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Im a 20 something year old masters student, who is in a homosexual relationship. I live in Lincoln and i have had many ups and downs in a short 20 somethinh years which makes me want to try and help others.

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Why would gay sex turn me on?

Q.   I'm a bi-sexual, 21 year old female with a straight boyfriend of the same age and we've been together for a year. We're both open minded about watching porn and sometimes, we even watch it together. We find it's more educational for us and it spices ...

A.   4 June 2011: Many women, of all sexualities, enjoy gay porn, it really doesnt mean much, if anything.... (read in full...)

Why did I get this urge to kiss my best friend?

Q.   So today I was sitting with my friend and she was sad. And then I had this weird urge. This friend has been my best friend for a long time and well I had that "we are going to kiss" feeling. She was really sad and wasn't telling me why so I was ...

A.   4 June 2011: It may have been because she was so upset, you may have some feelings for her which at your age is very natural, most people at some point wonder about their sexuality or feeling for someone of the same gender. I wouldnt let it worry you or even ... (read in full...)

I have feelings for my female friend, but I don't know how to tell her!

Q.   hello... well, it appears that i have got myself into a really really annoyingly stupid situation. see. i like a girl. a lot. she's amazing and funny and too polite and kind. and we have a banter going about a lot of things, mainly about les...

A.   4 June 2011: Well if you believes she means it you need to decided why, is it because she dont like you back, or is it more that she is scared of her/your feelings. Either way you need to decide if your happy just been friends, then maybe not telling her is b... (read in full...)

I have feelings for my female friend, but I don't know how to tell her!

Q.   hello... well, it appears that i have got myself into a really really annoyingly stupid situation. see. i like a girl. a lot. she's amazing and funny and too polite and kind. and we have a banter going about a lot of things, mainly about les...

A.   2 June 2011: You said you were joking with her, so was the answer she gave you said in a joking kind of answer too, or did it sound like she actually meant it?... (read in full...)

I have feelings for my female friend, but I don't know how to tell her!

Q.   hello... well, it appears that i have got myself into a really really annoyingly stupid situation. see. i like a girl. a lot. she's amazing and funny and too polite and kind. and we have a banter going about a lot of things, mainly about les...

A.   31 May 2011: Your not wasting anyones time darling! You have done what may people do, made jokes out of an issue to test the ground and break the ice, in preperation for talking about it seriosly, and like many people you let the joke go on to long. The best ... (read in full...)

Guys do not respect our relationship and hit on my girlfriend!

Q.   i have a really large frustration and would love some input and suggestions. i'm gay and have a great, happy relationship with my girlfriend. we've been together for two years now. she's beautiful. she's got a gorgeous face, sexy figure. she's ...

A.   29 May 2011: Sorry but your girlfriend really is right, you need to get yourself into the mind set that they are daft idiots and it is you that get to go home with her and nobody else. There is no way you are going to be able to force the men of the bar scences ... (read in full...)

Could I wait till my exams are over and then ask teacher if she'd want to be in a relationship?

Q.   I'm a 18 year old female, i'm about to leave school for good, just have my exams to complete. I've developed a strong attraction towards my female teacher. She is 30 years old, and i sometimes do think she has feelings for me too. She hasn't acted ...

A.   21 May 2011: She wouldnt be breaking the law but i am pretty sure she would be breaking the school rules in some way, also your only 18, for is 30, that is a big gap for a relationship, if she actually wanted one, which in my opinion aint likely. Why not l... (read in full...)

Why does my bf want me to call him "daddy" during sex???

Q.   My boyfriend wants me to start calling him 'daddy' during sex. Can anyone explain this? He says that it is really hot and something that will get him off. Why does he find this so hot? It's incest foreplay! It's disgusting! Has anyone done it? Why...

A.   15 May 2011: It could be incest it could be submissive it could be something totally different, but the only way you can know is to ask him to explain. If its submissive and that is not something you like the idea of then tell him you are not comforta... (read in full...)

Should I complain about my treatment in the store?

Q.   Hey guys. This is not a relationship question, but more a question for your view point. Im 18 years of age, and suffering from a condition that my doctor is not quite certain of yet. I also have crohns disease. My condition is something to do ...

A.   15 May 2011: What would reporting her achieve? Do you really want this lady to get in trouble, would that make you feel better in some way? Yes she should have been more helpful, but she wasnt working and as a general passer by it isnt her job to look after you, ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid I'll bring the boyfriend home to my parents' dirty, drink smelling house and he'll think the gap between us is too wide.

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for months and he really likes me. He has recently started to pressure me to introduce him to my family. This has been happening the past few weeks and I haven't let it happen. My boyfriend is convinced that ...

A.   15 May 2011: I think your best option is to sit down with him and tell him everything, how you feel about them, what they are like now and what they were like when you are going up, everything. As hard as it sounds it is always best to get everything out in t... (read in full...)

When you rim someone, can you taste anything?

Q.   I was wondering, when you rim someone, does it taste of, err, anything? Or should it be fairly tasteless? Is it normal if it tasted of "anything" or would that mean someone has bad hygiene? Thanks x...

A.   15 May 2011: If the person has showered or washed proberly before hand then it really should be tasteless. Hope this helps... (read in full...)

Feelings for a female friend...

Q.   hey, so i have this friend called L---. she is just, amazing. i have had feelings for her for a very long time now, almost a year. and we have a flirtatious banter going on. so what i want to know is: does this girl like me? she always contin...

A.   4 May 2011: You know you said you are confused? well it sounds to me like that is exactly what she is, young and very confused. As from what you say she clearly shows interest in you and would give the impression that she has some kind of feelings for you, but ... (read in full...)

My girlfriends are in a relationship and it's making me uncomfortable

Q.   One of my close friends (lets call her M) who i've been quite good friends with for about 4 years, has actually decided that she's bisexual, and she has a thing for my best friend (lets call her A) . I know A likes her back in a way, but not so ...

A.   4 May 2011: Well i guess if it is really bothering you could try telling them how you feel, not your feelings towards M, instead just how it feels awkward and they are both important friends to you and you dont want to risk losing them. Just remember even if ... (read in full...)

All my friends are getting happy together. How do I cope with my feelings for one of them?.

Q.   Im stuck in a tricky situation. I still like the boy I've liked for like a year now, and now his girlfriend has broken up with him. he's been left single which gives me more of a chance. But now his ex girlfriend has just started talking to me, and ...

A.   3 May 2011: Ok, so how old is this guy? guys of a certain age always act differntly around their friends and it means nothing personal to you. If you want to know how he feels i guess asking him maybe the simplest and also the quickest way to find out, then ... (read in full...)

Is it possible for me to make a girl like me if she is straight but never dated a guy?

Q.   Is it possible to make a girl like you if she says she is straight (but has never had a boyfriend)? If so, how? She's younger than me and I'm around 18....

A.   3 May 2011: You cant make someone like you and you can not change their sexuality. simple. If you like her why not try spending time alone with her and see if there is a spark or connection between you and maybe ask her some easy questions and boys or girls... (read in full...)

Her parents made her feel guilty about our relationship

Q.   I've been seeing this girl for awhile now and up until just this week we were head over heels for each other. Somehow her parents found out about the relationship (we are both adults) and they made her feel very guilty and upset about it as they are ...

A.   3 May 2011: She is in a very difficult position and unfortunately your stuck in it too, i know this isnt what you want to hear but if you have told her how you feel and she still cant get past how her parents feel then maybe it is best for both of you to move ... (read in full...)

My girlfriends are in a relationship and it's making me uncomfortable

Q.   One of my close friends (lets call her M) who i've been quite good friends with for about 4 years, has actually decided that she's bisexual, and she has a thing for my best friend (lets call her A) . I know A likes her back in a way, but not so ...

A.   3 May 2011: Well unfortunately this situation is one that you do not have a lot of control over, whether your finds are gay straight or bi, when people within friendship groups begin to date each other it almost certainly becomes awkward. You say you l... (read in full...)

All my friends are getting happy together. How do I cope with my feelings for one of them?.

Q.   Im stuck in a tricky situation. I still like the boy I've liked for like a year now, and now his girlfriend has broken up with him. he's been left single which gives me more of a chance. But now his ex girlfriend has just started talking to me, and ...

A.   2 May 2011: Well unfortunately this situation is one that you do not have a lot of control over, whether your finds are gay straight or bi, when people within friendship groups begin to date each other it almost certainly becomes awkward. You say you like M a... (read in full...)

Will my ex like the personalized gift or be annoyed?

Q.   hi im trying to get back with my ex girlfriend. we broke up almost 3 months now. not a bad break up, i mean we didnt had a fight about it. i didnt contact her for a while until last thursday. i still love her. i decided to send her My M and M's ...

A.   2 May 2011: I cant tell you how she will react but think about it this way, you dont really have a lot to lose do you? If you want her back you just have to go for it, give it all you have got and if you fail to get her back then atleast you can say that you ... (read in full...)

Why don't my girlfriend send loving texts?

Q.   me and my girlfriend, yes we are lesbian couple shes alot older then me. she never sends loving or romantic texts and i do for her all the time but she never replies to them. the type of text she sends me are just about what shes been up to and ask ...

A.   2 May 2011: Some people are just not into showing their feelings and affections in texts or im messages or other inpersonal ways. She may just not be that type of person, and you cant force her to be any other way, if she says she loves you in person and shows ... (read in full...)

What am I doing wrong that is making men turn gay?

Q.   my two ex boyfriends have both turned gay after having sex with me. now i havent had sex in a while because i am scared. what am i doing so wrong that is making men turn gay. ...

A.   2 May 2011: Nobody can turn another person gay. End of. So you need to get that idea out of your head. It can be one of a few things, you can either have just been unlucky to date to men that where still not sure of their sexuality. Or maybe there was some... (read in full...)

Her parents made her feel guilty about our relationship

Q.   I've been seeing this girl for awhile now and up until just this week we were head over heels for each other. Somehow her parents found out about the relationship (we are both adults) and they made her feel very guilty and upset about it as they are ...

A.   2 May 2011: You need to sit down with her and tell her how you feel about her and your relationship, you need to tell her that you understand that she is in a awful position with her parents, but she is an adult and can not live her life trying to keep them or ... (read in full...)

I'm moving away for school! What should I do?

Q.   I'm 23 and have just started an amazing new relationship. I've been dating this girl for almost two months now, and while I realize its still in the new honeymoon phase, I couldn't be happier. My only issue is, I'm moving in about 3 months, ...

A.   1 May 2011: Although it has only been two month which isnt very long if you feel that there maybe a future for the two of you, you need to tell her how you feel because really if you are moving away, what do you have to lose? If you dont think you will l... (read in full...)

What can we do with a crazy ex?

Q.   Hey! I'm a girl and I'm in a long distance relationship with an other girl, we started dating recently... she had a grilfriend before me of course, but she is my first girlfriend ever, the thing is my girlfriend had this trip planned to visit h...

A.   20 April 2011: Unfortunately this is a commom problem with new relationships, and is made worse in your case by the long distance aspect of your relationship. I know it is frustrating but the best thing you can do is be there to support your girlfriend and of c... (read in full...)

I love her. Do you think she feels anything other than friendship for me?

Q.   I'm deeply in love with my straight best friend. I'm 17 and bi, she's 18 and leaving here for uni in October. I don't remember ever feeling this strongly about anyone, and even before I told her we were incredibly close. She ended up guessing how I ...

A.   15 April 2011: You need to think about yourself and the fact you could get hurt. She is clearly very confused and unsure about what she wants, and she clear isnt sure what she wants if she thinks she likes you but isnt even sure if she could kiss you. I know yo... (read in full...)

She made plans to meet with someone from work without me for a drink. Should I be upset?

Q.   My girlfriend of two months made plans to drink with a guy from work without me. Do I have a right to be upset? It seems like she's enjoying the fact that it hurts me. I know she loves me, she tells me all the time. I'm not understanding her ...

A.   13 April 2011: if he has told her he has feelings for her then you need to tell her how it makes you feel, so next time she can take that into consideration before agressing to go places with him.... (read in full...)

Why was my girlfriend crying during sex?

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for the last 3 nights and tonight she started crying. What can I do to comfort her ? What should I say to her ? ...

A.   10 April 2011: First you need to find out why she cried, it could be something simple like you may have accidentally hurt her. It may be something emotional, which will be harder to deal with, first you need to find out what it is then talk through it with her. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend allows me to pursue women, but now he calls me a "lesbian"

Q.   Hey, im engaged to the most wonderful man in the world. He treats me amazing and makes me feel even better. The sex is really good too. Before i met him i was a bit promicious but really settled down now. I had also been with a few girls and this...

A.   10 April 2011: You are young to be engaged and tied down, although that is your choice. It is normal to want to explore your sexuality and figure out who you are, although i think you need to decide if it is him you want or time to explore who you are, having both ... (read in full...)

She made plans to meet with someone from work without me for a drink. Should I be upset?

Q.   My girlfriend of two months made plans to drink with a guy from work without me. Do I have a right to be upset? It seems like she's enjoying the fact that it hurts me. I know she loves me, she tells me all the time. I'm not understanding her ...

A.   10 April 2011: You have only been together two months? why does she have to take you everywhere she goes, she should be able to see and go where she wants, with or without you. You need to trust her or im sorry you will lose her.... (read in full...)

I love her. Do you think she feels anything other than friendship for me?

Q.   I'm deeply in love with my straight best friend. I'm 17 and bi, she's 18 and leaving here for uni in October. I don't remember ever feeling this strongly about anyone, and even before I told her we were incredibly close. She ended up guessing how I ...

A.   8 April 2011: Im sorry because im not going to tell you what you want to hear but i dont think there is anything more than friendship between you and this girl. Welcome to the wonderful world of loving a straight girl. It happens to all gay/bisexual gir... (read in full...)

Girlfriends are spreading rumors that I am a lesbian. How do I deal with this?

Q.   Okay so hi everybody I'm back with yet another problem .. All my life I've been very weary of boys because of a bad past which I would not like to go into. This has obviously taken it's toll on my social life. I have a close group of 4 friends who...

A.   5 April 2011: Unfortunatley some people have nothing better to do than make up rumours or take about other people and at your age sexulaity is always a very common rumour. Im so glad you are a strong and mature enough person not to feel the need to get a boyfri... (read in full...)

I can't initiate sex!

Q.   I joined this place after googling 'sex makes me feel guilty' and an answer from here came up. The question I read though was vague and although there were good answers they weren't foe me...so I'll say a bit more I am a female and I have a fem...

A.   5 April 2011: Hey there, well I think it is great that you want to do aomething about this and aren't willing, like a lot of people are, to let it ruin your relationship. TEM is right saying the guilt you feel about sex and sexual pleasure is similiar to the w... (read in full...)

I need help telling my parents I am bisexual.

Q.   Hi. Here's the thing. I'm bisexual. I really like one of my girl friends, and she's bi too. she told me she liked me and now we are kind of going out. my parents/family dont know that I like girls and i am far too afraid to tell them because im ...

A.   4 April 2011: Your a grown up adult and it is your life so you can live it however you want and with whoever you want. You just need to explain to your parents that you not gay, but just like who you like despite gender and that it does not change who you are or ... (read in full...)

I am confused about my feelings for my lesbian friend, and so is she.

Q.   so about a month ago i started speaking to this girl at work who is a lesbian and i know she gets extremely attached really easily but i never though it would be to me. so the weekend after i met her, we went out to the club together and end...

A.   3 April 2011: Been gay and falling for a straight girl can be one of the most frustrating and confusing things possible, so i do see where she is coming from in that sense. On the other hand if you have made it clear,or atleast sort of clear, what you want the... (read in full...)

She said "DO U WANNA"? Is she asking me out or does she just want to have sex with me?

Q.   Okay so my girl best friend and I are really great friends. Last 5 months, She told me that she's Bi and I told her that I'm bi too. So today, Things got kinda awkward.. We were chatting online and she kept telling me this question like DO U WANN...

A.   3 April 2011: I would be inclined to agree that she was asking about something sexual, but that may not be the case, the only way to know for sure is to ask her. And if she did mean something sexual then remember that you should only do something if you are read... (read in full...)

I can't get over my friend who is not interested in me

Q.   I cant get over my friend who is not interested in me she a beautiful girl (she says she isn't but she is) shes bit of a tom boy she very sweet and caring and we are very good friends and I've been in love for her for a very long time and even ...

A.   3 April 2011: Welcome to liking a straight girl! it happnes to all gay women at some point and is a total pain, but not the end of the world. try remindinding yourself its not you that she doesnt fancy its the gender, that can help. The main thing, which you... (read in full...)

I hate the penis, but dreamt I liked it on a woman...What does this mean?

Q.   Ok, I edited it, please post. I saw a question about a woman who dreamt she was a hermaphrodite, and it reminded me i had a similar dream last night. IN REALITY I'm an 18 year old gay girl and My 17 year old step sister recently tried to set me ...

A.   3 April 2011: Hey there, im a lesbian, i have 0% attraction to men but have had dreams where i have enjoyed sex with a man. But that is all they are, dreams. They mean nothing to who or what you are in reality no matter how weird they may have been, think of all ... (read in full...)

How do I let her know that I am interested in her?

Q.   Hello! I recently realized that I am bisexual and happy. I am not entirely open with it, but I'm not hiding it either. I have only told 2 friends and they are supportive and I appreciate it. My parents on the other hand, are homophobic so they ...

A.   30 March 2011: Have you ever thought of just going up to her and starting a conversation? I know it is scary but sometimes you have to just face your fears and do it. If you cant do that then why not add her on facebook and start talking to her on there first, i... (read in full...)

I like to dress to show off my body, but my girlfriend insists I dress conservatively! Who is right?

Q.   Im a gay 23 yr. old girl, my gf is insisting that i dress very conservatively as she's afraid i will attract other girls. but i like to dress to show off my body. who's right?...

A.   29 March 2011: I think it depends how much of your body you are showing if, it is of course up to you what you choose to wear and nobody can tell you what do wear. But you should also respect your gf and how she feels about the image you give off, if you dress ... (read in full...)

Should I let him film us having sex?

Q.   Ok,It would be extra helpful if some guys could answer this question,if you had a video of you and a girl having sex,would you show it to anybody-I've been seeing this guy and he's been knagging me to make a video with him for about a month now,he ...

A.   21 March 2011: Please dont put yourself in a position where someone has that type of power over you, if you leave him it will be all over the net before you know it!! ... (read in full...)

Is there an age gap problem if girl 18 dates 25 yr old guy? Or are they about the same?

Q.   What is your view on an 18 year old dating a 24 or 25 year old, if their maturity level is fairly the same?...

A.   19 March 2011: It is not a major age gap and if the maturity is around the same it shouldnt be an issue, just remember that at 25 he may be on your maturity level, but he has had more life and relationship experience than you have.... (read in full...)

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