What does my boyfriend mean by all his confusing statements?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles!!! So I'm in a bind. A month ago my bf and I had a huge disagreement with one another. We did not talk sometime after. About a week ago he contacts me apologizing and giving me confusing signs. First he says I want to be with ...
A. 5 September 2017: There you go.
No point in waiting for someone to "grow" up or decide what they want.
My advice though, OP - cut the contact 100%. Otherwise, he will pop in and out of your life to see if he is "ready" or not - which means he will hold you ba... (read in full...)
What does my boyfriend mean by all his confusing statements?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles!!! So I'm in a bind. A month ago my bf and I had a huge disagreement with one another. We did not talk sometime after. About a week ago he contacts me apologizing and giving me confusing signs. First he says I want to be with ...
A. 3 September 2017: That he wants to keep you around "just in case" he doesn't find "better".
Honey, if you two get into a disagreement so severe that you can't TALK about it but just take time outs of not talking then HOW do you think things will pan out NEXT tim... (read in full...)
Boy likes girl but girl does drugs and isn't over her ex
Q. To quote "arrested development" ..."I've made a huge mistake" Sooo I'm going to give you the cliff notes version of the last couple months. Boy meets girl. They start sleeping with each other. Boy likes girl way more than he should and falls head ...
A. 3 September 2017: People who "love" drugs more than anything else in their lives make bad choices. As for her trading drugs for sex? Pretty common. That is how a lot of women (especially) end up in prostitution. Out of desperation. While she might have done the ... (read in full...)
What's the future for me as the other woman?
Q. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man who I love and he loves me. We are very happy however I am "the other woman", even though our relationship is serious and we've been together for like 3 years, because he's cheated on his current/previous ...
A. 3 September 2017: There are no guarantees in life.
BUT if he has cheated on her for a longer period of time why would you think he won't do it to you?
Are you more special than the GF?
If he fell for you why didn't he JUST break up with her BEFORE starting... (read in full...)
My married male co-worker alternates between friendly and cold
Q. I want to ask for help and I hope I can write this to get advice and not judgement as in my heart I don't plan to sin. I work as a nurse and I just started at a new hospital. On my team is another male nurse that work with that is married. Since I ...
A. 2 September 2017: Maybe he has sensed that you have unrequited feelings for him or that you are crushing and he is trying to not encourage it.
Maybe he just is a person who's mood switch up a bit. Not everyone is the same all the time.
My advice? Minimize... (read in full...)
Is this woman's behaviour a red flag?
Q. Well been seeing this woman for about seven months,been staying at her house the whole time, I do own my own house, my daughter and granddaughter live there, my house, I don't know what to do we get along good most of the time, but she snaps at...
A. 2 September 2017: I think you need to give each other a little space. You said that you practically moved in with her. So maybe have a chat with her. Stay at her house 4-5 days out of the week and have 1-2 days where you do YOUR things, she does HER things.
That ... (read in full...)
He wanted to end "whatever this is" and be just friends but he's acting like a jerk now
Q. Hi, i really need some advice About 2 years ago, I met this guy thru a my best friend. The 3 of us became best friends but he liked me and I never seen him like that. Until 8 months ago I saw him more of a friend. The first move was made by him,...
A. 2 September 2017: Just block him and move on.
He isn't a friend, he is a dick you used to sleep with.
The whole "let's just be friends" was his way of ending it with minimum drama except you actually thought he WANTED to stay friends. He didn't.
So LE... (read in full...)
I'm made to feel like a social pariah because I've chosen not to have children
Q. Dear all, I am a 37 year old woman with a great job and an even greater husband. I have my own house, I travel a lot and I love my life. I live and work in a ver small and narrow-minded community which makes me feel like a pariah because I don't ...
A. 2 September 2017: I think if you don't regret it at 37, why should you regret it later?
Some people are insane. They drank the "kids are everything koolaid" simple as that.
I have 3 kids (and 3 step kids) and I have FULL respect for those who choose NOT to ha... (read in full...)
Boy likes girl but girl does drugs and isn't over her ex
Q. To quote "arrested development" ..."I've made a huge mistake" Sooo I'm going to give you the cliff notes version of the last couple months. Boy meets girl. They start sleeping with each other. Boy likes girl way more than he should and falls head ...
A. 2 September 2017: Listen to your FEMALE friends,
DUMP the woman. She isn't in a state to DATE anyone and she is toxic. She has mental issues and a budding drug addiction. What DO you see in her that you try and keep her around? Don't TRY and date her for the "pot... (read in full...)
I told him 10pm was too late for dinner and now he won't speak to me
Q. Dear Cupid; I met a man on-line, he asked me to meet him at a nearby restaurant/bar at 9:00, he then changed the time to 9:15. I texted him when I got there never got a reply. I waited for 15 minutes and as I was getting ready to leave when he ...
A. 2 September 2017: Block him and move on.
If the plan is for 9:00 then 9:15 and he show up at 9:30 with no explanation or Sorry, I am late... I would say strike 1.
The second date he plans for 7:00 decided the work event is more fun or lasts longer so he cha... (read in full...)
Do I tell potential dates from the start that I have acne on my butt and thighs?
Q. I just got out of a 11 year relationship. I have body acne bad like on my butt and inner thighs. I feel gross...like no one will ever be with me because of the acne down there....would you be with someone who had acne there? Do I tell people about ...
A. 31 August 2017: OP, if you want to talk about your butt and thigh acne go see a dermatologist and get it sorted out. THIS is not dating topic or something you OWE a guy to "warn" him about before he "decides" to date you or not.
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Was this a missed financial opportunity and should I have consulted with my boyfriend?
Q. I'd like opinions from everyone about communication and responsibility within a relationship. To briefly summarize, my boyfriend and I live in my childhood home. We get by w/ our jobs and friends/tenants helping out on the monthly expenses. B/c my ...
A. 31 August 2017: 1. no, he is not your lawyer or financial advisor.
2. no, suing people for money when you REALLY don't have a valid claim is NOT a "missed financial opportunity" - it's fraud.
My youngest niece got hit by a driver (supposedly drunk) while wai... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to ask for a date from him of when he will abandon the search for the dream and work to support our everyday?
Q. Am I being too negative to consider a possible and positive future? Or is my gut's screaming correct? My boyfriend and I were recently laid off from our job, we're still working but our last day is approaching and then we will receive our ...
A. 31 August 2017: 1. no
2. yes
3. realistic
That was the short version. Now to the meat. I do remember your last post about this and it seems like you took the advice about talking to him.
However, he doesn't seem to comprehend that SOMEONE has to work ... (read in full...)
If I was doing something really annoying or inappropriate, would she have made it more obvious?
Q. I apologise if I have posted this one already as I tried a couple of forums to get a little advice as I'm a bit shy to ask my friends. So me and a female friend have started having sex. We talked about it long and hard before trying it for the firs...
A. 31 August 2017: Oh, she wasn't annoyed or thinking you being inappropriate for an FWB.
Now if you take a LONG time focusing on her belly, she might have hinted that it's really nice but move along...
And the "I don't think anyone has ever done that" means JUST... (read in full...)
Why does my married lover not admit how he feels about me? And keeps changing his words?
Q. Can anyone here help me to make sense of my married lover's words? Why did he tell me he loves me? Then the next time he says he likes me. Then he says he likes me a lot. Then the next time he says he adores me. And the next time after that, it's...
A. 31 August 2017: Wow, how toxic is this?
He "can't" drop you because you have evidence? What?
You think you have to move to a better apartment to please him, even if it makes you EVEN worse off financially? What?
Your relationship doesn't make sense to me... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much of men to want the same things that I want?
Q. As an almost fifty yr old woman is it unreasonable to want men I dare to have a wide taste in porn that includes mature women like myself and not just the cookie cutter young slim perfectt woman As I've gotten older my taste In men has matured ...
A. 31 August 2017: I agree with CodeWarrior as well.
However, I don't think you have ANY right to dictate what kind of "porn" a guy (at any age) should look at to make YOU comfortable.
My husband likes "chubby ladies" and red heads when it comes to porn. I... (read in full...)
Is it ladylike to show cleavage?
Q. Do you think its ladylike to show cleavage?!? i have never showed my cleavage. Do u thinks its fine to show cleavage? ...
A. 31 August 2017: Is it "ladylike"?
Perhaps not the word I'd use in the same sentence as cleavage.
Maybe what you mean is, is it TASTEFUL?
I think it can be, if it's a "NOT over the top boobs in your face look".
However, going by your age my guess is yo... (read in full...)
Men never hit on me
Q. I am 22 and I never had a bf before or ever dated. Guys never approach me for dates and never even approach me even for sex (so I guess that makes me a virgin also). I am also never hit on by guys or had a guy say he wants my number. I am 5'4 and ...
A. 31 August 2017: Why are you waiting for men to approach you?
I'm not saying go up to all attractive men and ask them out, but if you "keep" to yourself you might seem unapproachable. Like, you really do NOT want to be approached.
So maybe what you NEED to try ... (read in full...)
Why would a man still hang onto his girlfriend even if he is cheating with other women?
Q. If a guy is cheating on his girlfriend, why would he not leave her? He obviously is not the right man for her. So, why not just leave her, let her find a better man for her, instead of hang onto her knowing he is hurting her? Clearly a rel...
A. 31 August 2017: Are you the GF or the woman on the side?
As for why guys hang on to a GF while cheating on her - well I think there is a multitude of answers there.
1. She is the woman he can SEE himself settling down with (eventually) so holding onto her... (read in full...)
How many chances do I give my daughter's father when all he does is hurt her?
Q. How many chances should I give my ex to be a father when all he does is hurt our daughter! We had our daughter (now 7) when we were 18. He made it clear to me he wasn't happy about having a child and that is what caused us to break up. He the...
A. 31 August 2017: Since she is only 7 I wouldn't put it on HER to make the decision, it's up to you.
And while I get it's nice that he NOW wants her around so he can get to know her half-brother... the brother is a baby so where does that REALLY leave her?
... (read in full...)
Why does my married lover not admit how he feels about me? And keeps changing his words?
Q. Can anyone here help me to make sense of my married lover's words? Why did he tell me he loves me? Then the next time he says he likes me. Then he says he likes me a lot. Then the next time he says he adores me. And the next time after that, it's...
A. 31 August 2017: To keep you on your toes? It's a mindfu..-game. My guess is he uses the expression that either falls out of his mouth that particular day or the one that he knows will give HIM the best response from you. If you have been pulling away from him, an ... (read in full...)
Should I go meet my baby's father's family or have them come to meet us even though we really don't have the room?
Q. My baby father just turned up after not being present for two months. And right now I have been dealing directly with his mom since he apparently doesnt want to deal directly with me So the thing is his mom invited me over one day becauss she had ...
A. 31 August 2017: You have to show up and "present" your son to his dad? What?
While I think his mom is TRYING to include you and her grandchild I think it's messed up that you have to drag around a little one so the baby can be "seen" by the family.
I'd tak... (read in full...)
Why are people so impersonal? My friends don't care
Q. Is it ok to only see friends every 2-12 months? Have only 5 "friends" who are well liked in their job, busy,work, (I work too!!) one is married with kids, they all have better friends, family neaby, and a good life so only have time for coffee o...
A. 31 August 2017: Maybe go out of your comfort zone and MAKE new friends? Find some meetup groups or hiking group (or whatever activity you are into/interested it).
If the friend you have, are treating you like a mere acquaintance why bother do more in return? ... (read in full...)
Our fighting has gotten worse, could this be the final breakup?
Q. My long-term girlfriend and I have had many ups and downs over the years. Unfortunately, we're both hard headed and when we disagree, we fight. More unfortunately, those fights usually result in her breaking up. Within a few days I am always the ...
A. 29 August 2017: Do you WANT it to be the final break up or not?
You say you want to resolve it, yet you ignored her the 3 times she reached out. So your actions don't match your words.
When you have a partner who threatens break up every time things don't wor... (read in full...)
Break-up, Make-Up Cycle and After a Loving Weekend, He Hasn't Called. Why?
Q. I recently left my boyfriend two weeks ago, and now we aren't talking. My purpose in leaving wasn't necessarily to break up,but because I wasn't going to tolerate the verbal and emotional abuse. He can be extremely controlling and gonon tirades. ...
A. 29 August 2017: Wait... you WANT to get back with this crazy bastard?
Are you nuts, OP?
He hasn't called you because he KNOWS you will cave. It's another form of control. He is showing YOU that he will be FINE without you. And he knows you are going crazy thin... (read in full...)
Barmaid I like who I'm friends with has gone off me because of other friends stirring
Q. A female called lorna who fancied me at school was really into me, but I wasn't into her as much, as back then I wasn't into girls, not because I was gay but they were more trouble than they were worth. I recently saw her again at a working ...
A. 28 August 2017: Maybe the BF sent a friend's request to keep an eye on you.
And what ONE person calls "being friendly" another might interpret as flirtation.
So again, how do YOU know who said what to make her block you?
And if that 's the kind of drama you... (read in full...)
Anal sex embarrassment!
Q. I had anal sex last night and thought I was clean, when he went really deep I had a big accident and it literally went everywhere was so embarrassing my boyfriend was really good about it we had a shower and he has just shrugged it off but I am so ...
A. 28 August 2017: Well, the ANUS is an exit. That is what is was intended for. So ... stuff is supposed to go out of there, not in.
Unlike your bladder, you don't have the same kind of control with your bowels. Waste moves from your stomach on its own accord. ... (read in full...)
I need space after an argument, but will it make things worse?
Q. Is it okay to turn off your phone after having an argument with your boyfriend? I feel like I need some space but at the same time I'm worried it will make the argument worse. ...
A. 28 August 2017: I agree with Auntie Cindy,
Turning the phone off is not OK. (unless he REFUSES to give you a little time & space to cool down and keeps texting calling constantly... then I can perhaps understand it).
TELL him that you NEED some time to thi... (read in full...)
I am getting cold feet about my LDR moving in.
Q. My LDR boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years. We will be moving in together by the end of this year. He will be packing his bags and moving across the country to live with me and my two teenage children. I'm having second thoughts...
A. 28 August 2017: Have you talked to him?
Maybe it would make more sense for him to MOVE to your town but NOT live with you at first. Though I'd say after 5 years, it's about time that ONE of you make a "move" a PHYSICAL move.
What exactly is that you worry a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my friends took advantage of me.
Q. Hello Everyone! Just wanted some insight on this situation. Last night, my boyfriend and I had friends over (my friend and his girlfriend) to watch the Game of Thrones season finale. I cooked a lot more than my boyfriend thought I should have but ...
A. 28 August 2017: Maybe they left because they felt the animosity from your BF? Sounds like he really doesn't like your friend (or like that you HAVE friends).
As for whether they should stay to clean, I say no. If they were INVITED guests there is NO obligati... (read in full...)
My friend drunkenly ranted into my voicemail. Do I call him or wait for him to contact me?
Q. So last night I was sat alone minding my own business when I received two phone calls , both left voicemails from a good friend of mine. He has helped me through a lot of relationship problems, he has made it clear he fancies me but he knows th...
A. 28 August 2017: I would NOT contact him at all. IF he does call/text/contact you I would demand an explanation and I would also let him know that you are NOT stringing him along and if THAT is how he feels the best solutions is to totally cut the contact.
After... (read in full...)
How do I fix this verbally abusive relationship?
Q. Hi, I'm really am confused by my relationship. I am 27 and my boyfriends 29. I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years. It's not been an easy four years tbh. When we met I just finished university. He was living with his parents, getting...
A. 28 August 2017: How do you fix it?
Next time he threatens to leave - show him the door.
Or even better, end it BEFORE he threatens to leave.
This is NOT a good or healthy relationship. You CAN NOT "make" him stop being abusive. THIS is who he is. The only o... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my b/f is into men. What are some signs to look for?
Q. What are some of the signs that a guy is gay or likes men on the down low? I caught my bfs watching shemale porn. I looked into it and found the mostly straight guys watch that type of porn. He also has a friend who is gay, he said that he didn't ...
A. 27 August 2017: Have you talked to him about the lack of sex?
I think it is a HUGE leap to decide that your BF could be gay or bisexual because YOU TWO don't have a sex life.
He could also be asexual, it could be a medical issue or that he isn't attracted ... (read in full...)
Barmaid I like who I'm friends with has gone off me because of other friends stirring
Q. A female called lorna who fancied me at school was really into me, but I wasn't into her as much, as back then I wasn't into girls, not because I was gay but they were more trouble than they were worth. I recently saw her again at a working ...
A. 27 August 2017: How do you know that her friend told her untrue things?
And secondly, Lorna is a grown woman and IF she has decided to "unfriend" you on social media then you act like an equally grow man and ACCEPT it.
If the "pal" of her told her untrue stuff... (read in full...)
Is it ever ok for your boyfriend to insinuate that you're fat? Feeling hurt and ashamed, how do I react?
Q. Hey guys :-) I was just hoping for some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I think of myself as a really good girlfriend to him. When we first got together we were both in very good shape. However over the years we've both put w...
A. 27 August 2017: I absolutely agree with YouWish,
You were both getting "fat" (as you put it) and he has actually done something about it and maybe he thinks by NOT sugar coating his answers to you, he hopes YOU will get your butt in gear and get healthy as well.... (read in full...)
My LDR says we are just prolonging the inevitable end.
Q. I have been in an LDR for 8 years, and in that 8 years, we have only been physically together for a total time of 3 months on 4 occasions. The rest of the time has been spent talking almost daily on video skype and various chat apps. In recent...
A. 27 August 2017: Wow, 8 YEARS?! in an LDR?
That is insane! And (sorry) a waste of time. And LRD only REALLY works when there is an "end" in sight where the two people get to start an ACTUAL life together in the same geographical area. And usually, if that doesn't ... (read in full...)
What is your interpretation when a guy says that you are what he needs in a relationship, but he is scared that he is not what you need?
Q. What is your interpretation when a guy says that you are what he needs in a relationship, but he is scared that he is not what you need? His interpretation of need is that the girl is stable, respectable and knows what she wants in life and how to ...
A. 27 August 2017: I agree fully with N91,
You dodged a bullet. He is FULL of shit.
I say cut him off, block, remove, delete and MOVE on. There is no need to keep this guy in your life. He isn't a friend and he will never be your BF. All he will do is waste time... (read in full...)
I'm shocked at being ghosted by him! How did you get over a situation like this? Advice?
Q. Hello everyone After 3.5 years of a LTR, my ex dumped me over the phone because he said it would be easier and that his mind was made up. He said he didn't want to see me upset or risk going back on his decision. The only thing he kept saying w...
A. 27 August 2017: I have to agree with Auntie Cindy.
He knows being "friends" wouldn't work as there are still a lot of mutual feelings. For both of you to be able to move on "faster" or "easier" he chose to end it over the phone and then CUT all contact. It's wha... (read in full...)
Broke up with girlfriend after her dad died, what should I do now?
Q. Hi, So.. I was with my girlfriend for 3 years and her Dad died about 7 months or so before we broke up. She wasn't close to her dad and hadn't seen him in years. She called me up when it first happened and I told her I was sorry etc and told h...
A. 27 August 2017: I would advise you to cut off ALL communications so you BOTH can move on.
She DOES probably need some kind of therapy to deal with her issues but that is on her, not you.
She isn't in a good spot for either friendship or a relationship wit... (read in full...)
When my boyfriend makes sarcastic comments how should I react?
Q. When my boyfriend makes sarcastic comments how should I react? Recently I asked if I looked fat in some new jeans and he replied "No fatter than usual!!" and then laughed and hugged me. I know its a classic "Does my bum look big on this"? question ...
A. 27 August 2017: Is it because you think he is being mean and hiding it by using sarcasm?
Because I'm pretty sarcastic all around but I TRY and avoid misunderstandings. For me? Sarcasm is good humor that doesn't mean everyone else enjoys it. I get that.
I think... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to snitch to his girlfriend?
Q. On Friday night I met up with my ex BF from last year. He has a new GF but we met up and hooked up. I know it was wrong but he persued me. Now he has asked me to keep quiet about it and gone back to his life as though nothing has happened. He sped ...
A. 25 August 2017: I don't see what good would come of telling her.
It's not like you want to tell her because you want her to know what a dick he is, after all, you had no problem SLEEPING with said dick KNOWING he had a GF.
Best you can do about this situa... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stays friends with his ex because she has no friends and he feels sorry for her
Q. Hello, I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now. We are ok – meaning, we talked about moving in together after my lease expire; Him buying me an engagement ring; He helps me pay my rent every month; I have access to his phone and I have...
A. 25 August 2017: I don't know why you put yourself through this?
He keeps going back to her out of pity? And when it doesn't work out with her he goes back to you.
You are dating a yo-yo not a future partner.
How many times is it going to take before you... (read in full...)
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