My ex husband is trying to make me the bad guy in this
Q. My ex husband is backing out of his responsibilities . When we decided to let our girls get a dog he agreed to take on 50 percent of the care. That pretty much means when he has the girls their dog goes with them. After five yrs he has decided he ...
A. 1 July 2014: Well, I think the planned was flawed from the beginning. What IF something happened to one of you? Or let's say your ex had to move across country and the kids could only see him after a plane ride?
I mean it was an unrealistic plan IMHO.
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I am not trying to be a jerk but I have questions for the ladies here
Q. Why do I read about so many girls who flirt when they don't mean nothing by it and get confused why a guy ends up liking them? Do I have to be official and ask her on a date and flat say it's a date in order for her to know that? Do I ha...
A. 1 July 2014: Well, this is not really an easy one.
1. Girls (especially) are raised to be NICE to people. Girls (especially) are more caring about others feelings, so while they might not WANT to date a guy they also don't want to hurt his feeling by saying n... (read in full...)
Do I contact him again when he's not responding?
Q. Ive been dating a man for over a year now. He is divorced and has kids. He is quite busy with his work, travels a lot for work, and deals with a lot of guilt about not spending enough time with his kids. Friday I texted him and asked him if...
A. 1 July 2014: I would just leave it be.
Yes, you have "invested 18 months" into this guy and you are not getting anything back, because... he isn't really ready to date AT all. He doesn't have MUCH to GIVE back. So you are DOING all the work and whenever... (read in full...)
She invited me to church but doesn't want to go on dates.
Q. So I recently meet up with this girl I dated in high school and she invited me to church with her and we went together sometimes! So anyways at first I thought she lost all feelings for me but the first time I went with her to church I could feel ...
A. 1 July 2014: If she has never dated or had a BF, she might ONLY invite you to church events because it can't really be considered as a date.
My guess is, she isn't allowed to date yet or she isn't INTERESTED in dating yet.
You could ask her straight out if ... (read in full...)
Why does he want pictures of me if he isn't going to save them?
Q. My friend and i started out as just co-workers and then started talking more and eventually things led to where we started talking about him taking my virginity and he would ask me for private or "personal" pictures and I was hesitant at first ...
A. 1 July 2014: Make your own account if you want advice FOR you. (or STATE in your post that you are NOT the owner of the account).
Using someone else account is a not a good idea, because people giving advice OFTEN check the account name to see past posts an... (read in full...)
I'm confused about what "true love" is?
Q. I just have a question about the definition/s of "true love". I've dated many guys but I never felt as strongly as I did about my ex. We were together for a year. He was 2 years younger than me (16). I would have done anything for him and I always...
A. 1 July 2014: True Love is like Happily Ever After and Closure. It's an expression or IDEAL. NOT reality. It's what we all WANT.
Your ex was your "FIRST love" in the sense that he was the first you let into your heart. DOESN'T mean he actually loved you ba... (read in full...)
He's pressuring me to say I love him. I'm not ready. Should I call it a day with him?
Q. Basically I don't know what to do. I've been going out with a guy for a week and he's already saying how much he loves me, he knows I'm no where near ready to say it back but I feel like he's pressuring me to say it. I've tried talking to him about ...
A. 1 July 2014: Yeah, you are not wrong - after one week he doesn't LOVE you. Nor should you feel you have to LOVE him back... yet. IT IS way too soon.
Who knows another person after 1 week? You don't. Neither does he. You can't force love like that, saying i... (read in full...)
Younger cousins coming for visit. How to keep them occupied and happy for a sleepover? From 4 year old girl, plus three more girls, then the eldest who is an 11 year old boy?
Q. Okay I need some ideas for family activities. This Thursday I'm having a sleepover with my younger cousins. Their dad, my first cousin, passed away a year ago. This is the first time all 5 of his children (all half-siblings) have all been togethe...
A. 1 July 2014: Board games! My kids love to play ANY and all board games (we have usually had a weekly game night) Clue, CandyLand, Jenga, Chutes and Ladders.
If you guys have a vii or e-box maybe you can have little fun tournament. I know my girls LOVED th... (read in full...)
How soon should I leave my toxic family?
Q. Hi, I am about to turn 25 years old and I live at home with my mother and older brother. I recently discovered that my mother suffers from narcissistic personality disorder after doing some extensive research online. I always believed her beh...
A. 1 July 2014: As much as it pains me to say, I'd work FURIOUSLY and FAST about getting a job that pays more then $400 a month.
Then I would look into renting a room not buy a house or rent a place. Start with a room (usually cheaper).
Running, whil... (read in full...)
Do I contact him again when he's not responding?
Q. Ive been dating a man for over a year now. He is divorced and has kids. He is quite busy with his work, travels a lot for work, and deals with a lot of guilt about not spending enough time with his kids. Friday I texted him and asked him if...
A. 1 July 2014: Nope, I'd leave him be. He should even be out there dating with all that drama he has going on with the ex.
It can be easy to misinterpret a text, but.... he just doesn't seem to want to make time for you, not even to TALK to you.
So, I'd stop ... (read in full...)
How do I shake this guy and stop this cycle?
Q. So I met this guy at a party and I flirted with him a lot, talked to him most of the night but I didn't make out with him or anything. I think I mostly played with his hair and may have rubbed his leg a few times but I mostly kept my distance. I ...
A. 1 July 2014: I have to say yo uare ONE very lucky girl. THIS guy could have easily raped you. And guess who would be "blamed" for that? YOU would.
Why invite him inside?
WHY was he giving you a ride if he was THAT drunk?
WHY did you take a shower with h... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend wants me to drive him to his work.
Q. so me and my ex have broken up but its only been about 1 month or so... he says in a another relationship already like he has a new girlfriend... now he has been contacting me saying that he loves me even when we talk on the phone its love you... ...
A. 1 July 2014: Is this a one time driving deal or does he expect you to be his chauffeur for a longer period of time? Because if it's the latter that is ridiculous. He needs to find a way to get to work and home without relying on an EX gf...... (read in full...)
My friends betrayed me when I was vulnerable
Q. Hi everybody, I'm guessing I'm going to get a lot of opinions on this question, I'm feeling pretty rubbish about it and I understand I was irresponsible. Please don't answer my questions with insults or lectures as I've had that off my parents and ...
A. 1 July 2014: Nothing you did makes THEIR actions OK.
OUT of all those girls only 1 said, no this is not OK. 1.
I do think drawing on you (not on your privates that inappropriate) but if they gave a moustache and glasses or whatnot, could be a goofy prank th... (read in full...)
I lied about my age by one year. Now we're getting really serious. What do I do?
Q. HELP, I met this guy online and he was really awesome. No we are not dating but I lied about my age when we met. And I'm scared he will be mad if I tell him but It will be weird if he finds out later on. We have a three year age difference h...
A. 30 June 2014: You lied about 1 year ? I don't think that 1 year makes a difference but the longer you wait to fess up the worse it will get.
Just tell him. He may not be ok with you lying, he may understand (if that is the only little lie you told him).
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Why does he want pictures of me if he isn't going to save them?
Q. My friend and i started out as just co-workers and then started talking more and eventually things led to where we started talking about him taking my virginity and he would ask me for private or "personal" pictures and I was hesitant at first ...
A. 30 June 2014: Ahhh summer break do bring out the trolls......
I hate wasting my time on trolls...... (read in full...)
I'm 57 and husband left me for another woman, how do I start over at this age?
Q. My husband left me and said the reason was he didn't love me anymore,but in my heart I knew he had found someone else even though he said different.Our 11 year old told me she thought it was a woman from a softball team and that he alway's sits with ...
A. 30 June 2014: Auntie Eyeswideopen posted good advice.
If your state is NOT a no-fault state you CAN sue HER and HIM for alienation of affection as reasons for the divorce.
I would look for a pro-bono lawyer dealing with divorce - if you can't find one t... (read in full...)
I worry I might be too desperate!
Q. So a few months ago I met this girl on an online dating website and we hit it off so quickly. Everything was perfect and we had so much fun. About a month ago, we decided to start dating exclusively and thing went ok for a while. But recently we've ...
A. 30 June 2014: All this after only a month?
Then yes, you are moving WAY too fast and too intensely.
I agree with chigirl. I'd run a mile. Actually I have in the past. When a guy tries just a "little" to hard to prove what a catch he is, some women find it a ... (read in full...)
LDR issues. Do I confront her over her Ex issues ? Do I insist on seeing her to work things out?
Q. LDR issues.Do I confront the issues? Do I insist on seeing her next weekend? To try to work things out with her? For years I ignored the feeling in the back of my mind that I may be gay. However about 3 months ago a friend signed me up to a gay dati...
A. 30 June 2014: My guess is she too realized that you two may have been jumping the gun and getting caught up in the whirlwind of a new potential partner. Basically you both rushed it.
She OUGHT to have stayed off dating sites til she was ready, but sometime... (read in full...)
Why won't she speak to me anymore?
Q. Hi, Basically one of my close female friends has suddenly stopped talking to me. We've been friends for 7 years, but the past 3 i've been away at university and have come back for a few weeks in the holidays. Everything was normal (we neve...
A. 30 June 2014: I would just back off. I know it's kind of hard having the sense that someone is mad at you when you feel you didn't do anything (though... I think messaging her BF was a little over the top, but that might just be me).
However if you have her... (read in full...)
Is this a sign he could be bi?
Q. Dear Cupid i have had other questions about mu husbands sexuality before. But now i need to ask other people. He loves sex with me but it has gotton strange. I wants my to finger his ass. He likes to yell things like " #### my ass harder". We have ...
A. 30 June 2014: Not necessarily.
Anal sex is WAY more pleasurable for men (in general) because it stimulate the prostate. Where as with women it doesn't stimulate a darn thing.
I think he just enjoys it a lot and feels VERY comfortable with you.
Even if ... (read in full...)
Why does he want pictures of me if he isn't going to save them?
Q. My friend and i started out as just co-workers and then started talking more and eventually things led to where we started talking about him taking my virginity and he would ask me for private or "personal" pictures and I was hesitant at first ...
A. 30 June 2014: So you are messing around with a guy who has a GF?
Why?... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake in getting with him again?
Q. I feel I made a mistake in getting back together Hi guys, It's early morning and I really need a place to vent. I've recently got back together with my ex. It's been a week since we've been together. I broke up with him last time ...
A. 30 June 2014: I agree with Uncle Wise.
You gave him an extra shot and it isn't working out for you. IF he knows WHY you ended it before (lack of time together) and he hasn't put forth ANY effort to be with you more then really is he interested in getting ... (read in full...)
Is it a coincidence that I see him there on my day off?
Q. A question for men or women. I am in my 40s and know of a guy that goes to our local coffee shop every day at the same time in the morning (my friend and myself have noticed when we do school drop off). However there is one day that he goes int...
A. 30 June 2014: He might think YOU are following HIs routine...
Like Uncle Mark said, switch up your routine on that day off and see what happens.... (read in full...)
He didn't check up on me when I was in the hospital
Q. Hey everyone... I'm really going through a lot right now and it's hurting me. So me and my boyfriend been going out for a while now but he broke up with me because he said we have different personality, but we started talking again and tried to...
A. 30 June 2014: Eh, he sounds like a craptastic BF. If this is what you "get" from him you are better off single.
I agree with the other Aunties/Uncles. TRY not to be so OVERTLY people pleaser who bends over backwards to make someone else happy. Spoiling a partne... (read in full...)
Why does he want pictures of me if he isn't going to save them?
Q. My friend and i started out as just co-workers and then started talking more and eventually things led to where we started talking about him taking my virginity and he would ask me for private or "personal" pictures and I was hesitant at first ...
A. 30 June 2014: Of course he is keeping them, you don't know him well enough to do this if I have to be frank, he could UPLOAD them to just about ANY website and if you two fall out who KNOWS what can happen, like him mailing them to your boss or other ... (read in full...)
Would a fleshlight help a 32 male virgin gain some practice?
Q. Just a question. i posted earlier about being a 32 year old virgin. And poster Abella gave encouraging advice about it. i know and understand that a fleshlight with a mounting device that helps simulate doggy and missionary - and a mouth mol...
A. 30 June 2014: No I don't think it will help at all.
There is a WASTE difference fro ma tight grip of a hand or fleshlight and the feel of a woman's vagina.
And you might even end up not being able to hold an erection because you aren't being TIGHTLY gripped.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hides couples photos of us on facebook but the ones with his ex girlfriend are there for all to see!
Q. Hi there, nothing major. just a quick question. My boyfriend keeps hiding photos of us together from his facebook timeline thing. This is going to sound very petty, but I'm just a bit worried that he's embarrassed about me or somethin...
A. 29 June 2014: I'd just straight up ask.
You can guess the reason til the cows come home and still not know the truth.
ASK.... (read in full...)
It's seven years since my wife allowed me to touch her breasts. What might help to help her resolve her issues over this?
Q. How can I get my wife to be comfortable with me touching her breasts? Ever since our daughter was born seven years ago touching her breasts has made her uncomfortable and its distressing me. It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong and I do...
A. 29 June 2014: Her feeling uncomfortable or inadequate is not about you, it's about her. These are HER issues. I get that you want to help her but maybe the way you come across is that you are doing it for YOUR benefit not hers?
However, did you TELL her how ... (read in full...)
Is this the right course for me? Disabled wife, no sex for years. Now I have a platonic female friend
Q. I am a married man with a disabled wife, and I suffer from extreme caretaker's depression because of it. Recently I ran into a divorced lady of about my age, who used to be friend of my wife's (they turned out to be very non-compatible a...
A. 29 June 2014: So well put by the Uncles :) And I agree, it sounds like you are making your wife out to be a stone around your neck that you bear in a "marthyr manner" and thus "deserve" to have a little "whatever you call that" on the side. YOU are cheating on ... (read in full...)
Should I let this go and think it was an accident?
Q. Hi everyone, I guess this may sound kind of silly but I have always had low self esteem in general so this kind of bothers me. I was with my friend today and we were chitchatting while walking in a building that is usually busy but was empty fo...
A. 29 June 2014: Just a douche-canoe on legs.. Brush it off it wasn't directed at you specifically, but at anyone walking where he felt he should walk unhindered.
Don't waste time trying to figure out why ass-holes do whatever they do, don't waste any more tim... (read in full...)
How do I deal with breaking up with someone this mentally unwell?
Q. I need some reassurance and general advice. I've been with my fiancée for nearly four years and then last weekend we broke up. It was the next step in what has been a month of hell. Through out our relationship, she has battled with depression. ...
A. 29 June 2014: Time to cut yourself of from her financially, mentally and personally.
1. the place you shared was in whose name?
If it is in YOURS you need to transfer the lease and ask her to leave.
If it is in her name (or both) have your name removed of... (read in full...)
Does the repair man like me?
Q. Ok I'm going to start of saying am the worst for thinking things over and over. Can't help myself so please put me straight if am over thinking nothing here, I met a man few months ago, he came out to do repairs for me. But seemed to pro-long the ...
A. 29 June 2014: So this guy is just a sleazy married creep basically.
I would leave a note with the company that you do NOT want him to do repairs, if he works for the maintenance company taking care of your property you might not have a choice.
It's kind of ... (read in full...)
If he wants nothing to do with me why won't he just decline and block me on social media? Is he playing games leaving me hanging?
Q. My question is about a guy who appears to be "leading me on". About 9 months ago we had a terrible falling out. We were supposed to be just friends but I found out he was in love with me. He was very distraught that I discovered how he truly felt ...
A. 29 June 2014: Um, easy version?
Leave him alone?
Block HIM, delete HIM and move on with your life. He doesn't WANT to be your friend and he is taking being put in the friend-zone by behaving like a 5 year old.
SO why are you so adamant about being "fri... (read in full...)
Why couldn't we look away from each other?
Q. This is just a quick question. What does holding a gaze mean? I don't need an explanation of that but why could i not look away when someone was looking at me and held my gaze for around 8-10 seconds, no words just gazing. I couldn't have lo...
A. 28 June 2014: I look at people's face pretty intently, not because I fancy them but because I lip-read, or rather "whole-face-rad". My hearing is quite sucky 80% hearing loss in one ear and maybe 50-60% in the other.
I do think that people TEND to "stare" ... (read in full...)
Does the repair man like me?
Q. Ok I'm going to start of saying am the worst for thinking things over and over. Can't help myself so please put me straight if am over thinking nothing here, I met a man few months ago, he came out to do repairs for me. But seemed to pro-long the ...
A. 28 June 2014: Well, you aren't sure whether you WANt his attention or not.
So my questions is, do you WANT his attentions or not?
If you do, say hi when you see him.
If you don't use another company for repairs and ignore him.
Oh, and if you feel lik... (read in full...)
This married woman thinks she is a beauty queen!
Q. I would like to have your opinions on this woman. She is married but because she is unhappy in her couple, she feels she can cheat her husband. Well, she thinks that she is a beauty queen even though she is not. She says that she can have any man ...
A. 28 June 2014: I have to say this and please don't take offense...
BUT so what? A woman who isn't a "perfect 10" thinks she is HOT STUFF!? LET her!
Sounds like you two work together, so in reality all you have to do is be professional, courteous and po... (read in full...)
He's 18. It feels right but wrong. How should I handle this considering that I live in a very closed community?
Q. Hi i really need advice on this,i feel so confused.. I recently met my best friend's cousin and i knew the minute i saw him that i liked him,i feel so attracted to him It's like nothing i have ever experienced.. The problem is he is 18!! A Also i...
A. 28 June 2014: Personally, I wouldn't go there.
For two reasons, you said it yourself *it feels right, but yet wrong" so something is making YOU feel that it is a "little" wrong.
Second reason is that you think your friend will "hate" you for it.
BUT if yo... (read in full...)
It's seven years since my wife allowed me to touch her breasts. What might help to help her resolve her issues over this?
Q. How can I get my wife to be comfortable with me touching her breasts? Ever since our daughter was born seven years ago touching her breasts has made her uncomfortable and its distressing me. It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong and I do...
A. 28 June 2014: Did she breastfeed?
Some women who have breastfeed feels disgusted with having their boobs become sexual object AFTER having nursed. I might feel weird to you, and even to her, but I see no other real alternative than RESPECT it?
Other women d... (read in full...)
I thought he was a friend but suddenly he seems to have turned
Q. Hi I'm seeking advice in regards to a friend of my fiancé's. I've know him for a coupled of years. I'm not trying to lead him on but I don't know if I'm reading his actions right or wrong? He started out being friendly always asking how I am, if ...
A. 28 June 2014: He was never a friend.
The guy was CLEARLY hitting on you. MARRIED guy to boot.
And now that you didn't SEEM to get that he was hitting on you he feels slighted, with his marriage on the rocks (wanna bet it's because he is more FOCUSSED on... (read in full...)
How do I handle this situation? My mother in law and sister in law chose to get my son's hair cut without our permission. Am I over-reacting? It will grow. It's the disrespect that irritates me
Q. Hello Agony aunts, I have a major issue that I need advice on. My husband and I have a 2yr old son. He is currently in our hometown visiting family. My mother n law and sister n law decided to get my son hair cut( this was his 2nd cut) without...
A. 28 June 2014: Ah, so your husband actually said OK to this and when shit hit the fan he conveniently "forgot" because he didn't want to get in trouble... LOL
It does give it another spin, because a DAD can as easily as the Mom give consent to haircut,... (read in full...)
It's like I don't exist when his child is visiting
Q. Hi everyone. I would like to ask for advice on dealing with my boyfriends behaviour. We have been together 3 years, not living together. He is fun and good company, cooks meals and helps clean up, he is attractive and we seem to have had good ...
A. 28 June 2014: He sees her one day a week? YOU get the other 6?
He is doing what a GOOD dad does. PUTTING his child first.
Does that mean he can't send a text saying hi how are you blah blah? I don't see why not, but I actually applaud him for not being on... (read in full...)
How do I handle this situation? My mother in law and sister in law chose to get my son's hair cut without our permission. Am I over-reacting? It will grow. It's the disrespect that irritates me
Q. Hello Agony aunts, I have a major issue that I need advice on. My husband and I have a 2yr old son. He is currently in our hometown visiting family. My mother n law and sister n law decided to get my son hair cut( this was his 2nd cut) without...
A. 28 June 2014: I would be ticked off if it was me, BUT I would not make a big deal out of it, for YOUR SON's sake.
It will grow out fairly quickly so it's all good. He is 2 he doesn't give a flying duck about his head looking a little big. Neither should y... (read in full...)
This married woman thinks she is a beauty queen!
Q. I would like to have your opinions on this woman. She is married but because she is unhappy in her couple, she feels she can cheat her husband. Well, she thinks that she is a beauty queen even though she is not. She says that she can have any man ...
A. 27 June 2014: Why does it matter to you what she thinks?
Some people love to toot their own horn, but there is a big difference from what she "thinks" men will do to the reality of what men will do.
I would just let her have her fantasy and ignore it.
... (read in full...)
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