She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 5 May 2015: I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it too. However, you CAN look back and know that you DID TRY. You didn't just toss in the towel.
Competing in dressage is EXPENSIVE, I have a couple of cousins who (when they were younger) competed... (read in full...)
Does your husband ever discount what you are saying and have bad manners?
Q. This is my second marriage. My husband has a bad habit of saying "Whatever" if I am trying to talk about something, even if it is minor talk. He was gone for a couple of days on business and when he got back I was telling him that I observed ...
A. 13 June 2014: Honestly, he is doing it because you allow it. My husband would LOVE for me to wait on him hand and foot and frankly, that isn't going to happen. If he asks if there is any coffee (knowing full well there isn't) I just tell him that he can go make a ... (read in full...)
I want to go to my boyfriend's mother's wedding but my OCD puts me off the pets in her house, what do I do?
Q. It is my boyfriend's mother's wedding and I am invited to go. If I go, I would need to stay at her house. She lives in another country. There are no hotels or even transportation around, not to mention it is one of the more expensive countries in ...
A. 13 June 2014: Speaking as a person with OCD and HUGE aversion for germs/dirt and down right FEAR of diseases.... YOU rally have two choices:
1. not going - your BF ought to understand that it might not be ideal for you at all. I agree that you can pull off an a... (read in full...)
Can tall girls get away with heels?
Q. I am 6 feet (183cm) tall and u sometimes wear heels Should tall girls wear heels what do you think ??? ...
A. 13 June 2014: If you can walk in high heels, I say go for it.
Anyone, short or tall should WEAR whatever makes them happy or feeling good/sexy/classy/whatnot. The ONLY request I have.... is that people who wear high heels know how to wear them right and walk... (read in full...)
Why did this guy say such horrible things to my boyfriend about me?
Q. Why did this guy say such horrible things to my boyfriend about me? I'm so upset. So my boyfriend has been away studying for a year now and his friend came back and I had bought him his birthday present so I met up my bfs friend and his gf t...
A. 13 June 2014: I would honestly worry more about WHY your BF thought it was appropriate, to TELL you that his friend called you fat. In my book that isn't right. The friend doesn't know you and what he thinks is freaking irellevant.
WHO cares about what the... (read in full...)
I feel like I have had a snapshot of my B/f and his life and want out of the relationship.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend about 5 months now and over the last couple of weeks I have been staying at his while some major repairs are being done to my home. I noticed some 'odd' behaviours in my boyfriend (who is 39) right at the start when I ...
A. 12 June 2014: IF he is high functioning (and he sounds that way) he may never have been on the radar with anyone. People merely assume he is eccentric.
It's the same with certain types of OCD, it's not like people wear a sign. And MANY families "fear" the labe... (read in full...)
The new guy that I can't trust, or the old guy who hit me?
Q. i had a bf whose name was Rahul of 4.5 years with whom i was sexually involved.he used to love me a lot but we broke up because he had hit me physically four times and used to abuse a lot.then i found a new guy whose name is Ajay,he is very caring ...
A. 12 June 2014: Neither.
I think both CMMP and WiseOwlE. Focus on you. Take some time off dating.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and my best friend live at each others' houses in my absence! What's going on?
Q. So, I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and she is the love of my life, I can't picture my life without her. but recently she has been hanging around with my best friend alot, I recently found out that (after we had a huge argument) ...
A. 12 June 2014: Yes, it's weird. Specially if they both semi-ignore you when you are there.
End it with the GF and dump your best friend because he clearly value his libido more then his friendship.
If there was nothing weird about it, your GF would have broug... (read in full...)
I don't want to live in someone else's shadow!
Q. I've been with my partner for 2 1/2 years now. We've had a baby together and I have lost all my confidence. My ex husband cheated on me all the time and I'm unsure if my own insecurities are the problem or i should be concerned. My boyfriend ...
A. 12 June 2014: Keeping mementos from your past is not strange, now if he sits and look at them quite often, then yea that is odd, but if they are JUST in a box then it's pretty much normal.
JUST because you move on with a new partner and relationship doesn't ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm having an orgasm during sex? And why is it so difficult for my boyfriend to give me a clitoral orgasm?
Q. Hey! This is a really kind of an intimate question. But I was wondering what female orgasms feel like? I'm sexually active with my boyfriend of 1 year. Masturbating by myself, I find I experience this very intense kind of orgasm that cons...
A. 12 June 2014: I'd say instead of a penetrative toy get one that stimulate the clitoris, one with a buzz.
And why is it hard for a guy to give clitoral orgasms to their partner? because they don't know what they are doing. Maybe YOU need to show him how it's don... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is refusing to get an STI test
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship although we have been friends for many years. We are trying to figure out if we want to move to the same country and make a go of things and will plan to spend a month together soon. My problem ...
A. 12 June 2014: Yep, stick to your guns. This is without doubt a deal breaker.
There is NOTHING wrong with your request. My husband and I did a FULL STD/STI + HIV tests before we slept together (we were LDR for little over a year). I actually thought doing a ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have had a snapshot of my B/f and his life and want out of the relationship.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend about 5 months now and over the last couple of weeks I have been staying at his while some major repairs are being done to my home. I noticed some 'odd' behaviours in my boyfriend (who is 39) right at the start when I ...
A. 11 June 2014: I don't really think you need a diagnosis of your BF to end it. He is JUST to odd for you. And you know what THAT is fine. Some people we mesh with instantaneously, others take time and then others we can't mesh with AT ALL. He sounds like he is in ... (read in full...)
I feel he is not really interested in me but surely he would bother wasting his time like that!
Q. Hi been dating a guy for 5 weeks now we've kissed and been intimate but i don't really think hes that interested in me.....we met on a dating website but he lives locally to me sand id rather he just said if he doesn't think it will go ...
A. 11 June 2014: Since you two jumped the gun on sex, I'd say if he is being vague he isn't sure or he is trying to drag it out so he can continue to have this semi sexual relationship without being committed. YOU have to decide for you how long you are willing to ... (read in full...)
His mother is putting a strain on our relationship
Q. My fiance (who, by the way, is an only child) and I have been together for what will be four years the end of this month. We had some petty arguments in the beginning but nothing we couldn't work past. Just a little miscommunication and the like. ...
A. 11 June 2014: First of, tell your fiance you are going to take HIS mom of your facebook. Then block her or if you can't un-friend her (I can't remember if FB let's you) but block her from reading your feeds.
I don't know WHY you have her on your FB if that is ... (read in full...)
Help me relate to my difficult 4 yr old nephew who I rarely see.
Q. This may be a stupid question, but I need advice. I have no kids, my younger bro has 3 my sis has 2. My sisters youngest is a 4yo boy,X. He is very active like most 4 yr olds, and like most 4 yr olds he needs his parents, to the point of...
A. 11 June 2014: I agree, you are taking it way to seriously.
He doesn't KNOW what HATE is. BUT he does know it gets him a reaction.
I think it's PERFECTLY fine to tell a little kid - that's not very nice to say or deflect it with fun. Just tell him:" You k... (read in full...)
Why is my friend's girlfriend so friendly to me in front of him?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for a few years. A few months ago he began living with this girl, and still together. They seem to get on very well. She often smiles at me, which I can accept(I get that often from girls, especially when ...
A. 11 June 2014: I agree she is just overly friendly. Do Not read anything else into this.... (read in full...)
I feel he is not really interested in me but surely he would bother wasting his time like that!
Q. Hi been dating a guy for 5 weeks now we've kissed and been intimate but i don't really think hes that interested in me.....we met on a dating website but he lives locally to me sand id rather he just said if he doesn't think it will go ...
A. 11 June 2014: So when you DO see each other is it to have sex? Or do you two go out on actual dates?
Do you talk when you don't see each other, like over the phone,text ?... (read in full...)
Would this be an OK gift for his mother?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 mos and we moved in together in about 2 mos ago. I have met his family and they seem to like me very much. We get together with them about once a week, and his mother just bought us tickets to go to ...
A. 10 June 2014: I think that is sweet :)... (read in full...)
Should I enjoy my Gf's amazing personality and hope that she'll make the decision to lose weight so that she can become more physically appealing?
Q. So I'm 22 and recently I've started talking to this girl who is 18. When it comes to a personality she's everything I could possibly ask for. But as far as looks she has a really cute face but she's pretty overweight. It sounds pathetic on my p...
A. 10 June 2014: No, you BARELY know her and you want her to change for YOU. Not just a little thing, but her BODY.
I would end it and NOT mention her weight.
Don't be a shallow Hal. I could see if you had dated for a couple of years and she had gained weigh... (read in full...)
My lesbian girlfriend of 4 years had unprotected sex with a guy
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for four years (since she was 17 and I was 18). We have been through a lot together and it's been a rocky relationship to say the least. Her family is extremely religious but they have started to come around, ...
A. 10 June 2014: Maybe she was curious? Wanted to see what the big deal (about men) was.
Those are not excuses, mind you, but a possible explanation.
I think the relationship has run it's course. When people start dating young they will inevitable feel ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 10 June 2014: I think you are being spot on, actually.
600 for 3 horses is cutting it at the low end. Farriers, feed, stabling maybe but then you have the emergency vet fund (and hopefully insurance on the horses too) and with all that i can definitely run well... (read in full...)
Why is he being so tepid in bed?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend since October. We started having sex often and regularly a month into the relationship. He's not that great in bed. I thought this would change as we got closer, playing and developing a sense of what the other likes. ...
A. 10 June 2014: Honestly..... I think he always sucked at sex. Some people just don't know how to add fun and variety to sex.
The add the factor that he has a touch of retrograde jealousy - jealous of your past. Which we can agree on is ridiculous at your age... (read in full...)
It's like she takes over elements of my life and does them better
Q. I met my best friend at work 5 years ago. She's amazing, outgoing, always the one with the funniest jokes and always the centre of attention. And that's the problem. She has insecurities about herself and about being lonely but you would never know ...
A. 10 June 2014: I agree with the female anon who suggest you STOP introducing her to anymore people and start working on seeing the ones you DID introduce her to, more. Or like Anon said "reclaim" them.
I think we all "copy" our friends a little, but try and do i... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with this girl?
Q. So there's this girl that I like and I've taken her out a couple of times now and just when things were looking up, she goes camping with her friends and sleeps with another guy when she was drunk. The next day this guy texts her saying he really ...
A. 10 June 2014: If she can't decide then she really doesn't want ANY of you. YOU are just all conveniently feeding her ego. YOU by taking her out and treating her, the ex by declaring love and the "camping guy" by lusting after her.
Honestly, I'd back of and look... (read in full...)
We clearly want different things out of life!
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up last year after months of arguing about what we wanted from our relationship. I wanted commitment, a family one day, our own home, whereas he wanted to stay living separately and just carry on taking things slowly. We had ...
A. 10 June 2014: Honestly him using a condom i sa the most grown up thing he can do. HE isn't ready for kids, so using protection is SMART. AFter all, who do you think would get "saddled" with the kids if you did get pregnant he he didn't stay? YOU.
Wheth... (read in full...)
Has my good guy friend gone crazy?
Q. A good guy friend confessed his feelings for me. He started off by hinting he had something to say, and that I had to promise it would not ruin our friendship. I replied that I had a feeling about what he wanted to say, and that he should rather not ...
A. 9 June 2014: For many people they feel a sense of entitlement. Your friend did because he was hoping that by telling you, he could change your mind. I think he already knew you don't feel the same way about him and he didn't care. NOR does he care now that you ... (read in full...)
Three years and I still can't move on
Q. 3 years ago, when I was 15, I split up with my boyfriend of 15 months, S. It hit me really hard. I stopped eating, lost 28lbs, stopped talking and just stopped being me afterwards for a long time (to the point where my mom made me go to the doctor ...
A. 9 June 2014: He was your first love, your (for now) ideal guy. AT 15 everything feels "epic" in a sense that you think you will never feel this again.
It didn't work out between you for whatever reasons. Again at 15 not everything MAKES sense.
At some point... (read in full...)
What did this kiss mean? And what is my next move?
Q. Hi, after our 7th date together, my date kissed me, before we parted ways and although it was our first kiss shared, he decided to French kiss me and i was not expecting that, although i did enjoy our kiss very much. It was a little arkw...
A. 9 June 2014: I agree with CMMP - there is no etiquette for this. I'm pretty sure he KNOWS you are attracted to him or you wouldn't have kissed him back.
... (read in full...)
I'm an ex but he doesn't remember!
Q. i went on a date with an ex he didn't know it was me its been 14 years since we last saw each other and ive put on 3 stone and now he wants to see me again do I tell him the truth who I am or shall I just keep quiet ?...
A. 9 June 2014: Tell him. IF you want to DATE this guy, how about you start out with honesty? Was it a bad break up?
... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me and I don't know what to do
Q. Earlier this week I found out my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me. We were hanging out at the park and he was showing me a text message from a friend that was funny. So i was read it and then decided to randomly look at his other texts for fun. ...
A. 9 June 2014: Closure is a mythical beast. You FIND closure for yourself at some point in time. Nothing he can say or do will GIVE you the sense of closure. It might take a good while as you two have a long history together.
I just can't see what he can SAY ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of my mother being rude to my spouse!
Q. I'm sick of my mother being rude to my spouse. I've confronted her about this before but nothing has changed. My mom came to stay with my husband and I this last week. Everything was fine until the last night there. My mother wanted some take...
A. 9 June 2014: I agree with Sage. Talk to your husband, and then inform your mom that you had enough of her attitude and that you really don't understand why she acts that way around your husband.
Is your mom single (divorced?) maybe part of her gripe is that ... (read in full...)
Sex with two different men when dating?
Q. I'm new to dating....is it ok to have sex with 2 different men when neither of them are committed to you??...
A. 9 June 2014: For me personally, that would not be OK.
I would not date a guy who was having sex with someone else while we are still in the dating/getting to know you phase. I would find that.. sorta gross, to put it mildy. Because I don't know whom else he ... (read in full...)
He said he liked me, yet turned me down! What now?
Q. Hiya So I asked out this boy as a week before he said he liked me and I told him i liked him back!! When I asked him out he said he would think about it and tell me in next lesson so i waited and got all my hopes up! The he told me that he didn't w...
A. 8 June 2014: You might be ready to date, but he isn't. Don't forget for all their bolster... boy mature a little slower then girls.
Maybe he was not trying to string you along, but was really thinking it over since he likes you, but HE was honest with you. He ... (read in full...)
Am I justified in not thinking of her as much of a friend?
Q. I texted a friend / neighbor and didn't 'sign it.' She replied 'Who is this?' which told me that she doesn't have me on her phone contacts. She texts a lot so I don't think it's that she doesn't know how to use her phone, but it's possible ...
A. 8 June 2014: So treat them like they treat you. Casual acquaintances.... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me and I don't know what to do
Q. Earlier this week I found out my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me. We were hanging out at the park and he was showing me a text message from a friend that was funny. So i was read it and then decided to randomly look at his other texts for fun. ...
A. 8 June 2014: You know, he is contacting ALL the people around you, but NOT you.
He hasn't really given you a good reason for the cheating (other then sort of blaming you - you two weren't having as much sex anymore... which to me is a pisspoor excuse and poin... (read in full...)
Am I misunderstanding or is he wasting my time?
Q. me and a guy have been texting for 34wks now and we even went on a date which was fun he was telling me about how is ex upset him and cheated on him. He was also completly honest with me he said that he does not want to be offiical ...
A. 8 June 2014: YEP, he is stringing you along til he finds someone else.
FLush, burn or toss out the piece of paper. That is YOU hanging on to a fantasy. REALITY is, he likes to have that GF experience where he can go out on dates, get some sex but not HAVE to ... (read in full...)
She didnt want to be involved with me so why does she want my attention?
Q. I had feelings for a woman but they were not reciprocated. It has taken a long time to come to terms with this and to understand that it wasn't about me, about me being rejected it was about her and what she wanted or doesn't want from life. She ...
A. 8 June 2014: She might not WANT to be with you, but she doesn't LIKe to share your attentions with another woman. And THAT is HER issue.
IF you are aware of this then DO NOT cater to her. YOU er allowed to talk to other women, to joke around have fun and get ... (read in full...)
I don't think the ex has a right to question our financial decisions
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. My boyfriend has a child with ex wife. Whenever we spend money on ourselves he gets questioned why money was spent on us, and who paid. Recently we went away for a short holiday. His son (13) phoned and asked why he spent money ...
A. 8 June 2014: She has no right to ask these questions. IF your BF pays the allotted child maintenance/child support whatever you two spend money on is NOT her business.
Now I agree, I think SHE is putting her SON up to asking these questions, but you BF is a ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of the double standards! Whats up with her?
Q. I have been dating for about 9 months now and it is not a casual thing and does look like things will progress more eventually. After saying this, I am at a loss over a certain trait. She can be rather jealous and unduly curious about what I do, an...
A. 8 June 2014: She acts that way because you let her.
The longer you CATER to her attitude that YOU needs constantly monitored, but SHE can do as she pleases the more she will start to control your life.
I understand that she cheated in the past relationshi... (read in full...)
I'm getting fed up with my boyfriend.
Q. Should I end my relationship with my boyfriend?. It's always the same pattern, and I am getting fed up. He has Bipolar Disorder. I know he can't help that, but I have been with him for almost three years, and things aren't going anywhere. ...
A. 8 June 2014: It seems like you have already left the relationship, at least mentally. So what is holding you back? You think people will think less of you for leaving a bi-polar man? You are not leaving his disease, you are leaving him.
It's OK to outgrow ... (read in full...)
My LDR girlfriend didn't like the gifts I sent for her birthday. Could I have done things in a better way?
Q. I've currently in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. Long distance as in we're both in different countries and we've been in this relationship for at least 7 months now. We met online and just started chatting and exchanging some ...
A. 7 June 2014: She sounds a tad spoiled.
First off, if the bracelet was too big you don't GIVE it away. NOT if it came from someone you profess to love. YOU tell the person who gave it to you, that it was unfortunately too big and can it be exchanged or re-sized... (read in full...)
When and how are you supposed to know when the end to a relationship is coming?
Q. I wonder , now my ex girlfriend, I thought every thing was going fantastic, then one day in the park she said it was over, out of the blue. So what am asking, when and how are you supposed to know, when it is coming, I treated her good, her ex beat ...
A. 7 June 2014: Sometime it's clear as day, sometimes it's not.
Don't beat yourself up for not knowing, or for her choosing to go back to the dud of an ex.
I would date someone less complicated next time.... (read in full...)
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