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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 19 March 2013: If you are not sure if she is single the BEST way to find out is to ASK HER...
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Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 14 February 2013: At least you know your taste runs to women with morals and ethics... telling you she's seeing someone is hard to hear but it means that she is loyal and trustworthy... says a lot for your taste in women.
BTW if it ends with her current fella, n... (read in full...)
I've never been with a girl before and now don't know how to proceed with her? She's stopped replying to my messages.
Q. Hey everyone! I'm in need of some advice, thanks for your help in advance! I've been messaging with a girl for a few months now. I've actually never been with a girl before, but for some reason she and I seemed to connect from the very first secon...
A. 13 February 2013: so you sent a text and got no response?
you said you wanted to "ask her out in my second message
DO NOT USE TEXT MESSAGING for important things like asking for a date!
I would make ONE phone call... if she does not answer, leave a voi... (read in full...)
Is love enough? Will we hurt our families too much if we try to be together?
Q. My husband was a pastor, had 1 emotional affair another affair that was physical, I also had some affairs as well. He's wanting to make the marriage work, but I'm not. I met a man and he's in a bad marriage as well, we both have older children, but ...
A. 12 February 2013: You are serially cheating on your husband. Regardless of what your current affair partner wants to do, I think you should consider the divorce as a healthy action.
You say you don't want to make the marriage work. That's all I need to know.. i... (read in full...)
I honestly can't envision a future where its not me carrying the bulk of the load. What do you advise I do?
Q. I've been in this relationship for about a year. We were together for like two months, before I broke it off, and then maybe half a year passed before we got back together, which is where we are now. Its not all bad things that I have to say abou...
A. 12 February 2013: you are not happy. I sense that you are trying to find a way to get out of this situation and still remain the good guy. It's not going to happen.
Breakups when one person does not see the problem are never easy.
Obviously you care about h... (read in full...)
My friend went out with him and said he was horrible. But then she asked if I'd like his number. Should I be insulted?
Q. My friend was hooked up with this guy and went on a date with him and it was horrible according to her. I sat and listened for hours as she told me everything horrible about it. At the end of this she asked if i would like to have his number b...
A. 12 February 2013: I met a guy many years ago... it did not click for me with him.... T have you met my friend D?
I was the matron of honor at their wedding nearly 20 years ago....
... (read in full...)
Will alcohol make you sick the first time you drink it even if it is just a small amount?
Q. My new boyfriend wants to bring over some champagne or wine for our romantic Valentine's dinner at my house. The problem is I have never drank alcohol in my life, just was never interested or associated with people who drink. Of course I would l...
A. 12 February 2013: A sip or two of champagne may go to your head but it will not make you sick...
drinking too much or too fast will....
... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting about his annoying habit of 'liking' his female Facebook friends' photos?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for a few months now but we've known each other for years and everything is great except there is one small thing that's annoying me... He likes a lot of his female Facebook friend's photos. They vary in c...
A. 12 February 2013: have you asked him why he likes them?
for me I like pictures and posts as a way to acknowledge to the poster that I have seen it....
only if I comment does it mean more than an acknowledgment.
you say you don't know what he's thinking... yo... (read in full...)
I can't stand his personal hygiene! Am I shallow?
Q. I have this great friend and we have gotten really close this year. I feel like our friendship is effortless and we could work as a couple but there are a few issues. I feel so shallow saying this but i can't stand the smell of his breath. I have ...
A. 12 February 2013: I don't think you are shallow... grooming and self-care is critical
a couple of things.
if his oral care is not up to snuff then we know what the problem is... however if he brushes and flosses then the bad breath may be from his stomach or ... (read in full...)
I've never been with a girl before and now don't know how to proceed with her? She's stopped replying to my messages.
Q. Hey everyone! I'm in need of some advice, thanks for your help in advance! I've been messaging with a girl for a few months now. I've actually never been with a girl before, but for some reason she and I seemed to connect from the very first secon...
A. 12 February 2013: I'm thinking if you like her and she likes you that she's ready to take it to the next step beyond just messaging...
text messaging is not a way to have a relationship....
how about you pick up the phone and call her and ask her out for coff... (read in full...)
I wouldn't send my love interest an intimate photo so he broke up. Should we stay friends, as he is suggesting?
Q. I met a man on facebook about 5 months ago. We have never met in real life. But we are very close to each other. We have shared everything about our past--his ex's and my ex. I told him about my ex, who blackmails me with pics that he had taken of ...
A. 12 February 2013: good for you for refusing an inappropriate request from a creep.
and he's a creep for even asking....
I would not only not be friends with him, I would unfriend him on facebook, and block him. if he has your phone number block his number on yo... (read in full...)
I've been so lonely and insecure after breaking up with my girlfriend.
Q. After a year, my break up , i couldn't find anyone to be with. I'm alone , 27 . and i showed my intention to girls but there is no respond. my big problem is i have no company to go with friends. because i'm working hard on my thesis , and alw...
A. 12 February 2013: It can take time to heal from a big break up....
You have a lot on your plate working on your thesis and I'm sure that takes most of your time... focus on that as it's a temporary thing.
YOU said "I couldn't find anyone to be with" IF you ar... (read in full...)
Stress has caused us to fight a lot lately, and the last one, he got a little violent. I don't know what to do.
Q. So here is the thing. We have been in a great relationship for almost 3 years. I love him with all my heart and he is the type of guy who brings me flowers for nothing in particular. We moved in together about 7 months ago and things have been going ...
A. 12 February 2013: I would say it might be a one time thing out of frustration.
Money issues always make relationships harder.... I know when you struggle to pay the bills and have nothing left for fun it's scary...
you say you don't have enough to pay the bi... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy is tearing us apart
Q. my partner and i have been together for 8 years, hes just gone 40 and i m 36. we have been friends for 19 years after meeting when i was 17 and seeing each other for a few months. we stayed friends after this and i had my son with someone else and ...
A. 12 February 2013: You can't fix a broken relationship if you are the only one doing the fixing.
I'm sorry he's being this difficult for you.
I hope you can find peace with this situation sooner rather than later.
give yourself permission to grieve the... (read in full...)
How can one tell the children about divorce when your spouse is too emotional to be rational?
Q. For many years now I have been unhappy in my marriage. My wife and I have been together for twenty years. After our children were born my wife became very emotional, and she tends to react to situations by shouting, swearing and crying. She's bee...
A. 12 February 2013: If you are dead set on leaving I think you need to take the kids (at 12 and 16 they are old enough to understand some of what is going on) and go out just the three of you (maybe a nice dinner just you and the kids) and explain to them that you ... (read in full...)
Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 12 February 2013: well then maybe a card for the one girl and flowers and a card for the massage girl...
I only worry that the massage girl is nice to you as you are a client and that her personal feelings are not really there....... (read in full...)
Is five months too soon to move in with my boyfriend?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for five months and we're thinking of moving in together. I spend about three or four nights a week with him anyway and we were on holidays together for over a week and got on great! I've known him for about ten ...
A. 12 February 2013: Personally for ME it's not too soon. IF you want to be together and are doing it not out of desperation and need but want... I think it's fine. But then I never follow traditional norms or expectations....
And don't ever live your life worryin... (read in full...)
My ex and I were thinking of getting back together -- until he learned that I slept with his friend during the break
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up around half a year ago, but recently we've been getting close again and are thinking of getting back together. We've matured a lot since we broke up and I'm very happy with the relationship now. However, durin...
A. 12 February 2013: I can see why this is an issue for him...
he feels blindsided and his lack of trust (understandable to an extent) is now made even worse by his feelings of betrayal... not only didn't you tell him, but his friends betrayed him too.... (at leas... (read in full...)
Desperate - wife found a pic and says she is leaving
Q. My wife and I have had a very close relationship - and we have both been known to get a little freaky regarding sex. We both use porn (me more than her), but she has never had any issues w/it at all. I recently created a "locked" folder on my pho...
A. 12 February 2013: It sounds like you have major power struggles going on with your wife:
"If she pulls this again it's going to be me who does the booting"
So if she gets upset and over reacts to something again you are going to kick her to the curb kids or ... (read in full...)
Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 12 February 2013: a very small (like 2 or 3 pieces no more) box of chocolates might be ok... but NOTHING over the top...
I think it's nice to give cards to folks you see on a regular basis.... but yeah flowers should be saved for women you are involved wit... (read in full...)
Does anal get better with practice?
Q. Ok so I have an embarrasing question to ask.It's about anal sex,My boyfreind is really into it and the other day he suggested it,I said sure..it only hurt for like a second when he pushed in.The feeling to me is exactly like i'm in the middle of ...
A. 12 February 2013: I have to admit that while I do not orgasm from it and it's not my favorite activity I don't mind anal at all with a partner who loves you and cares for you and is concerned that you are enjoying it as much as he is...
BTW I've been known to str... (read in full...)
Should I postpone our wedding? Things are so tense at the moment with his kids and I don't want to move into that kind of environment....
Q. Hi there. I'm engaged, my boyfriend is a bit older with sons of 14 and 12 who live with their mom and visit at weekends. Everything was fine over past 2 years, but recently he has huge rows with kids, I guess their age etc. Things get so tense it's ...
A. 12 February 2013: FA brings up a great point.. if you are willing to bail ("maybe I should leave") based on a bit of strife with the kids who will be your stepchildren... perhaps you are not as committed to the relationship as you should be.
Yes kids are hard wor... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my writing teacher, and am confused as to whether this is something I should even be thinking about.
Q. I feel dumb asking this or even telling anyone but i have developed quite the crush on my writing teacher. I am 18 and he is 24. So the age difference is not totally out of realm. I am going to college next year to become an English teacher, just ...
A. 11 February 2013: Here's your reality check... you have a crush. You may be 18 and he is 24 but he's still in a position of authority over you and it would be inappropriate to even entertain such thoughts.
Kids get crushes on teachers all the time. Teachers... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned. Nothing I've tried is helping, and I'm afraid it is going to tear my relationship apart.
Q. I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned, and it immensely effects many of my relationship. My current girlfriend, was originally my best friend for three years and on the fourth year she asked me out. When she goes out with her family, ...
A. 11 February 2013: do you have any idea what causes the irrational fears and anxiety?
how long did you do therapy? this would be something that would probably require some digging to figure out what's causing it
did you work with someone who speciali... (read in full...)
What can I do? I don't like it when he calls me bad names, but I'm also scared of him.
Q. I have been hanging out with this man for about 5 months, he says we are just friends but we act more like a couple, heres my question!! I have been giving him b j a lot and there have been times he pushes my head down and he calls me bad names a ...
A. 11 February 2013: block his email
block his phone number
if he gets through do not answer the phone...
if the only way he can get to you is in person... then when he shows up in a public place you can quietly say "leave or i will call the police"
if he sho... (read in full...)
Should I be the one to deal with my Bf's ex Gf? And if so, then how?
Q. Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. The thing is, he's got this psycho girlfriend who he had been with for 2 years. She kept contacting him anonymously (putting her phone number in private and call him and just stay there a...
A. 11 February 2013: You do realize that you can change a P3 account password for free right?
http://manuals.playstation.net/document/en/ps3/current/account/forgotpw.html
That alone tells me he’s full of poo and lying to you sweetie…
He can choose not to answe... (read in full...)
Our dates went well, he was interested in seeing me, and now he's been ignoring me for 2 weeks?
Q. To cut things short, I was dating this guy I met at my uni.. We weren't seeing each other for long, we met, he got my number, we spoke on whatsapp for a week or so and then decided to meet up. We saw each other three times. We went out to dinn...
A. 11 February 2013: NOT all guys do this..
why did HE do it? who knows we can only guess.
but clearly it was just a case of he didn't feel it and he's not mature enough or does not have the social skills to say "hey you're great just not for me"
I guess h... (read in full...)
Afraid she didn't enjoy her first time -- how can I be better?
Q. How To Sexually Connect with my girlfriend? Hey everyone, I've been going out with my girlfriend for 4 months now, and recently she's started hinting that she might want to have sex. She is a virgin. However, I've never had sex with a vir...
A. 11 February 2013: it's not about the positions... it's about so many other things...
you say she's hinting she might want to have sex in the first sentence. then you say you had sex with her last night... or did you have sex with a different virginal girl (not you... (read in full...)
My ex and I were thinking of getting back together -- until he learned that I slept with his friend during the break
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up around half a year ago, but recently we've been getting close again and are thinking of getting back together. We've matured a lot since we broke up and I'm very happy with the relationship now. However, durin...
A. 11 February 2013: have you told him you wanted to tell him but didn't know how.
see you needed to tell him this before you got back together if you thought it would be a problem (and you did or you would have told him)
so the issue to me is...
would he b... (read in full...)
My depressed Gf won't have sex with me. If I say I'm leaving she hurts herself. Should we breakup?
Q. Hello all, I have been with my girlfriend for one year and a half and we live together. The problem I have is she won't have sex with me. The last time we had sex was 7 months ago and I confessed to her that I am considering sleeping with other ...
A. 11 February 2013: OP based on your followup saying you had not had sex for a long time prior to her starting meds, you have talked to her about the lack of sex and she has said that this is how she is in general and she can't promise it will improve then you have ... (read in full...)
How can I ever learn to trust guys again? And find a Genuine guy? My last Bf was a liar and a cheat.
Q. My most recent ex boyfriend was a liar and a cheater. He was super good looking and charming so I always fell for whatever he said and couldn't tell what was really going on. I am only just now starting to see what really happened. It's b...
A. 11 February 2013: it's only been two months.... give yourself time to heal.
where are you meeting new folks... maybe it has to do with how and where you meet them... on a dating site... yeah folks will say what you want to hear.
what about a place of wor... (read in full...)
He makes me feel secondary to pornstars. Is it a stupid reason to dump someone because they don't make you feel sexually desirable enough?
Q. Right my situation might be perceived to some as someone who has got their priorities wrong but I will continue.... Is it a stupid reason to dump someone because they don't make you feel sexually desirable enough? I am sure that he cared l...
A. 11 February 2013: Female anonymous said:
"I am sick of people comparing porn use to a vibrator, a vibrator is a piece of plastic, porn is a picture/video of a real person who exists somewhere. Porn is alot more offensive than a vibrator."
well to some peop... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think I have more feelings for my girlfriends daughter than for my girlfriend!
Q. I am a 26 yr old man currently dating a 43 yr old that has a 18 yr old daughter and 2 younger boys I am finding a hard time not becoming attracted to her now she is of age me and her mom have been together for a few years now what should I do I am ...
A. 11 February 2013: I am an older woman who has always gravitated towards younger men. Thankfully I have sons...
My current husband is 39 and only 11 years older than my oldest child. He gets along very very very well with my younger son who is 26....
I can t... (read in full...)
How can I be more patient waiting for him to propose? Why is he taking so long to take the next step?
Q. I have been with my SO for 4 years. I am in my mid 20s and am fully ready to start a family. My SO is almost 30 and says he wants he same thing. I genuinely believe him, but he's been saying this for the past three years, and I cannot help but ...
A. 11 February 2013: What is going to happen in May when it's move in date and you don't have a ring or a proposal. Will you move in with him? If he knows you want a proposal that's serious before you move in and he does not give it to you and you move in with him, ... (read in full...)
Will my wife get mad if I put up some erotica pictures in my office?
Q. I'm a big fan of vintage erotica and while my wife appreciates the beauty of photographs, I don't know if she is as big a fan as I am. Anyway, I just purchased a bunch of old photographs from Penthouse magazine creator Bob Guccione's colle...
A. 11 February 2013: is this your office at home?
if so ask your wife if she minds.... I assume she knows you purchased them....
if it's your office at work or where you see clients I would think twice about hanging them at all...
... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous or get used to the relationship that my B/f has with his ex?
Q. Hello everyone, I am with my bf about 18 months, I really love him and I can see he loves me,we plan living together etc..Everything would be ok, if he wasn´t still friends with his ex..I mean very good friends. They´ve been in one group of friends ...
A. 11 February 2013: I too do not find it comfortable to have an ex be friends with my current partner.
Friendly yes. civil is ok ... but friends where they do things alone together... that's not cool in my opinion.
I can tell you that even if she does still love ... (read in full...)
Tormented by jealous thoughts - please help
Q. I'm really struggling to deal with my paranoid and jealous thoughts at the moment. I've been with my partner for over 3 years now and we got engaged in November, but for some reason I just can't stop thinking that he is cheating on me or up to no ...
A. 11 February 2013: you want to trust him the way he deserves... you do.
you got with him when his last relationship was on the rocks and he lied and cheated to his wife.
how do you expect to trust someone when you know they are willing to lie to a person they ma... (read in full...)
I cant stop thinking about my teacher! What should I do?
Q. I am a teenage girl of eighteen years old.Few days back i met my new teacher who is really young and charming and his age is near to 23/24 years. i am just going mad about him, i dont know what to do i am just thinking of him all day and night. i ...
A. 11 February 2013: you can't stop instantly
you also can't love him
you have a crush... he must be very handsome...
but he's your teacher and you have to respect that.
it will pass in time.... (read in full...)
Does anal get better with practice?
Q. Ok so I have an embarrasing question to ask.It's about anal sex,My boyfreind is really into it and the other day he suggested it,I said sure..it only hurt for like a second when he pushed in.The feeling to me is exactly like i'm in the middle of ...
A. 11 February 2013: nope you will feel that way when you have something in your rectum... that's normal.
best advice... if you are worried you will poop.. have an enema before you have anal sex
also he should always wear a condom to avoid a nasty e.coli infecti... (read in full...)
If we get together it will be a LDR, she is worried about our age gap and she already has a FWB....should I leave now before I invest any feelings into someone I have no chance with?
Q. Hey! I am 27 year old male with college degree and stable job. I am financially stable and have established lifestyle. I met a 20 year old girl on facebook and have been talking on the phone and through text. She is from Texas and I am from ...
A. 11 February 2013: K_c100 has covered all the points well.
The difference between 20 and 27 is huge. The difference between 27 and 34 not so huge. At 20 she does not know what she wants.
LDRs are impossibly hard. Especially if you meet online and have ... (read in full...)
Do you think he loves me, or do these signs suggest he is sleeping with his ex?
Q. My boyfriend asked me out wen I was 14..we have been dating for 4 yrs now although he is 12years older than I am and I lost my virginity to him.I love him but in our first year of dating I found out his supposed ex gf was pregnant for him..I was too ...
A. 11 February 2013: I do not think he loves you honey.
I do not know if he's still involved with his ex or not.... as having young children with someone often requires a lot of contact.
He is correct, he can't be blamed for someone else's feelings but he can be bl... (read in full...)
Why is my husband acting like a tease? He comes on to me, gets me interested. Then he changes his mind? Why? It's frustrating.
Q. Recently my husband has been doing this thing where several times through out the day he gets me really excited. He will touch me in just the right places or whisper naughty things in my ear, and i love it. But just when i think it is or want it ...
A. 11 February 2013: I've done this to my hubby without meaning to.
Sadly my ADHD brain sometimes can't follow through....
you say you tried talking to him.... and it "went over his head"
that sounds like you didn't ASK him what's going on....
you just ... (read in full...)
My crushes are always on girls and I like dating girls. So why do I like gay porn? Does that mean something?
Q. I'm thirteen but I am a late bloomer so I only just started puberty. My problem is when I masturbate I have mainly gay fantasies or videos playing. That is not always but my favorites are 2 guys 1 girl. I know that should mean I'm gay but when it c...
A. 11 February 2013:
A boy starting puberty at 13 is not a late bloomer… it’s normal.
Having gay fantasies does not make you gay. Liking gay porn does not make you gay or bi although at your age porn is not a good idea… and you need to know that real life is very ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to him, but now it seems he's ready to move on. Do you think he is breaking up with me?
Q. My boyfriend and dated for two and half months. I loved him and thought he loved me and I lost my virginity to him the second month and three weeks later he sends me a message saying he hasn't been feeling hisself lately and that he is overwhelmed ...
A. 11 February 2013: He's done with you. Even as adults "a break" is usually the precursor to a break up....
Here's the key to knowing what to do,
you accept the break (and assume it's a breakup and get on with your life)
IF he comes back to you and says h... (read in full...)
Should I postpone our wedding? Things are so tense at the moment with his kids and I don't want to move into that kind of environment....
Q. Hi there. I'm engaged, my boyfriend is a bit older with sons of 14 and 12 who live with their mom and visit at weekends. Everything was fine over past 2 years, but recently he has huge rows with kids, I guess their age etc. Things get so tense it's ...
A. 11 February 2013: I agree with CindyCares (as usual)
You agreed to take on a man with children. 14 and 12 are very hard ages for kids in general…
Putting of the wedding till the kids are happy is not the thing to do. If you are unable to be a full time m... (read in full...)
He makes me feel secondary to pornstars. Is it a stupid reason to dump someone because they don't make you feel sexually desirable enough?
Q. Right my situation might be perceived to some as someone who has got their priorities wrong but I will continue.... Is it a stupid reason to dump someone because they don't make you feel sexually desirable enough? I am sure that he cared l...
A. 10 February 2013: I'm wondering how he's making you feel this way
does he say to you he would prefer to watch porn over being with you?
does he tell you your not as hot as "so and so porn star"?
does he say he prefers porn to you?
everything you say is... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy is tearing us apart
Q. my partner and i have been together for 8 years, hes just gone 40 and i m 36. we have been friends for 19 years after meeting when i was 17 and seeing each other for a few months. we stayed friends after this and i had my son with someone else and ...
A. 8 February 2013: OP I'm so sorry and your avatar tells me how sad you are about this... but to be honest YOU can't fix him.
IF he's fine when he's with you but the obsessive thoughts come when he's not with you, well then I think the only way HE can fix this is ... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy is tearing us apart
Q. my partner and i have been together for 8 years, hes just gone 40 and i m 36. we have been friends for 19 years after meeting when i was 17 and seeing each other for a few months. we stayed friends after this and i had my son with someone else and ...
A. 7 February 2013: Sageold guy is READING MY MIND AGAIN...
Basically someone caught his wandering eye a few weeks back and he's projecting what he's thinking of doing onto you....
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Retroactive jealousy is tearing us apart
Q. my partner and i have been together for 8 years, hes just gone 40 and i m 36. we have been friends for 19 years after meeting when i was 17 and seeing each other for a few months. we stayed friends after this and i had my son with someone else and ...
A. 7 February 2013: agreed that something has changed in the last 5 weeks if it's never been an issue before but it is now.... (read in full...)
Desperate - wife found a pic and says she is leaving
Q. My wife and I have had a very close relationship - and we have both been known to get a little freaky regarding sex. We both use porn (me more than her), but she has never had any issues w/it at all. I recently created a "locked" folder on my pho...
A. 5 February 2013: you had a locked folder on your phone that your wife could not access... not cool or a good idea especially if there are prior trust issues in the relationship.
YOU are at fault for having a locked folder that she did not have the password... (read in full...)
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