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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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He's ten years older , but says he's willing to wait until I'm ready to lose my virginity. What should I do?
Q. I am 17 and still a virgin me and my boyfriend have been dating for three months. He is 27 and already he has a daughter. He says he will wait for me until I'm ready to lose my virginity with him. I'm quite ready,but since he is experienced im kin...
A. 28 February 2013: the more you make out with him the more your feelings will grow and the less you will want to resist going further...
you are playing with fire.....
YOU are not the one doing wrong... HE is. I have to be honest I can't see in any way sha... (read in full...)
My g/f likes to flash her guy friends just for fun?
Q. My gf likes to flash her guy friends just for fun I don't care but she continueisly says that she feels bad and that she dosent want to do anything that we as a couple don't agree on she asked me if I mind and even though I say I don't care she says ...
A. 27 February 2013: I know my husband would not want me to flash "his titties" at anyone else but him
and YouWish I laughed at this: "Trust me, there's no greater exhibitionism than a guy "waggling" whether it's to his wife coming out of the shower" because ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 27 February 2013: ya know they all make GREAT points...
why in the world if you are his BEST friend do you not know his wife or do things together with them?... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 27 February 2013: OP, anything that you can't won't or don't tell your partner is lying in my book
I trust my husband implicitly. He trusts me.
Just last week jokingly I said "in the spirit of total honesty you should know i was texting with my ex husband t... (read in full...)
I want to see him again. Shall I turn up at his home unannounced? Or text him when I am nearby to give him a choice of seeing me or not?
Q. I'm in a recent FWB relationship, with a good friend of mine. Both of us have been hurt in the last year by bad relationships so we don't want anything other then just sex. Both of us have been real busy so in the last two weeks since we discusse...
A. 27 February 2013: just because I don't have to work does not mean I'll be home on a day off...
why didn't you two make plans to meet up if you were free and he was free and it's been so long?
why in the world would you ambush him like this and actually try to ... (read in full...)
I am absolutely and completely in love with my male best friend. How do I get over him?
Q. So I'm in my late twenties and I am absolutely and completely in love with my male best friend. Whether he feels the same as me is immaterial at the moment as he is seeing someone else, but I could really do with some tips as to how to get over him. ...
A. 27 February 2013: and OP it's HARD to fall out of love when you keep putting the thing you love that you don't want to love in front of your face.
I love Stacy's Pita Chips... if i don't buy them I can't eat them....and yet I still buy them and eat them.
... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind after a breakup? Can they really feel nothing?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 2.5 years, a week ago today. I'm struggling to even make it through the day. I'm truly heartbroken. He was the first man I'd ever fallen in love with. He's 34 and I'm 30. The reason I broke it off was because after ...
A. 27 February 2013: DO NOT read anything into him contacting your brother.
you will heal and yes if he manipulated you into ending it then he's happy it's over and he's not missing you like you miss him...
but you are correct one day at a time and you will he... (read in full...)
Married friend is mad at me because I told him I won't get messed up with a married guy.
Q. Hi everyone. I will make a long story short. I am friends with a married guy. We work together. We are attracted to each other but have not crossed the line. Recently I opened up to him that I was involved with a guy who was married once and...
A. 27 February 2013: I'm sensing that "I sense this current situation getting out of hand and I am afraid of getting more feelings for him. I have feelings now." was what I missed.
If you have feelings now, they grew from somewhere... if you tend towards married ... (read in full...)
Am I finally over my ex? Because I don't feel anything or even care about him anymore
Q. Does this mean i'm finally over my ex? I've stopped thinking about him as much as I used to, which was a lot! I can think about our memories and him and i don't tear up or feel sad, but just think of how it was a happy point in my life. I don't fi...
A. 27 February 2013: I think that asking what your feelings mean is not the same as saying I'm not sure I'm over. I think the OP is just verifying that if she feels the way she is it's an indication that she's over him.... (read in full...)
Should I just wait to hear from him? He's digesting the news that I used to be an escort
Q. A few years ago I fell into hard times and began escorting. I did it for 2 years off and on and just enough to get by. I eventually quit and have since than went back to working a real job and a normal life for a few yeArs now. A few months ago I ...
A. 27 February 2013: Good for you for being honest. Congrats for that!
As painful as it is you did the right thing… the reason it’s the right thing…. Because if he found out without you telling him (from going through papers or someone somehow saying some... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable as he claims? My 8 years older ex can be thoughtless, inconsiderate, and does not listen.
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a problem with my boyfriend, who is 25 (8 years in my senior). We've been going out since October. Recently we have been having many disagreements and I find myself craving more from him. We split up recently due to that, bu...
A. 27 February 2013: you have told him what you like and have asked him to provide more of it.
He has refused.
other than sex what do you and this guy talk about?
... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 27 February 2013: Op I have read your follow up and i have to agree if you don't know his wife and do not know if he is hiding your friendship from him, then you can't use your friendship with him as an example.
I think men and women can be friends... I... (read in full...)
My g/f likes to flash her guy friends just for fun?
Q. My gf likes to flash her guy friends just for fun I don't care but she continueisly says that she feels bad and that she dosent want to do anything that we as a couple don't agree on she asked me if I mind and even though I say I don't care she says ...
A. 27 February 2013: I used to be friends with an adult woman who never wears a bra and flashes everyone.
she once pulled up her top and turned and was face to boobs with my then 16 year old stepdaughter. It traumatized my kid to see "aunt michele's boobs in my fa... (read in full...)
He's ten years older , but says he's willing to wait until I'm ready to lose my virginity. What should I do?
Q. I am 17 and still a virgin me and my boyfriend have been dating for three months. He is 27 and already he has a daughter. He says he will wait for me until I'm ready to lose my virginity with him. I'm quite ready,but since he is experienced im kin...
A. 27 February 2013: My first question… do your parents know about this boyfriend? IF NOT, then until they know about him, there is no way you should see him. If they do not know..why have you not told them? I know that my parents were very fair (in retrospect) ... (read in full...)
Am I finally over my ex? Because I don't feel anything or even care about him anymore
Q. Does this mean i'm finally over my ex? I've stopped thinking about him as much as I used to, which was a lot! I can think about our memories and him and i don't tear up or feel sad, but just think of how it was a happy point in my life. I don't fi...
A. 26 February 2013: yep your over him!
the opposite of love is not hate
the opposite of love is ambivalence...... (read in full...)
Has a partner ever said they wouldn't watch porn but then do it anyways?
Q. Has anyone ever had a relationship where they have told their partner at the beginning they don't want porn in the relationship and their partner has accepted but done it anyway? I am worried this is going happen to me, I don't want to give myself ...
A. 26 February 2013: Well since I never had an issue with porn, I've never given this ultimatum to anyone.
I watch porn. I don't consider myself a perv. I don't consider watching porn perving on others.
IF you want a man that does not watch porn you can fin... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind after a breakup? Can they really feel nothing?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 2.5 years, a week ago today. I'm struggling to even make it through the day. I'm truly heartbroken. He was the first man I'd ever fallen in love with. He's 34 and I'm 30. The reason I broke it off was because after ...
A. 26 February 2013: oh hugs to you dear.... Neal Sedaka said it best... breaking up is hard to do... and it is... for both the breaker and the breakee....
so you ended a relationship that was not meeting your needs or expectations based on the bad behavior of your ... (read in full...)
Married friend is mad at me because I told him I won't get messed up with a married guy.
Q. Hi everyone. I will make a long story short. I am friends with a married guy. We work together. We are attracted to each other but have not crossed the line. Recently I opened up to him that I was involved with a guy who was married once and...
A. 26 February 2013: he's hurt and upset because you have dashed his hopes of having a little something on the side.
because you never viewed him that way his attentions to you were never seen by you as he intended.
How do you handle it?
STAND YOUR GROUND..... (read in full...)
My ex claims he loves me so much so where is the RING at?
Q. Dear Cupid,I dated this guy in 2000 we hit it off we acted as husband and wife with children I have from another relationship.everything was going great but things started to change not physical he never put his hands on me but when we get in ...
A. 26 February 2013: if your ex really wanted to marry you he would have married you... if he wanted to find you he would have found you... in this day and age it's almost impossible not to find someone.
DO not listen to his words... listen to his actions.
Tell ... (read in full...)
He's kicked me and threatened to hit me. Will he improve? Is this relationship worth saving?
Q. I am in a committed relationship since 3 years and 7 months. The first 3 years we were in a LDR. Now we both stay in the same city. My bf sometimes behaves very badly with me because he feels that I control his life. I said its nothing like tha...
A. 26 February 2013: you cannot change someone. ONLY they can change themselves.
we can love someone with all our hearts and it won't change them as a person.
you are not in love with him... you are in love with what you WANT him to be. He is not that man.
... (read in full...)
He's not fighting to keep me in his life! I'm gutted. How do I get over this?
Q. Dear cupid, I am distraught. Me and my boyfriend have broken up. We were together tabout 4 months. I have always suffered with confidence and low sef esteem. I dont tink ive trusted him from day 1. He never gave me any reason not to trust him. It...
A. 26 February 2013: I get why he's not fighting. Especially if he did nothing to cause you to not trust him.
while trust is earned... if you start a relationship not trusting someone from the getgo it's not fair to them.
and I have to tell you being with someo... (read in full...)
He's too independent, but I don't want to suffocate him. How do I handle his rejections?
Q. Hello everyone.. I´ve been with my bf almost two years. We´ve had some problems as every couple..but we love each other..At least I think so..He´s very kind to me,says he loves me all the time,he´s gentle, he surprises me, i have so much fun with...
A. 26 February 2013: other than the fact that you seem to be the one making all the plans all the time if I'm reading this correctly, I'm not seeing a huge issue here.
my husband and I have different hobbies and tastes in things... it's part of what keeps us interest... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend having second thoughts?
Q. I have only been with this girl for a few weeks. she recently broke up with her boyfriend of two years after they were constantly arguing and she felt that they needed to call it quits. she has been with me since then and then she broke up with me ...
A. 26 February 2013: If she recently broke up with him after two years then she's not done processing their break up.
I would back off and let her work out her issues with her ex boyfriend.
Eventually they will probably break up for good... but you do n... (read in full...)
Should I worry that I may lose her to someone who is just as pretty but more intelligent?
Q. I am dating someone who is very accomplished and quite literally brilliant. While I have above average intelligence, I have no education nor anything that I have accomplished or am really good at. Long story short : I became a mom at age 19 an...
A. 26 February 2013: she is with you because of who you are NOW, not what you may become....
how about if you relax and enjoy the ride for as long as it's good?... (read in full...)
What are the options to deal with our rude confrontational neighbors? They stir up trouble and it's wearing me down.
Q. Hello, I'm really confused about my neighbour. I just can't work her out! For the last 18 months the person living next to me has made my life quite difficult. We have got to a point that we have resolved some issues but I am really wary of her!...
A. 26 February 2013: I would not permit my children to play with hers
I would not invite her for drinks or anything else.
I would not initiate conversation with her and when she said hello I would say "hi" and keep on moving..
If anything they do breaks ... (read in full...)
Was he tired, confused, emotional for some reason. or just forgetful when he use the name of his ex, (instead of my name), when he spoke to me?
Q. The other day my boyfriend called me by his ex's name. He was making me laugh because I had been previously upset with a family member. All of a sudden while he was telling me a joke he used her name instead of mine. He was with her for three ye...
A. 26 February 2013: OH please he's so over reacting to a slip of the tongue...
He's afraid you will leave because he accidentally called you by his ex's name.... BFD in my book.
My father has been with his gf for 17 years. they live together... for all ... (read in full...)
If partner is using dating site do they always keep on carrying on until you dump them permanently?
Q. I am noticing there seems to be a growing number of questions here relating to repetitive cheating on dating sites by their partner. I have had to go through this with my partner who never admits it or thinks he is not doing anything wrong by way o...
A. 26 February 2013: My ex husband would not stop inappropriately texting other women he met on gaming sites. Our marriage ended when I gave him back what he was giving me.
I think that a person (man or woman) who is on dating sites or emotionally ... (read in full...)
Should I get checked? I was bleeding after sex!
Q. Ok so I think I'm kinda embarrassed to answer this question so anyways. Just had sex with my friend. He's like my bestie. Hell I can't believe this happen since I be on that 90 day rule shit lol. I don't feel nasty or anything because we have been ...
A. 26 February 2013: if it's just some spotting for one day I'd not worry to much about it...
if you have any pain at all... call the doctor.
if the bleeding continues call the doctor...
I've had bleeding (spotting) occasionally after sex... sometimes... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my boyfriend's flirty friend will take him away from me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 3 years. He has a female friend who is constantly flirting with him in front of me, and they have a close friendship. I am trying to keep my mouth shut, because I don't know if I can talk to them both ...
A. 26 February 2013: well I can say that from 14-17 is a long time and people change... but for right now you are together so let's deal with that.
IN your life, there will always be women that want your man. The issue is not that you don't trust the women (b... (read in full...)
Can I shake off these feelings of detachment or are we destined to fail?
Q. Hi There. I have been in a relationship for just under a year and a half. It has been the best relationship I've had in truth. But something has changed and I'm not sure why. I'm in my mid-twenties and have had several relationships since I wa...
A. 26 February 2013: I am sensing that you are struggling with knowing that she is not your "one" and that you don't want to hurt her like you were hurt when your first girlfriend broke up with you.
I remember breaking up with my first serious boyfriend... ugh I d... (read in full...)
Will our relationship survive on little contact?
Q. Ok so I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a month now. he's amazing, he doesn't mind the fact that I'm a virgin but he just started working and we would go weeks without seeing each other and to top that sometimes we only talk for 5mns...
A. 26 February 2013: you are only together a month.. that's 4 weeks. how can you go WEEKS without seeing each other if you have only been together for a month?
to be honest.. if you guys only talk on the phone for 5 minutes a day and live close to each other, it's ... (read in full...)
He's kicked me and threatened to hit me. Will he improve? Is this relationship worth saving?
Q. I am in a committed relationship since 3 years and 7 months. The first 3 years we were in a LDR. Now we both stay in the same city. My bf sometimes behaves very badly with me because he feels that I control his life. I said its nothing like tha...
A. 26 February 2013: just because you cheated 3 years ago does not give him the right to attack and beat you so badly it takes others to make him stop.
... (read in full...)
I don't understand my girlfriend's behavior and I'm worried that something is really off!
Q. i don't have a clue what to think about this situation and i'm incredibly confused about what's really going on. i have been with my girlfriend for about three months now, but something in the pit of my stomach tells me that i'm missing somethin...
A. 26 February 2013: She sounds like she has performance anxiety…some folks are lousy test takers… if the only time she oversleeps is her tests that explains that.
My husband is a night owl He can and does sleep most of the weekend days away…. Waking him for anyt... (read in full...)
What can I do about the double standards in my family? All my siblings are adults, yet as the eldest more is expected of me.
Q. I hate being the eldest. If my siblings want me to do a favour, I get screamed and yelled at. But if I need a favour from my siblings, my parents don't care at all. They tell me it's my problem and instead yell me to shut up. I'm sick to bit...
A. 26 February 2013: if you do not live in the home it's even easier... just do not put yourself in the situation where your parents guilt you and your siblings beg...
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Is my Italian penpal starting to like me?
Q. Good afternoon, I have a pen pal from Italy almost 6 months ago. I am from US but a Latin emigrant. I am 22 and he is 23. I really really like him and his exact words in his last email were: "Every time I read your plans I admire you more and mo...
A. 26 February 2013: sounds like a friend supporting a friend... nothing more...
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Multiple Dating Questions: can you help me please? What to do?
Q. So I guess I need some dating advice! I realize every person is different and I'm also a lady who dates ladies but I think anyone would have a good perspective on this. I've been dating women for several years but usually I was pursued by them or ...
A. 26 February 2013: I agree with AuntyEm.
ask her out... that's fine... save the "come to my house to watch a movie" for a later time... it either looks like you want sex or you are friendzoning her...
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I'm broken hearted and confused over boyfriend's cheating. Can anyone explain?
Q. so I had dated a guy for 2 years. he had kissed a girl i had been friends with in high school last year. i was kept in the dark for so long, she still partied with him and talked, he even asked me for her number. i didnt have any idea, i thought ...
A. 26 February 2013: I know you think this is somehow your fault. It's not.
you are left feeling inadequate... when in truth he's the one who in inadequate... he needed to string you along till he could have more fun and games with this other girl.
his self-este... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my BF is telling the truth or not? What lengths will some men go to, to tell lies?
Q. How can you tell if your boyfriend is tellin the truth whether a "friend" is just a friend orwhether he has slept with her. He denies anything happened that hey were just friends. I somehow believe him, just want to know to what lenths will you ...
A. 26 February 2013: what lengths will a liar go to protect their situation... depends on the liar.... (note that women lie as much as men... liars are liars)
in cases where you don't have proof, you have to trust your gut... ... (read in full...)
Should I ask this guy out? My friend thought I was joking when I told her about it!
Q. I am a student, and I have been working somewhere for a while. Im about ot leave in three weeks time, and I really want to ask out one of the guys there. Only thing is, that he is slightly older, lives with his mum, and is not the best looking of ...
A. 26 February 2013: if you like him then ask him...
one caveat is that a man who lives with his mom when in his 30s may not be very mature.. it depends on why he's still living at home... but that knowledge will come with time.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend disrespected me by walking away with another girl after a party infront of me
Q. I have been a relationship for 4yrs, we have had some rough patches such as last year I attended his birthday party and he disappeared then i learned he disappeared with another woman. This year,he held another party and the woman was there, d...
A. 26 February 2013: I could not get past my "boyfriend" going to his birthday party with another woman. I cannot even fathom how you can be so "can we get past this" when you found them together in her home with her in her pjs.
he's been seeing her for at least... (read in full...)
Should I leave my cheating husband?
Q. i love my husband very much and recently i found out he did cheated ..should i stay with him or leave?...
A. 26 February 2013: Well I'm not so quick to jump on the leave him bandwagon.
How long are you married
how good is the marriage otherwise
has he cheated before
is he sorry about cheating or just getting caught
is he willing to go to therapy and couples counseli... (read in full...)
My g/f broke up with me saying she needs to find herself but wants to be friends
Q. Hi,I'm 20 years old and me and my girlfriend were dating for 3 years. She left me yesterday telling me that she wants to be my friend again and that she needs to find her own identity.Please help.I really want to get her back....
A. 26 February 2013: there is an old saying:
"if you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was"
you can't MAKE her come back to you. give her time let her go and miss you and figure it out herself....
do no... (read in full...)
Ladies: Why do so many of you criticize other ladies?
Q. I have a few questions for the women. Before I ask them, though, I just wanted to say I know not ALL women are like this. I've noticed quite a lot are, though. First question: Why do you think that if you don't have big boobs, or you have fat in ...
A. 26 February 2013: Oh this one is simple (at least to my 50 something brain)
younger women are insecure and one of the ways they make themselves feel better about themselves is to put down the competition.
FWIW you deemed a tanned big breasted blonde as stereo... (read in full...)
52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 26 February 2013: OP,
you saw her for two weeks and were having sex with her and introduced her to your daughters... wow!
did the fact that she was so sexual with you so quickly not concern you?
and now a mere two weeks later she's off and running with o... (read in full...)
He needs some foot hygiene help! How do I do that without embarrassing him?
Q. My 28 year old boyfriend and I were hanging out at my place. He was exhausted from work, so I offer to give him a foot massage. His skin is a little hard and dry but the feet don't smell. At a certain point I notice that he has some white cotta...
A. 26 February 2013: doesn't athletes' foot itch???
btw you soak your feet so long with a professional pedicure most of it soaks off....and they are so used to to crud they wear latex gloves to give pedicures...... (read in full...)
He needs some foot hygiene help! How do I do that without embarrassing him?
Q. My 28 year old boyfriend and I were hanging out at my place. He was exhausted from work, so I offer to give him a foot massage. His skin is a little hard and dry but the feet don't smell. At a certain point I notice that he has some white cotta...
A. 25 February 2013: or if he's like me his feet are so far away from his brain he forgets about them.
if you are not sure you want to bring it up with him perhaps you could suggest mani pedi night... my hubby and I go every 5 weeks and he gets a manicure and... (read in full...)
What can I do about the double standards in my family? All my siblings are adults, yet as the eldest more is expected of me.
Q. I hate being the eldest. If my siblings want me to do a favour, I get screamed and yelled at. But if I need a favour from my siblings, my parents don't care at all. They tell me it's my problem and instead yell me to shut up. I'm sick to bit...
A. 25 February 2013: I've always said we can choose our family but not our relatives.
if you don't like the people you are related to, don't be around them.
I'm not even sure my mother in law knows her only son got married in October. Her son (my husband) doe... (read in full...)
52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 25 February 2013: OP,
You say that the 20 year old was only fun and games...
if that's the case why was she even exposed to your daughters at all???
Listen I'm going to be 53 next month (and I don't have a shawl nor do I know how to knit)
my husband ... (read in full...)
52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 24 February 2013: You can't get along because no mature woman would ask you to choose her over her children.....
so the fact that she asked you to give up your daughters for her was wrong.
you ended it with her (as you should have based on her request)
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