I'm annoyed about his contradictory comments about not wanting children but not using birth control with his exes!
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for three months and in general we get on well. But one thing that keeps cropping up is his exes. The other evening the subject of children were brought up (he hasn't got any). He told me that he had not used ...
A. 16 August 2017: I think it speaks to a couple of really unattractive traits in him.
1. carelessness about birth control. He didn't want kids with these women YET he didn't take ANY steps to prevent kids. That is careless AND stupid.
2. presuming that h... (read in full...)
He's a sweet person except when he's turned on!
Q. Dear Cupid(s), I am very confused. At the beginning of the year I met a guy and things seemed to be going really well. Both of us were virgins, and when we finally had sex it felt like that became all our entire relationship was about. I started...
A. 16 August 2017: I absolutely agree with YouWish. I couldn't have said it better.
I just wanted to add that I think the two of you NEED to spend more time together IN public where the time spent together is about building a deeper connection, and more contact ... (read in full...)
How do I curb his frantic sex?
Q. I currently started dating this new guy and everything is going great only problem is that he is insatiable. We have only been on two dates and we have spent both nights together however the first night we just made out and I spent the night th...
A. 16 August 2017: I think your issue is that you don't know how to set boundaries.
YOU tell a guy no, then it doesn't mean "that I will give in sooner or later" - NO. That is him saying that he doesn't RESPECT you saying no. That he can "make" a no mean yes.
... (read in full...)
Is my husband pretending?
Q. Sorry in advance if too much information! My husband and myself were having sex last night, usually he closes his eyes during sex, which used to bother me but he said it was just concentration on the pleasurable sensations, so it doesnt bother me...
A. 16 August 2017: I agree with Code Warrior,
I don't think he lied when he says he is concentrating. Yes, some people fantasize during sex, some don't. I do think it is more likely that he is actually self-conscious more than him fantasizing.
And sorry, OP... (read in full...)
My best friend's new boyfriend is my former FWB
Q. Hi I had a FWB for 6 months the sex was amazing I just got out of a long term relationship and he just enjoyed being single I didn't feel anything for him other than friends and him with me I started texting someone who I genuinely liked and it s...
A. 15 August 2017: Awkward!
Honestly? I wouldn't tell. UNLESS she brings him up (with the name) then you could say Oh I knew a guy called so and so a couple of years ago, small world.
Unless HE gave you an STD or you gave HIM one - why would you have to DISCLOSE... (read in full...)
I got back with my ex but I am struggling!
Q. Hi everyone! Would I please able to get some opinions on my situation. I was with my ex boyfriend for almost a year we got on very well and had a pretty good relationship. Although towards the end we began arguing and bickering over differen...
A. 15 August 2017: It could happen again. It could be YOU dumping him next time, who knows?
But dating someone and just sit and wait for the "other shoe to drop" it's not healthy. It sounds anxious and toxic.
Usually getting back with an ex is a disaster waiting... (read in full...)
I cant break up with her because she threatens self harm.
Q. Hi, So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years total now with some time in between here and there. I've been on the fence about breaking up with her for the entirety of this summer but I haven't been able to act on it because she is s...
A. 14 August 2017: The best thing you can do for YOU (and in a backward manner for HER too) is to break up.
You can't LIVE your life if you are in constant fear that anything you say or do will escalate into her threatening or try to commit suicide.
Most people w... (read in full...)
My best friend's boyfriend tells me he loves me.
Q. So my best friend's boyfriend likes me and her and I like him as well. I feel horrible for liking him even though I liked him before they started going out. He says we should just wait even though he keeps telling me he loves me. I don't know what ...
A. 13 August 2017: How good of a friend IS your best friend? Is she someone you trust with everything (more or less) someone you have known for ages, someone you "love" like a sister?
IF so, consider HOW you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and YOU were... (read in full...)
I'm still friends with an ex and my new girlfriend gets jealous!
Q. I've been with my new girlfriend for six month's, my ex am still friends with,she babysits my granddaughter, if she needs help I help her like today, I have a pickup, she bought a big snowblower, so I pick it up for her, I help other friends too, my ...
A. 13 August 2017: I agree.
You need to consider your new GF's feelings whether you AGREE with them or not.
Have you INTRODUCED the new GF to the old ex-gf? If not... why not? it might lessen the drama.
And you need to consider that you running around being... (read in full...)
Things were perfect then he began to change. Should I break up with him?
Q. My relationship was perfect with my boyfriend.and then things began to change..he doesnt go down on me when we have sex and making excuses saying the odour coming from my vagina smells terible when we have sex and thats the reason he cant.and ...
A. 12 August 2017: Is there an odor?
IF so it could be a clue that something isn't doing great in your vagina, like a bacterial infection, yeast infection or what have you. So if YOU notice a difference in odor, go see your doctor.
Having sex without condoms ... (read in full...)
Is my sister trying to control everything realating to our ageing parents!
Q. Is this my younger sisters way of being in control of things, ie about my ageing parents? Im the oldest Younger bro and sis who have families, I have noone, no family or partner Parents are 70 and 74, active and ok health, live indep...
A. 12 August 2017: Just send flowers from YOU? That you have paid for. Same with presents, send them DIRECTLY to your parents.
Does it mean she wants to take control? No necessarily. She might want to stand out as the SUPER caring child compared to you and your bro... (read in full...)
Wife won't share "our" car. Is she being unfair?
Q. My wife doesn't work and hasn't for years despite us not having any kids. She quit her last job with my blessings. It was worth it to me just to not have to listen to her complain about it and I make a decent income such that she doesn't have to ...
A. 12 August 2017: I agree with Auntie Cindy who suggested that IF she wants the car for the day, SHE can get up WITH you and take you to work and pick you up after work UNTIL the other car is fixed or replaced.
And I also agree with YouWish that you NEED to have ... (read in full...)
Having sex all the time is really putting me off having sex
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together about seven months now. Things are kosher for the most part with a few small arguments here and there. One of the few things about the relationship that bother me is his sex drive. When we started dating I ...
A. 12 August 2017: This is a hard one - no pun intended.
You YOURSELF set the "bar" in the beginning by NOT following your OWN standard, but "trying" to be someone you are not. This whole "trying to be the best GF ever!!" is RARELY a good thing for the girl. Be... (read in full...)
Each time I nearly had sex I pulled back .... now we have split up!
Q. Hi, Me and my now ex boyfriend broke up and it was a very hard decision for us to make because we love each other very much...We met about four months ago at work and we've been together for a month and a half before our break up. Everythi...
A. 11 August 2017: I absolutely agree with Auntie Cindy,
He is filling you with BS. He wants a relationship that includes sex, nothing strange in that. But he didn't break up because he cares OH so extra deeply for you. He ended it because you are just not ready fo... (read in full...)
A one time encounter has caused my friend to be standoffish. Do I contact him on his birthday?
Q. Hey all I'm in need of some advice. I crushed on one of my friends for about 3 years, i'm gay and he's bi but not out to many. He had girlfriends for most of that time but one day they were about to split and after a night out we were on our own ...
A. 11 August 2017: I agree with the others - leave him be.
If you haven't talked or seen each other in person in 2 years it because HE doesn't want to.
Move on. I think you want to wish him happy birthday for your own reasons, to rekindle some kind of connecti... (read in full...)
Why is this former FWB guy contacting me?
Q. Why would a guy clearly delete my number and then pop up asking for it again? Hi, so I'm currently 18 and last year me and my guyfriend of nearly two years had sex. He took my virginity and we had sex a few times but as friends. I know, I should'v...
A. 11 August 2017: Yep, I'm on the "he just wants to see if you are up for some casual sex" team as well.
the reason you go such mixed signals from him in the past was probably that he didn't entirely knew what you wanted. If he had REALLY wanted a relation... (read in full...)
How do I make my wrong turn right?
Q. Hello i have another question connected to the one i asked earlier , about Reason(s) from Decent man. Shall i message her and say I Really like you a lot . And i am not after ( you know what ) As i am a Decent man ( which is what she ...
A. 11 August 2017: If she didn't want a second date, accept it. That doesn't mean YOU did something "wrong" per se.
It just means that SHE didn't feel any chemistry or saw you as a good potential match. You bending over backward is not going to change her mind. An... (read in full...)
He seems a lovely guy but could I be missing something?
Q. I have been communicating steadily with a man I met online now for around 6 months, but we have been also interacting on message boards now for more like 8 months. Things have progressed to us both being seriously interested in seeing if we could ...
A. 10 August 2017: Honestly? I would just take this VERY slowly.
Yes, I do think it's odd that he has such a limited experience with women and I wonder what's really up with that. Being shy, lack of self-confidence and social skills, however, CAN be the reason. ... (read in full...)
When its good its great but right now its bad.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for roughly four months. It's long distance so things have gotten intense pretty quickly! We were planning to move in together but I felt it was too soon so I told him how I felt. Since then things have not been ...
A. 10 August 2017: OP,
This is a "textbook" toxic relationship. My advice? PAY him back ASAP and then break up and block him.
You are LDR now and he is being a total dick to you, how do you think things will be if you live together? NOT better!!
He w... (read in full...)
Married co-worker I'm having an affair with is now ignoring me
Q. Im a married woman who has been having a fling if you call it that with a married co-worker. Now that weve slept together hes been ignoring my texts yet still speaks to me in work like nothing has happened.( a week ago) Im so confused by this. Im ...
A. 10 August 2017: I agree with Ciar,
He is having second thoughts, regrets or... he got caught. So all he wants now is to keep it professional as co-workers. He doesn't want to jeopardize his position OR his marriage.
So LEAVE him alone. You played with fire... (read in full...)
What to do with my cheating friend?
Q. One of my girlfriends whom I have been friend for a year has had the tendency to sleep with men that are taken or take men from our circle - example one of our other gfs liked this guy at the bar and started talking to him- apparently he also liked ...
A. 10 August 2017: Should you talk to her?
About what? Her lack of morals and common sense?
She knows what she is doing is trashy. But SHE gets something out of it. Be it the "thrill" of thinking that she is "better" than another woman by "taking" the oth... (read in full...)
I am trying to get over her betrayal so why is she driving past my house?
Q. Hi aunties, My long term partner left me 18 months ago for another man who she is still with. As far as I was concerned the relationship is over and there is no need to stay in touch. Every few months though she makes an effort to get in contact w...
A. 10 August 2017: I absolutely get that it hurts being betrayed and cheated on. Been there done that. (been cheated on, that is)
It took me a good while to get over it as well. Coming to the conclusion that it wasn't my fault or because of me my partner cheated,... (read in full...)
My brother is about to be taken for a ride by an online Romanian stripper!
Q. My older brother is marrying a 21 year old stripper from Romania to bring her to the US. He met her on a webcam girl site. It is likely a romance/green card scam. He is really in a mid life crisis (48) and this is totally out of character for him. ...
A. 10 August 2017: Yikes.
I think it's already been said so well by the aunties and uncles that I can't add much.
Your brother is 48, so OLD enough to know "better". However, he will not find a Romanian girl meek or more obedient than an average American one. Th... (read in full...)
I blurted out I LOVE YOU to my married boyfriend. Why does he still want to be with me?
Q. I told my married boyfriend of 3.5 years that I LOVE HIM yesterday. It just came out. I did not mean to say it but I did. He was asking me why do I stay with a guy like him? He called himself average, boring, not so attractive yet said I am ...
A. 9 August 2017: Preach, YouWish!... (read in full...)
I've set boundaries on how much "help" I give my boyfriend and he doesn't like it!
Q. Am I a hypocrite? Am I mean? I know for a fact I'm confused. My bf and I were recently laid off and have 60 days to find a new job. I've already updated my res and applied to 6 places. I have even looked for jobs my bf could apply to and hav...
A. 9 August 2017: Sorry OP,
EDIT
I wrote:
It would be fair for YOU to take on the WHOLE burden of an income while HE gets to "play" games online hoping to make money.
It should have read:
It wouldn't be fair for YOU to take on the WHOLE burden of a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has his exes as friends on facebook.
Q. Is it okay for your partner to have exes on Facebook? I have an issue with my boyfriend having a woman he and his wife had a threesome with a few years ago (they are no longer together) being on his friend list. He also has an ex who had an abortion ...
A. 9 August 2017: Sorry anon,
A GROWN man should know better himself, it shouldn't BE the GF/wife/partner's job to "remove the temptation".
Nor is life that simple. A guy with blurred lines and boundaries is NOT going to stop being who he is (especially at t... (read in full...)
I've set boundaries on how much "help" I give my boyfriend and he doesn't like it!
Q. Am I a hypocrite? Am I mean? I know for a fact I'm confused. My bf and I were recently laid off and have 60 days to find a new job. I've already updated my res and applied to 6 places. I have even looked for jobs my bf could apply to and hav...
A. 9 August 2017: Relationships are ideally 50/50 (or 100/100) but in reality, it's hard to compare and make everything "even".
I do think though, that BOTH people in the relationship should contribute in whatever form they can.
It's about finding a groove... (read in full...)
Savings for our house keep getting taken away by Mum in law
Q. Hi cupids... I'm in a bit of difficulty at the moment and don't know if I'm being selfish...me and my boyfriend live together at his mums at the moment.. we are trying to save to buy a house together.. my boyfriends mum lost her job a few months ...
A. 9 August 2017: Also, OP
Consider renting a room away from her house. I think it would be cheaper in the long run and with less drama.
If you don't want to do that, SIT down with her and make a budget. Separate your bank accounts and come to a WRITTEN agreemen... (read in full...)
I blurted out I LOVE YOU to my married boyfriend. Why does he still want to be with me?
Q. I told my married boyfriend of 3.5 years that I LOVE HIM yesterday. It just came out. I did not mean to say it but I did. He was asking me why do I stay with a guy like him? He called himself average, boring, not so attractive yet said I am ...
A. 9 August 2017: I think on some level he cares for you as well. After 3.5 years he HAS invested at least some emotions. So knowing that you LOVE him is not a scary thing unless it came with a "LEAVE your wife or else!!"
As long as the "ILY" doesn't come with a d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied about his ongoing involvment with his ex.
Q. Hi, When i met my partner he was still having his ex round his house watching films, going out, and going on holiday, all of this he lied about. We split up a year later and he was trying to find a house near his ex and he contacted her stra...
A. 9 August 2017: Sounds like you dodged a bullet and that you OUGHT to cut him out of your life 100%.
Block his number, stop talking to him. Like Auntie BimBim said, if he shows up, don't let him in or talk to him.
He is obviously NOT over his ex and NOT ready... (read in full...)
I've set boundaries on how much "help" I give my boyfriend and he doesn't like it!
Q. Am I a hypocrite? Am I mean? I know for a fact I'm confused. My bf and I were recently laid off and have 60 days to find a new job. I've already updated my res and applied to 6 places. I have even looked for jobs my bf could apply to and hav...
A. 9 August 2017: Splitting chores are reasonable. So if you are both not working, it should easily be a 50/50.
Him thinking that because you have ovaries you should cook for him, it's an outdated look at relationships.
If you already take care of the larger sh... (read in full...)
Should I leave my job to go work with my Ex boss, who I'm sleeping with?
Q. I need some work related advice!! Back in March, I was working for a car dealership that I loved! But my GM, We'll call him X, ended up quitting and went to work at another dealership.. It's important to mention that the night he quit, we had se...
A. 9 August 2017: I'd consider that charge as a warning sign and stay away.
If you aren't happy with your current job look for a job elsewhere, NOT where he is at.... (read in full...)
Savings for our house keep getting taken away by Mum in law
Q. Hi cupids... I'm in a bit of difficulty at the moment and don't know if I'm being selfish...me and my boyfriend live together at his mums at the moment.. we are trying to save to buy a house together.. my boyfriends mum lost her job a few months ...
A. 9 August 2017: You should keep YOUR saving separate! You are not married and should NOT mix your savings or income in a bank account.
And yes, you should ask for money back that you lent her. And stop lending her anymore.
How is 600 not enough to pay yo... (read in full...)
I ended the affair but he keeps contacting me
Q. I have been involved with a married man for over 5 years....he said he's in a sexless marriage and his wife doesn't show him any affection....he can't leave her yet as he feels he would be abandoning his kids even though they are in their late ...
A. 9 August 2017: Block him or change your number.
And next time, date a single fella. At least a single fella won't rub his wife in your face and vice verse.... (read in full...)
Is it strange to be 'vetted' by your partners family?
Q. Does anyone else think this is a little odd, basically I am in a new relationship with a lovely woman and she has told me that a certain person that she knows (I don't know if it is a family member or friend) has 'vetted' me to make sure I am who I ...
A. 9 August 2017: Do I think it's strange? Not really. Call me jaded but there are so many people who lie about who they are and their status (married, dating or single) until the relationship is in full swing.
My BIL was dating someone (another crazy woman...... (read in full...)
I've set boundaries on how much "help" I give my boyfriend and he doesn't like it!
Q. Am I a hypocrite? Am I mean? I know for a fact I'm confused. My bf and I were recently laid off and have 60 days to find a new job. I've already updated my res and applied to 6 places. I have even looked for jobs my bf could apply to and hav...
A. 9 August 2017: Who is right?
Well, I think YOU are right in saying, it's TIME you get off your ass and DO the work yourself. It isn't your responsibility to do this for him. If you have already helped him twice he should have paid attention and figured out how ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has his exes as friends on facebook.
Q. Is it okay for your partner to have exes on Facebook? I have an issue with my boyfriend having a woman he and his wife had a threesome with a few years ago (they are no longer together) being on his friend list. He also has an ex who had an abortion ...
A. 9 August 2017: Yes, I think you are being unreasonable in thinking YOU can demand who is on his Facebook and who isn't allowed.
If the conversations he is having (on Facebook) with these women are inappropriate don't date him. If he spends a lot of time cha... (read in full...)
Should I leave my job to go work with my Ex boss, who I'm sleeping with?
Q. I need some work related advice!! Back in March, I was working for a car dealership that I loved! But my GM, We'll call him X, ended up quitting and went to work at another dealership.. It's important to mention that the night he quit, we had se...
A. 9 August 2017: What kind of charges?
Yikes!... (read in full...)
I regret oversharing my private life
Q. What do here? I feel I may have "overshared" at work telling a few people I am having surgery in the next 2 months. I have told a few people 9 (not everyone..! there are 20 others who don't know and wont...) I am having surgery soon, and I need...
A. 8 August 2017: OP, you know oversharing would be?
If you told co-workers where you are in your cycle or how sore you are after getting a new BF. THAT would be awkward for others and definitely TMI and oversharing.
So relax, it's OK to talk about what's goi... (read in full...)
I don't want to meet a woman my boyfriend fancies! Your advice?
Q. When I had been dating my partner for a couple of months he showed me his old school friend's facebook page who had just married. He said his friend'a wife is so attractive and and he thought he was punching above his weight when they were dating. I ...
A. 8 August 2017: OP, you don't sound demented just insecure.
If you want compliments from your Bf, try and give him one or two. See if he picks up on that. And it's also OK to tell him, you know, I wish you would compliment me occasionally.
But really you don't... (read in full...)
My love interest is ill .... is it worth waiting for him?
Q. I am in my 30s and my love interest is in his 40s but we are just friends. I haven't seen him in a long time and have seen recently that his health is bad. He struggles to walk, has asthma and drinks. He randomly said to me he would not be able to ...
A. 8 August 2017: To put it bluntly, he is not even a fixer upper, he is a condemned building that is falling down around him.
He struggles to walk and he drinks those are two pretty tough things to deal with. The struggling to walk might BE due to other medical ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my job to go work with my Ex boss, who I'm sleeping with?
Q. I need some work related advice!! Back in March, I was working for a car dealership that I loved! But my GM, We'll call him X, ended up quitting and went to work at another dealership.. It's important to mention that the night he quit, we had se...
A. 8 August 2017: Are you still sleeping with him?
If so ASK him if he still wants you to apply for a job there.
However, it might NOT be in your best interest (like people have told you in ALL your other posts with this same question) to work with a boss who ... (read in full...)
I regret oversharing my private life
Q. What do here? I feel I may have "overshared" at work telling a few people I am having surgery in the next 2 months. I have told a few people 9 (not everyone..! there are 20 others who don't know and wont...) I am having surgery soon, and I need...
A. 8 August 2017: Eh, don't sweat the little things OP.
It's not uncommon for people to share such news because they are worried, anxious or even excited.
As long as you don't go on and on and on about it, it's all good. There will be other stuff to talk ab... (read in full...)
I don't want to meet a woman my boyfriend fancies! Your advice?
Q. When I had been dating my partner for a couple of months he showed me his old school friend's facebook page who had just married. He said his friend'a wife is so attractive and and he thought he was punching above his weight when they were dating. I ...
A. 7 August 2017: So what? Are you now going to avoid any female he thinks is attractive?
Why?
She might be a super great person. Who knows you might even make a friend in her. So why be petty? Because she is prettier than you?
OP, there will ALWAYS be peo... (read in full...)
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