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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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I overheard my husband saying he wish I would lose weight. Now I feel sad and like absolute crap!
Q. I don’t know what to do. It all started New Year’s Eve, my husband and I were at his company’s party and I went to grab him another drink. As I was walking back, I saw my husband and one of his employees talking, when I walked up behind my husband ...
A. 22 February 2013: DEAR OP,
HUGS to you honey... your pain is so personal and deep and I get it... and we can't take that away for you... you base how you feel about yourself on what OTHERS said and did when you were growing and maturing and this will always c... (read in full...)
I love her but she's ready to settle down and I'm not sure that I am. What should I do?
Q. I am 25, she is 30. We got together when I was 22. Our relationship has come to the point where she is ready for engagement, marriage and kids (completely understandable). I love her with all of my heart. She is the one I want to be with for the ...
A. 21 February 2013: Her being younger may or may not make a difference... if she was your age she still might be ready to settle down with you.
I married my first husband at 21. He was 23... we had two sons and a very amicable divorce....
ready to settle d... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend still text this woman? He knows she has feelings for him!
Q. I met my boyfriend on a dating website about 3 months ago. Our relationship is exclusive and he has told me he has fallen in love with me. We live an hour apart. We see each other every weekend and once during the week. Problem... He met this...
A. 21 February 2013: “he does not feel obligated to talk to her about our relationship”
WTF? That’ is not good. That means mentioning “I’m going to a friend’s for the weekend” not MY GIRLFRIEND…. He’s playing both ends….
IF he's NOT interested ... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating does not know I am older than she thinks! HELP
Q. Ok, I met a wonderful woman online, and we really, really hit it off. She is 31, and I am 48. We want the same things. Neither of us have children and both want them, and believe in marriage, commitment etc. Very attracted to each other and both ...
A. 21 February 2013: I always have sucked at math and I stand corrected.
... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating does not know I am older than she thinks! HELP
Q. Ok, I met a wonderful woman online, and we really, really hit it off. She is 31, and I am 48. We want the same things. Neither of us have children and both want them, and believe in marriage, commitment etc. Very attracted to each other and both ...
A. 20 February 2013: Good luck tomorrow! I know you are nervous but ten years is not that big a deal in my opinion. Especially since you are both over 30....
I am 13 years older than my husband and except for a few cultural references now and then we rarely n... (read in full...)
I fell for him, he's with someone else. No contact but I still want him back!
Q. hi there, i am a woman of 47 and have been unlucky with relationships,my first marraige i was very young and was very abusive,it took me years to get a mental state of mind back to normal,my 2nd partner started out as a lending ear, i fell pregnant ...
A. 20 February 2013: Yes! I PROMISE YOU it gets easier with time...
living well really is the best revenge...... (read in full...)
Why is my ex's new girlfriend stalking me?
Q. Ok so my child's dad has a new girlfriend I have decided to accept it and move on as long as he takes care of business I just moved to his area staying with my aunt until my place comes through the end of spring and job searching before i move so he ...
A. 20 February 2013:
Do you really need to know WHY she's doing something annoying or just how to stop it? I realize you feel that she's setting you up to be the drama laden baby mama... if you are not who she wants/needs you to be then ignore her.
she may n... (read in full...)
I cheated and now my boyfriend wants concrete evidence that I won't cheat or go back to the other guy!
Q. I have been in a very stable relationship with my boyfriend and we were supposed to get married end of January.I did something horrible and i cheated on him a few weeks before we got married and now he wont take me back. The truth is i love my boyfr...
A. 20 February 2013: He's asking for the impossible just to make you jump through hoops.
He asks for a letter... what difference will a letter make vs you telling him? In addition what concrete evidence could you possibly have other than being attached to him phys... (read in full...)
Cousin always asking me about spankings I give women.
Q. My cousins know that I go with women that like spankings and what not. Whenever they visit or when I visit them, they always ask about the ladies. However, one of my female cousins often asks me questions regarding the spankings. Pret...
A. 20 February 2013: she's interested in spanking fetish like you are.
if she's over 21 and you are ok with it I see no problem discussing if if you are friends as well as cousins...
if you are asking if your cousin wants you to spank her, well I don't know i... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend still text this woman? He knows she has feelings for him!
Q. I met my boyfriend on a dating website about 3 months ago. Our relationship is exclusive and he has told me he has fallen in love with me. We live an hour apart. We see each other every weekend and once during the week. Problem... He met this...
A. 20 February 2013: if she is texting him, is he replying to every text?
Her texting him would not bother me... his replies might bother me... depends on if he's encouraging her to contact him or not. If she sends questions that require answers, then if they are ... (read in full...)
Is marriage worth it? Should I give up on the idea of being married at my age?
Q. I just wondered, to those of you who are on here who are married, is it worth it? I'm approaching 40 and had loads of boyfriends but never yet met someone I seriously wanted to marry. I really loved some of them but knew it wasn't right in some wa...
A. 20 February 2013: I"m here!
yep nearly 53 and just married for the 4th time... ever hopeful.... both hubby #3 and #4 are younger than I am and neither had ever been married before me.....
we have friends that married in September 3 weeks before us... first m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend goes hours without contacting me but has time to play on xbox?
Q. Should I be pissed off that my boyfriend, of 2.5 years, goes hours on end without contacting me - yet within those hours will play on facebook and xbox? Example: he may text me at noon and then I won't hear back from him until like 10pm but he makes ...
A. 20 February 2013: with your follow ups I too sadly see this as the end of the relationship.
at your age after 2.5 years you know if it's going to be serous or not... and in this case it's not.... he's not ready or he's not that into you.
5 hours away is... (read in full...)
I fell for him, he's with someone else. No contact but I still want him back!
Q. hi there, i am a woman of 47 and have been unlucky with relationships,my first marraige i was very young and was very abusive,it took me years to get a mental state of mind back to normal,my 2nd partner started out as a lending ear, i fell pregnant ...
A. 20 February 2013: I am so sorry you were fooled by a liar and a cheater. What part of his lying and cheating do you miss???
And let me ask you this… if he leaves his current gf for you, when he’s not with you, won’t you wonder if he’s lying to you and cheating... (read in full...)
My guy is 20 and acts like he's 15. I'm pregnant and really love him but he doesn't grow up!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years on and off. Well lately, things has been going downhill. It has been like that for a while now. No matter what i do or say, he still acts like he doesnt care or treat me like i should. In the past...
A. 20 February 2013: If you don’t know why you love him we have to figure that part out. Personally I think you are staying with him out of fear. Fear of being alone. Fear of not being loved… Both of these are irrational fears. YOU are quite young and need to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is under pressure from her family and takes it out on me
Q. I don't know what to do to keep my relationship going now, let alone a future of marriage. Short story is that we are from two different countries, her parents/family don't agree with her being with a foreigner for the obvious reasons. That I ...
A. 20 February 2013: Dear OP,
She is still emotionally attached to her ex who cheated on her. Her heart is not full yours as you say. She may like you and not want to hurt you but I’m not sure I would go as far as saying she loves you. You love her, clearly…. And ... (read in full...)
How to ask a senior girl out when she is always hanging with her best friends?
Q. Hello. I am 21 and I like a girl who is a year senior at my university. The problem is she is always with another girl which is her best friend. How should I proceed to ask her out? ...
A. 20 February 2013: why not do it with a call? (NOT a TEXT)
just call her
hints never work for some folks.... (read in full...)
Do guys want to see a softer side to a girl?
Q. So for me personally I'm not very emotional. My close family (mom, dad and siblings) are the only ones that have seen me cry. I tend to not tell my feeling or share that part of me with others. This guy I am seeing has been pretty open with...
A. 20 February 2013: what a man who loves you wants to see is YOU. THE TRUE YOU
not what you THINK a woman should be... or what you THINK will please a man.
what pleases Sageoldguy might piss off my husband...
what you have to figure out is how to be true... (read in full...)
Reasons why guys could have no/ lose their sex drive?
Q. So I'm with this guy who just doesn't want sex often at all. Almost like we switched stereotypes. I'm the one usually pursuing it, and it takes several days before he considers it. I'm not complaining, it's probably better that I have someone keep ...
A. 20 February 2013: OP to be honest, women with higher sex drives than men are more common than you think… the myth of the horny male being turned down by the uninterested female does not fly in my experience… just to let you know your normal
I’m 53 and my hubby is... (read in full...)
My birthday's coming up and I have no money. What can I do?
Q. My birthdays coming up, On Friday the 22nd and I don't know what to do since I have no money and I don't have a baby sitter for my 6 month old daughter. Any ideas on what should I do? I just wNt to have a good time. Hopefully someone surprises me ...
A. 20 February 2013: NOT much you can do OP
cook yourself a nice meal... get some nice supermarket flowers and pour yourself a glass of wine and have a lovely birthday.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I may lose her to another man!
Q. Ok, Im in 23 years in this relationship and have had alot of great years but the last 5 or 6 have been very on the line to be truthful. We have had our ups and downs but always try to meet in the middle but lately it is a tug of war in the sex dept. ...
A. 20 February 2013: what has she said to you to make you think she's not happy?... (read in full...)
How can I stop the feeling of being in love with my teacher?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and i'm in love with my teacher he's way older than me, married and have kids. but how can i stop this feeling? I know this is wrong but it feels so damn right.. Have u been in the situation i am right now? I love him cos he has every...
A. 20 February 2013: You have a crush.... they are painful and powerful.
my only concern is that you are texting with your teacher.. that to me is inappropriate behavior and possibly could get him fired. It might here.
Step ONE... stop having inappropriate co... (read in full...)
Slept in the same bed with another girl (just friends) and I have a girlfriend..
Q. Hey, I am just really worried at the moment as I am at Uni and we went to an after party at my friends and it got really late so i fell asleep on the sofa and their living room is really cold and my two friends (girls) offered to sleep with them ...
A. 20 February 2013: We define cheating as anything you can't won't or don't tell your partner. By not telling her you are cheating her out of the truth and her chance to make the choice to trust you or not.
I trust my husband but I'd not be happy if he was sleeping... (read in full...)
Why am I thinking of a guy I've only met twice when I have a boyfriend?
Q. Modnote:how old is this son of your friend? Why do i (21) keep thinking about my friend's son (19), whom i only met twice?!? Not more than 2 words. Ughhh...so gorgeous! Im in a relationship for 2 years but turns out he (37) married twice an...
A. 20 February 2013: I am married now. I’m older than my husband by 13 + years and I have two kids who are in their 20s… I tell you this because your guy at 37 with two (ex) wives may or may not be right for you…. (as long as he’s not currently married) so don’t ... (read in full...)
Can there be ONLY friendship between men and women?
Q. I have a bf and he is very outgoing, talkative, and humorous... I'm attracted to him because I'm not that out-going, at times shy, so I find him very charming. But what I don't understand is, he seems to have a lot of female friends, and wou...
A. 20 February 2013: I have male friends. NONE of them are CLOSE... I don't go to dinner with them or go clothes shopping with them... or gossip on the phone for hours.
I have some... they are usually younger than I am and married and work friends more than outside ... (read in full...)
I feel like I always have to be the bad guy when my boyfriend promises his children something that we can't afford!
Q. My boyfriend has 2 teenagers that live with their mother most of the time, they play their mother and father against each other quite often and pretty much only contact their father to ask for something. I get that this is teenagers as I have had my ...
A. 20 February 2013: he's being what we call "a Disneyland dad" but promising things he can't deliver...
Perhaps you could ask him to use the words "I will check and see if we can afford it"
It's hard to tell kids no.... especially kids you don't have custody of ... (read in full...)
I love her but she's ready to settle down and I'm not sure that I am. What should I do?
Q. I am 25, she is 30. We got together when I was 22. Our relationship has come to the point where she is ready for engagement, marriage and kids (completely understandable). I love her with all of my heart. She is the one I want to be with for the ...
A. 20 February 2013: if you are not ready to settle down then she is not the love of your life.
if you worry you are missing something,then you will always wonder and will always be looking for what you think you are missing.
if she's ready to settle down and ... (read in full...)
Do most girls do the act of spitting? Or swallowing?
Q. do most girls like to spit or swallow?...
A. 20 February 2013: I don't know about most girls but I swallow and always have.
by the time my guy orgasms the head of his penis is far enough back in my mouth that I don't notice the taste or texture and it's easier to just swallow. Since semen is mostly protein ... (read in full...)
I overheard my husband saying he wish I would lose weight. Now I feel sad and like absolute crap!
Q. I don’t know what to do. It all started New Year’s Eve, my husband and I were at his company’s party and I went to grab him another drink. As I was walking back, I saw my husband and one of his employees talking, when I walked up behind my husband ...
A. 20 February 2013: The ugly you feel is inside… weight does not make us pretty or ugly… it makes us unhealthy… perhaps he was hoping you would lose the weight for health reasons only… He does love you clearly. He is sorry… clearly.
If you don’t feel sexy bec... (read in full...)
Advice for what to do with a cheater
Q. Okay, so my first girlfriend, I met through Facebook last summer. After a couple of months, she suddenly stopped texting and calling me. I thought either she was grounded or dumped me. Weekend following Christmas, she calls me up and says that she's ...
A. 20 February 2013: I'd block the ex and move on...
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I want to keep her and my man too!
Q. im bisexual and i met a girl who only dates girls. she doesnt hate guys but she gets turned off to the thought of a guy ever touching her in a sexual way or kissing her. shes made it known that she would never date a bisexual girl. i cant get her ...
A. 20 February 2013: you remind me of the men that think they can "turn" lesbians.
do you have less respect for her as a person because she's a lesbian? because you are acting like you do.... lying to her to get her to be sexual with you and fall in love with you... (read in full...)
Why can't my husband get an answer from his doctor about him having erectile dysfunction?
Q. How common is that, that a man cant get an answer from his doctor why does he have erectile dysfunction? My husband has a bad case of ED and total lack of desire. He went to the doctor, and he dint find anything wrong with him, from medical per...
A. 20 February 2013: Was his work up with a proctologist or an endocrinologist or just his GP? If his GP has no clue he needs to refer him to a specialist…
Does your husband drink coffee or alcohol? Both caffeine and alcohol can affect erections as can nicotine... (read in full...)
A co worker lied to me and now I'm worried about my job
Q. Pleaseplease help me. So I just started working for this company. Keep in mind throughout our HR meetings we were told it is okay to ask a coworker on a date. But anyways..my situation is a little different. I met this man and we will just cal...
A. 20 February 2013: I do not see how his lying to you about his age and parental status has any bearing on his job....
I don't see how you need to talk to HR or your boss about it....
he lied to you... not the boss... not HR...
and it was not about ... (read in full...)
My 15 year old son is running around with an older girl and wont come home!
Q. HI my fellow aunts/uncles were always so good at giving advice that sometimes it's hard to take. Now is that time I ask you for your input on my situation. For the past two years my son who is now 15 has giving me more than a run for my money....
A. 20 February 2013: Here in the states I would advise you to file with the courts that he is an incorrigible minor. I would file to have him emancipated from your care and protection so that you are not liable for his mistakes.
They call it tough love here... and ... (read in full...)
Is this a decent way to ask someone to prom? Too cheesy?
Q. Hey all, so I'm asking this girl to the prom within the next week, hopefully. I don't particularly know her all that great, so I'm kinda just winging it. I was going to go all out and spend a decent amount of money on it, or get something while it...
A. 20 February 2013: too over the top.... IMO
especially since you don't know her that well.
personally I like the direct approach...
go up to her when no one is around and ask her.
no balloons, no flowers, no cheesy bear etc...
just be yourself.... (read in full...)
Looking for words of encouragement with this break up
Q. Hi folks. This is my first post here in about five years ago, when I split up with my ex. Here I am again in a similar situation although now I have three beautiful children to add to the equation . I'm absolutely gutted! We have been ...
A. 20 February 2013: when my first hubby and I split, it was very amicable.
we had joint custody, he paid a fair amount of child support (and alimony as I was a SAHM at his choosing)
we worked out a fair plan where he saw the boys 2 nights a week after day care f... (read in full...)
I'm really trying to save myself for marriage and dating a non-virgin really bothers me
Q. I recently got into a relationship with a guy I really like. We have terrible communication and it makes me angry. He always apologizes for that lack of good communication in our relationship. The thing is, we actually started talking alright the ...
A. 20 February 2013: Should you talk to your boyfriend about your feelings?
OF COURSE YOU SHOULD.
just because he's not a virgin does not mean he won't respect your desires.... IF he can't respect them then he's not the proper boyfriend for you. And that's sad... (read in full...)
What happened here on Dear Cupid, guys? What's so bad about trying to fix a relationship rather than just jumping immediately to divorce?
Q. I've been coming on this site since I was 16 and used to get great, friendly advice on how I should handle my relationship problems. I came here looking first solution to fix things. I don't know what happened in the past three years, but friendly ...
A. 20 February 2013: Sometimes however, the true help a person needs, is NOT what they WANT to hear....
Support is like an under wire bra, often needed, often uncomfortable but very helpful.....
we don't want to hear the bad news.
we don't' want to think tha... (read in full...)
What can I do to persuade my 21 year old daughter to put down the controller and pick up a boyfriend?
Q. I'm concerned about my daughter's social life or rather lack thereof. She's 21 and all she wants to do when she's not at work is play video games. She's never had a boyfriend, is not interested and getting one and is still a virgin. Geez I was ...
A. 20 February 2013: Leave her be... she's a late bloomer... and just because you were active early (as was I I'm not being critical) does not mean your child has to be.
At 26 I had two kids... (married) my 26 yr old son isn't even dating seriously yet and I've had... (read in full...)
Husband's phone has a name as "buddy" who turns out is a girl! Should I be worried?
Q. So the other day while my husband was in the shower, he asked me to find a number in his cell phone (a friend of his that we were meeting later) and call him to confirm the time. When I was doing that, his recent call history showed up, and I ...
A. 20 February 2013: OP,
you say casually that you are 5 months pregnant.... but pregnancy hormones can make us crazy
is there a prior history with your hubby cheating or lying that leads you to feel that this may be something underhanded?
is there a reason you... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend being unfair? She's allowed to be with male friends late at night but I'm not allowed to be out with girl friends late???
Q. long distance for the most part but have the goal ultimately of living together. We visit multiple times a year for months at a time as well. I love this girl more than words could ever describe. I just need some opinions. My girlfriend is a very ...
A. 20 February 2013: Methinks the lady doth protest too much.
the reason she's so UNFAIR (and yes she's wrong and unfair here) is that she KNOWS what's going on at her end of the LDR and she figures the same thing is going on at your end... at least that's my take ... (read in full...)
No matter how much we talk about it, my boyfriend keeps making the same mistakes over and over again! I can' t take it!
Q. I'm not sure what to do in this situation. My fiance and I have been together 3 years. Currently, we're in an LDR, but that's only been for the past couple of months. I have a problem that he keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. I ...
A. 20 February 2013: The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
IF you keep making the same mistake (both him and you) and expecting it to be different then you are not being realistic.
Clearly when ... (read in full...)
Extreme loneliness from a sudden long-distance relationship
Q. Hi everyone, I've been having an extremely difficult week, and I guess I just need reassurance that it does get better, and maybe some new tips for very long distance relationships. My boyfriend and best friend, whom I have lived with for almos...
A. 20 February 2013: LDRs suck... thankfully mine was a close LDR.. I would be so sad and lonesome for my guy if he was out of touch so completely.
I hope it won't be too long before you can be together.
check out www.lovingfromadistance.com for more support and... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating does not know I am older than she thinks! HELP
Q. Ok, I met a wonderful woman online, and we really, really hit it off. She is 31, and I am 48. We want the same things. Neither of us have children and both want them, and believe in marriage, commitment etc. Very attracted to each other and both ...
A. 20 February 2013: I’m sorry this is not a sin of omission it’s an outright lie. You must tell her NOW. And yes you risk her leaving, not because of your age but because you lied and you continued to lie….. And ya know, it may be the only think you ever lie ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend has 20,000.00 he borrowed from me. Will I get it back?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years broke up with me few days back, he was very abusive during the last 1 yr. Im still under depression and i did all things like begging, sending him mails, calling him to take me back. He didnt repond to anything, i gues...
A. 19 February 2013: I doubt you will be able to recover all of it... I'm not sure you can recover any.
the best thing you can do is get a consult with an attorney and see if you have any options to try to recover any of your funds.
RULE ONE: NEVER LEND... (read in full...)
Husband's phone has a name as "buddy" who turns out is a girl! Should I be worried?
Q. So the other day while my husband was in the shower, he asked me to find a number in his cell phone (a friend of his that we were meeting later) and call him to confirm the time. When I was doing that, his recent call history showed up, and I ...
A. 19 February 2013: Me I would have just said "hey honey who's "buddy"
what made you feel the need to check up on him without asking first???... (read in full...)
After a month of dating he's still into porn and doesn't like it that I complained
Q. I was moaning at my boyfriend for not appreciating me sexually more than he did, and he said what after a month of dating? Does he have a fair point? I was moaning at him for still being interested in porn....
A. 19 February 2013: Ok are you upset because he doesn't appreciate you sexually (what does that actually mean to you?) or are you upset that he's looking at porn?
OR is the act of looking at porn what you determine to be not appreciating you sexually?
... (read in full...)
Together 20 years. He says he's only just started watching porn. How do I recover from this?
Q. My husband and I have been together 20 years. My husband has never been interested in porn and if he has been he's hidden it all these years. Recently I walked in on him watching porn he said he'd just started watching it the last 6 months and h...
A. 19 February 2013: well if the last post was the OP then there are some things that are a problem:
if he was pretending it was distasteful to him and was watching it behind the OP's back and LYING about it... well then he's lying and that is a betrayal and that is ... (read in full...)
Together 20 years. He says he's only just started watching porn. How do I recover from this?
Q. My husband and I have been together 20 years. My husband has never been interested in porn and if he has been he's hidden it all these years. Recently I walked in on him watching porn he said he'd just started watching it the last 6 months and h...
A. 18 February 2013: so the question in the first post was (I feel betrayed) "how do I recover from this?"
I'm not sure why you feel betrayed.... and I'm not sure what it is you need to recover from. Has he stopped being the husband you want/need him to be du... (read in full...)
What happened here on Dear Cupid, guys? What's so bad about trying to fix a relationship rather than just jumping immediately to divorce?
Q. I've been coming on this site since I was 16 and used to get great, friendly advice on how I should handle my relationship problems. I came here looking first solution to fix things. I don't know what happened in the past three years, but friendly ...
A. 16 February 2013: I think it depends on the problem.....
I also think that some folks don't want true advice but rather give information that will give advice they seek....
and I think that many folks do not get the whole idea of what true support and th... (read in full...)
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