Do you bleed the second time you have sex?
Q. Hi,I lost my virginty 3 months ago I had bleeding I bleed for four days and I had craming along with it I didn't know if it was my period or that and he didn't go all they way in either. I didn't had sex after that because it hurted alot I wa...
A. 5 October 2017: I'm glad if it can help you or give you a little nudge in going to see a Gyno. (yes, I know those visits are not all fun and puppies but your "under the hood checkups are important!)
As for your second part of the question ( the will sex get bett... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he wouldn't call me names again, but is this method still not acceptable?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year, and in some cases it has been hard for me, having come from a emotional abusive relationship before hand, my insecurities are all over the place, and occasionally find it very hard to trust. But ...
A. 5 October 2017: Maybe you BOTH need to "learn" how to "fight fair"? My husband comes from a household where yelling and namecalling and cussing is... pretty normal. He NEVER calls me names. Not in 20+ years. He does occasionally yell and over the years he cusses a ... (read in full...)
Does looking at nudes lead to objectifying women?
Q. I understand how wrong it is to regard people as objects. That's why I never stare at hot girls on the street, talk about their bodies or "hit on" them. But privately, I am curious about the female shape (being very inexperienced and never had a ...
A. 5 October 2017: Honestly? I think it's pretty normal to be curious about the naked form.
I have to ask though, the pictures in "digital form" where are they from?
And I also want to ask why you seem to think that looking at a picture of a naked woman and ... (read in full...)
Is this a positive sign or is she just being nice?
Q. My ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. I had been working on the things she didnt like about me and I sent her an email updating her on how I have been changing i.e getting better and that I love her and hopefully in future we might cross ...
A. 5 October 2017: She is being nice and trying to be supportive. I don't think she is trying to re-kindle anything here.
... (read in full...)
Should I attend my Son's wedding?
Q. I am a dad who doesn't get along well with his only son. He is getting married in a couple days and have chosen a non cleric, non blood related family member to officiate the ceremony, a man I totally despise and have never gotten along with. I like ...
A. 5 October 2017: Warned your wife?
As in told her she shouldn't go? Or that you don't want to go?
Honestly, OP I think you need to stop sulking and realize that your SON'S wedding is not about you. He didn't pick the officiate to antagonize you. He made tha... (read in full...)
I think guys just want me for sex
Q. It feels like guys only want me for sex. Every guy to ever show interest in me has somehow indicated that he wants something mainly if not entirely physical. It's made me really conscious and insecure because when a guy asks for my number or flirts ...
A. 4 October 2017: I think the way the "youth culture" (sorry for sounding old as dirt here but let me explain) of Tindr, FWB has young men and women have a pretty detached view of sex. They don't see it as an "end result" of deeper bond and feelings but something to ... (read in full...)
Do you bleed the second time you have sex?
Q. Hi,I lost my virginty 3 months ago I had bleeding I bleed for four days and I had craming along with it I didn't know if it was my period or that and he didn't go all they way in either. I didn't had sex after that because it hurted alot I wa...
A. 4 October 2017: You go see your Gyno.
4 days of bleeding is not the "norm" after sex, not even the first time. A little bleeding CAN occur - the thing is vaginal bleeding (that isn't a period) can be a sign of other things. Which is why I say GO get a checkup.... (read in full...)
How do I make this work for us both?
Q. I've been talking heavily (throughout the day and he calls me everydau) to a guy that I have known for that I have really grown to like. He works two jobs and at first this was really trying on the budding relationship in that, he was really ...
A. 4 October 2017: I think if YOU believe there is actually something to build on here, that you TALK to him. You tell him you are NOT looking to be his friend. That you would like to date him. Which means spend time together IN person on dates.
I think you were rig... (read in full...)
I think it's degrading to give oral if it's not reciprocated and he thinks I owe it to him because I gave it to other lovers!
Q. An Oral Sex Dilemma My boyfriend and I have been discussing about oral sex for a few weeks now. We have very different opinions and want the opinion of outside individuals. I think that it is degrading to give oral when if it is not reciproca...
A. 4 October 2017: Sex isn't tit for tat.
But here is the thing, if he thinks YOU should be willing to do things because you "have done it before" then he doesn't really have a lot of respect for you. Like, YOU don't have any say in it? What?
I don't think givi... (read in full...)
I am not a masturbatory toy!
Q. My fiancé has suffered from delayed ejaculation ever since we met. For over a year he could never reach orgasm with me unless he uses his hand, closed his eyes and tuned me out. Literally I could not speak. I confronted him and it turned out he was ...
A. 3 October 2017: You say you are not a masturbatory toy, yet you ARE one.
You are with a man who has a WHOLE other view of sex than you do. He RATHER do solo sex (with his hand and porn) than be an active participant who WANTS to explore and pleasure his partner ... (read in full...)
How do I handle his awful younger sister who assumes she's one of my bridesmaids?!?
Q. Hello everyone, I am not sure how to ask this question. My boyfriend and I are getting married (yay!!) but have one small problem. I hate, and I mean *hate* his younger sister. She has been an absolute mess to deal with our entire relationshi...
A. 3 October 2017: I think you need to take the bull by its horns and do it SOONER rather than later. TELL her, I have already picked my bridesmaid but I could use your help or input on XYZ (something less important for the wedding) It will give her purpose and ... (read in full...)
How do I politely ask that they donate my fee to charity?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I have a somewhat boring question, but never the less I need some advice. How do I politely ask that the money I earned (which is not a lot) be given to a charity? I don't want to sound weird or arrogant... A friend o...
A. 3 October 2017:
Option #1
When they mention the pay, tell them please donate it to XX organization instead.
If that works for the firm,
Option #2
if not - get the money and donate them yourself. It might be more hassle than it's worth for those couple... (read in full...)
I badly want children but my partner does not
Q. I hope there are some people on this site who can tell me what does male broodiness feel like? Recently my fiancée and i had an abortion (i know mixed feelings and all that). Also my mother had a new baby. The combination of these two things...
A. 3 October 2017: Sounds like there is a huge disconnect here between you and your fiance.
If you WANT kids and she doesn't - how is that going to work? Marriage won't change that.
Do you think either of you should just "suck it up? Because that will just cause ... (read in full...)
Any tips for choosing Mr Right?
Q. I've never had a relationship longer then two years and those were pretty rocky for a good portion. I've been known to pick the wrong guys and so I'm trying to do things different lately. Marriage is a big goal in life for me and I would like t...
A. 3 October 2017: Phones have nothing to do with a good marriage. Whether you are dating or married you BOTH have the RIGHT to privacy - which means you CAN (if you both choose to) give each other full access - e-mail, social media, phones, any other tech, diaries... ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps asking to meet my former best friend
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 16 months. We met through a social group in which we both joined around the same time, and that group is my main circle of friends. I do not keep in touch regularly with anyone else. I have friends whom I call ...
A. 3 October 2017: Ask him why he keeps asking and why he would want to meet your ex-BBF when you no longer have a friendship.
That is what I would do.
And then tell him... It's not going to happen as she and I are no longer friends and won't be anytime soon.
... (read in full...)
Does my close friend have a crush on me?
Q. I have a very good boy friend,and I am single. Our friendship is very confusing because we always flirt with each other.But these day,I begin to notice some change about him. For example,last Saturday we went shopping together.As we passed by the...
A. 2 October 2017: I would keep it at a friendship.
For one simple reason. HE doesn't want kids and you do. He presumes YOU could change your mind but doesn't suggest HE could too...
So kids or no kids is a HUGE point of contentment. If a couple who wants to be ... (read in full...)
He's bragged about cheating on me behind my back but denies it when I confront him!
Q. Have been told by strangers, friends and family that my boyfriend of twenty years has bragged about cheating on me every chance he gets when he's working out of town. He actually butt dialed me during one of his bragging sessions to a friend and I ...
A. 2 October 2017: OK, OP
What would you do if he did admit it? What difference would it make?
My guess? none.
This is just a thing you two occasionally argue over but nothing is DONE about it. You accuse, he denies. Seems more like a game. A game where you B... (read in full...)
I constantly feel jealous about his exes!
Q. Any advice on how to get past jealousy. My boyfriend has clearly had other girlfriends as we have been together only a few months. Yesterday he said about going to Italy and when I asked who with and he said his ex girlfriend from 8 years ago I feel ...
A. 2 October 2017: So you bait him? To feed your jealousy?
(and push him away, because THAT will happen if you keep this ridiculous behavior up)
And when I say bait I mean when he mentions anything in regards to his past you dig around to get to the ex-GF and wh... (read in full...)
I constantly feel jealous about his exes!
Q. Any advice on how to get past jealousy. My boyfriend has clearly had other girlfriends as we have been together only a few months. Yesterday he said about going to Italy and when I asked who with and he said his ex girlfriend from 8 years ago I feel ...
A. 2 October 2017: Maybe you need to figure out WHERE the root of this jealousy stems.
You say you understand that he had a life before you... but you also seem to resent that fact. He wasn't "preserved in amber" until you met him. HE lived his life.
YOU, on... (read in full...)
I'd like to be spoiled a bit and shown some appreciation too!
Q. Hi, how do i deal with ex marital jealousy? My husband and i, we've been married for almost 2 years now and we do love each other and all who know us would say we have the "ideal" relationship and marriage. Most unfortunately, within my h...
A. 2 October 2017: I think it's a cop-out for him to say that he spoiled his ex-wife and it didn't work out, so now he won't spoil you.
YOU are not his ex-wife. You are you.
How people show love is different from person to person, that is true but so is ADAPTI... (read in full...)
I'm considering breaking up with my girlfriend
Q. I want too break up with my girlfriend because i cant satisfy her sexually, ive asked her about it and she claims it could be better but she doesnt know what she wants when i ask her how, i want her to be happy both psychically and mentally. I know...
A. 2 October 2017: Everything BrownWolf said...
It's that simple. Really.
Making LOVE to a woman takes work. And your penis is NOT a magic wand that does all the work for you. There is no:" hey presto penis in vagina there are the orgasms!"
Quitting now is... (read in full...)
Will men care if I live at home?
Q. Will men care if I don't have my own place? I am 31 years old and I have been hit with a financial hardship in life at the moment. For the first time in my life I am trying to not care what people think and focus on solving my financial situation ...
A. 2 October 2017: I would say your priorities are a little off.
Instead of looking for a dude to date right now, how about you focus on getting solvent again?
That means an overhaul of your budget and cutting your spending. Whether you live with your parents or ... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken but he said he wouldn't get back together with me because I was acting crazy!
Q. Okay so I'm looking for a little perspective... I was dating this guy (both in our early to mid 20s) for 6 months. During this time it got very intense. In the beginning he was incredible... suggested we go on holiday together after 1 month, a...
A. 1 October 2017: Block him and move on.
This wasn't a healthy relationship and his actions and lies made your insecurities worse. While YOU need to work on those, learning how to trust a partner but also yourself.
You felt something was off with that one fe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend flirts with his employees and it's annoying me!
Q. I've been exclusive with this guy for the last few weeks, its going OK but I get really jealous when he flirts with his employees (he runs a v popular Indian restaurant and has a lot of really pretty Indian girls working there). He moans at me...
A. 1 October 2017: Yeah, I'd let him go.
He sounds like a crappy boss and not a great guy either. He might think he is just OH SO charming, but he is kinda icky... These are young girls who WORK for him. While banter is normal in many workplaces, flirting with all... (read in full...)
I thought things were progressing well so why does she seemed to have slowed down?
Q. A few days ago I was on cloud nine. I had finally gone out with a great girl after a couple weeks of chatting on Facebook since we were both moving back to our hometown. We clicked really well while we were chatting, she was very responsive and f...
A. 1 October 2017: Ah well, time to block and delete... and move on.... (read in full...)
We want different things in life ... should I just let it go?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. I’m 20 and he’s 22 so we’re still pretty young and we don’t plan on getting married or having kids any time soon. Especially since we’ve only been together for 2 years. But we have com...
A. 30 September 2017: As much as it sucks, this is not the guy for you - long term.
You want marriage and kids - he doesn't.
If he has been raised to (basically) hate the notion and idea of marriage he isn't likely to change his mind. And if he is sure he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is this too much for a first and second date or is he just trying to control her?
Q. So, a friend of mine is seeing this guy.. They started talking through Bumble. He's slightly older tha her, she's 22. They've only know each other a couple of weeks or so. He's a volunteer police officcer. So, they met at the weekend. Saturda...
A. 30 September 2017: I am with Auntie BimBim
Volunteer policemen? Never heard of that. Firefighters, yes.. not policemen. That takes a lot of training. Then again, maybe they do have them in the UK - I have just never heard of them where I have lived (Denmark... (read in full...)
He's starting a new job and I've begun to worry about it!
Q. Hello everyone! My hubby has been unemployed for over a year. Last summer I encouraged him to apply for a good job I knew he wanted... and today we got the news that he got it and he starts on Monday!! Exciting, right? Well... I was excited at first ...
A. 30 September 2017: You know what's going on.
And yes, you are being selfish, controlling and insecure.
You need to SUPPORT him with your whole heart for FINALLY getting out there. It will do him good. Not only the "having a job", the "feeling useful" and the ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this planned weekend getaway? I've decided I don't trust him!
Q. Hi i was seeing soneone 2 yrs ago and he started seeing someone else. He denied it and lied left right and centre then he got her pregnant. During all this time he hasnt let go of me. I told him i was not prepared to be a bit on rhe side. Now they ...
A. 29 September 2017: I absolutely agree with Ciar's advice.
Don't try and remain friends with him - there is nothing for you here. Nothing good that is.
If you don't want to deal with any more of this drama and circus - then E-mail him what Ciar suggested. And b... (read in full...)
I deserve better than to be ghosted by someone that I thought cared about me
Q. We were close friends (according to him) but our feelings for each other complicated things. He shied away from having a relationship. He told me he was scared to be a rebound, because his last relationship was a rebound and ended miserably. I was ...
A. 29 September 2017: I think there are so much drama and passive-aggressiveness going on here and less... honesty.
You are mad that you left an abusive man for a man who didn't honor the "promise" he made you.
Which - is understandable however it's neither here nor... (read in full...)
I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.
Q. I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...
A. 29 September 2017: I agree with WiseOwlE and YouWish,
You are a nurturer by nature, you take care of people, make sure they are OK - that is the norm. Unfortunately, your BF wants a mother more than an equal partner.
A GROWN man WHINING that you are leaving him ... (read in full...)
Long distance boyfriend is asking for naked pictures, should I trust him?
Q. Hi there friends...I really need your advice.. I have a long distance relationship and know for a year.we don't meet yet and we both christian born again... and I dont want this guy to entertain but he was keep in contact with me even if j don't....
A. 28 September 2017: There is no need for naked photos when you haven't even MET in person. LISTEN to your gut.
Why do you think you OWE him naked photos? Because he keeps asking? Is that really the kind of man you want to be with? Someone who doesn't RESPECT your bou... (read in full...)
Fiances mother is refusing to come to our wedding unless we change our plans
Q. firstly, thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm having problems with my fiancées mother. Backstory: me and him met in school, at15, we've been together ever since. We got engaged may 2016 in Fiji we had originally planned a two wee...
A. 28 September 2017: Stick to the plan YOU and your FINACEE made.
And then have a chat with your fiance, see if there is a way to do a family get-together AFTER the wedding in the UK for those who couldn't go. IF that is what you both want.
I think I would ask HIM ... (read in full...)
Its been over with my boyfriend, I'm pregnant by someone else but I'm afraid if I end things he will try and kill himself
Q. I've been trying to end my relationship for the last 8 months without feeling a massive amount of guilt. The situation I'm in has became incredibly messy and I just feel very broken by what has happened over this passed year. I've been with...
A. 27 September 2017: Put your child first.
RIGHT now.
DO you think it's a good idea to RAISE this child around THIS man? A guy who tries to kill himself who threatens to kill himself and makeS YOU walk on eggshells in fear?
The LAST thing a mother needs dur... (read in full...)
Is she hiding something or cheating?
Q. Before I get started let me just say that women have the right to enjoy sex as much as men. I'm not a sexist person and raised a Young lady on my own. I met my high school sweet heart after 30 years of no contact. We had sex later that evening. We ...
A. 27 September 2017: From your update, I think it has more to do that she isn't into you anymore, it was a fantasy of the "glory days" of high school and young love and now? It's reality with smelly socks and daily chores. Not quite as sexy...
DO you two live together... (read in full...)
He is married and will not stop contacting me for sex
Q. I dated this guy that stringed me along for 7 months - through therapy and maturity I realized it was my fault for "wanting to prove him wrong" when he said "I'm afraid of commitment" - I don't want anything serious- him being a ghost for a month ...
A. 27 September 2017: He doesn't stop texting you because YOU opened the door and let him back in. He presumes that he can manipulate you like he did in the past. That you are pliable and will eventually have sex with him.
If you want him gone (for REAL) tell him to S... (read in full...)
My past won’t go away, should I talk to him?
Q. Hey aunts! Quick advice please! I post a few years ago asking well venting about my situation. When I was 22 I got pregnant by this guy I was dating and I thought the best decision for me was to have an abortion. At the time the guy ag...
A. 27 September 2017: Why should you delete your social media when you can just block him?
You don't OWE him squat. You don't have to talk to him or acknowledge him.
If you make a Facebook page and he contacts you again - tell him to stop contacting you and BLOCK hi... (read in full...)
If she wasn't interested why did she bother to text me?
Q. Hello, Before I start I am a gay girl, 24 years old. So I went on a night out on Friday with a group of people, and got very drunk. We all ended hooking up with someone (everyone else is straight) and we went out until about 6am. The girl...
A. 27 September 2017: Nope.
4 days of not replying, and the fact that they believe she has a partner?
Both are red flags.
If someone was VERY keen to get to know you... they wouldn't ignore you for 4 days.
If someone has a partner, then she is off limits.... (read in full...)
Why am I stuck with the girl that doesn't want to give but wants me to do all the work?
Q. I been in relationship for 4 years. She was virgin before we met. I have high sex drive , she doesn’t. I tried to accommodate this by doing stuff in shower and not bothering her. Sometimes I ask her to go down, and she won’t put in effort, when she...
A. 27 September 2017: 1. no one OWES you sex, OP
2. you aren't STUCK with this girl. It's a choice to keep dating her or to find someone with a higher sex drive. They exist, trust me.
3. if you two can talk to friends and talk about friend's sex life - have a co... (read in full...)
Tough love or does my dad mean it when he says it?
Q. I have a job which I'm not enjoying and parents who flip out at me, I suffer with depression and find that when I'm backed into a corner, I lose my anger and have to defend myself, ive been in trouble with the law, had partners who have cheated on ...
A. 27 September 2017: He probably means it. He thinks this is the ONLY way he can help you.
Why are you still living at home?
If you suffer from depression are you getting help from that?
If you have anger issues to a point where you have been in legal trouble wh... (read in full...)
Our 'friends with benefits' situation seems to be going fine, but she showed one strange sign?
Q. Me and my friend tried having sex twice. We talked about the possibility of it happening for ages and it seems to be working out. A lot of people are skeptical about a FWB type thing but it feels right for us. There has been no awkwardness between ...
A. 26 September 2017: There are not rules set in stone for what FWB people do and people who actually date do after sex.
Do I think it's a pretty intimate gesture? One that shows she is VERY comfortable with you?
Yes.
Does it mean she has deeper feelings for you?... (read in full...)
Is she hiding something or cheating?
Q. Before I get started let me just say that women have the right to enjoy sex as much as men. I'm not a sexist person and raised a Young lady on my own. I met my high school sweet heart after 30 years of no contact. We had sex later that evening. We ...
A. 26 September 2017: I am not sure it's entirely menopausal dryness going on. I think there is a lack of arousal. Either not enough foreplay (and yes women of ALL ages can use some good oldfashioned foreplay!) or she isn't sexually attracted to you.
Could she have... (read in full...)
I thought things were progressing well so why does she seemed to have slowed down?
Q. A few days ago I was on cloud nine. I had finally gone out with a great girl after a couple weeks of chatting on Facebook since we were both moving back to our hometown. We clicked really well while we were chatting, she was very responsive and f...
A. 20 September 2017: I agree with N91, pull back a little.
Sometimes people can feel like constant contact is a bit overwhelming and they don't know what to say or they feel the actual conversation is either boring or they are afraid to sound boring or too eager.
... (read in full...)
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