Did I prove a point in this office situation?
Q. I've heard that women hate it when men don't look at them or pay them any attention, and liking the guy or being in a relationship already is irrelevant. I had an attractive young woman always looking at me in the office a work. I deliberately...
A. 2 August 2017: I'm with N91,
You are at work, not the local watering hole.
Just be professional and polite. If she wants to ignore you, let her.
And if things feel a little awkward consider how AWKWARD it would have been if you had started something with h... (read in full...)
I asked him:what about us after dating 4 months, he did not answer me at all.what should I do?
Q. What did i do wrong to deserve this? I have been dating with this guy i met online for 4 months. Everything was going great except he had a lot of family issues or work issues. Every time he was arguing his mom or sister, he was always talking ...
A. 2 August 2017: Hi Deezy,
I'm sorry things aren't going as you had hoped. ONLY you can decide when you feel like you have WASTED enough time on a guy. If after 4 months it's going NOWHERE then will you waste 5-6-7-8 months knowing that it's not likely much els... (read in full...)
Implant removed, unprotected sex equals pregnancy?
Q. Hi I removed my implant on 15 June then had unprotected sex 3rd July. I had my first period on 16 July for about a week and now I feel like I'm getting my period again. My breast are so painful and I feel bloated. Is t possible I could be pregnant? ...
A. 2 August 2017: Call and ask your doctor. He/She knows what brand, side effect etc.
A pregnancy test is $6-10 - if you worry you could be pregnant go buy one and test.
And OP.... WHY are you having unprotected sex? Are you trying to have a baby?... (read in full...)
Would he have given his number if he wasnt really interested
Q. Im hopeless in the world of dating . Im on a dating site and the guy im chatting with is legit hes very open and hasnt held back with anything hes show me videos of where he works and facebook details , He asked if i was free we could meet for ...
A. 2 August 2017: I don't think he would give his number if he wasn't interested.
YOU need to MAKE time and meet him. Stop pussyfooting around or he WILL drop you and move on.
Why should he be totally into you when he hasn't even met you? That's not logical.
... (read in full...)
Not sure if boyfriend is attracted to me sexually or that I am his physical type.
Q. Been with boyfriend for over a year. We are both in our late 20's. We only have sex once or once every 2 weeks. There are a lot of times where i want it more than him. He gives me excuses he is tired, he is bloated from food etc. But then sa...
A. 2 August 2017: Low T means lower libido, not being blind to attractive people.
He should get checked out because low T is not super common in the 20's.
However, I would consider one thing. Is he TALKING about a check up or actually GOING to a check up? Beca... (read in full...)
I wonder should I tell him how I feel?
Q. So there's this guy. He was the president of a club I'm in, but this past may he graduated and he's going off to college in 2 weeks. We became really close. He would give me rides places and we would go on runs together. We went out to a formal ...
A. 1 August 2017: Aww Denizen!
I agree with Denizen, you are too young for this guy he is AT least 17-18, you are 13-15. He is off to college where he will meet a LOT of girls his own age.
You have a crush and that is fine.... (read in full...)
I have a fear that if we have sex it will be the end of our relationship
Q. I have just started seeing this guy and things are going well. We have met a few times now and the dates have been going out for dinner, a walk along the beach and the last one was he made me dinner at his. Physically, things have happened but...
A. 1 August 2017: I agree.
First of all a little home truth... EVERYONE (almost) wants sex. Doesn't' mean you have to have sex with everyone you meet, right?
TAKE your time getting to know him. Like YouWish said, have your DATES away from each other's homes.
... (read in full...)
Is a man considered promiscuous for having 15 sexual partners?
Q. Is having 12-15 women as sexual partners considered promiscuous for the average man? Would that many partners be a deal breaker for you? ...
A. 1 August 2017: Is it possible that he was with women whom he couldn't make climax?
Yes. Many women don't climax from penetrative sex and some rarely climax for whatever reason. (except masturbation)
Maybe he wasn't as great of a lover back then, maybe he h... (read in full...)
Was substitute dad trying too hard or did he overstep the mark?
Q. So my ? is Can substitute dad put down ground rules on date night when i am 19 and will not graduate high school until January. My father is no longer living with us-Due to my dads meanness we have never been close. anyways, my step mom is now ...
A. 1 August 2017: I agree with Auntie BimBim
Yes, I DO think he can set rules and conditions for you when it comes to the truck.
The guy is trying to step up and be a positive role-model in your life.
If you don't like the rules or conditions regarding the... (read in full...)
I've told him how I feel but he says I am overthinking!
Q. Hello, I have been seeing a guy since April. I met him at university but now I have finished, I have moved back home, meaning we live 2 hours away from each other. I also went travelling for two months after seeing him for 2 months. We still...
A. 1 August 2017: I think YOU want a relationship where you spend time with the other person. I think HE is happy with status quo.
As for being lonely? That is entirely up to you. It's not HIS or other people's job to "entertain" you so you don't feel lonely. ... (read in full...)
We met twice and now she says she wants space. Doesn't she like me?
Q. I met a girl online and we've met in person on two occasions. We seemed to just click from the beginning and she even said she didn't understand why I was still single. We've spoken on the telephone at length between meetings, however following our ...
A. 1 August 2017: If someone tells you I need space? Why do you keep texting and calling?
No, mean no, OP.
And in this case, SHE isn't interested in you. And she isn't TREATING you in a very nice way either.
I would DEFINITELY leave her be 100%. No texting ... (read in full...)
If he keeps sending selfies does he like me as more than a friend?
Q. I have a guy friend who regularly sends me selfies of himself (nothing sexual or shirtless) just pictures from his shoulders up usually or a close up of his face. I don't ask for them. Last week he sent me a selfie of his new hairstyle, with the ...
A. 1 August 2017: Not really.
I think he is trying to get you to send pictures. For now, they are innocuous selfies. That might change.
My 15-year-old has a group of friends and honestly? they constantly send each other selfies (mostly goofy but still) and they ... (read in full...)
His friend is trying to get my b/f to break up with me and date someone else. He thinks I'm unreasonable because I ask him not to talk to her
Q. Going to cut a long story short... Me and my partner broke up because he thought he liked someone else so I ended things. Me leaving made him realise he wanted me and after some time I decided to give him a chance to redeem himself. However...
A. 1 August 2017: Had had to recheck you age. This sounds like something TEENS are all about.
While I don't think a GF/BF needs to dictate whom their partner can be friends with, in this case, your BF is CHOOSING the keep this girl and HER drama in your relation... (read in full...)
Why wasn't the fact that he was married and a baby on the way enough to stop him from cheating?
Q. I just found out that my husband cheated on me. Him and I are "newlyweds" we married in may 2017 and his affair happened from February to early May 2017. He is in the army and he used to be based only 3 hours away from our hometown. He would visit ...
A. 31 July 2017: Like you said your marriage is tarnished, there is no trust and he actually has used emotional blackmail to keep you staying in the marriage.
He might have ended it when he said I do, but he didn't tell you BEFORE the wedding and didn't tell you... (read in full...)
Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 31 July 2017: Good for you OP!
Learn from this. TRUST a person for their actions and deeds not just for what they say and promise.
It will get better. And you WILL (hopefully) stop beating yourself up.
Better luck next time!
Chin up - enjoy life!... (read in full...)
Are my fears reasonable?
Q. My bf, who I will call DH and I go to watch his nephew play VB (volleyball) on the varsity high school team. The team had sort of a team mother who went to all the games and drove kids to away games. I’ll call her the TM. The TM had come up to DH ...
A. 31 July 2017: I agree with Code WArrior.
It's odd for him to show up especially if the kid doesn't even play. Is your BF the one taking him to the game? Or does the team ride together?
If he isn't the nephew's ride it's a little odd that he feels like he HA... (read in full...)
Things seem to have went cold in our LDR. Do I end things and ask to be friends?
Q. hello guys, I am 19 years old, my boyfriend is 21. we were in a long distance relationship for two months; we chat online. we met once for a very short time ( cause we both didn't have enough time to stay for long..) anyways, it was weird, w...
A. 31 July 2017: You can TRY and see if he wants to kick it down a notch to friendship or being penpals.
If he agrees then stick to that. BE friends and NO more. Keep it PLATONIC.
If he doesn't, then maybe you need to accept that whatever you two had has run ... (read in full...)
How do I handle being away from my boyfriend during his two week family vacation?
Q. My boyfriend recently left two days ago for a two week family vacation to Hawaii, a seven hour time difference behind my time. He is waking up around the late afternoon/dinnertime for me and it is just terrible. We have been dating for over two ...
A. 31 July 2017: It's just 2 weeks, OP
Keep busy and it will FLY by.
And accept he is THERE to enjoy his vacation with his family not constantly talk to you and calm you.
If you want to write him a LONG email (and make it an UPLIFTING one, not a sad... (read in full...)
Our sex life has declined. How normal is this?
Q. Hi everyone me and my fiance have been together nearly 4 year but lately our sex life has became non existant. im this normal? I'm lucky if it's once a week. we have just came back from a week's holiday and didn't have sex at all while we were ...
A. 31 July 2017: I don't think there is a "normal" setting for how much sex you should have at any given stage in a relationship and in life. However, I do think it sounds on the VERY low end of the "spectrum" to only have sex once a week at your age 4 years into ... (read in full...)
Is this man a touchy feely person or is he trying to be more than friends?
Q. So there is this man I have been friends with for a few months. We started out just getting to know each other, small talk, being coordial. Recently, I can tell he has gotten more comfortable with me, which is great. He is not a touchy person with a ...
A. 31 July 2017: Friends don't TOUCH and grope and kiss because they are OH SO comfortable with each other.
Hugs? maybe. But the rest? No.
He is either testing YOUR boundaries or trying in a not so subtle way to let you know he is interested in something physic... (read in full...)
I can't learn to trust men
Q. Why can I not trust men? How can I go about this? I have been going to therapy for a while and my psychiatrist point blank said and it seem like a light bulb hit- "you haven't trusted anyone since josh" - josh was my verbally abusive bf of five ...
A. 31 July 2017: Why not try friendships? Join a hobby group/mixed gender sports (whatever you are into). MAKE friends with guys or just one.
Get to know that person, see that "not all men" are alike. Start out looking for a friendship. Not for a partner. And KEEP... (read in full...)
His demands seem unreasonable. Am I being foolish?
Q. I have had a boyfriend for a long time and its got so he always wants back rubs and oral sexs all the time. I have told him that I do not want to do that without a condom. He prefers no condom. However for health issues I only do oral and other ...
A. 31 July 2017: He seems like a user.
You do "things" for him so he sticks around but he cheats on you and has sex with other people.
What exactly is it about him that you like so much?
The lack of respect he has for you?
The lack of compassion and ca... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend's girlfriend texted me telling to delete old posts from when we were dating
Q. I got a message from my ex's current girlfriend. He cheated and immediately got together with her after our breakup. I took the breakup better than I expected and became happier. But he always texts trying to get back together. He also started ...
A. 31 July 2017: I would ignore her "request".
And I would have my pictures PRIVATE so that only FRIENDS can see them. If she isn't a friend on Facebook with you, she can't see them.
As for the ex-bf texting you? Really? Do you need to be in contact with him... (read in full...)
Is a man considered promiscuous for having 15 sexual partners?
Q. Is having 12-15 women as sexual partners considered promiscuous for the average man? Would that many partners be a deal breaker for you? ...
A. 31 July 2017: You feel how you feel. Nothing wrong in that. But I do think it IS wrong to judge him because he has had more partners than you. Like I said in my initial post, SO WHAT?
I don't think a guy who has had more partners than 1 automatically and cons... (read in full...)
When are you supposed to be "over it" when your partner cheats?
Q. I have a question that I'm betting A LOT of people do that visit this website. If your in a relationship and you are madly deeply in love with the person your with. Time goes by and you find out that they have been lying to you many times and ...
A. 30 July 2017: You have chosen to stay with him regardless of his cheating, so I DO get why he says "get over it".
But it doesn't mean you CAN "get over it". No matter how much time you put in.
Trust is lost between you two. It wasn't an "ooops" mistake ... (read in full...)
Is this woman after my husband?
Q. Does it sound like this woman is after my spouse? My husband started a new job and seemed to become friendly and close to a woman I will call Kathy. They would discuss their personal issues ( our martial) ( her relationship issues). She would ca...
A. 30 July 2017: I'm sorry OP
If your husband has a history of cheating, then he KNEW where this was going with that woman.
You OWE that woman nothing, you CERTAINLY don't have to show up (as she demanded).
Seems like your husband likes the attention and ... (read in full...)
Is a man considered promiscuous for having 15 sexual partners?
Q. Is having 12-15 women as sexual partners considered promiscuous for the average man? Would that many partners be a deal breaker for you? ...
A. 30 July 2017: Who cares about that number?
It's not like you HAVE to share that with anyone. If a guy you are dating asks, why not simply tell him that you have HAD sexual partners but are not interested in rehashing the past.
That goes for your partners as... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's brother won't allow kids in his home
Q. My boyfriend and I are 26 years old. My boyfriend has a brother that is 24 years old and I have a brother that is 14 years old. The problem is that my boyfriend's brother will not let my brother visit his house due to his age. My boyfriend's b...
A. 30 July 2017:
Is the place owned or rented by the brother? If so, it's his home and HIS rules. Your BF can always move out on his own, right?
Which means if your parents are away and you have assumed responsibility for watching over your brother then par... (read in full...)
He changed his mind about getting married so who keeps the ring?
Q. A few weeks ago my ex fiancé basically told me that he didn't want to get married then he told me he was no longer in love with me. Then a few weeks later he basically tells me I'm in love with you but your not my soulmate. I was annoyed and I do...
A. 30 July 2017: Just like YOU can sell it, so can he.
I know that legally, YOU can keep it and do as you please with it. But morally? Eh...
Did you spend money on the planning for the wedding? If so I think the money should go towards that.
Do I think the ... (read in full...)
Is my ex girlfriend leaving breadcrumbs or is she looking for reconciliation?
Q. My ex girlfriend broke up with me around a year ago. We tried re-kindling a few months following the breakup but things did not progress. I was direct with her and said I do not want to be friends and continue to communicate any longer since I felt ...
A. 29 July 2017: What was the reason for breaking up in the first place? Whatever that issue was, has it been resolved?
If not... WHY waste time on this?
In reality? Does it matter WHY she is texting you?
You told her you didn't want friendship and you ... (read in full...)
Is this woman after my husband?
Q. Does it sound like this woman is after my spouse? My husband started a new job and seemed to become friendly and close to a woman I will call Kathy. They would discuss their personal issues ( our martial) ( her relationship issues). She would ca...
A. 29 July 2017: First of all, change your privacy settings.
You can report her for harassment to Facebook as it's THERE the harassment happened.
Have your husband seen this message?
I think you need to have a LONG talk with him. She sounds unstable and by N... (read in full...)
My ex military boyfriend got right in my face and yelled at me. Is it normal for military men to act this way toward civilians?
Q. My exmilitary boyfriend got the idea in his head that I was seeing someone else for sex and he had a meltdown. He shouted in my face like a military seargant and I started pushing him off me and then I asked someone to throw him out! The question...
A. 29 July 2017:
SOME men do this in an argument because the yelling is VERY intimidating. It's not JUST military men. It's a way to FEEL like you have the upper hand. The louder they yell the more they are trying to convince YOU (and themselves) whatever is said... (read in full...)
How should I handle these 2 cliquey co-workers without it turning into a situation?
Q. Please help me with this work situation. If you had a 2 works colleagues (younger 24 and 29) who did not say hi to you,(you say hi to them, to be polite) but they say hi to others do you keep trying? or speak when needed... to be profes...
A. 29 July 2017: Some people never leave high school. They continue the cliques and attitude of a teenager.
They are your co-workers, NOT your friends. So be professional and ignore the petty clique behavior. No need to TRY and be "friends" as they are NOT inte... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy who's rather pushy and doesn't want to compromise on even the smallest of things
Q. There's this guy I have been dating and he is overall wonderful. However, he's done things here and there that has shown me that maybe he can't really compromise. Once, we went dancing at a restaurant with a live band. We had a great time had s...
A. 29 July 2017: The light and dancing are really MINOR issues compared to removing the condom. READY up on "stealthing" like Code Warrior mentioned. It's disgusting!
And a guy at 38? Why should he change? he does EXACTLY as HE wants with NO regard for you and ... (read in full...)
I'm straight so why do gay women always hit on me? Am I giving off some kind of vibes?
Q. now a lot of women hit on me...why I don't know, I am straight....anyway here's my issue so i needed 2 use another coworkers comp so I found one which was unfortunately by my freaky coworker and she just said 2 me, so you are going be my cute desk ...
A. 29 July 2017: When I worked as a bartender I got hit on by, well everyone, men, and women.
Why? I think because I was generally more "friendly" and "social" than some of the other bartenders. I would remember faces and names.
We all WORE the same uniforms so... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me that he's over his ex so why are they following each other on instagram?
Q. HEY!!!! I've been dating this guy for six months and I was looking on Instagram and found his ex-girlfriend's page. Her page is public. When I looked at all her pictures he liked almost all of the recent ones. Him and I are not friends on ...
A. 29 July 2017: Well, two things here.
One he LIED about it when asked. He said he was over her blah blah... he didn't totally mean it.
As for WHO follows him, well he could block her but that might cause drama he doesn't want OR he likes her stalking his Ins... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is dealing with the loss of his brother. He's blaming me and shutting me out
Q. My boyfriend recently lost his brother to suicide 6 weeks ago. For the first 4 weeks I tried to support him and his family as much as I could. Then 2 weeks ago he turned and started to blame me for what happened and told me he wished I was dead. He ...
A. 29 July 2017: I think the BEST thing you can do is find a 3rd party to use as a pickup/drop off point for your shared son. So YOU don't have to see this guy or deal with him.
I would also NOT be keen on letting him have the shared son if he is in such an unsta... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is cheating, pressuring me to have sex. I'm afraid he'll leave me if I don't give in
Q. I am 19 and even tho i know all my friends are having sex, i know it doesn't mean i have to but i'm getting a lot of pressure from my boyfriend to do it right now. The pressure seems to be more and more as the days go on. And I will be honest, i ...
A. 29 July 2017: It's OK to not be ready for sex at your age. JUST as it is OK to BE ready (like your BF).
You two are mismatched.
You can't/won't fulfill HIS needs (and that YOUR prerogative to not want sex yet) and he can't fulfill YOUR needs for being ... (read in full...)
He makes faces when I talk about men I have dated. Is he jealous?
Q. If I mention the names of men who I admire or have dated, my co-worker always makes this scrunched up face like he smelled a nasty poopie. I don't constantly talk about other guys. Does this mean he is jealous? He also stares at me when he thinks ...
A. 29 July 2017: I have to say I agree with the other aunties/uncles here.
He isn't jealous, I think he is just not interested in hearing you gush about men he doesn't know nor care about. What's the point in bragging about ALL your lovely exes? Do you think it... (read in full...)
Did I accidentally lead my controlling ex boyfriend on?
Q. Currently I have an amazing bf who I've been dating for a short while. Before I started dating him, I dated another guy for a short while who turned out to be a total control freak. When I 1st met him, the feeling of being wanted felt very good. ...
A. 28 July 2017: It doesn't matter.
Do I think (from what you wrote) that you lead him on? No. I think you doubted yourself and thus didn't end it sooner.
There is no need for you to feel GUILT about.
It was a bad situation and you ended it. Let it go.
... (read in full...)
I'm hurting terribly after a break up. Any advice on how to feel better?
Q. Hi everyone, I was involved with a guy for about a year. It didn't work out because he couldn't commit to me and last week I found out he'd actually been in love with someone else when he met me. I made the decision last week to cut contac...
A. 28 July 2017: Of course, you still miss him. A break up doesn't mean your emotions are erased and vanish overnight.
It's normal to feel conflicted.
You know (logically) that it wasn't going to work because HE was not willing to commit and already interest... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy who's rather pushy and doesn't want to compromise on even the smallest of things
Q. There's this guy I have been dating and he is overall wonderful. However, he's done things here and there that has shown me that maybe he can't really compromise. Once, we went dancing at a restaurant with a live band. We had a great time had s...
A. 28 July 2017: I'm sorry YOU have to decide whether these behaviors are NOT OK or OK with you.
Personally, I agree you could have told him, NO I need a breather from dancing, let's just sit - if he refused YOU walked your butt back to your chair. IT IS OK to sa... (read in full...)
Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 27 July 2017: Nope, he doesn't need the shorts at all...
All you can do now OP, is learn from this. People can say "I love you" and still be a dick.
... (read in full...)
Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 26 July 2017: I would just put his shorts in a bag and hang it on his door.
After that? I'd simply block his number and then delete it. There is no point in trying to figure him out. You are seeing a bit more of what kind of guy he is. Not really getting ... (read in full...)
Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 24 July 2017: So you basically called him out on suggesting that you invite him over and cook for him and when the day came he just ignored the pre-arranged date? Am I getting it right?
So instead of him calling and canceling he just disappeared for the day?... (read in full...)
Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 24 July 2017: I'd say no.
If he got his boxers in a twist over some text (you didn't mention WHAT you said so I can't say if he totally overreacted or not...) I wouldn't hold my breath that this is going to work out.
Quite honestly? Seemed like he used tha... (read in full...)
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