to a pub with my mates and ended up getting completely and totally hammered. I hooked up with a much older woman, who is 39 years old and has a five year old daughter (she is ...
A. 4 January 2011: To start with no your are not messed up at all! Your 17 and this was your first, your acting/feeling like most people do when they are in your place.
Everyone, or atleast most people, always have a strange or unique connection with their first ti... (read in full...)
I think I have fallen for my best friend
Q. It's a familiar teenage girl tale, my best friend and I are incredibly close; we've only known each other a few years but it feels like forever! There's no one else in the world I feel as close to; I can tell her anything and she's the same with ...
A. 4 January 2011: It sounds like you have a great friendship with her, would you really want to swap what you have for something different?
I understand that you feel like you want to tell her but do you want to change the relationship you have.
If you feel t... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about her crush on another girl?
Q. my girlfriend says she has a crush on another girl is this okay? or should i be worried?...
A. 3 January 2011: Well it all depends on the type of relationship you have, if she justs looks but doesnt touch is that ok with you? And what kind of crush do you mean, there is a large difference between finding someone else attractive physically and having an ... (read in full...)
What is my mom trying to tell me about lesbianism?
Q. Today my mom and I were driving home from a church activity. There was a girl there who is openly gay. I don't remember the full context of the conversation we were having in the car, but the part I remember is my mom saying something to the ...
A. 3 January 2011: She may just have been trying to let you know that it is oki for other people to be gay or that if you ever felt that way then that would be oki too.
If you really want to know about sexuality then i guess that best thing would be to ask her out ... (read in full...)
I'm pansexual and want to come out to my Christian boyfriend and best friend..
Q. :] I have just recently realized that I am pansexual (gender doesn't matter) and I don't know how to come out to my boyfriend and best friend. My boyfriend is a devout Christian and doesn't tolerate homosexuality what so ever and my best friend i...
A. 3 January 2011: Why do you feel the need to tell everyone about this? There is no reason for you to have to tell them this, but if you wantto tell them and you are sure then that is up to you and i think the best thing to do is just sit them down and explain how ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep me in her life if she doesn't want me back?
Q. Okay, I am a lesbian and have not been able to get over my first girlfriend that broke up with me two years ago. After we broke up, she would get girlfriends but she always kept calling me and keeping contact. She even knew how hard the break up was ...
A. 3 January 2011: It sounds like you were an important person in her life an although she does not want a relationship with you so does not want to loose you from her life, and likes to be on a friends type term with you.... (read in full...)
I doubt she will ever leave her boyfriend for me, another girl
Q. i'm bi, and so is my best friend. we both have boyfriends. the thing is, im in love with her...every day i enjoy seeing her. we hug and constantly flirt (sometimes people think we're lesbians, but we dont care...we tell eachother we love eachother ...
A. 3 January 2011: You need to think about what is more important to , having her as a friend or her knowing your real feelings for her. If you decided to tell her how you feel and she does not the feel the same it could affect your relationship, but that is up to ... (read in full...)
I want to convince my girlfriend to go farther
Q. I'm not a virgin. My girlfriend is. I feel really bad about this because I think I love her and I want to sleep with her, but she says that she isn't ready yet. I asked whether she thought oral sex counted she said yes, so nothing. We kiss and ...
A. 2 January 2011: If she isn't ready then she isnt ready and there is nothing you can do about it, and if you really care for her you wouldnt want to. You should let her come round to the idea in her own time, if you feel you need to talk about it with her, then when ... (read in full...)
How do I approach her? And what do I say?
Q. I go to college (uk) and there is this girl there who i like. when I first met her she had a boyfriend but she wasn't happy and just before christmas she broke up with him. we speak a little in class and on facebook. my friend is having a birthday ...
A. 2 January 2011: If you want to ask her on a date, try making general conversation with her, figure out how interested she seems, then maybe asks her about the movies she likes, then suggest one that is in the cinema the two of one could see togther, just an idea, ... (read in full...)
Was it just a drunken mistake?
Q. My friend stayed at my house on new years eve! we had the house to ourselves! we are both girls by the way! and we had quite a lot to drink and then we went up to bed and we were lay there together in bed and all of a sudden my friend started to ...
A. 2 January 2011: It didnt feel right because your not gay, and just because you kissed a girl, that doesnt change anything about you, many people do it, whether its drink, or just because they want to know what it is like.
It sounds like your friends doesnt r... (read in full...)
Does "love at first sight" really exist?
Q. Is there really such a thing as "love at first sight" or should it be "attraction at first sight" - I think the first has happened to me. ...
A. 21 December 2010: Well love is a deep emotion which normally takes time to develop, but who are we to tell you that love at first sight isnt really, i know many people that say it has happened to them and i guess love is always in the eye of the beholder.... (read in full...)
I enjoy watching my boyfriend masturbate!
Q. I really enjoy watching my bf masturbate himself off. Is this weird?? ...
A. 17 December 2010: Sort and simple.... No... (read in full...)
Am I bisexual, bicurious or what?
Q. 4 years ago when I was a freshman in catholic high school I had a huge crush on my computer teacher. Yeah I know it's common and wrong but and wrong but I felt attracted to him. When sophomore year came around I became attracted to one of the girls ...
A. 15 December 2010: I am not sure how old you are 18-21 i am assuming as that is what it says, all those ages are still very young to know exactly who you are and exactly who you like. You maybe bisexual you may not but it is not something that should worry you, if ... (read in full...)
Why is it that I find this one guy attractive?
Q. I'm a little confused. I've always been interested in girls, ever since I first started finding myself liking someone. But I met this one guy recently and I feel things about him that I've never felt for a guy before. I know people would likely just ...
A. 15 December 2010: I wouldnt worry too much, i am a lesbian and always have been but over the past 5/6 years there have been a few men that i have liked for different reasond, mainly they were caring sensivtive guys which isnt the norm in my opinion, but it hasnt ... (read in full...)
She wants a chill date... how can I take things slowly?
Q. Me and this girl have been friends for the past 5 years we play a couple sports together and have always been close. In our freshman year of high school she came out as a bisexual. Last year I came out as a lesbian. We are currently juniors ...
A. 15 December 2010: I think the other two ideas are good i just wanted to add a little something. I think pj's or even just some nice comfy clothes, joggers and that type of thing, are a good idea as well as nice dvds. What i wanted to add was maybe you could get her ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss my female friend
Q. I am 16 and my best friend is also, we are both girls and i love her to death as a friend, but sometimes it feels like more. me and my best friend always text flirtatiously and we even talk that way. well today we were hanging out and laying in my ...
A. 14 December 2010: Well have a great birthday and i hope you get a birthday kiss! ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss my female friend
Q. I am 16 and my best friend is also, we are both girls and i love her to death as a friend, but sometimes it feels like more. me and my best friend always text flirtatiously and we even talk that way. well today we were hanging out and laying in my ...
A. 13 December 2010: Well it sounds like she is very comfortable with you, but if she feels the same way as you well that is harder to tell, if you to try and kiss her that is totally up to you and i wouldnt dream of telling you what to do one way or the other.
Just ... (read in full...)
My cousin flirts with my boyfriend when she has a girlfriend!
Q. Recently my cuzin sits there and flirts with my boyfriend even though i tell her to knock it off and she wont she has a girlfriend .. and i dont hve any class'es with her and him so i dont know what she does exactly ... Thursday this past week she ...
A. 12 December 2010: You need to tell her exactly how you feel and tell hert she needs to change or you dont want to hang around with her as a friend, then she should realise what we it doing.... (read in full...)
Why does he cheat, there's nothing binding him to me?
Q. I have been in a relationship with this guy for almost 4 yrs. I have caught him cheating on me a couple of times. But he insist that he want me and dont want to loose me. So why would a man cheat on you if he is really in love with you and dont want ...
A. 12 December 2010: Want a simple and honest answer? He cheats because you let him, if the first time he had cheated you had dumped him and stuck it he wouldnt think that he could get away with it. He may love you he may not only he knows that but if he can get away ... (read in full...)
Is losing your virginity supposed to hurt?
Q. Hi eyeryone! Okay so here is my question. My friend told me that she lost her virginity and i asked how did it go and she said it hurt really bad but in the end felt good. so i was wondering. Is losing your virginity supposed to hurt or is that ...
A. 12 December 2010: There will always be a level of discomfort the first time, how much depends on the individual person, but it is nothing to worry about, if the male is careful and takes it slow and gentle then it should keep the discomfort to a minimum. But at age ... (read in full...)
During break-up, lesbian wife slept with a man.....eww!
Q. Due to major unresolved problems in our relationship, I chose to leave my partner of nine years on July 4, 2010. We had been having problems since Feburary, but on that day I could take no more. Yes. I am the one the left, but I didn't leave with ...
A. 11 December 2010: Its hard to put it behind you because if she had slept with another woman that is ehat you were expecting, but a man is different something that you arent and can never be and that is why it hurts more than another woman. You have to put her behind ... (read in full...)
Did I creep her out or what?
Q. I am bisexual. I have a close friend, and we play fight, and flirt. She is straight. We hug, and joke a lot. She spends the night a lot, and we text each-other everyday almost. She was over my house washing dishes, but then I tried to kiss he...
A. 11 December 2010: Straight girls love a good flirt with their bisexual or lesbian friends, i have met many of them! But when it comes to a kiss or any actual attention they freak and and run. So i think she may have just got scared, why dont you explain it was a ... (read in full...)
Am I really depressed about the break up?
Q. Hello everyone. My girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago and ever since, I've been feeling really low. I was speaking to a friend of mine yesterday and she said that I could be depressed because of the break up. I know that the way I'm feeling ...
A. 10 December 2010: Depression is a mental health disorder caused by, among other things, a chemical inbalance in the brain so no i doubt that you have depression. Sounds like you are acting the same as 99% of people when they get dumped and it is only normal to feel a ... (read in full...)
Why do men treat women like this?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I got treated bad (I know,I know why didn't I leave). I always felt something wasn't right about him. I tried to make him happy, wore my heart on my sleeve and tried even harder even though I couldn't do ...
A. 10 December 2010: Not all men treat women like that! you cant think that all men are the same, he was just a bad luck choice or however you want to put it.
He acted like that because you let him get away with it on more than one occasion so he knew that he could ge... (read in full...)
Am I ready for this baby?
Q. im pregnate and dont know if im ready for this baby.my boyfriend wants the baby but im not sure if i do. we have known each other for two years but we have only gone out for 2 months.i think we are to young for this baby.i have only told my best ...
A. 9 December 2010: It is your choice and yours only! you just need to know the facts before you make a decision.
You are very young
Having a baby may stop you going to school or affect your school work.
Time with friends will be over for a long time.
The boyfriend... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay? Help me interpret the signs!
Q. Hi, I am very confused :) My boyfriend of 6 months has contradictory signs about whether he is gay or not. Well he is quite feminine and sensitive and I have accepted that about him. I have thought that this is because he grew up with women only ...
A. 9 December 2010: I would never sit here and say he is gay or he is not gay as i am not in the position to say that and know that i am not giving you falso information. What i can do is give you my opinions, and i from what you have said i can understand where you ... (read in full...)
Dating gone wrong
Q. hey, im so confussed i dont know what im doing wrong. when i met boys it never comes to a realtionship, we text,met up and do everything a couple do and then as soon as it gets serious boys always seem to just want to end it. its really getting me ...
A. 9 December 2010: Well i dont mean to be rude my love but that may be your answer, if a young man can sleep with a girl after a week or two without having to be in a serious relationship then he will, so when you decide you want to be serious he has nothing to gain ... (read in full...)
I've got a unique situation involving my BFF, and a guy we both like!
Q. My BFFL and I both like this guy, but he has a girlfriend. My BFFL doesn't know I like this guy, but I know she likes him (she told me). This guy likes me but, like I said, he has a girlfriend. You might be thinking "If he dumps his GF, and asks ...
A. 9 December 2010: You only young and trust me boys will come and go as mice as he my seem now but friends really can last forever, if you get with this guy you stand to lose two friends and when this guy is gone well you will be left looking silly, this is only my ... (read in full...)
Why do men cheat with nasty females?
Q. I have been in two serious realationships both ended with them cheating on me. The problem is the female they choose to cheat with are nasty girls who don't care what they do or who they do it with. So my question is why men cheat with nasty girls...
A. 9 December 2010: Men cheat with "nasty" girls as they are easy and they can get sex out of them and not have to put much effort into getting it and even less after, simple but true.... (read in full...)
Dating gone wrong
Q. hey, im so confussed i dont know what im doing wrong. when i met boys it never comes to a realtionship, we text,met up and do everything a couple do and then as soon as it gets serious boys always seem to just want to end it. its really getting me ...
A. 9 December 2010: When you say "things that couples do" do you mean sexual things or just coupley activities, if you could answer that it would really help =]... (read in full...)
He told other girls I was good at giving blow jobs?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and I can honestly say we love eachother. He has told me since the begining that I give awesome blowjobs. Today we were joking around and I asked if he ever told anyone how good I am. He said yes I told 2 ...
A. 7 December 2010: I think him telling people about your sexual skills is very disrespectful and he should be ashamed of talking about the woman he loves in such a way to other people, you should tell him how it made you feel and that you dont want this to happen ... (read in full...)
Phys Ed teacher flirting with me?
Q. I have a new Phys Ed teacher and i think he is flirting with me? He says to me are you wearing contacts i said no, he then says wow you have very nice eyes i said urm thanks and walked away. Then he keeps coming up to my table-tennis table and ...
A. 7 December 2010: If a male teacher makes a female student feel uncomfortable with his behaviour then his behavoiur is innappropraite and you have many options. You can tell a family member how you feel, if it is possible then you could ask to be switched into ... (read in full...)
I fancy her so much it hurts!
Q. well... i have this friend, well i say friend its more of a person i just say hi too really. but first thing is that she is a girl and so am i and i like her more than just a friend, i fancy her too death, i mean its killing me how much i like her, ...
A. 7 December 2010: Your so young, yet you seem very switched on which is so nice to see. Your right this girl maybe straight and just want to be your friend, if this is true then maybe you need to decide if you can cope just been friends with her or if that would to ... (read in full...)
Her high sex drive is driving me bonkers!
Q. My girlfriend just can't leave me alone for a second. Whenever we are together, she just can't keep her hands off me and wants to have sex ALL the time. I mean I love her dearly, but i'm not really an affectionate person where as she is. I'm not ...
A. 7 December 2010: She sounds like a dream for a short period but i understand over a long period of time that it is not ideal, such as your university work is important and it is not fair that she doesn't respect that.
One thing i would suggest that maybe her need... (read in full...)
How do I convince her not to end things?
Q. Well im used to answering these things not writing them but oh well, i love my gf/ex-gf very much and i want to be with her but our realtionship isnt good and we have tried many times, this time i think she does mean it when she says she wants to ...
A. 3 December 2010: i think people are getting the wrong end of this, my gf tells me shes loves me wants to be with me, we have been together a long time, but its the arguements ans things she dont want and the only way to fix them she can see is to end it which ... (read in full...)
We opened up and shared dark secrets, although his might have been better off left in the closet!
Q. Well, I am 19 years old. I have a wonderful boyfriend who is 21, and we have been dating for 2 years, and altogether I've known him for about 5 years. Recently we opened up and told "dark secrets" He told me about how he use to be friends with this ...
A. 2 December 2010: You dont "do" anything, he is still a straight man, he had one night and it dont sound like he liked it much so i dont think there is anything for you to worry about and like others said i think you should feel honoured that he feels comfortable ... (read in full...)
Jealousy has taken over me!
Q. so here goes... i came to dr to get back surgery and i be staying at my uncle house with his family.The 3 day i was here i meet one on my cousin's friends,that night it was me, my two cousins and her,we was playing a game and for some weird reson ...
A. 25 November 2010: Have you ever heard an old saying that goes " paranioa will annoy her" well this is the perfect saying for you. The more you pester and push this girl with your jealousy the more likely you are to loose her, and then the only person to balme would ... (read in full...)
Why do these guys talk bad about some girls when I think they actually like them?
Q. my question is confusing, but its important to me to know so any advice i get i appreciate. i dont understand why some guys call girls who do crazy things like; "trains" or sleep with whoever wants some; they call them foul names and make fun of t...
A. 20 November 2010: To put it in the simplest way guys may think those girls look trashy and they wouldnt want to take them home to mee there mams, but that is not going to stop them sleeping with them. men see these girls as easy and a quick lay so of course they are ... (read in full...)
Can it lead to miscarriage?
Q. if you over excersice or if you take a laxative pill can your about 8 weeks pregnant. can you have a miscarridge or lose the baby????...
A. 18 November 2010: over exercising can be bad for a baby i would not suggest it at all, take it easy on the exercise... (read in full...)
What do you do about horrible housemates?
Q. two of my housemates dont like me i know this because they have spoke about me behind my back to my 3rd housemate. being a good friend she told me they had said that i dont think for myself my mum helps me with all my work and its easier for me i...
A. 18 November 2010: Im guessing your a first year? well no advice me or anyone else gives you can make people like you if they have decided not to, girls can be ever so bitchy when they decide. My advice is, wash your pots when you use them, then they cant say anything ... (read in full...)
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