Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 31 July 2017: Good for you OP!
Learn from this. TRUST a person for their actions and deeds not just for what they say and promise.
It will get better. And you WILL (hopefully) stop beating yourself up.
Better luck next time!
Chin up - enjoy life!... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy who's rather pushy and doesn't want to compromise on even the smallest of things
Q. There's this guy I have been dating and he is overall wonderful. However, he's done things here and there that has shown me that maybe he can't really compromise. Once, we went dancing at a restaurant with a live band. We had a great time had s...
A. 29 July 2017: The light and dancing are really MINOR issues compared to removing the condom. READY up on "stealthing" like Code Warrior mentioned. It's disgusting!
And a guy at 38? Why should he change? he does EXACTLY as HE wants with NO regard for you and ... (read in full...)
I'm hurting terribly after a break up. Any advice on how to feel better?
Q. Hi everyone, I was involved with a guy for about a year. It didn't work out because he couldn't commit to me and last week I found out he'd actually been in love with someone else when he met me. I made the decision last week to cut contac...
A. 28 July 2017: Of course, you still miss him. A break up doesn't mean your emotions are erased and vanish overnight.
It's normal to feel conflicted.
You know (logically) that it wasn't going to work because HE was not willing to commit and already interest... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy who's rather pushy and doesn't want to compromise on even the smallest of things
Q. There's this guy I have been dating and he is overall wonderful. However, he's done things here and there that has shown me that maybe he can't really compromise. Once, we went dancing at a restaurant with a live band. We had a great time had s...
A. 28 July 2017: I'm sorry YOU have to decide whether these behaviors are NOT OK or OK with you.
Personally, I agree you could have told him, NO I need a breather from dancing, let's just sit - if he refused YOU walked your butt back to your chair. IT IS OK to sa... (read in full...)
My husband is trying to bully, control, manipulate and isolate me! Help!
Q. I have recently got married again and gradully my husband is imposing boundaries and when i challenge these he becomes incredibly angry to the point of screaming, telling me i'm stupin and running down my friends and family. He is now tell8ng me my ...
A. 28 July 2017: So you know the signs and you know that logically you should leave or kick him out, right?
Are you asking for "how to fix him" - "change him"?
Or what your next step should be?
You know he is NOT going to change. You know you can't fix h... (read in full...)
He walks out but swears he loves me. Please advise
Q. I need some help please,my boyfriend is living with me but he has left me 3 times now,the First and second time I begged his mother and sister to get him. He came home on both occasions but for some reason he's done it again only this time I've ...
A. 27 July 2017: Don't take him back. You might care for him, he might claim to care for you but he is NOT in his right mind to date anyone, AT ALL.
What you have together is not healthy, it's not stable and he IS right when he says he isn't GOOD for you.
... (read in full...)
Should my boyfriend accept his team leader's offer of money?
Q. My boyfriend started his job about seven months ago and his team leader at work fancys him a bit but knows about me, however she's offered to give him 50 quid towards a pair of trainers, now to ms I feel he shouldn't except this offer because she ...
A. 27 July 2017: Should he accept?
No. He should thank her for her kind offer and inform her that he will save UP for items he needs.
He isn't a kid, he has a job. He doesn't NEED his team leader to buy him stuff. She isn't his mom.
Maybe she IS trying t... (read in full...)
Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 27 July 2017: Nope, he doesn't need the shorts at all...
All you can do now OP, is learn from this. People can say "I love you" and still be a dick.
... (read in full...)
My married lover has been conflicted lately. What is next?
Q. Hi. I'm not looking to be judged. I am just looking for some good, sound advice as this situation is not one you can discuss openly. And as happy as it can be, it can also be difficult and very painful. I am not sure how to address this. I hope you ...
A. 27 July 2017: What I just don't get with you OP is this odd double standard that you seem to be OK with.
You write:" If I ever felt the need to be with another man at any time, I would leave my boyfriend first." So you hold yourself to a fairly high moral st... (read in full...)
My husband is always looking for an excuse to drink
Q. hi, my husband is always looking for an excuse to drink when ever he gets back from work. He said drinking makes him relaxed I decided him to pick wine instead of beer. Because he already got beer belly coming out. Do you think this is the right ...
A. 27 July 2017: You know people still get "fat" from wine, right? It's the alcohol that makes you fat not just beer.
How much is he drinking? Can he go days, weeks without?
How does the drinking affect you?
And honestly? Why would you "pick" what he shoul... (read in full...)
Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 26 July 2017: I would just put his shorts in a bag and hang it on his door.
After that? I'd simply block his number and then delete it. There is no point in trying to figure him out. You are seeing a bit more of what kind of guy he is. Not really getting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I both have anger issues but should I forgive him?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together a year and we were going very strong, and madly in love. Only recently has our relationship deteriorated. First off I have trust issues, have done for many years after awful relationships before. At the star...
A. 26 July 2017: I think you should end it and focus on yourself and YOUR issues.
He can't fix the bad experiences you had in your past. That is for YOU to deal with. Accusing him of misdoings IS NOT going to STOP him from doing bad things NOR is it helping ... (read in full...)
He seemed to ask a lot of questions about my income!
Q. Dear Cupid; I'm in my 50's and unfortunately back in the dating world after my husband passed away years ago. I recently went on a meet and greet and the man asked me what year my car was, if I owned or rented, how big was my house. H...
A. 26 July 2017: I ABSOLUTELY agree with WiseOwlE here.
No no no. He is NOT entitled to that information on a simple meet & greet. Are you kidding?
It is OK for you to say that is not something you wish to discuss with a STRANGER. There are other ways to ge... (read in full...)
Do you know why he's not taking the initiative to contact me? What should I do?
Q. I'm working overseas and have been here for a little over a month. The first few weeks my boyfriend and I were emailing each other and everything was fine. He was frustrated that it took me almost a month to get my phone connected to be able to call ...
A. 26 July 2017: Schedule Skype/Facetime "dates" (once a week) and other than that... STICK to texting that way HE is safe when driving and have no RELA reason to get so pissy with you.
I would also send him some goofy postcards. It's easy to do - you buy 10, and ... (read in full...)
Should I end things with him? Or just go with the flow?
Q. Thank you for for your hellp. ... not sure what to do at this point regarding my situation but any suggestions will help. What happened is that I've known this guy at work for about 4 years and we've talked as co-workers/friends all this time in ...
A. 25 July 2017:
You said he is single and he has a GF... that doesn't really make sense. Either he is SINGLE or he is NOT.
He wasn't single. He was/is in an LDR and SHE is pregnant. Why on EARTH would you get involved in drama like that? And with someone you... (read in full...)
Which expression is more of a compliment?
Q. I'm just wanting opinions on the difference between the terms of "amazing woman" - "awesome chicky" and "chicky babe". For example, is there certain levels of intimacy involved in calling a girl this when you are interested, if you are interested? ...
A. 25 July 2017: I don't think terms of endearment or cutesy nicknames mean squat in the bigger picture. It certainly doesn't mean a certain level of interest depending on the term used. It all depends on the situation, the guy the woman, the mood.
Like WiseOwlE... (read in full...)
My ex played me, I'm pregnant and now very hurt and confused
Q. My boyfriend of about a year and 3 months broke up. It's been a long distance relationship since he's in the navy but he's only 5 hours away so we did get to see each other when we could. So this guy was the love of my life I pictured my who future ...
A. 25 July 2017: Can you afford a child? AS A SINGLE mom. Yes, they Navy will doc his pay but it can take up to a year with the whole paternity testing etc. BECAUSE you two are NOT married.
Do you REALLY want a child right now? And do you REALLY want a child th... (read in full...)
Which expression is more of a compliment?
Q. I'm just wanting opinions on the difference between the terms of "amazing woman" - "awesome chicky" and "chicky babe". For example, is there certain levels of intimacy involved in calling a girl this when you are interested, if you are interested? ...
A. 25 July 2017: I don't think they necessarily mean 3 different things or are different compliments. Or that one is more intimate than another.
I say that because they come from 3 different men. IF they were from one man they might mean different things. If that ... (read in full...)
He's fun but I'm feeling used
Q. Hi everyone. This divorced - with - 2 - kids guy I met described himself as financially comfortable but I am always paying and he says he 'would pay if he could/ will pay next time/when a big deal comes through? When I asked whether he would...
A. 25 July 2017: Then stop seeing him? Or suggest you pay for yourselves. No one is saying you HAVE to pay. My guess is he knows you are too polite to tell him to pay for himself.
If you are feeling used, it's up to you to nip THAT in the bud.
He sounds lik... (read in full...)
What now? We were hanging out together a lot and I got her free lift tickets and helped her get gear!
Q. I have been hanging out with a girl for 6 months. I moved to town a year ago and was looking to meet new people.. so I come along and offer to take her skiing. Help her get gear, free tickets and we go. Skied a couple of times hang out and life is ...
A. 24 July 2017: Doing things out of the kindness of heart is nice, but that is NOT what you describe in your post.
Especially not when your follow up says:
"I don't think it is unreasonable to ask to spend one Saturday doing something together like hiking or wa... (read in full...)
Should I be worried by his behaviour?
Q. Hello. I need your help to figure out if you think my boyfriend cheated. Let me begin by saying that he is in touch with me several times a day. But yesterday he behaved unlike the norm. We talked before bed on Saturday night. All was fine. I ...
A. 24 July 2017: I think he just seriously needed a ME-day.
Yes, it would have been grand if he had texted/called and told you, but then he might have gotten a lot of "what is wrong?" "Did I do anything wrong?" texts.
Not hearing from a partner for a day, it's ... (read in full...)
Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 24 July 2017: So you basically called him out on suggesting that you invite him over and cook for him and when the day came he just ignored the pre-arranged date? Am I getting it right?
So instead of him calling and canceling he just disappeared for the day?... (read in full...)
Will he contact me?
Q. So I've been dating a guy for 6+ months. We told each other that we love one another. He has asked me to invite him over for dinner. Well the day came and he never showed up. I texted him and no response. I called him and he hung up. The next day he ...
A. 24 July 2017: I'd say no.
If he got his boxers in a twist over some text (you didn't mention WHAT you said so I can't say if he totally overreacted or not...) I wouldn't hold my breath that this is going to work out.
Quite honestly? Seemed like he used tha... (read in full...)
What now? We were hanging out together a lot and I got her free lift tickets and helped her get gear!
Q. I have been hanging out with a girl for 6 months. I moved to town a year ago and was looking to meet new people.. so I come along and offer to take her skiing. Help her get gear, free tickets and we go. Skied a couple of times hang out and life is ...
A. 24 July 2017: I think you should let her go.
Doing things for women in HOPES that they will date you is not working out for you. It's a little underhanded too if you ask me. Sorry, fixing her car and buying her stuff doesn't mean she owes you squat. She isn'... (read in full...)
He asked and asked me so many times for pictures of me. Finally I sent one. I feel so scared that I did this. What should I do?
Q. So I'm 13. One day my best guy friend asked for pictures of me in a sports bra. Well I told him no and he asked and asked and kept asking. I've took pictures like that before (Not sexual) making sure not to show anything. Well It was 2:30 am and ...
A. 23 July 2017: Just remember OP
YOU don't owe ANYONE naked or semi naked pictures of you. NO ONE.
And saying NO to people - it IS OK!! I do it every day! :) I have enforced that in my kids as well ( I have 2 teenage daughters) and they are pretty good at i... (read in full...)
Is this guy lying about his wifey situation?
Q. I met a guy online and started seeing him. Before I started seeing him he took down his profile as he said he found it demoralising. He told me he was separated, had been for 9 yrs. said he hadn't divorced because he wife had gotten a boyfrie...
A. 23 July 2017: Honestly? I would just block him and move on.
9 years of separation and not a divorce? That is ridiculous but it also GIVES him (and her) an excuse to NOT fully commit to the next person. He can't marry you, he can't fully commit as he has an a... (read in full...)
How do I know if he really wants a relationship?
Q. I've been dating a guy for the past 2 months. He is one of the most interesting people I have ever met we talk daily and see each other once/twice a week. We ended up having sex a little early on I think it was the 4th date and it was mind blow...
A. 23 July 2017: I say tell him.
Tell him you want to keep sex out of the picture till you both feel that there is a foundation for a relationship because THAT is what you are looking for. I'd also make sure you explain that it's not about "punishing" anyone f... (read in full...)
He asked and asked me so many times for pictures of me. Finally I sent one. I feel so scared that I did this. What should I do?
Q. So I'm 13. One day my best guy friend asked for pictures of me in a sports bra. Well I told him no and he asked and asked and kept asking. I've took pictures like that before (Not sexual) making sure not to show anything. Well It was 2:30 am and ...
A. 23 July 2017: I have to ask WHY did you send them? Did you feel like you "owed" him those pictures? That he wouldn't talk to you unless you send some? WHY?
Your first instinct when he asked was to tell him no. Which is GOOD. You should have stuck with that. Yo... (read in full...)
Is this woman trying to break up our marriage? She claims my husband cheated with her
Q. My husband and i have been married for 8 years with 3 Kids and pregnant at the moment. I have never caught him cheating. But my Brother exgirlfriend told my Brother that she went out my husband and they had sex. Then my husband gave her money. When ...
A. 23 July 2017: It sounds way too far fetched to be true.
I would honestly TRUST my husband over some woman who can't even give ANY good proof that it happened.
I agree that she is probably more into hurting your brother than you.
She is your brother's... (read in full...)
Why do men think its alright to comment on a woman's nether regions?
Q. This is probably more of a rant than anything, but what is up with some men thinking it's ok to comment on the look of a woman's vagina/vulva?! Whether it's not neat enough, 'beef curtains', too hairy, it 'looks loose'... the list goes on! My m...
A. 22 July 2017: I have to say If I were you I would FROM NOW ON - view those kinds of comments as a red flag and the guy who uttered it a "no longer having dating or relationship material".
Does it mean a guy can't THINK these things? No. He can think whatever... (read in full...)
I'm too afraid to get hurt again after an unexpected breakup
Q. It's been a bit over 2 months since I had an unexpected break-up that left me kind of shaken. I've progressed well in most respects,but I'm still stuck on the fear of dating again. Back story: I thought I did EVERYTHING right with this last o...
A. 22 July 2017: thanks for the explanation :)
And remember this OP, if you can find ONE good guy, you CAN find another.
Don't let ONE bad experience color how you live your life. You didn't get dumped because you have grown and matured as a person. Again, a... (read in full...)
/Why did my relationship status upset him so much?
Q. I am single woman with no children and look younger than my age.There is this guy Daniel at work who I have caught staring at me sometimes. Yesterday another older male coworker jokingly teased me saying that my husband spoilt me by pamperin...
A. 22 July 2017: Sounds like he is a drama llama or... he thought you really ARE married and he felt upset that YOU hadn't told him.
Either way, if ONE incident such as someone making a JOKE about your non-existent husband gets his THIS upset? Maybe you need to ... (read in full...)
I'm too afraid to get hurt again after an unexpected breakup
Q. It's been a bit over 2 months since I had an unexpected break-up that left me kind of shaken. I've progressed well in most respects,but I'm still stuck on the fear of dating again. Back story: I thought I did EVERYTHING right with this last o...
A. 22 July 2017: OP, sometimes you can do "EVERYTHING" right and things don't work out.
When it comes to relationships it's not about being the "perfect" GF or BF - it's about chemistry and compatibility.
The fact that you "employed dating tactics" (whatev... (read in full...)
Does this guy seem easily upset or unstable or did I actually do something wrong?
Q. What did he really want? I met a guy online about 2mts ago, after we met he was obvious to me he was interested in casual. We hit it off and I was attracted to him. As a single mum I was ok with casual. We met several times and slept together...
A. 22 July 2017: Honestly? Who cares?
It was two months of a casual "thing" that turned into drama because neither of you was willing to WANT more. While I DO think it's a SMART thing to take things slow... you two added sex to the mix before getting to know eac... (read in full...)
Why do these ladies not make eye contact when I am speaking to them?
Q. Hello, This is not really a relationship question as such, but something that can be a little annoying sometimes. Pretty much every time I am with another male friend or colleague, and I have a conversation with a female, whether she be a friend, ...
A. 22 July 2017: While I think it's good manners to at least LOOK at the person you are talking to (or who is talking to you) I don't think you are somehow entitled to have them GIVE you eye-contact.
Are you are a big man? Tall? A little intimidating in your app... (read in full...)
We've already decided we are going to break up eventually. Should we just do it now?
Q. I'm with someone I love dearly and we have almost been together for two years. Both of us are cautious about fully committing because of curiosity about other romantic options. I'm willing to stay and see where things go, but he is for sure ...
A. 22 July 2017: Personally? I wouldn't waste time, emotions and effort on a person I know I don't want in my life for the long run - JUST to have someone/anyone around. I'd rather be single and focus on school/work/hobbies/family and friends.
BUT... that is me.
... (read in full...)
Advice please on my crush on a policeman
Q. I am 17 year old young woman! I have a strong attraction to a local cop, because he responded to a home invasion when i was all alone one summer.. I fell for him because he was such a quick responder, like 5 mins. He was so sweet, very experienced. ...
A. 22 July 2017: You don't love THIS guy, you are infatuated with the idea of this guy. You are obsessed with this man whom you see as your "rescuer" and "hero". The policeman himself is actually a total stranger to you.
You are acting like an obsessed person, ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go? or see what happens?
Q. I met this guy last year while I was drunk eating pizza after clubbing with my friend (typical party girl scene) now I never took this guy seriously I'd always ignore his texts, or keep conversations small, sometimes he'd ask to hang out but I'd ...
A. 22 July 2017: I think he IS looking for sex, EASY sex. And he has been getting that from you.
Look, OP if he is RUDE to people who KNOWS him I think it's a matter of time before he will "forget" he knows you too. Especially when out of the country. He will be ... (read in full...)
How do I appraoch being a step-father?
Q. Hi There is this girl which we have a lot in common with...she is single mother to 4yr old girl but her dad has nothing to do with them from day she was born. What're your thoughts about being a step dad? I don't have kids of my own either, ...
A. 21 July 2017: How long have you known this mother? Personally, I think the BEST thing for the KID is to DATE for a good amount of time (9-12 months) before introducing the kid to a new partner. The older the kid (15+) the shorter this time can be. For a 4 year ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to walk, am I just being used as a babysitter?
Q. hey, my partner sits on her phone all day does the odd chore round the house i mean when one of the babies does a dirty nappy she doesnt get down to cleaning it up she tells me babies pood so i end up doing it and been like that for years im a stay ...
A. 20 July 2017: I agree with Auntie BimBim here,
1. you are NOT babysitting as the kids are YOURS.
2. you have CHOSEN to be a stay at home dad and you have CHOSEN to have 4 kids.
How many kids go to school yet? None? 3?
I have been a stay at home mom for... (read in full...)
8 years of trust,broken! Can we make it back?
Q. Hi all thanks for your help first of all I have a horrible problem I need help with. Sorry about the lengh. I went on a holiday with 4 of my friends one of them is my boyfriends brothers girlfriend Side note: I've been with my bf 8 years been ...
A. 20 July 2017: I totally GET why you feel taking the polygraph would vindicate you but in reality... it doesn't.
He won't automatically go:" OH so she really didn't cheat!" He will presume that polygraphs are unreliable (and they are from time to time) or that ... (read in full...)
How do I tell a man he's not doing it for me in the bedroom?
Q. Ok so my problem is pretty simple. How do I tell a man he's not doing it for me in the bedroom? I've been seeing a man for about 6 weeks now and in the last two weeks we've started to have sex, but it really isn't good. He's a great kisser and...
A. 20 July 2017: I think you have to be VERY honest with him and you kind of blew the BEST chance to tell him.
That doesn't mean you can't bring it up.
This talk NEEDS to happen OUTSIDE the bedroom BEFORE sex. Tell him, you know you mentioned the whole orgasm... (read in full...)
Does my LDR GF have borderline disorder?
Q. I posted a similar question a while back but I need some more help now more than ever. Long story short, my parents and i all went camping for three days and I told my gf that it may be hard to talk since I'll be in the middle of the woods/at...
A. 20 July 2017: You are constantly struggling with this relationship and have been for 5 months. You apologize for things you don't HAVE to apologize for - she KNEW you would be unavailable for 3 days and still threw fits over it. You write that you are emotionally ... (read in full...)
8 years of trust,broken! Can we make it back?
Q. Hi all thanks for your help first of all I have a horrible problem I need help with. Sorry about the lengh. I went on a holiday with 4 of my friends one of them is my boyfriends brothers girlfriend Side note: I've been with my bf 8 years been ...
A. 18 July 2017: The problem with this whole scenario is that your BF has lost trust in YOU over something a friend did. Something you knew nothing about. Taking a lie detector test will NOT change his mind. He will not get an aha! moment when you pass the test. Or ... (read in full...)
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