I thought things were progressing well so why does she seemed to have slowed down?
Q. A few days ago I was on cloud nine. I had finally gone out with a great girl after a couple weeks of chatting on Facebook since we were both moving back to our hometown. We clicked really well while we were chatting, she was very responsive and f...
A. 1 October 2017: Ah well, time to block and delete... and move on.... (read in full...)
Is she hiding something or cheating?
Q. Before I get started let me just say that women have the right to enjoy sex as much as men. I'm not a sexist person and raised a Young lady on my own. I met my high school sweet heart after 30 years of no contact. We had sex later that evening. We ...
A. 27 September 2017: From your update, I think it has more to do that she isn't into you anymore, it was a fantasy of the "glory days" of high school and young love and now? It's reality with smelly socks and daily chores. Not quite as sexy...
DO you two live together... (read in full...)
Is she hiding something or cheating?
Q. Before I get started let me just say that women have the right to enjoy sex as much as men. I'm not a sexist person and raised a Young lady on my own. I met my high school sweet heart after 30 years of no contact. We had sex later that evening. We ...
A. 26 September 2017: I am not sure it's entirely menopausal dryness going on. I think there is a lack of arousal. Either not enough foreplay (and yes women of ALL ages can use some good oldfashioned foreplay!) or she isn't sexually attracted to you.
Could she have... (read in full...)
Is it normal for sex to slow down in long term relationships?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years we were friends with benefits prior to this for 2 years. In the beginning sex was great and frequent and lately has gone to maybe only once a week and has caused some problems in our relationship. ...
A. 26 September 2017: Yes, it's normal.
It's also normal for women to "lose" their libido when they feel pressured to perform sexual acts with their partner.
And it's also normal for the libido to drop if the sex is kind of one-sided or mediocre (not saying your... (read in full...)
I went along with planning for a big wedding. Now I don't want it!
Q. Hi I'm getting marrried in a few months and having some serious regrets about the way we've gone about things. We're having quite a fancy wedding with around 100 guests. I thought at the start that a big wedding was what i wanted but now I'm havi...
A. 26 September 2017: Yes, I think it's a little too late to do it your way. Have you talked to your mom? Your dad?
Who is paying for this shindig? How much is already paid out in rentals, deposits and other NON-refundable things?
If you want a little event - t... (read in full...)
Can smells and tastes affect a perfect blissful courtship?
Q. Im blessed with a beautiful and very loving, caring partner who im sure would do anything for me and I would for her as well. So when I have this seemingly silly problem, I do not know how to overcome. Her odors. She uses deo but it wears off either ...
A. 26 September 2017: http://curefeminineodor.com/make-your-vagina-smell-good/
Could show her this or implement some of the things.... (read in full...)
He says he will never marry me because of my past!
Q. Hello, My question is...is there any hope for a future with my ex-boyfriend? We dated for six months and he always suffered from retrograde jealousy for me. During this time I foolishly, casually mentioned my exes, not fully grasping what to...
A. 26 September 2017: Thanks for the update, it is nice to know that if nothing else the thoughts and ideas we put out there gave you food for thought.
You mention that he would go "crazy" if you go no contact. How so? I mean he has told you straight up that you no l... (read in full...)
Can smells and tastes affect a perfect blissful courtship?
Q. Im blessed with a beautiful and very loving, caring partner who im sure would do anything for me and I would for her as well. So when I have this seemingly silly problem, I do not know how to overcome. Her odors. She uses deo but it wears off either ...
A. 26 September 2017: Have breath mints at the bedside table. I bet you don't have a sweet or taste breath in the morning either. Most people don't. Mints can also give HER a bit of a tingly sensation... so it can be a win/win.
Don't use syrups on her genitals... (read in full...)
Hard to love a man's children like my own.
Q. I've been dating a man for 7 months. I have no children, he has 2 daughters ages 9 and 7. He doesn't see them very often (once a week) on the weekends. I have spent almost every weekend with him and when he gets them. They are great kids don't get ...
A. 26 September 2017: So you are with a man who doesn't want any more kids and you want one, at least. That is not a very good start because you HAVE to realize this is HOW he feels. That he might NEVER change his mind about having another kid, and then what? YOU get ... (read in full...)
What is going on? Are these just excuses?
Q. After still feeling neglected, I told my bf exactly why I was feeling down. In the last couple of weeks I have noticed that I was initiating the messages, which is ok, but I feel like I'm pestering esp being the only one initiating Messaging was ...
A. 26 September 2017: You know, I am much older than you and I remember what dating was like before the cell phone. There could go DAYS where you didn't talk to your BF/GF. Getting a phone call was awesome though I think (at least in my friends' circle) people spend more ... (read in full...)
I know I could have an amazing life with mistress but don't want to hurt my wife and children
Q. Hi. I am really confused and need advice. Here goes with a bit of background and my position. I am an almost 49 year old man and have been married for almost 25 years.we have 3 Kids.one of which has now left home. My wife gave up work 17 years ag...
A. 25 September 2017: You know the saying:" The grass is greener on the other side"? It rarely holds true. The grass is greener where you water and take care of it. That holds true.
Whether we talk golf course or marriage - neither of them takes care of themselv... (read in full...)
My parents don't know about my relationship till I am 18. A parents advice would be nice
Q. I am currently 16 and live in Victoria Australia and my boyfriend is 20 from punjabi india.All aspects of our relationship is legal We have been together for just under a year and my parents don't know i plan on telling them when i am 18 but his ...
A. 25 September 2017: I think you REALLY should talk to your parents. While your relationship is "legal" from the standpoint of the law I think your parents need to know what is going on and have a say in all this.
You are 16. I'm sorry MARRIAGE is the LAST thing th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a new friend & he seems to care more about their relationship than ours.
Q. I've been in a relationship for five years, and cheating has never been something I was concerned about. But about six months ago my boyfriend made a new friend through a club at colleg, and they became close friends real quickly. They talk all the ...
A. 25 September 2017: Since you have already told him in so many ways how you feel and he doesn't seem to "get it" - I'd try and give him a bit of his own medicine.
When he calls. make it a SHORT and SWEET call. Don't give him 20 minutes. Give him 5.
Set up plans ... (read in full...)
She stopped responding, is that it?
Q. Girl I liked a lot and went on a few dates with started getting cold after I told her I liked her and the time we had been hanging out. I asked her why she was acting so different and she said, she was dealing with stuff and I couldn't help her. She ...
A. 25 September 2017: Are you that dense OP?
She has been trying SO hard to let you down "gently" and you are ignoring it over and over and over....
Yes, block and remove her from your Facebook.
It sounds like she either felt you were WAY too serious too soon. As... (read in full...)
Should I reach out again or just move on?
Q. There's a girl I started talking to in July, at the moment nothing is going on but I feel like that may be my fault. However I'm also feeling like I should move on but I'd like to know if theres anything I can do to start talking to her again ...
A. 25 September 2017: Nah just delete her.
She isn't into you. There was a REASON she didn't reply. She didn't go and she didn't want to meet you.
Think about it. IF she was REALLY keen on meeting you, she would have jumped at the chance to meeting you in person. O... (read in full...)
I'm very confused about our relationship and what we are to each other, if anything
Q. We are friends for 4-5 years. He is younger then me and he likes girls always have lot of different girls mostly one night stand and also few relationships for maximum 4month. He always goes out with me Im like his homeboy and also bro however I ...
A. 25 September 2017: I think you are wondering what's up because YOU have caught feelings for him and would like for it to be more.
But... Let me tell you a guy who has a series of other women in FRONT of you, you treat you like a "homeboy" or "bro" doesn't SEE you ... (read in full...)
I found some unsettling texts between my boyfriend and our mutual friend. should I be worried?
Q. We have been hanging round with another couple for about a year now. My boyfriend is a very outgoing, flirtatious person naturally but something has been bothering me. Our two friends, Michelle and Danny, well Danny does not have a mobile so ...
A. 24 September 2017: I agree with WiseOwlE,
Talk to him. Be classy about it. Ask him HOW he would feel if you acted the SAME way with Danny (or another dude). Tell him you have noticed and that it bothers you and why. I would also include a talk about boundari... (read in full...)
Mother-in-law is interfering
Q. Ive been married to my long term fiance for just a month. He treats me amazingly sweet. Especially in front of his family. Its been almost a decade and at first i can feel that they find it strange with how he treated me. I mean his mom and sister. ...
A. 24 September 2017: Have you tried talking to her one-on-one?
Maybe what she needs to know is that you are NOT the competition but someone who loves her son. You are an "ally". A fellow woman.
If that doesn't work, I would tell her when she brings up the "women sh... (read in full...)
He says he will never marry me because of my past!
Q. Hello, My question is...is there any hope for a future with my ex-boyfriend? We dated for six months and he always suffered from retrograde jealousy for me. During this time I foolishly, casually mentioned my exes, not fully grasping what to...
A. 24 September 2017: No. You can't fix this. You can't fix him. THAt is his job if he WANTS to change (and most people don't REALLY want to).
CUT the contact. You don't need to keep him around to have someone. Especially since you DON'T have and WON'T have him - ra... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin who just wants to be loved..
Q. Hi I'm just looking for advice I'm a 27 year old female and I have never been in a relationship I'm also a Virgin. I just seem invisible to men or only the wrong ones I'm at the age all my friends are settled down and having babies and I can't help ...
A. 24 September 2017: If he has a GF I would back away... you can do it slowly if you wish, make little "I was so busy" excuses and then cut the contact little by little.
You wouldn't want to be the GF of a guy who is chatting up other girls, do you? And you don't wa... (read in full...)
He was still receiving photos from his ex!
Q. So I found out that my boyfriend of 9 months still received pictures from his ex. He knew that it bothers me everytime she send texts, call or send selfie pictures. However, I do understand that my bf has no control of what his ex is sending him. ...
A. 22 September 2017: OH I call BULLSHIT on his lame ass excuse.
STAY broken up. Get your stuff back from him (if you have stuff at his place and give him back any, he might have at yours).
Don't fall for this crap. The pictures are nice? SO WHAT?
It's NOT like "... (read in full...)
Is the guy I'm dating being a jerk?
Q. I started dating this guy about a month ago and we've been on four dates so far.. We haven't gone all the way yet but have done some stuff in bed, as well as the usual things like cinema etc. TBF to him he does have his good points like he pays for ...
A. 22 September 2017: Is he a Jerk? I don't think so, I think he is a tad immature and just NOT a good fit for you.
You don't like his sense of humor (which does seem crass) You don't like how little he texts you. You also say I THINK I can find better.
So why ... (read in full...)
I want more, he leads me on but in the end wants just sex. It's he just a player?
Q. Hello! I have been friends with this guy since sophomore year of college and I graduated last year. He's 25 so yeah we are still young, but I feel like we have a good vibe going with one another. We used to hang out and talk about everything and ...
A. 22 September 2017: He likes to chat with you and sleep with you but he doesn't want to date you. THAT much is clear - he has even spelled it out.
to quote you: "he said that we are friends who hook up and that he didn't want anything to change between us and I sh... (read in full...)
Need help/ideas/advice I have a controlling guy friend... He is a friend forreal.
Q. I have a contolling guy friend...i mean controlling in ways that i dont believe are healthy at all... Prob the worst hardest controlling techniques ever... And yes to me very odd and differant because he is my friend... in that sense i feel its ...
A. 22 September 2017: Someone who is trying to isolate you is NOT a good friend "for real" or otherwise.
You say you have lost all your female friends and now he is working on your family? Why? Why does he feel he needs to do that?
Are YOU constantly compl... (read in full...)
I didn't bleed so is my hymen still intact after having sex lots of times?
Q. hello, well my problem is i had sexual intercourse several times but i did not bleed in any of them, so i'm wondering is it possible that my hymen is still intact??...
A. 22 September 2017: Nope, you aren't a virgin or have a hymen.
You had sex and you didn't bleed. Most women actually do not bleed. Women aren't really supposed to bleed. I know that is contrary to the societal belief that virgins bleed or feel pain, but the reality ... (read in full...)
I desperately want to reconcile with my ex husband. He had sex with me after he had broken up with his girlfriend but hasn't contacted me since
Q. This is a long story and I apologize but I really need some advice from some neutral parties here. I am wanting to reconcile with my ex-husband. We were married for 4 years. He was and still is the love of my life but he left me for another ...
A. 22 September 2017: I don't think he had sex with you out of "love" but out of hurt - so yes a rebound "thing".
He had recently broken up with someone he had DIVORCED you over.
His apologies weren't really for you per se. They were for himself, to make HIM feel... (read in full...)
What is going on? Are these just excuses?
Q. After still feeling neglected, I told my bf exactly why I was feeling down. In the last couple of weeks I have noticed that I was initiating the messages, which is ok, but I feel like I'm pestering esp being the only one initiating Messaging was ...
A. 22 September 2017: I'd pull back and let him do the chasing (so to speak) let him do the initiating. If he doesn't notice that you aren't texting/calling as often it might BE a problem. Or it might be that he isn't big on texting just for the sake of texting.
Or he... (read in full...)
Can we get what we once had back, or are we destined to be 'just friends?'
Q. Hi. I was in a short relationship with a guy for around eight months. During this time we developed very strong feelings and connection. Subsequently we split up around six months back, due to differences in the area of affection. His love language ...
A. 22 September 2017: Do you WANT another friend or are you looking for a partner?
It didn't work the first time around and not just because how you two express love but you two just weren't a good match. It happens.
He might have realized that he feels lonely and... (read in full...)
She's asked me for advice-Can I be honest and tell her she's in a bad relationship?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I need some advice on should I say what I think or... be polite and lie. I have 2 cousins who are like sisters to me. One of them is having problems with her papers. She's been living in a foreign country for the past 7 y...
A. 21 September 2017: He should KNOW after 6 years if he wants to marry her or not - so him "not being sure" is pure bullshit. Most people do NOT wait that long to figure out of this is a long-term partner or not. UNLESS... they really don't WANT marriage. Same with ... (read in full...)
He's rejected me but is open to having sex. I'm upset but tempted to, since I'll be bored and alone in his city.
Q. I apologize in advance...this is a long one! I met a guy on Tinder back in March of this year. I was going to be in San Francisco for a few days and wanted to meet people while there so I changed my location to SF and started talking to him. ...
A. 21 September 2017: He does want a GF, just not YOU. He decided that a long time ago. After your first hook-up. You ignored his words and was willing to "settle" for him coming to your side of the country for a HOOK UP (because he has already TOLD you he didn't want a ... (read in full...)
Do gay men get asked about oral sex by straight men often?
Q. Been with my new girlfriend for eight months,she gets off a couple times in a half hour, myself she wishes I would,but I don't get off that easy, the sex is real good, I've try to last a lot longer all my life , a quickly is a half hour or so, if I ...
A. 21 September 2017: Honestly? I find it a bit offensive.
To the gay friend and to your GF. Do you presume that gay men are guinea pigs for "straight/bi" men to test out things on? Not only that but to keep it a "dirty" secret" because UH what would people say if t... (read in full...)
What should I do about this date with a man who suffers from PTSD?
Q. This is quite a lot to read but theres a lot of detail to it. ive been trying online dating for a while had a few dates but nothing special yet. A guy messaged me and we got chatting i could tell the relief in him that i wasnt stuck up and and ...
A. 21 September 2017: Nope, listen to your gut.
I'm MARRIED to a retired military man with PTSD myself. He didn't have it when we first met, it wasn't until after a couple of really rough deployments.
While he isn't a "bad" case, there are definitely days ... (read in full...)
Is this something I can fix by correcting a few actions in our relationship? Do I give her space and trust that she will end up with me? What do I do?
Q. My gf of 1.5 years recently told me that she likes a guy from work as as more than friends but is unsure about what to do. She said she loves me and she doesn't love him because it is too early to tell. She said she recognizes that it is unfair to ...
A. 21 September 2017: I would wish her well and end it.
YOU are not a "fixer upper" house that will be "just" perfect if only certain things are changed.
If you change yourself, DO it because YOU know and FEEL it's right to change those things. And do it FOR you, f... (read in full...)
How do I get this woman out of my life without hurting feelings or jeopardising the other relationship with the mutual friend?
Q. I was on here a year or two back about a friend I have had for a while who was always putting me down, trying to be smart and reminding me in her jokey way of any 'blunders' I may have made in years gone by. She is friends with another mutual f...
A. 20 September 2017: OK let me put some letters to these two women.
A is the toxic chick with the crappy sense of humor and B is the mutual friend.
My advice is to talk to B. Tell her look I like hanging out with you but I'm dropping my friendship with A because I... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin who just wants to be loved..
Q. Hi I'm just looking for advice I'm a 27 year old female and I have never been in a relationship I'm also a Virgin. I just seem invisible to men or only the wrong ones I'm at the age all my friends are settled down and having babies and I can't help ...
A. 20 September 2017: OP, do you socialize? Go out with friends, co-workers, family?
Do you have hobbies?
Or do you keep more to yourself?
If you were to describe yourself - what would you say?
When you say "only the "wrong" men seem interested. Why were th... (read in full...)
I was drunk and slapped my boyfriend across the face!
Q. I feel really bad admitting this but i have been with my partner five months and i think the world of him. But the other evening we was drinking and to the point where i literally don't remember what was said. But he went into the kitchen and when i ...
A. 20 September 2017: Stop drinking. Either altogether or stop at 2 drinks. If you get so drunk that you do things you can't remember you are having issues with alcohol.
At your age, you should know your limits. If you can't just have 1-2 drinks then you need to not d... (read in full...)
I thought things were progressing well so why does she seemed to have slowed down?
Q. A few days ago I was on cloud nine. I had finally gone out with a great girl after a couple weeks of chatting on Facebook since we were both moving back to our hometown. We clicked really well while we were chatting, she was very responsive and f...
A. 20 September 2017: I agree with N91, pull back a little.
Sometimes people can feel like constant contact is a bit overwhelming and they don't know what to say or they feel the actual conversation is either boring or they are afraid to sound boring or too eager.
... (read in full...)
Why do people bad mouth their significant others?
Q. Why do guys complain about their gf/wives but then not leave? I have a coworker that always complains about his wife - I never bring her up but somehow he will say something about her nagging or sound so dis interested in any event that they ...
A. 20 September 2017: I think this is a "man thing". I know... sucky as an excuse but seriously it is.
Men have different banter with men. The whole locker room mentality is not just chauvinistic pig stuff... it's how SOME men bond. It's an almost unspoken form of ... (read in full...)
Heart says carry on, head says we are now toxic! Advice needed!
Q. Hi. So my 8 year relationship seems to be at its end and I've been given an ultimatum. We split up or we stay together and try to make it work. Some background, we are a young couple, we have been together from a young age and have been through ...
A. 20 September 2017: Unfortunately, you two started young. Which means you both grew up but probably at a different rate.
You are both being stubborn and staying together even though there isn't much left to hold you together. My guess's partly out of habit, familiar... (read in full...)
I'm worried I can't ask her to do the same thing again!
Q. A few weeks ago I helped my girlfriend clean and put the dishes away. Afterwards she filled the sink with dishsoap and undressed me. She wanted me to sit on the counter over the edge of the sink. I was reluctant at first but I did it. She then used ...
A. 19 September 2017: OP if you can't talk to your partner about SEX and SEXUAL acts... then don't HAVE sex. Or you get the sex you get...
Do you want a good sex life? Be willing to be open and honest about what you like and what you don't. Don't lie. It's like wom... (read in full...)
She said she wants to hangout with her friends which is fine except for my concern about this one male friend!
Q. My gf of 1.5 years is amazing for the most part. We have talked about getting married and moving in together and everything. We plan on moving in in the next 6months. Recently she told me that she feels that she will miss out on being young cause ...
A. 19 September 2017: I agree that couples should have friends on their own - over time they usually end up "sharing" each other's friend group.
How many times have you met the guy? If not, suggest you all grab a coffee or something like that. I agree with WiseOwlE... (read in full...)
A thank you to your advice!! I am now engaged. You are all the best!! Just a Thank you Post =)
Q. Hi Everyone!! Thanks for your advice. I am engaged and getting married!! I came to your site because I am more of a private person and my mother passed away and don't have a sister. I love my friends but I'm not one to talk about gossip on my rel...
A. 19 September 2017: Congratulations!
Glad to hear all is well!... (read in full...)
We've had rough times but seem to want only us! But his marijuana use is a problem for me!
Q. Hi, everyone. Hope everyone is doing well. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. And we seem to love each other so much. And i sat seem becuz we say we love each other to the max but we do many things to hurt each other. And find it ...
A. 19 September 2017: I agree with Cindy,
He is smoking pot because he wants to. He quit for a while to placate you enough that you would stay with him. Once he felt the relationship was secure again, he went back to smoking.
You can't change him. You can't change... (read in full...)
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