Relationship started out well but now he's asking for more and more money. Is he using me?
Q. To cut my story short, I met a turkish guy at a resort during my holiday 2 months ago.We are both muslims and have similar cultures as I am from the middle east, so we seem to understand each other's views and lifestyles. Everything was going smooth ...
A. 6 November 2017: That's daylight robbery, sorry. WHY is it a woman's responsibility to PROVIDE for a guy she just met?
I'm guessing you/your family are well off- and I'm sure he's picked up on that.
I agree with Aunt Honesty, tell your family ... (read in full...)
How do I tell someone not to touch my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for almost two years. We have a good relationship, not much drama, we both prefer that way. He is introvert but in social situations he can have fun if he wants to. I'm an introvert who is socially shy and Don't have m...
A. 4 November 2017: So what? It's not about other men or their reactions- he LETS another woman put her hands all over him. ALLOWING this is DISRESPECTFUL AND HUMILIATING to you.
It doesn't matter what shes after, it matters that HE wants her hands over him.
... (read in full...)
Friend sponges off everyone. How do I deal with her?
Q. Hi, I have a friend who's used to living off other people. She's funny, smart and she still takes money from her parents (she's 39 years old!), "borrows" money and promises to pay back at some point. Goes out for drinks, meals and almost never...
A. 3 November 2017: *Lend* her it if you don't want to see your $800 again- you WON'T be getting that back.
If she's not homeless she gets benefits right? So she can survive Ok if she needs to.. She needs to learn that she can't get whatever she wants for FREE- at... (read in full...)
I'm confused, is she interested or just making conversation?
Q. So I work with someone who I find attractive. I have never led her on or flirted with her. I am in a happy relationship and she is married. But sometimes I have to work with her and sometimes she will touch me or make light conversation about my ...
A. 2 November 2017: Erm? You're in a happy relationship but you want to do the dirty on your girlfriend for a CRUSH at work?? AND break up a marriage??
It doesn't work like that. You LEAVE your gf if you're unhappy/don't love her- NOT chase after skirt at work, an... (read in full...)
Do you ever get trust back in a relationship and if it’s possible how on earth do you get it back?
Q. I have been with my partner for just over four years now. We have had a rocky relationship, many hurdles along the way but overcome each and every one of them. I have trust issues, I don’t partially trust people and find it difficult to ope...
A. 2 November 2017: A relationship can maybe survive if someone cheats once if there are extreme circumstances and it's a ONE OFF- but even then the trust is crazy hard to get back..
-As an already un-trusting person, how WILL you ever be trust someone that has been... (read in full...)
I hate the person who I used to love for his std and promiscuity
Q. I'm in love with my partner , we've been together for a year and a half, we've been through so much, specially at the beginning. The truth is, even though I thought I knew him ( we were friends for years before falling in love ) the fact is I did ...
A. 2 November 2017: Yeah like femmenoir said, be drastic here and don't dilly dally being indecisive- don't FORGET that he put YOUR health at risk and how many others? Begging for no condom sex swayed it for me- really says bad stuff about his character
When you feel... (read in full...)
I hate the person who I used to love for his std and promiscuity
Q. I'm in love with my partner , we've been together for a year and a half, we've been through so much, specially at the beginning. The truth is, even though I thought I knew him ( we were friends for years before falling in love ) the fact is I did ...
A. 1 November 2017: You can't be with someone you have so much disgust and resentment for- that will destroy you. You also have such a strong difference in values- so that's probably going to come between you.. I would be constantly worried about him sleeping around.
... (read in full...)
How do I tell someone not to touch my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for almost two years. We have a good relationship, not much drama, we both prefer that way. He is introvert but in social situations he can have fun if he wants to. I'm an introvert who is socially shy and Don't have m...
A. 1 November 2017: Please give us an update on your situation
I just want to say that being shy/ introverted just means you're less sociable and are more comfortable spending a lot of time alone.
It's not like a CONDITION that prevents you from sticking up for ... (read in full...)
How do I tell someone not to touch my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for almost two years. We have a good relationship, not much drama, we both prefer that way. He is introvert but in social situations he can have fun if he wants to. I'm an introvert who is socially shy and Don't have m...
A. 1 November 2017: Make one last attempt to fully explain to him WHY it's unacceptable and how it makes you feel. If he shows no signs of improvement then leave this relationship- because him continuing this behavior means he doesn't love you- it happens all the time. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell someone not to touch my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for almost two years. We have a good relationship, not much drama, we both prefer that way. He is introvert but in social situations he can have fun if he wants to. I'm an introvert who is socially shy and Don't have m...
A. 1 November 2017: That IS her being over-friendly. She is either wanting to whore attention from men in general- or is after your bf. Cupping your face is TOO intimate. The best way to describe it is couples behavior!
There are guys with their head in a box type... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone who has a twin brother and when the brothers and the sister-in-law get together, they make me feel very left out
Q. I have been dating an identical twin for the last 4 years. We have been doing well except when it comes to spending time with his brother and his sister in law. When we are all together, I am always to one that is left out. I always get left out of ...
A. 31 October 2017: What do you do? Maybe you wake up to the fact that after FOUR YEARS, your boyfriend has no regard or care for you and never plans on making you a PRIORITY in HIS life..
After that time you should be considering each other for marriage! Not shun... (read in full...)
Has my husband gone off me
Q. Hello I have a problem with my husband never wanting sex anymore we have been together 6 years and married just over a year ago and now have two children together.in the beginning we were sex maniacs and he couldn't get enough of me now he never ...
A. 30 October 2017: To Been there now over it- maybe your wife should refuse to touch you when you put a few pounds round your midriff.. ?It's widely known that baby weight does not always just fall off if you work out a bit. It's incredibly difficult
All the OP c... (read in full...)
He's left me yet again but what wrong have I done to be treated like this?
Q. I need help please I Feel patheticI met this guy two years ago. He was great he was always guarded we went out on dates for three months didn't sleep together til then. He was great to my son. I have a Lil boy. I ended up moving in with him, and it ...
A. 28 October 2017: You do realise that he isn't the only guy out there that is emotional while still seeming manly? He's not the stud you think he is.. a real "stud" of a man will not act like a 15 year old, muck you about and FAIL TO COMMIT to you! By saying one ... (read in full...)
Has my husband gone off me
Q. Hello I have a problem with my husband never wanting sex anymore we have been together 6 years and married just over a year ago and now have two children together.in the beginning we were sex maniacs and he couldn't get enough of me now he never ...
A. 28 October 2017: I would just ask him. You're husband and wife and should be able to trust each other with your emotions and problems.
Maybe he is depressed or overwhelmed with his life, having a mid-life crisis, even an affair. But it's not acceptable for him ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says his phone was hacked. I don't believe him.
Q. I recently found pictures of my significant other in his phone along with seeing him on website called backpage. I viewed his history and found him looking up girls in different areas. He denied taking those pictures in my bed from not even less ...
A. 28 October 2017: Eugh.. this post gives me shivers. A guy that lies to his gf about buying sex from trafficked people clearly has not one moral bone in his body. They re PROSTITUTE SLAVES.
If he didnt use condoms he must have an Std.
SO GET YOURSELF CHECKED... (read in full...)
Was he trying to deceive me?
Q. Was he trying to deceive me? There are two aspects to an action. What was the intention behind something (the mental part) and what action was taken/not taken (the physical part). What is bugging me on an issue is what was the intention behind...
A. 27 October 2017: YOU want exclusivity. He understands that but wants to BS you and whinge so he can have his cake and eat it ... (read in full...)
Was he trying to deceive me?
Q. Was he trying to deceive me? There are two aspects to an action. What was the intention behind something (the mental part) and what action was taken/not taken (the physical part). What is bugging me on an issue is what was the intention behind...
A. 27 October 2017: You're an astute woman and i think you should listen to your gut telling you the simple facts-
Exactly like Honeypie said, WHY does it need an ultimatum for him to have trouble accepting your intolerance over this. She's a chick he's known fo... (read in full...)
Why am I settling for second best?
Q. Hello people, I'm the type of person who keeps to himself a lot. I'm not unhappy because the perks of being outgoing don't really appeal to me much...I have very few friends and I feel uncomfortable around them too if I have to hang around for too ...
A. 26 October 2017: I used to be obsessive if people didn't text me back, and get so upset/ anxious/ wound up- I got some help, got a bit older and I realized the extent to which i was getting these thoughts was not a normal reaction. I think this level of frustration ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took small amounts of money from my purse! What should I do?
Q. I was dating a guy for 3 months, who I love, and knew was broke/unemployed. 2 weeks ago, $15.00 was missing from my wallet. I thought I miscounted, so the next time he came over I took a pic of my wallet, so I knew for sure. $20.00 went miss...
A. 26 October 2017: Can I also just say, 3 months makes someone almost a stranger.. if you've known him for that long, you basically don't know him at all. So take the rose glasses off and start thinking with your head.. also from your name if you were talking to him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took small amounts of money from my purse! What should I do?
Q. I was dating a guy for 3 months, who I love, and knew was broke/unemployed. 2 weeks ago, $15.00 was missing from my wallet. I thought I miscounted, so the next time he came over I took a pic of my wallet, so I knew for sure. $20.00 went miss...
A. 26 October 2017: You are crazy to even think of giving him another chance- not only is he a thief but he doesn't even give you the courtesy of apologizing OR paying you back.
Shows how much respect he has that he steals from you and can't even FACE UP to you. Wha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took small amounts of money from my purse! What should I do?
Q. I was dating a guy for 3 months, who I love, and knew was broke/unemployed. 2 weeks ago, $15.00 was missing from my wallet. I thought I miscounted, so the next time he came over I took a pic of my wallet, so I knew for sure. $20.00 went miss...
A. 26 October 2017: You are crazy to even think of giving him another chance- not only is he a thief but he doesn't even give you the courtesy of apologizing ... (read in full...)
Does my FWB have feelings for me?
Q. I've been friends with benefits with a guy for over 3 years. We hook up nearly every week. I telephoned him today to speak to him, he was busy building a draw and I didn't realise I was on loud speaker, during the call we were talking and he was ...
A. 25 October 2017: No. It would have taken him a lot less than 3 years to realise if he wanted to be your boyfriend. That's kinda around the time people that "are" in relationships think about marriage/ moving in/ kids. You're not even in a relationship- because ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another woman pregnant on a break and I am not feeling good about it
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend on and off close to 3.5 years. Nothing has been perfect, but one thing is we really do love each other. We've both been faithful, never any worries there. And when we did take a break before (a few times) we both ...
A. 25 October 2017: If you're really overwhelmed that prevents you from managing a relationship, then it's understandable to take a break. But on and off for three years? That is saying it all.
Aunt Honesty is correct. There is no way people who TRULY want to be to... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel for me the way he once did?
Q. Guys, I need help. So my boyfriend broke up with me and it's different from most relationships so I don't know what to do. Let me explain our entire relationship, we were best friends for 3 years and one year he really liked this girl and couldn't ...
A. 24 October 2017: Look- if you said to him "you didn't feel the same" and "he didn't fulfill you" would you change your mind?? NO you wouldn't! You're in denial- why the hell would he say that to you if he didn't mean it?
He tried to let you down gently at first... (read in full...)
I have the hots for my sister-in-law
Q. I got married 3 years ago, since then i have had a crush on my sister-in-law. She is a beautiful girl. Whenever i see her i have this uncontrollable urge to have sex with her. I love my wife but i also have feelings for my sister-in-law. Neither my ...
A. 24 October 2017: If you can't keep it in your pants (or ignore the lustful thoughts) you were never ready or man enough to settle down ... (read in full...)
I have the hots for my sister-in-law
Q. I got married 3 years ago, since then i have had a crush on my sister-in-law. She is a beautiful girl. Whenever i see her i have this uncontrollable urge to have sex with her. I love my wife but i also have feelings for my sister-in-law. Neither my ...
A. 24 October 2017: To clarify you should never have married her if you had obsessive thoughts about another women.... (read in full...)
I have the hots for my sister-in-law
Q. I got married 3 years ago, since then i have had a crush on my sister-in-law. She is a beautiful girl. Whenever i see her i have this uncontrollable urge to have sex with her. I love my wife but i also have feelings for my sister-in-law. Neither my ...
A. 24 October 2017: I think you should do the right thing- DIVORCE her because she deserves better-
How much RESPECT does that show you have for her? And how could you LET her marry you, keeping her in the dark, knowing what you know and what you might plan to ... (read in full...)
Am I being played here, or does he really associate being my boyfriend with one day marrying me?
Q. My ex-boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me last month, we had a pretty amicable breakup (he told me that we have a good thing and it was hard because he loves me but he just doesn't see himself married to me one day and tbh I don't either since ...
A. 24 October 2017: Stop ignoring the "red flags" and pursuing something that you feel guilty and unsure about- because you know deep down that you're selling yourself up the river and disrespecting yourself by settling for a FWB situation-
YOU'RE the one being us... (read in full...)
My long distance love wants me to send sexy pictures of myself
Q. I've been going out with this boy for 2 months now and it's a LDR situation. I knew it was going to be hard to not spend all that time together but I felt I could handle it. Lately he's been asking me to send naughty pictures to him and it m...
A. 23 October 2017: Btw you don't have to be famous to get him into trouble, in the UK it's definitely a police matter- let him know that in no uncertain terms. You are not an indispensable piece for the wank bank, youre an individual with rights ... (read in full...)
My long distance love wants me to send sexy pictures of myself
Q. I've been going out with this boy for 2 months now and it's a LDR situation. I knew it was going to be hard to not spend all that time together but I felt I could handle it. Lately he's been asking me to send naughty pictures to him and it m...
A. 23 October 2017: Wow.. just wow. I second all the advice given.. this guy is a rat.
I would not be worrying about if you "should" send him more pics! I would be worrying about what he could/ is doing with the ones you sent. I agree with the aunt saying get lega... (read in full...)
Why am I hopelessly infatuated with this man?
Q. Hi, I was just wondering if someone could give me advice I'm with my husband for 16 years married 6 and have two wonderful children we had out up's and down's over the years I've been in and out of counselling due to child abuse and suffer with ...
A. 19 October 2017: So- are you thinking of leaving your family for a guy you talk to and fancy in a bar
There's strong chemistry though so that's ok!Ermm..
You declare your crazy obsessive feelings to a bloke who flirts with you in a bar.. maybe he doesn't want ... (read in full...)
My guy friend denies being in a relationship and lied about becoming a father
Q. Hi everyone, so this situation is going to sound kind of crazy. There's this guy who I've been friends with for about 2 years. At this point, we spend a lot of time together, keep in contact on a daily basis, and share a lot of personal information ...
A. 18 October 2017: Can I just add that my mum's friend of 11 years turned out to stitch her up big time. And my sister has known a lot of male friends that she gushed about how "lovely" and "funny" and such great family men they were.. about three of these men she ... (read in full...)
My guy friend denies being in a relationship and lied about becoming a father
Q. Hi everyone, so this situation is going to sound kind of crazy. There's this guy who I've been friends with for about 2 years. At this point, we spend a lot of time together, keep in contact on a daily basis, and share a lot of personal information ...
A. 18 October 2017: Maybe you're so used to having many guy friends, and seeing them as just friends, you forget that great proportion of young blokes often think with their dicks and have a playboy mentality- no matter how nice they are or seem, it's a well known ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend used to be a nerd but now acts like a 'Gangsta'
Q. He's a middle class white boy whose parents pay for everything including his Mini but he keeps acting like he wants to be the "gangster hood" stereotype and idk it really annoys me for some reason. My parents are also middle class but I was raised ...
A. 18 October 2017: He sounds like one of the kids on the bus I get regularly that think they're cool- to emphasise "kids"
Yeah 21 is still kindof a kid these days. He's got a lot of maturing to do and will probably form the best template of who he really is at 25... (read in full...)
I think he likes another girl but I don't know how to broach the topic
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months but it's not exactly official, his family don't know and only a couple of our close friends know, it's like a need to know basis. Recently he went on holiday back to his home town with a mutu...
A. 18 October 2017: I completely agree with Wiseowl- in public he's got her on his arm, not you- which is disrespectful, considering he's calling you his girlfriend.
It's a big deal that your friend noticed- if it's subtle or platonic she wouldn't have picked u... (read in full...)
Am I falling for the wrong guy?
Q. I liked my brother's friend for 1 year.I never seen him or talk to him before.But I developed feelings for him when my brother tell about him.I started to talk to him a few days ago without telling my brother.I told him that I like him.He said he ...
A. 13 October 2017: Yeah you're pretty and confident like a million other girls he might "just" leave for his girlfriend.. How would you feel if if it was you he left for a quick lay/ passing fling??
Mate he's not insecure. He is immature, sounds quite lazy and has ... (read in full...)
I think I deserve better. I'm pushing too hard to make this relationship work?
Q. Hi all, Ive been dating this guy for the past 4-5 months. He's very different from my part relationships. I had a bad pattern to go for unavailable men but I changed it consciously. My relationship is going well with this person and there were a...
A. 13 October 2017: You do realise that he will eventually realise YOUR resentment and disrespect for him- and return that. When you have no respect for your partner everything they do becomes a royal pain, until you just want to explode.
Without respect everythi... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on me, it took me 2 years to get over him and now he wants to try again
Q. At what point can you be sure you have forgiven someone for hurting you, and take them back? 3 years ago my then boyfriend of nearly 2 years left me for someone else. It took me a long time to get over it, but I did. I never really forgot he...
A. 13 October 2017: He didn't write you a heartfelt letter apologizing- because he's not thinking with his heart. I really agree that an apology text after two years shows how much respect and care he thinks you deserve- maybe a minutes worth, the time it takes him to ... (read in full...)
Do any girls here go to bars alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and the feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make ...
A. 12 October 2017: You've got everything to live for- and don't need to resort to crawling bars on your OWN looking for what... love? In a bar?
Honestly it's an unwholesome attitude and people will smell your desperation- because no to answer your question- it's not... (read in full...)
Do any girls here go to bars alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and the feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make ...
A. 12 October 2017: Where are you getting this hopelessness from? You're at college studying to make steps to improve yourself and you're young, free and HEALTHY... (read in full...)
I overshared family information about my heritage with a professor and am now feeling very anxious
Q. I overshared information a week ago with my university tutor and have had severe anxiety since! I was showing my tutor some of my work for the class which included a reference to Aboriginal Australians. I then blurted out that my father is ...
A. 11 October 2017: Seriously? I'm sure your professor sees how hard you work and views you as an individual- not a STEREOTYPE. Because you're not a stereotype.
He's probably more wary of what a nervous wreck you appear to be- this is something you need give NO ... (read in full...)
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