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Help! I'm crushing on a younger man.

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Question - (16 April 2018) 3 Answers - (Newest, 21 April 2018)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Help! I think I may be crushing on a much younger man - it’s embarrasing . I am working at a retail store to pay of my student loans and I work there every weekend . I am 32 year old single woman. I must admit I am lonely since it has been two years since I have been with a man . I tried online dating/ bars etc it has just led to people wanting to have only sex so I don’t bother. I just focus on improving myself and my debt

Well I started working at the pharmacy two months ago and I noticed this younger cashier - he is in college now working . At first I didn’t think much as he is 21 and I’m 32.. but it turns out that we have things in common and he is physically my type. I would never cross the line since he is so young but I find myself innocently flirting with hkm and liking the attention

I feel so ashamed - has anyone felt like this?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2018):

you're both adults. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. You said you have things in common and he is physically your type. let him know you're interested and see if he will ask you out. Or you can ask him to coffee and take it from there. Going out and dating could be fun and a good thing for both of you at different levels.

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A female reader, 02DuszJ United Kingdom + , writes (16 April 2018):

02DuszJ agony auntI agree with the last post there's little that's shameful about it, you're both adults. I used to work in retail and there was a guy who came in every day that asked me out!

I would say tone down anything in front of your manager, and don't ask him out- let him know you're interested subtlety and let him ask you out.

Also bear in mind he is at student age and while you're still adults, don't be surprised if he's immature! Having said that my guy was 22 and I was 25,he was actually a decent responsible guy.

Personally I wouldn't expect it to last due to the stage he's at in his life but there's no harm in treading carefully. Good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2018):

"Ashamed" I feel is a pretty strong word.

Maybe feel ashamed if he was 15 and you were 26, but not 32 and 21. By most of the worlds laws and standards you rare BOTH adults. The only thing I will say is that a young man is going to (more than likely) still have hormones raging. Needless to say, a woman's hormones apparently go into overdrive in their 30's and 40's. (Presuming that you're are looking at him in those ways?) There is no rhyme or reason to attraction, we like another because we just do (sometimes even if they're the meanest asses in the world, but that's usually brainwashing) so, you have a thing for a younger man. LOCK HER AWAY! Only kidding. Some of the sweetest relationships have been between an older woman and a younger man. There's a lot of understanding and respect there. Didn't work for me, but who knows for you?

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