My boyfriend stays friends with his ex because she has no friends and he feels sorry for her
Q. Hello, I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now. We are ok – meaning, we talked about moving in together after my lease expire; Him buying me an engagement ring; He helps me pay my rent every month; I have access to his phone and I have...
A. 25 August 2017: I don't know why you put yourself through this?
He keeps going back to her out of pity? And when it doesn't work out with her he goes back to you.
You are dating a yo-yo not a future partner.
How many times is it going to take before you... (read in full...)
My ex is contacting me again, what should I do?
Q. My ex and I had a messy break up. I got drunk, was upset and got into some trouble and ended up in hospital. I called my ex and left a message to say I was in hospital. She never came and I never heard from her. I ended up needing surgery. Year...
A. 25 August 2017: I too agree with N91,
You being in the hospital doesn't mean she OWED you to come see you. OR that because she didn't come see you she just didn't care... What it meant was she wasn't willing to get into more potential drama WITH you at the time... (read in full...)
I've just completed cancer treatment and now my toxic ex wants to come back
Q. Hi aunts, I've just completed a years worth of cancer treatment and luckily I might be OK, but my ex partner who was abusive to me during our three year relationship has got in touch saying he might want to get back together with me. He was with ...
A. 25 August 2017: Amen to CodeWarrior's answer!
Tell him to go fly a kite off a cliff or something less poetic and then you BLOCK HIM on everything and STOP talking to him.
A toxic person is the LAST thing you need in your life.
Focus on your recovery and scr... (read in full...)
Should I remind my boyfriend about the money he owes me?
Q. My boyfriend is not working at the moment but is trying hard to get a job. Last week I lent him £20 and asked him when he would give it me back, he said the next time he saw me. I've seen him twice now and no mention of the money. Should I ask for ...
A. 25 August 2017: Yep, ask him. The longer you wait the more likely it is you will never see it.
So ask.
And in the future (after you get your money back) don't loan him money if he can't remember to pay you back of his own volition.... (read in full...)
I started bleeding after sex
Q. Hi this is a question for the women. I've been in a relationship for 4 years and last night about 2/3 hours after sex I started bleeding. I had just finished my period 2 days before. anyone else experienced anything like this and is it anything t...
A. 25 August 2017: Go see your Gyno. It's not uncommon if you have cysts or if your period is a tad irregular but getting a check up, an STD panel is always smart to do, at LEAST yearly.... (read in full...)
Does my situation have a future or should I give up on him?
Q. Dear Aunts, I hope you all are doing well. It has been a while since I have asked for your wise advice, but here I am again... I broke up with my boyfriend for the second time. The first time we dated for about one year and he broke up w...
A. 25 August 2017: OP, YES you should give up on him.
Why? Because you two have tried to have a relationship twice, neither time did it work.
He hasn't given you ANY explanation for being on Match other than "he has a difficult time connecting with people" whi... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable in supporting my husband financially?
Q. Am I being unreasonable in that my husband is from a different country and I help him out financially. I plan to go back to his country shortly teaching English and we are due to meet in Turkey beforehand to have a holiday. He wants us to be i...
A. 24 August 2017: Good Lord, OP...
Is this really how you want to live your life? With a husband who whines and demands and TAKES all your money?
Do you WANT to live in his home country? Are you muslim? Have you even been on a visit there to see what it's like? ... (read in full...)
Should I avoid family connections when applying for a post?
Q. hi. im 26, female. done postgrad. I never wanted to get reference/recommendation for any job. because I want a job on my own caliber. but my mother did it (SHE RECOMMENDED MY NAME) last year without asking me to her long lost brother in law who is ...
A. 24 August 2017: I agree with Auntie Cindy!
It's great that you want to be recognized for YOUR abilities and YOUR effort and work but to worry about what others might or might not think it's going WAY overboard.
I'm pretty sure that people who know you, know t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's friend comes over when I'm not there, now they slept in the same bed. What is going on?
Q. when I first met my bf he had this girl that was his friend but they also hooked up a lot. And she wanted to have a relationship with him. But he didn't want to be in a relationship. She found a bf. And after a few months me and my bf started ...
A. 23 August 2017: I would just end it. Your BF can't set boundaries with this woman and he knows that it's not a "real" friendship they have it's a mutual ego-rub thing.
The fact that he didn't want to tell her about you because her feelings might get hurt shows th... (read in full...)
My professor was staring at me, is he signaling an attraction to me?
Q. I went back to school to finish my degree last year and had attraction/chemistry with a professor. He'd always ask my opinion about the class and we'd talk about life, work, etc in office hours. At first, I thought it was because I was older, but ...
A. 23 August 2017: "I want to know why he was so nonchalant about staring"
Is his wife there? Did you tell him:"my face is up here, Buddy"
My guess is no on both accounts, so he does his lecherous older guy thing and ogles you. He probably knows that YOU wanted ... (read in full...)
Guests are constantly criticizing my home, is this a new trend?
Q. I have realised that one of the things that drives me crazy is people who come into my home and criticise it saying things like: 'This isnt a home..this is a house!" And always telling me how great their place will be or my place would be if they...
A. 23 August 2017: I haven't experienced it. But it doesn't surprise me, people seem to value things such as manners and common sense a lot less these days. They want "political correctness" and "freedom of speech" but uses both to shame others for not having a ... (read in full...)
He's nice but I'm not sure if I'm being hurtful or I should scram
Q. Need help deciding to stay or go... Ive been dating a very sweet man for the last four months. We met at a job so I've known him since Feb. and I admired his hard working attitude. He is not good with money tho (at least as far as I am concerned) ...
A. 23 August 2017: I too agree that I think it's smart to look at the whole picture when dating someone (even if you have only really scraped the tip of the iceberg after 4 months of dating and 6 months of knowing him). IT "seems" like his gambling is under control. ... (read in full...)
I don't think I can give my girlfriend the best sex
Q. So my girlfriend are I started dating two months ago but before that we were pretty close friends. We told eachother a decent amount about our sex lives. Now that we are together I feel like I won't be able to give her everything she wants. I want ...
A. 23 August 2017: If there is something you don't WANT to do (ass eating doesn't sound very... enticing, to be frank) then DON'T feel pressured to do it. IT should be OK in a relationship to say no to things.
Find other things you LIKE to do, that she enjoys a... (read in full...)
Letting things go and agreeing to disagree
Q. How do you agree to disagree with your partner. We had a conversation the other day and he said something which he is down right refusing to admit to. I know he said it as it was the last thing he said. I know its not the end of the world but i have ...
A. 23 August 2017: How do you do it?
Well, I think it comes down to "how important" this issue is for YOU (or him). It is WORTH having a "fight over. Basically, a "pick your battles".
My husband and I talk politics, religion, ANYTHING and often don't agree. He ... (read in full...)
Why won't he Marry me?
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...
A. 23 August 2017: Don't try for a baby till this is settled. Either he WANTS to marry you and start a family or he doesn't. Don't do things half-arsed!
So no baby without a wedding.
HAVE that conversation.
... (read in full...)
A co-worker made an unkind remark that really hurt me. How do I cope?
Q. I'm feeling very hurt today. At my previous job (as well as life in general) you could say that I'M not the most organized person (not filthy, but more of an issue of putting things back where they belong, avoiding clutter and procrastination,etc. ...
A. 23 August 2017: You are who you are.
Here is the thing, WHO cares what he thinks? As long as you are focussed and "organized enough" to do your job his "evaluation" is irrelevant.
One thing though, OP... He hit the nail on the head - is that why you feel ups... (read in full...)
How can I fix this? I'm in a rocky LDR and I am catfishing another woman!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'll try and keep this short. I'm a 30 year old female in a longterm and longdistance same sex relationship. Since we moved apart about 8 months ago, things have become boring. When wectalk it's generally quite negative a...
A. 22 August 2017: Wish the woman you have been catfishing a good life, and LEAVE her alone.
It's not like you can't "help" yourself.
As for your LDR, if it's not working for you and there are no plans to live together in the same geographical area anytime soo... (read in full...)
Is it common for a man to steal and wear his partner's panties?
Q. Ok I was with my long distance lover three Months ago.He told Me over the phone that he stole a pair of my Panties ...did I realize they were missing? No... he said When He put them On he got hard... said he liked that the Panties were ...
A. 22 August 2017: I don't think it's common as most men don't fit their partner's panties.
There are many men who enjoy women's underwear. To wear them or sniff or insert "whatever they like to do to these poor panties" - not sure why. It's underwear.
I liked... (read in full...)
I've been snooping and finding messages my boyfriend has sent to people on Craigslist
Q. Hi everyone My boyfriend and I have been living together for 2 years dating for 3. This summer we moved to a new town for his work. He really hated the job but had to do it to move up. One week, our sex life was amazing, he was tired but came h...
A. 22 August 2017: Accept this:
HE isn't going to stop. He will get better at hiding it. If he is not going to be working when you move, what DO you think he will do with his time?
It's not like making the "presumption" that he will continue (even if he prom... (read in full...)
I like her a lot, she's gone cold, what can I do that wont mess it up?
Q. Met this awesome girl online, we hit it off immediately, we had a ton in common, both artists, both geeks, and into the same games. I asked her out and we had a great time at an arcade. we did a ton of art collabs together, played games together and ...
A. 22 August 2017: I think she has decided that you two are not as great of a match in person as she had first thought. THAT is what dating is about.
Is she also "seeing" other people? The booty call thing?
If she is, maybe she is more into casual NSA sex t... (read in full...)
She's boring and bland and I need to cut her loose but how do I let her down without hurting her feelings?
Q. Hello everyone, I've recently been speaking to a girl that I got speaking to through social media. I just randomly messaged her one day and things took off and we've now been speaking for roughly two months. We went on a date after about 10 d...
A. 22 August 2017: There is no such thing as dumping someone without hurt feelings. Fact of life.
I agree that next time, maybe.... take the time to get to know the girl (IN PERSON - not over text or Facebook or whatever app) before sleeping with her and getting ... (read in full...)
Family problems blighting my future with him
Q. Me and my fiancé have been together for over 2 years now. During his past relationship with his ex' this women had already had a child by someone else. This child was very little when they started dating. During the time they were together he got ...
A. 22 August 2017: In short?
You are petty.
ALL kids need as many GOOD loving people in their lives as they can have. Whether they are "genetically" related or not.
This ex-GF's FIRST child is your Fiance's child's HALF sibling thus ... FAMILY!
Let me te... (read in full...)
Suggestions please on how to help his aim
Q. I got a question and it's not drama and I think it needs to be answered guys my husband iS a hunting man so I ask guys how can you hit a deer at 300yards and miss toilet seat at 3 feet...
A. 22 August 2017: I agree with FA and Riot,
Is this something new? The older we get the less "power" is in the stream and then the "aim" as well. Could be the prostate isn't doing so great. Maybe he needs to have a checkup?
And secondly, I'd make him clean t... (read in full...)
He says the sex is better with me but he still keeps his girlfriend. Do I wait around or end things?
Q. Back in January I met this guy on Tinder. We started off talking every single day just clicking really well and having great conversations. After we met one or two times we had a conversation and he said that he wasn't looking for a relationship and ...
A. 22 August 2017: Are you really that deluded or naive, OP?
You think he tells his GF that she isn't as good as other women he has been with?
You don't HAVE a golden snatch. Sorry. It's nothing special. If it was oh so freaking over 9000 best EVER sex he migh... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex of 4 years ago. I treated her badly and have regrets
Q. Hi 4 years ago I was with a woman I fell completely in love with I admit now I didn't treat her how I should of done I called her a couple of nasty names and generally treated her like rubbish now every morning I wake up with her on my mind I see ...
A. 21 August 2017: I agree with YouWish.
This isn't about HER at all. This is about you. EVERY time you see her, YOU are reminded that you were a dick to someone who didn't deserve it and now? You don't deserve someone like her.
Leave her be.
Learn from the ... (read in full...)
Dealing with my son's father?
Q. My son's father never wanted to know anything about his son when I tried to reach out to him when our son was born. Now at 2 months he finally responded to my texts and his mom actually was the one to speak to me. She has been kind this whole time ...
A. 21 August 2017: Honestly OP?
I think you are being unrealistic about this guy. He "ran" when you found out you were pregnant so why do you think he would all of a sudden GROW UP and be a responsible adult now that YOU gave birth to (his) child?
I say, Contac... (read in full...)
My ex wants to chat again. Is he just trying to keep all of his options open?
Q. I was seeing this guy three years ago and the relationship was very rocky. Eventually we split, he met someone else but we stayed in contact. We spoke last month and admitted there was still something between us. He says his relationship is ending ...
A. 21 August 2017: His relationship is ending... So now he is hedging his bets so when it's over, there is someone "new" waiting in the wing for him.
My guess? He doesn't like being single. You have been willing to TALK to him even if it was NOT a great relation... (read in full...)
Is it too much to ask to want a virgin partner?
Q. I am 25 and a virgin guy. Is it too much to ask for a virgin partner? I mean i have no disrespect for those who aint and i believe that every person has a choice. PLEASE HELP! ...
A. 21 August 2017: No, it's fine. But in reality is virginity that much more important than overall compatibility? personality?
... (read in full...)
She didn't like my solo comment to a girl online and now she won't speak to me
Q. Been seeing this girl a month , I like her she is the good girl sweet type.. It took her forever to have sex with me.. she hasent had sex in 4 years had an abusive ex .. long story short I was on Facebook chatting up another girl I wasn't hiding it ...
A. 21 August 2017: I so agree with Denizen,
Don't be stupid, stupid.
you are old enough to know that a GOOD sensible smart woman is not going to waste time on a guy who is "talking" to many women online. You can't be so ignorant that you think chatting up seve... (read in full...)
My friend's son seems to have a crush on me
Q. Hi there, so I have a problem that I myself don't have a solution to. I recently went to live with my friend who's older then me. She's nearly 50 and I'm 21. She was really close friends with my mum when I was little and we recently reconnected when ...
A. 18 August 2017: YOU need to set some boundaries and not tip toe around.
The first item of business?
YOU are THE grown up, ACT like one! That means:
Learn to say no. NO ONE should be groping your boobs or ANY part of your body without your expressed c... (read in full...)
He spent 5 years in prison for crippling a child in a drunken car accident
Q. Would you date someone with a criminal record ? I met this guy at a party of a mutual friend. We spent the whole night talking and exchanged numbers. After spending hours a day texting / talking we went on an amazing first date. At the end of ...
A. 18 August 2017: There are a lot of cons to dating someone who has spent time in prison and who HAS a criminal record.
He might also NOT be dealing well with what happened. Some people hide that well. One of my nieces dated an old school friend (from high school) ... (read in full...)
Is it right to ask for help?
Q. Should a person who is sick or not feeling well ask for help? Like: A lift home from a doctor's appointment or from hospital? Or for a friend to drop and check they are OK? This is if they have no family nearby or live alone. If you were havin...
A. 18 August 2017: You bring up a lot of questions and they can "easily" be answered with a: "IF you want help, ASK for it." That is the ONLY sure way you will get the help you need.
While you might be a very private person and never ask people for help is fine for... (read in full...)
Should I invite my estranged dad?
Q. Hey Guys! I'm engaged and am due to have a small intimate wedding in January. My issue is that I don’t want to invite my dad. My dad and I don't have a relationship whats-so-ever. My mom passed away when I was 1 1/2 and didn't step up to take care ...
A. 18 August 2017: Your wedding, your list. WHOM you invite is between YOU and your soon to be husband, NO ONE else.... (read in full...)
Did he cross the line? I'm not sure.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a little over a month now, things are good. He has his kids every weekend so that kinda sucks but all and all he is nice.. I haven't met his kids yet but it's a bit soon for that. Anyway I told him that I haven't had ...
A. 18 August 2017: Did he cross a line? Obviously, YOU feel he did.
Yes, you should have been firmer but he ALSO should have respected what you said.
Personally? This would be the end of it for me. I would not date this guy any longer. There is just such a HUGE... (read in full...)
Am I too sensitive or he just rude?
Q. Would you be upset at your BF for ignoring a "Thinking of you" text you sent to him? I can see he opened it but he didn't respond. About an hour later, I saw he was on Facebook for 45 min til 11 p.m. While he was on FB I sent him a heart on ...
A. 18 August 2017: I agree there is too little to really say one way or another.
I will say though that a "Thinking of you" text doesn't require an answer. It's not a question, it's a statement of fact.
And sending him a "heart" over messenger.... Yo... (read in full...)
Is it petty that I am annoyed that the man I am dating is cheap?
Q. I am dating a guy who is about a decade older than me. On our first date we went to a restaurant (one he'd chosen and he asked me out). When the bill came he wanted to split it. He has a very well paying job. I am setting up my own business and earn ...
A. 18 August 2017: I do think if a guy (or girl) PICKS the venue they pay OR they at least tell the other person BEFORE hand that they want to go Dutch (pay their own way). You don't wait till the bill gets there to decide that you want to split. THAT is really bad ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 8 months is going on vacation with his almost ex wife and their kids! Is this normal? Is this okay?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man (in recovery from alcohol) for 8 months. A few months back things got a little rocky as hes still not fully divorced that's not final for about 2 more months. I have not met his children, nor him mine. Hi...
A. 18 August 2017: You DO know that when the divorce is final NOTHING will change, right? The weekly dinners will continue FOR the children, spending time together at the kids' school events, sports/activities etc. THAT will likely not stop.
They SHARE two kids and... (read in full...)
Could our relationship be salvaged?
Q. So this past Monday my girlfriend of 6 months split up with me. She's just got back from a week away with her sister and the day she went away told me she had been thinking about it because of how I react to things and how she's constantly worrying ...
A. 17 August 2017: OP, I'm sorry.
Break up are NEVER fun nor easy.
YOU can LOVE someone and not be with them or not be a good match. It's that simple.
Can it be salvaged? I don't think you should try. I think the BEST thing you can do FOR yourself and any fut... (read in full...)
What is the point of this relationship? Unbiased advice requested!
Q. I am so angry and upset. I am honestly considering if the better option is to just walk away from my five year relationship. I am really sorry but this is going to be quite long. I need some advice, or just pointed in the right direction. I wis...
A. 17 August 2017: My advice?
Don't wait for him to dump you. End it and move on.
Your relationship is dead in the water. He is trying to get you to leave by being rude, mean, obnoxious, unsupportive and intrusive.
My guess is you LIVE with him? Yes? If so, he... (read in full...)
How do I overcome this fear of rejection and anxiety?
Q. I am 27 years old and I get anxiety when I approach a woman. I'm a heavy set guy, but more athletic than fat. I've been in relationships before but at this point in my life I would just love to settle down and start a meaningful relationship. I just ...
A. 16 August 2017: First of all OP, WE all dislike rejection, we ALL fear it to some extend and we ALL get rejected at some point in life.
THOSE are facts.
I say this TedX and I showed it to my kids because I felt it was a GREAT way to deal with rejection and se... (read in full...)
I'm annoyed about his contradictory comments about not wanting children but not using birth control with his exes!
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for three months and in general we get on well. But one thing that keeps cropping up is his exes. The other evening the subject of children were brought up (he hasn't got any). He told me that he had not used ...
A. 16 August 2017: I think it speaks to a couple of really unattractive traits in him.
1. carelessness about birth control. He didn't want kids with these women YET he didn't take ANY steps to prevent kids. That is careless AND stupid.
2. presuming that h... (read in full...)
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