I'm dating her but my gut tells me there is something amiss with her male best friend!
Q. I have been dating this single mum for about month now. Everything is going alright, obviously haven't let the child or anything crazy like that yet, but I have an issue. She has a male best mate, obviously this girl is bisexual, and this make be...
A. 22 June 2014: I'd let her go. She is more busy with her male "bestie" and FAcebook.
She might not DO anything sexual with the "bestie" but she KNOWS he still wants her and she is enjoying the FIRE out of his attention, gifts and devotion.
Sorry, I'd be... (read in full...)
If he doesn't like me then why act that way?
Q. I have known Andy for 3.5 yrs. He asked me if I had a crush on him in 2013 and I said no...he said he was relieved and was like "FRIENDS :D" saying he does have a flirtatious personality, he's trying to work on it and he's just being friendly. ...
A. 22 June 2014: Thusi guy likes to toy with girls. He doesn't have the stones to BE with a girl in an actual relationship, but he likes to flirt and hope that the girl will fall madly in love with him.
He is a TEASE.
INSECURE tease.
Some guys enjoy havin... (read in full...)
My sister has this ridiculous inferiority complex around me
Q. My older sister has this ongoing confidence problem since we were kids. She compares herself to me and seems to think she comes off worse. She thinks I am more exciting, popular and talented than she is. I have to constantly reassure her that she ...
A. 21 June 2014: Maybe suggest to her to get some counseling? Or have her husband suggest it, if that would be less "dramatic".
I know siblings "compete" and "compare" themselves to each other, but she is beyond the norm.
She sounds like she could be sufferi... (read in full...)
I'm obsessing over his new wife and I don't know how to stop.
Q. I know before a write this that people are going to think i'm pathetic but i feel like i have nobody i can talk to about how i'm feeling. Long story short, i was in a sort of FWB situation that ended about 2 years ago. I was the one to end it ev...
A. 21 June 2014: Accept that you did, what you did. And then let it go. YOU need to stop beating yourself up, or think that you aren't GOOD enough to be the GF/Fiance/Wife. Tell yourself: " OK I f'd up, I will never do FWB or be with a guy who isn't fully mine, ever ... (read in full...)
My friend is copying me! it is annoying me!
Q. This is so annoying. My friend is copying my piercing - I know there are many out there who have the second lobe piercing. She is copying me because I've been deciding if I wanted the second piercing done now for about a couple of years and finally ...
A. 21 June 2014: Maybe you should look at the answers given to you and NOT take offense, but instead consider that what you WROTE and HOW you wrote you post made people react, and not all positively.
ALWAYS take from advice (the answer given here, and in life) wh... (read in full...)
Unwanted attention from an old guy at the restaurant
Q. Hello, This isn't really a relationship question but I need advice. I have 30 minute lunch breaks every time I work more than a 6 hour shift, which is about 4 days a week. Around my work, there's no where to really eat. We have a Dunkin Don...
A. 21 June 2014: Get your food to go?
Or GROW a set of ovaries, and tell him you like to enjoy your lunch in peace and quiet. That you do NOT want company while eating or... even easier bring a book. EAT & READ.
Personally though, I would tell him. I don't wan... (read in full...)
I'm obsessing over his new wife and I don't know how to stop.
Q. I know before a write this that people are going to think i'm pathetic but i feel like i have nobody i can talk to about how i'm feeling. Long story short, i was in a sort of FWB situation that ended about 2 years ago. I was the one to end it ev...
A. 21 June 2014: I think you are focussing on HER, because it's EASIER than accepting you made a dumb choice in keep sleeping with him, and it's WAY easier than ACCEPTING that the dude ISN'T such a catch.
So you focus on her and her "seemingly" happy life. Be... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes fun of me, my family and my culture in front of others!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been officially together for about 2 years now, but it seems as if we have been for 4 years when we first met. I am muslim and he is not inclined towards any one religion. I finally met his family in FL. We stayed at his ...
A. 21 June 2014: Why are you settling for this total ass-clown?
He doesn't respect you, treat you like crap, he is ignorant and rude- he is NOT a catch from anything you write. He acts like yo uare his verbal punching bag and when around family and friends ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with a no ambition burger flipper?
Q. I'm 18 and well I'm going to college pretty soon I asked my boyfriend that we needed a break because he keeps lying he has no no career goals he works in a fast food restaurant if he wants a future with me he has to know that flipping burgers ...
A. 21 June 2014: One of my nephews is 23 and is a manager of a Fast food chain. He started out working at this Fast Food place to make extra money to put him through college, then he got offered the night manager job at 20, took it and 2 years later he got moved to ... (read in full...)
My friend is copying me! it is annoying me!
Q. This is so annoying. My friend is copying my piercing - I know there are many out there who have the second lobe piercing. She is copying me because I've been deciding if I wanted the second piercing done now for about a couple of years and finally ...
A. 21 June 2014: Honey, you didn't invent or have the solo right to wanting a piercing.
Why is it so bad that she gets one? Because you think it will make YOURS less cool? or interesting?
Don't be that petty girl who thinks she invented the wheel and thus n... (read in full...)
Feeling down because my dad is never present in my life. How do I forgive and move on?
Q. I've been feeling a bit down these days, perhaps since Father's Day just came and went. While everyone else was posting lovely quotes and photos about the "best dad in the world", I couldn't relate. My parents both came here in their mid-late t...
A. 21 June 2014: Accept your Dad for who he is. There really isn't much else you can do.
85% of stuff you see on Social websites are fantasy and wishful thinking. SERIOUSLY. DO NOT compare yourself or your life to what you THINK life is like on Facebook... (read in full...)
Should I block him on facebook, and should I end the relationship?
Q. I'm worried. My boyfriend is acting weird. He has Bipolar Disorder. He wrote to someone that sent him a letter recently. he put his address and phone number on the letter and he mentioned me. I'm worried because he has told me things about that man. ...
A. 20 June 2014: Why were you stupid for getting involved with him?
If he was on his meds I'm sure he was a decent lad to begin with, there are just some things you won't know right off the bat when meeting someone.
DO NOT beat yourself up for falling for, and... (read in full...)
Why is he looking for sex so soon?
Q. Boyfriend needs a break to figure things out between us. Together nearly two years and plans to buy a house next year. Great sex, got along real well. Just one argument come up over the time we were together. Anyway had one massive row about this ...
A. 20 June 2014: He broke up and called it a break, that way he can come crawling back if he can't find someone "better".
You don't mention WHAT the big argument was about, but from what you wrote it sounds like it gets dragged up here and there and caused f... (read in full...)
I thought I deserved more than goodbye and N/C
Q. My ex and I just broke up this past Sunday. We were together for a year and a half. Very serious. The whole thing completely blind sided me. We had just gotten back from an amazing vacation the week before where we both really reconnected - bo...
A. 20 June 2014: I think she did the right thing, for YOU and HER.
It may not be how you would have liked the relationship to end, but accepting that it is HOW she WANTS it might really be your only choice.
I think you have to realize that it isn't about you.... (read in full...)
How do I integrate my fetishes into our sex life?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I having been dating this girl for quite a while now and mostly everything is going great. However, I am still afraid to talk to her about the sexual fetishes I would at the very least like to try, if not integrate into o...
A. 20 June 2014: I agree with Cerberus, it would help if you mentioned what it is you would like to try.
Honestly though, I think talking kinks, fantasies and sexual adventures is always a good thing to share over a glass of wine. DO NOT lay it ALL out on the tabl... (read in full...)
Should I block him on facebook, and should I end the relationship?
Q. I'm worried. My boyfriend is acting weird. He has Bipolar Disorder. He wrote to someone that sent him a letter recently. he put his address and phone number on the letter and he mentioned me. I'm worried because he has told me things about that man. ...
A. 20 June 2014: First of all YOU need to set your Facebook setting to PRIVATE and block, unfriend and delete your current BF.
He i off his meds which means he is unpredictable, you might want to change your locks if he has a key.
Should you end the relation... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and best friend had a FWB relationship 3 years ago and never told me! Why not?
Q. It may be something or nothing but ever since I found out my boyfriend and my best friend had a very short relationship (purely sex) nearly 3 years ago, I can't work out why neither of them told me before, instead I found out from a mutual friend. ...
A. 20 June 2014: I agree they didn't mention it because 1. it was in the past and 2. it wasn't anything major, just sex.
If you expect your BF to give you a list of prior ladies and what positions and whatnot they did I think it's out of line.
Same with you... (read in full...)
He's a recovering alcoholic, not yet divorced from his wife and 3 months post-breakup with his girlfriend. Is it reasonable to keep dating him and see how it goes?
Q. He's a recovering alcoholic (2 years and 3 months, attends AA) He is separated for 2.5 years, not yet divorced, while he is paying his wife for the business they had together He broke up with his girlfriend 3 months ago. I have been seei...
A. 20 June 2014: I agree with Tisha. TOO much to take on, and too soon.
I will NEVER stop advising people to WAIT til the divorce is final to start something new. Because I simply don't believe you can totally seperate your life til the divorce is final and ever... (read in full...)
My husband, a veteran, has extreme anger issues
Q. I am well aware that no marriage is perfect. Mine is one example, but unfortunately, I think it has gone too far. My husband loves to spend money--two days ago he spent almost $900 on one single comic book just for the heck of it. There was th...
A. 20 June 2014: To OP and Tisha..
**P.S. I don't think it's called the Veterans' Association.... it's the Veterans' Administration. ***
It's neither... It's Veterans Affairs.
http://www.va.gov/... (read in full...)
Does this older man have a thing for me?
Q. Does this older man have a thing for me? I know him through work but don't work directly with him, he is always and am not paranoid others have noticed that he always stares at me, when i chat to him i try and be professional and to be fair so does ...
A. 20 June 2014: Is he married? Maybe that is something you should consider before getting too flirty.
Though honestly, I ALWAYS advice people to NOT shit where they eat. Which means, don't romance co-workers.... (read in full...)
Will she accept me knowing that I was in a relationship with someone else?
Q. After the advice from the members of dearcupid members,i decided to break away from my first love. Now i like a girl(same age and a my college mate).i used to have friendly contact with her in facebook,and she too also know about my first love. R...
A. 20 June 2014: If you can't talk to her at school or leave the hostel - how would you have a relationship?
What would the point be?... (read in full...)
My husband, a veteran, has extreme anger issues
Q. I am well aware that no marriage is perfect. Mine is one example, but unfortunately, I think it has gone too far. My husband loves to spend money--two days ago he spent almost $900 on one single comic book just for the heck of it. There was th...
A. 20 June 2014: Sounds like "typical" PTSD.
And there isn't much you can do if he doesn't acknowledges it and gets help, even with help some Veteran never improve.
My husband is a retired veteran too, medically retired after 25+ years. He does show "classic" s... (read in full...)
How do I accept that my appearance is ordinary?
Q. I've been recently watching porn videos (not masturbating just missing sex) and I'm surprised at how flawless some of the actors are. How can people look like that? This was amateur and she didn't have a blemish on her! How can I accept that I h...
A. 19 June 2014: Before you think ALL porn stats are perfect, go look at this webpage and see what GOOD make up can do.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/03/porn-stars-without-make-up_n_3379731.html
Secondly, I have a friend who does FULL body make up for... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on the Mrs. America Pagaent?
Q. I was wondering what people actually thought about the MRS America contest. Do people think it is a good thing for married women to try out for or do they feel sorry for these women trying out or that they may have self esteem issues and need ...
A. 19 June 2014: I don't believe in pageants AT all, specially not the kid ones, I think they are soulless & shallow.
HOWEVER, I think pageants where the participants are willing and old enough to understand what it's all about, it's whatever floats your boat. If... (read in full...)
Why do so many women have issues with men watching porn?
Q. I'm just a bit curious. I dont understand why some women get mad just because they caught their husbands/bfs watching porn? what's the deal? I used to watch porn with my bf, I dont see the big deal... It doesnt bother me... but why does it bother o...
A. 19 June 2014: My husband watches porn, I'm OK with that. That is his business. I don't watch it, nor do I support the porn industry that in 85% of porn degrade women one way or another.
So my issue is NOT with my husband watching it. It's with what PORN sta... (read in full...)
I wonder if he waited for me because he is still interested.
Q. A couple of months ago, I met a guy. We met up with each other every day for a week.I cant really say that we dated, as we didn't actually say that we were dating. I paid for him some of the time when we went out because he didn't have much money. ...
A. 19 June 2014: Yes, I think he waited because he is still interested, however...
If he is in your age group he KNOWS or SHOULD know that sending a quick text to cancel is the right thing to do. You may not have been "dating" at the time but you PLANNED to go ou... (read in full...)
Was the choice I made cowardly or sensible?
Q. A few nights ago, I took my girlfriend out to eat. It was about 1:30 in the morning when we left home, and yes there are restaurants open at that time. I've never personally been to the place but my friend recommend it with high praise. We were on ...
A. 19 June 2014: Smart move in getting out of there. Dumb move to park there in the first place.
My advice.. Splurge $80-100 on a good GPS if you don't have any decent GPS apps on your phone (or can't DL one for the phone).
I don't use my phone's GPS when... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend all talk or should I give him more time?
Q. I am getting very frustrated with my boyfriend. He has dreams to become a stand up comedian, and wants to write books etc. he has big ambitions. A few months ago he took on a job earning a respectable salary, with the view to buying his flat and ...
A. 19 June 2014: Well, honestly I always believe people should GO for their Dreams, but.. they also need to have a reality check here and there.
He is 30. And still haven't reached any of those "fantasy goals" yet. That is OK. He either will or he won't. Maybe be... (read in full...)
I've been defriended on facebook and don't know what to do about it!
Q. I am not sure what's happened. Between yesterday and today the only thing that's changed is I texted a group text "Hey guys, are you going to the party?" No response. Then today I find myself defriended by a person I had a connection with. Sure...
A. 19 June 2014: It's Facebook.
YOU say you have a connection with this guy, so I would presume you talk to him outside of Facebook? If you do, why not just ask him?
If you don't talk outside of Facebook, then I don't see the big deal.
There are "facebook-f... (read in full...)
Will he regret breaking up with me?
Q. I've been with a guy for over 5 years now - 3 years being a long term relationship and living together for 2 years. About a week ago, he went out with work colleagues and out of the blue he said he didn't want to be with me. He told me that he ...
A. 19 June 2014: Well, it seems to me that he wants to hold in you reserve, just in case it's isn't as much "fun" meeting new people as he think it is.
Personally, I think he feels like he "missed" out of something by being in a long term relationship with you... (read in full...)
I've been faking it for a year and don't know how to tell him, so I'm thinking about breaking up with him so I don't have to explain!
Q. Hi. I need help! Background info: 25 years old, up until very recently I thought that I was incapable of orgasm, I thought maybe something was wrong with me because I've never orgasmed during sex, figured out that I'm pretty normal and can only ...
A. 19 June 2014: You need to stop faking it right not, not just for his sake but for your own.
YOU get the sexual experience you put into the sex. As in you FAKE it, the question is really why.. because that way sex will be over sooner? Or he won't feel inadequa... (read in full...)
I'm worried by his taste in porn
Q. Hello, well I been with my boyfriend for 8/9 yrs we have 2 kids and very active in this relationship as far as intimacy and time together. I'm 31 he's 33 I'm white he's black. Well here it is, he watches nothing i mean nothing but ebony granny porn. ...
A. 19 June 2014: Nope, the type of porn he watches doesn't mean he wants to live out the fantasy. Same for women.
My suggestion, stop snooping in his porn stash and you won't be grossed out.... (read in full...)
Borderline Personality Disorder, I feel like he's always angry at me but he's not.
Q. Dear cupid, My boyfriend of a little over a year has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. He's seen psychologists since he was 10, anger management, therapy, medication, etc. (he's in his twenties now). Maybe I was afraid, ...
A. 19 June 2014: I would start looking around for support sites for family member of people with BPD like,
http://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-help-a-loved-one-with-borderline-personality-disorder-part-1/0008746
http://www.bo... (read in full...)
Why don't people put their relationship status on facebook?
Q. What is the reason people don't put their relationship status on facebook? I've noticed some people don't when it's obvious they have a girlfriend because of their pics and statuses. ...
A. 19 June 2014: Because it's JUST Facebook!
And because doing it or not doing it causes drama and "trauma", easier to avoid as much drama as possible.
And some people *gasp* likes to just keep some things PRIVATE.
Putting up a status doesn't make a re... (read in full...)
I like him so much but he isn't treating me right
Q. Hi guys, this might be long. I met this guy at a charity football match I played with work. He was the referee and after a bit of flirting he asked for my number which I gave him. I probably shouldn't have as I had been seeing a football coach who ...
A. 19 June 2014: End it with him.
He could be butthurt that you were dating someone else in the beginning, but I think he just used you to get a job and some sex. (sorry).
If he treats you like crap what is there to "like" so much?... (read in full...)
Am I being a petty girlfriend?
Q. So I'm in a relationship with another woman and we both have our own places. When I stay over at her place I bring my own towels but not toiletries. If I see she's out I go buy her some. Newayz I noticed she uses the same towel for days at her own ...
A. 18 June 2014: I only use towels once. I always have. That was how my mom liked it, and I took over that idiosyncratic habit. I "might" use the towel I wrap my hair up in twice. My husband would use the same towel for a week straight... I just can't do it. He has ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her without offending her about her wiping issue?
Q. Hi I just started dating a new girl . The sex is great and we both oral fixated me giving and her getting . There is one problem she wants her anus licked which I usually enjoy doing but there is a problem with this she has a wiping problem back ...
A. 18 June 2014: I would do as CCMP suggest, but wipes (unscented) and ask her to was off before you being to lick. OR you include the clean up into the fun.
... (read in full...)
Why would he say, "in another life, we would have been inseparable"?
Q. Can someone help me understand? I'm just getting to know this guy and our relationship is growing by the day. But he said something really odd and I couldn't reply except say "oh ok" because I didn't really understand. He said "I think in another...
A. 18 June 2014: To me it sounds like something he thought you would like to hear.
But.. I would just ask him to elaborate.... (read in full...)
Making Out With Different Guys, in Different Situations?
Q. Does anyone here have any experience with making out with guys they've just met...? Or like a ONS, but only going so far as to makeout? Or, have you even gone back to their apartments, and still only went as far as making out? Did the guys get angry ...
A. 18 June 2014: If you are ONLY looking to "make out" then DO NOT go back to his place. BEcause even IF you bend it in neon and tell him in 20 foot letter that you DON'T WANT to go further then making out, he will (possibly) assume that he can "change" you mind ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend called me names and hasn't called in a week. Is it over?
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my current bf for 4 years, for past 3 months we are in LDR as he has to work overseas. We had our ups and downs, nowadays we have more downs than ups. He is always calling me names or belittling me whenever possible,...
A. 18 June 2014: I hope for YOUR sake that it is over. WHY on Earth do you allow him to call you names and belittle you? What entitles him to talk to you that way?
Block him and move on.
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is hurtful and neglectful and I'm feeling really down about the relationship
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He just doesn't care about me anymore. He just told me 2 nights ago he loves me, and I believe in some weird way he does but he doesn't show it anymore. He hardly texts, hardly calls and hardly wants to spend ...
A. 18 June 2014: He has already left the relationship a long time ago, but... because he hasn't found someone else.... he calls you up here and there gives you "hope" by saying I love you, gets some sex and company from you then he is sated and leave you be for ... (read in full...)
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